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The fact that I'm dreading doing this tells me how necessary it is. I am miserly with personal information, to the point that I get apprehensive even sharing music with my wife, who knows me better than anyone. My therapist suggested it would be healthy to open up to people more, and forcing myself to start an ask me anything thread seems a good way to try. I will try my best to be forthcoming in my responses, while deep down hoping this gets ignored . In fact, if it feels like I'm holding back or being evasive, please call me out.

EDIT: It took me five minutes to hit Create Thread and I'm resisting the urge to delete this. Yay.

If you could boil it down to one thing, what's something you're looking forward to this year?

ThatNickGuy said:

If you could boil it down to one thing, what's something you're looking forward to this year?

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There's games, movies, books, etc., but the big thing that kinda shapes the time leading up to it would be finally getting a house (or duplex or condo--whatever it is, something we own). We've been in this apartment throwing rent money down the toilet for nine years and my goal this year is to get our own place.

What’s your favorite memory?

drifter said:

What’s your favorite memory?

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Going big right away! Nice.


What's the song that you hesitated most to share with your wife? And what does that song say to you?

drifter said:

What’s your favorite memory?

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I'm glad no one asked me this years ago, because I feel I would've tried going to my childhood and come up dry. Now I have people and creatures I've taken care of, so I'll just share some of those because it's hard to pick one. I wrote what's below, then almost deleted it thinking "this sounds stupid, I just like it when the kids say funny things" but thinking of any of these always makes me smile.

- My youngest sister's name is Nicole, and so is our older cousin. So me, sisters, brother, mom, and stepdad are eating silently at dinner one night. Then my mom suddenly looks to my stepdad and says "Oh! I forgot to tell you. Nicole's pregnant!"
My sister gave a blunt "What." Her face was priceless.
- My twin cousins were visiting and playing Little Big Planet, which almost always led to arguing. Most of the time it's Jess who is mouthy and John stays quiet, but he got fed up that day. Jess: "Stop moving! We need to change our clothes!" John, deadpan: "You need to change your personality."
- Dinner with my twin cousins and their moms. One aunt says to girl cousin: "You know what's neat? Your cousin got a job today." Jess scrunched up her face: "I don't care about that." I had to bite my cheeks not to laugh, because I'd already been told my amusement with the kids' talking back was encouraging them .
- Also, one night was me, my wife, and when we had the two boy rats a couple years ago. For some reason we were each walking with one, and then we came close to each other to trade rats, the two of them starting running circles on our shoulders, around our heads, and then got on our arms and started snuggling between us so we couldn't break away right then. It was just a nice moment and one I made sure to keep in mind, because I knew they wouldn't be around for long.

Gruebeard said:

Going big right away! Nice.


What's the song that you hesitated most to share with your wife? And what does that song say to you?

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See, this is more a big one. I hate sharing music with people and I don't know why. It feels so personal, like if someone saw my iTunes, they'd know too much about me. I don't know the name of the song, but it was some Japanese hip-hop thing. It says less to me than about me, that I'm okay listening to stuff like that. I think much worse is that my wife will introduce something to me and I will just be stoic about it, and take a admit to her that I liked it.

Spring, Summer, Fall, or Winter?

How did I not know you were this apprehensive about things?

—Patrick

Zero Esc said:

See, this is more a big one. I hate sharing music with people and I don't know why.

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Social anxiety? Irrational fear of people finding out about you?

jwhouk said:

Spring, Summer, Fall, or Winter?

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Fall, no question. It's the right mix of hot and cold, and doesn't have spring's allergy festival.

PatrThom said:

How did I not know you were this apprehensive about things?

—Patrick

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I guess I'm just that mysterious.

Or because me being a jerk on here is part of a facade I've created, an uncaring, detached observer that I've been for the last many years of my life, only opening up to maybe five or six people. Sharing that I liked Godzilla movies on here felt like a big thing, which is ridiculous. Overall I've been very guarded, and if you act like something long enough, you become it. I've mentioned before that I erase half the posts I type on Halforums without actually posting them. I would get shy about sharing, opening up, any way you want to put it out there. Even the way I type, phrasing and things like that, feels more calculated than genuine. Same with emotional displays IRL. I hate surprises because I don't have time to plan a reaction.

I don't want to be the person who's afraid to show my wife how happy I am that she got me an awesome Doctor Doom shirt for Christmas with just a "Oh, thank you very much" when internally I'm going "holy shit, this is amazing! I love it!"

Ravenpoe said:

Social anxiety? Irrational fear of people finding out about you?

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I don't know. If it was only among strangers or acquaintances, I would think so, but the people closest to me, who I've known for a crazy amount of time? I shouldn't be nervous sharing little things with them. Big things, I could at least understand apprehension, but not little things like music or memories. I can fake confidence and blather on all day to anyone about one topic or another, so long as it's not myself.

I see a lot of myself in that.

Do you give good advice?

—Patrick

PatrThom said:

Do you give good advice?

—Patrick

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Depends? I like to think so, but I'm sure many of us do.

If you had to choose one food for the rest of your life...what would it be?

LordRendar said:

If you had to choose one food for the rest of your life...what would it be?

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Chicken sandwich with pineapple, lettuce, and a garlic sauce/dressing. That way I could still be getting my proper nutrients and keep that life going for a ways despite the boredom of eating the same thing all the time.

Zero Esc said:

I don't know. If it was only among strangers or acquaintances, I would think so, but the people closest to me, who I've known for a crazy amount of time? I shouldn't be nervous sharing little things with them. Big things, I could at least understand apprehension, but not little things like music or memories. I can fake confidence and blather on all day to anyone about one topic or another, so long as it's not myself.

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That's the thing about irrational thoughts, they're not rational. And I say that as someone who also has them.

Do you dance? Or sing?
(Even if it’s in private)

—Patrick

PatrThom said:

Do you dance? Or sing?
(Even if it’s in private)

—Patrick

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Poorly on both ends. I'm not sure which is worse. Or maybe I just need to try out the moves I've seen in Persona 4: Dancing All Night.

Is opening this thread getting easier?

Chad Sexington said:

Is opening this thread getting easier?

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I think so? I'm not hovering over the Post Reply button after typing like I was at first. Some questions are less hard to answer because of sharing and more because I don't know the answer.

I appreciate everyone's help even though it's at times nerve-racking for me to respond.

Zero Esc said:

I think so? I'm not hovering over the Post Reply button after typing like I was at first. Some questions are less hard to answer because of sharing and more because I don't know the answer.

I appreciate everyone's help even though it's at times nerve-racking for me to respond.

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What's the question you're most afraid to answer? First scenario that pops in your mind.

Ravenpoe said:

What's the question you're most afraid to answer? First scenario that pops in your mind.

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Okaaaaay, no more soft throws then ... I don't know if that's an actual sports term.

The first scenario to come to mind being this thread, someone asking why I'm seeing a therapist.

On a scale of 9 to 10 how cool do you think it would be to travel to Omaha to meet me?

Dave said:

On a scale of 9 to 10 how cool do you think it would be to travel to Omaha to meet me?

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I think it'd be really interesting to travel back and meet you in 9210 B.C., the year that Dave was born .

Zero Esc said:

Okaaaaay, no more soft throws then ... I don't know if that's an actual sports term.

The first scenario to come to mind being this thread, someone asking why I'm seeing a therapist.

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You know, I actually would never think to ask that, because I assume that if someone is seeing a therapist, the reason is obviously because they want therapy.

But since this is about tackling those fears head on, why are you seeing a therapist?

Ravenpoe said:

You know, I actually would never think to ask that, because I assume that if someone is seeing a therapist, the reason is obviously because they want therapy.

But since this is about tackling those fears head on, why are you seeing a therapist?

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In the dark ages of Halforums, one man cried out a word of courage: "THERAPY!"

Which I'm not sure I ever participated in that thread, just looked at, and actually has nothing to do with this. So, you know, we put general anxiety down, make sure to bring up the old childhood issues leading into the primary problem, which stems into this thread's issue of how I don't open up to people. I pretend I don't care, and if someone judges me, why should I? They're judging a presentation that I could hide inside of.

Anyway.

That’s a tough road but you know we don’t give a shit. Well, we care, just not about that. You are who you are and that’s who we like. [emoji106]

Dave said:

That’s a tough road but you know we don’t give a shit. Well, we care, just not about that. You are who you are and that’s who we like. [emoji106]

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Thank you, Dave. I'm going to try being more myself here. I feel like anytime that was starting to happen, I'd lash out. I don't want to be like that.

Are you still taking care of rats?

DarkAudit said:

Are you still taking care of rats?

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I wish. The third of four girls passed away in August 2016 (I can't believe it was that long ago already), and we gave up the last to a foster home because she was miserable alone and our plan was to not adopt any more until we have a home, so that's more motivation to make it happen. We even got rid of our cage so we wouldn't be tempted to get more rats on a whim, and good thing, because we've had a couple opportunities come up.

So, house, then rats again once we're stable. Which will be really nice.

What's your fav kaiju movie? (A soft ball question after the hard stuff. )

LittleSin said:

What's your fav kaiju movie? (A soft ball question after the hard stuff. )

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You call that a soft one when there are so many incredible Kaiju movies?!

This is difficult. I can pick my favorite Gamera movie easily, Gamera 2: Attack of Legion (or Advent depending on the distribution). Then there's my top five Godzilla movies:

Godzilla vs Mothra (1960s)
Godzilla vs Mechagodzilla (1970s)
Godzilla vs Biollante
Shin Godzilla
and because no Godzilla fan's list is complete without a bad one they love anyway: Godzilla vs Spacegodzilla

But I don't know if I could pick one favorite.

Have you seen any of the Ultraman series besides the first one?

DarkAudit said:

Have you seen any of the Ultraman series besides the first one?

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I haven't seen any of them, but I had some of the original's toys when I was a kid.

What's something you're incredibly proud of?

Spicy food opinions?

What were you like as a kid - adventurous, studious, imaginative, athletic, etc etc?

Does your wife know about what you spoilered? Is she accepting? If not, do you intend to talk to her about it before buying a house or other such big steps together?
I mean, you could certainly continue to hide it, but I'd wager that's not what's healthy or good for you in the long run (even if you might consider the opposite as selfish right now)...But that might be worse/more selfish in the long run if the spoilered thing comes out eventually, or drives you into despair/depression/loneliness.

Bubble181 said:

Does your wife know about what you spoilered? Is she accepting? If not, do you intend to talk to her about it before buying a house or other such big steps together?
I mean, you could certainly continue to hide it, but I'd wager that's not what's healthy or good for you in the long run (even if you might consider the opposite as selfish right now)...But that might be worse/more selfish in the long run if the spoilered thing comes out eventually, or drives you into despair/depression/loneliness.

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She knows and has been supremely supportive. I wish I had told her sooner than I did, actualy, but not obsessing over "should have, would have" situations is also part of therapy, one that'll be more difficult to tackle than opening up. I'm working on that one, too. She did come to wonder at a point, and one day started rattling off a few situations from our time living together, and then asked me. I wonder if I ever would've told her, but she's a perceptive person. Sometimes I feel like she probably knew something was off from the get-go. She used to say "I didn't know there were guys like you." Yeah, funny that ...

LittleKagsin said:

What's something you're incredibly proud of?

Spicy food opinions?

What were you like as a kid - adventurous, studious, imaginative, athletic, etc etc?

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I'm proud of finishing four books--would be prouder if I could get one published, but that's its own thing . I'm proud of getting my wife out of her hellish abusive household back when we were engaged. I'm proud of helping my cousins grow up to be weirdos. I think they would've been anyway, but I'm definitely taking some credit.

I love spicy food.

It does not love me. As you can imagine, there are some conflicts. :/

As a kid, I was annoyingly imaginative. I wasn't outwardly adventurous, but all kinds of things were happening in my head, and I'd yammer about made-up crap constantly, or draw it everywhere.

Do you like stuff?

(This is me just trying to be a little silly and give you a laugh. )

Zero Esc said:

She knows and has been supremely supportive.

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I'm glad to hear it. Kudos to her.

ThatNickGuy said:

Do you like stuff?

(This is me just trying to be a little silly and give you a laugh. )

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You obviously mean The Stuff, Larry Cohen's 1985 zombie-ish horror comedy?

Haven't seen it.

Zero Esc said:

You obviously mean The Stuff, Larry Cohen's 1985 zombie-ish horror comedy?

Haven't seen it.

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What!?!

We are no longer friends.

ThatNickGuy said:

What!?!

We are no longer friends.

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I knew opening up was a mistake!

If it helps, I have seen It's Alive.

Zero Esc said:

I knew opening up was a mistake!

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A joke about this thread! I think that's an excellent sign this is working for you.

Now a super serious question: How much do you express your transgenderism in front of your wife?

Zero Esc said:

I knew opening up was a mistake!

If it helps, I have seen It's Alive.

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I saw it in the drive in, when I was 5 years old.

When I think back of some of the stuff my parents did, they probably would've lost custody if it hadn't been the 70's. heh

I guess I'm not totally sure how to answer that because deep down I'm just me. Im still breaking down personality boundaries I've established and maintained for years. The big thing is to continue learning to be comfortable with myself and then her, because I'm still in the mode of seeing being myself as "slipping," and then telling myself to knock it off and act like society's idea of male or my family expectations of me. I'm already "the weird one" after all.

But something I was reminded of when looking at a picture she drew for me years ago. We wrote our own wedding vows, and mine were about us coming from two different roads that joined. The picture is us on that road and written it says "I will be by your side, all the way." So each step I learn to be okay with myself enough to bring her onboard to that step, I know shell be there with me.

There's a reason the phrase "Toxic Masculinity" exists. :/

I feel like the spoiler stuff is happening among our forum members at a disproportionately higher rate than the rest of the populace.
That said, we've all been through this before, so you know how we're probably going to react.
To that end and with that in mind, I'm going to ask what I feel like will be the hardest question to answer*: Are you sure?

--Patrick
*hardest because you're going to answer it here, but then you're going to answer it again and again as time goes on...to yourself, to others, to yourself again, etc.

PatrThom said:

I feel like the spoiler stuff is happening among our forum members at a disproportionately higher rate than the rest of the populace.
That said, we've all been through this before, so you know how we're probably going to react.
To that end and with that in mind, I'm going to ask what I feel like will be the hardest question to answer*: Are you sure?

--Patrick
*hardest because you're going to answer it here, but then you're going to answer it again and again as time goes on...to yourself, to others, to yourself again, etc.

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The advice my therapist gave me was to avoid mentioning it until I knew what I wanted. The idea crossed my mind of, if I could just shut all that off, would I? And the answer is that I want to be who I am, not the presentation. It's dealing with the rest of the world that's hard about it. I've felt it's selfish to even consider because I am pretty much my wife's caretaker at times and if something happened to me, I don't know who would step in to help her. But, anything can happen to anyone, anywhere, and everything is statistics.

So short answer, am I sure on what I want? Yes, I'm sure. Financially, family, friends, etc. am I sure what's going to happen? No. But no one is. Maybe in three years I'll be renewing vows with my wife for our 10th anniversary, this time as wife and wife, and maybe we'll have a house and I'll be writing full-time, and maybe my family will visit and I'll actually have rooms for them to stay in. Or, maybe they'll want nothing to do with me anymore. Maybe I'll still be at my current job, which I like anyway, where my wife works and I might not have made as much progress as I want physically, or maybe no progress, and we'll still be in this apartment. Or some mix of any of those elements.

Right now, step one is getting over these fears, inhibitions, self-censorship, dishonesty, and so on. Right now I need to learn that it's okay to be myself.

How do you remember NorthRanger?

Which Halforumites would you like to meet?

How much can you drink?

How do you like to eat steak?

If a ball and glove cost $25 dollars and the glove costs $10 more than the ball, how much does the ball cost?

What would Michelangelo make with a 3d printer?

Why are you a Dallas Cowboys fan?

Who is your one true Persona waifu?

HCGLNS said:

How do you remember NorthRanger?

Which Halforumites would you like to meet?

How much can you drink?

How do you like to eat steak?

If a ball and glove cost $25 dollars and the glove costs $10 more than the ball, how much does the ball cost?

What would Michelangelo make with a 3d printer?

Why are you a Dallas Cowboys fan?

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Okay, now that I can get to my computer again ...

I honestly didn't have a lot of interaction with North, but I read his posts with you guys, so I remember him in part as a mod who kept the peace and also as someone who had a good heart. I only vaguely understood he had cancer when he passed away.

In all honesty again, I'm apprehensive of meeting anyone, but hopefully down the road and with improvement, I won't feel like that anymore.

I have no idea how much I can drink since I don't drink. Mom being an alcoholic kinda soured the whole thing for me, and my wife's father also being an alcoholic did the same for her, so we've made it a rule of no alcohol in our home.

My steak? That's too personal. On this forum.

$7.50

New nunchucks.

I never even knew what qualified as a touchdown until I started playing Blood Bowl this week .

Dei said:

Who is your one true Persona waifu?

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Um ... probably Chie. She's tough, hilarious, and loves meat, which I can relate to. I don't get why some people dislike her; I think her attitude is perfect.

Zero Esc said:

am I sure on what I want? Yes, I'm sure.

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This is the question I was looking to have answered. You can’t ever be sure about “The Future” because it is a vast unknown, and is influenced by too many factors (and too many other people) to waste time worrying about now.

My question was more trying to find out whether you still had any doubt as to your “true” identity. Because if you’re someone who does have doubts, who’s not sure, then you should definitely NOT be wasting time talking about transition.

—Patrick

I realize that the only questions I could think of were answered already.

So,ummmmmm... How's your day been?



(Also, big hugs for everything you're going through and I hope the end results are the ones you want, not the ones you dread.)

In the spirit of slightly private but not horribly so questions, what brands/types of soap do you use in the shower? Preferred water temperature?

Assuming you like and eat eggs, how do you like them cooked best?

What is your least favorite flavor of ice cream?

drifter said:

What is your least favorite flavor of ice cream?

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It's obviously not The Stuff.

Is there anything you were hoping someone would ask, because you'd really like to share but haven't felt you had a reason to?

Celt Z said:

I realize that the only questions I could think of were answered already.

So,ummmmmm... How's your day been?



(Also, big hugs for everything you're going through and I hope the end results are the ones you want, not than the ones you dread.)

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Thanks! I ended up staying home today because of bad chili, but I got a lot of cleaning done and finally moved all my wife's files from her old computer to her current computer. I also decided we didn't need the kitchen island as our junk heap and turned it into her tea station so she can use her tea stuff more easily. She was really excited to see it. I figure, the more we have organized now, the easier the move will be.

Denbrought said:

In the spirit of slightly private but not horribly so questions, what brands/types of soap do you use in the shower? Preferred water temperature?

Assuming you like and eat eggs, how do you like them cooked best?

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St. Ives body wash and super hot water.

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drifter said:

What is your least favorite flavor of ice cream?

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Coffee. I'm sure there are ones worse that I haven't tasted though.

Ravenpoe said:

Is there anything you were hoping someone would ask, because you'd really like to share but haven't felt you had a reason to?

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I was kinda dreading anyone asking anything, so not really. But it has gotten easier answering questions as the thread goes on.

Do you want to build a snowman?

How do you feel about mustaches?

--Patrick

HCGLNS said:

Do you want to build a snowman?

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PatrThom said:

How do you feel about mustaches?

--Patrick

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Not a lot of opinions, except that after years of watching Parks and Rec, Nick Offerman looks odd without one.

What songs do you like to sing?

Are you allergic to wool?

Are you symmetrical?

Can you light a campfire?

How many blankets do you own?

What new skill would you like to learn?

What hairstyle do you want your wife to wear?

If you could guest star in a Groo comic book, would you be a wizard?

What is the best memory of any point in your life?

Are you getting tired of HCGLNS' questions yet?

Are you wondering why GasBandit hasn't joined yet?

--Patrick

HCGLNS said:

What songs do you like to sing?

Are you allergic to wool?

Are you symmetrical?

Can you light a campfire?

How many blankets do you own?

What new skill would you like to learn?

What hairstyle do you want your wife to wear?

If you could guest star in a Groo comic book, would you be a wizard?

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Postmodern Jukebox lately, since now I can understand the words to popular music. Before getting into that, whatever I could remember words to, or just humming movie/video game scores.

I don't think I'm allergic to wool.

No, not symmetrical.

I can light a campfire, sure! Just give me some gas.

I have one blanket. My wife and I together? No idea, there are too many.

A new skill ... it's been so long since I was drawing my webcomic, I'd like to get back to some form of regularity. Unfortunately I haven't been organizing my time very well and the free time I have for working on stuff has gone to writing-related work.

Everybody should wear their hair the way they like. I don't have a preferred hairstyle for her; her hair is wild and cute and curly as it is.

I don't know what Groo is, but only a fool would turn down being fictionally depicted as a wizard.

WasabiPoptart said:

What is the best memory of any point in your life?

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I'm not sure. The last couple years of college were wonderful. Our honeymoon was a dream come true.

PatrThom said:

Are you getting tired of HCGLNS' questions yet?

Are you wondering why GasBandit hasn't joined yet?

--Patrick

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Oh, let him have his fun. My attendance here is going to have to drop like it normally does since I'm going to work today, so he might have to sit at the floor of no answers for a while.

Nope, everyone has their own life.

What advice would you give to people in a similar situation as yourself?

@Zero Esc is @Zero Esc. That's all that matters.

General Specific said:

What advice would you give to people in a similar situation as yourself?

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Good gods am I not the person to ask for advice on this. I guess to not hide themselves so long like I did. Hopefully in the future I'll have better perspective and can give better advice.

Now that we've gone this far I just want to say that SNL's Celebrity Jeopardy has ruined me. The first time I saw this thread I giggled (mostly because I'm a terrible person).

Dave said:

Now that we've gone this far I just want to say that SNL's Celebrity Jeopardy has ruined me. The first time I saw this thread I giggled (mostly because I'm a terrible person).

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It happened to me too. I got onto Halforums and did a double take before realizing it was my own thread.

Well, lost a lot, but I said before I would be using this as an update thread.

Tomorrow's a big day! Wish me luck!

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You can get ecstasy by prescription now?

People giving me reactions and sass just before my next big thing. Sheesh.

Anyway, got my blood work results, filled the prescription. Got a little shit from the pharmacy technicians, which was not professional, so to hell with them.

Just took the first one.

Zero Esc said:

People giving me reactions and sass just before my next big thing. Sheesh.

Anyway, got my blood work results, filled the prescription. Got a little shit from the pharmacy technicians, which was not professional, so to hell with them.

Just took the first one.

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We sass because we love.

And fuck those techs.

Ravenpoe said:

We sass because we love.

And fuck those techs.

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Julie has been wanting me to stop going there because they screw up my inhaler every time. Yesterday was the first time they didn't screw it up. It's just in such a convenient location, down the road from work, that I put up with it. But if they're going to possibly withhold medication in the future, I'm out.

In the spirit of how this thread began, I should've given them a piece of my mind after receiving the meds. I still would've been polite about it.
They're just lucky Julie wasn't there. She takes shit from no one anyway, but when someone she loves has been wronged even slightly? She goes off the chain. It would've been worse than when I told her in the car later.
"How is that ANY of their FUCKING BUSINESS?!"
I love her so much .

@Bubble181

Zero Esc said:

Julie has been wanting me to stop going there because they screw up my inhaler every time. Yesterday was the first time they didn't screw it up. It's just in such a convenient location, down the road from work, that I put up with it. But if they're going to possibly withhold medication in the future, I'm out.

In the spirit of how this thread began, I should've given them a piece of my mind after receiving the meds. I still would've been polite about it.
They're just lucky Julie wasn't there. She takes shit from no one anyway, but when someone she loves has been wronged even slightly? She goes off the chain. It would've been worse than when I told her in the car later.
"How is that ANY of their FUCKING BUSINESS?!"
I love her so much .

@Bubble181

Spoiler

E is a way to refer to female hormones on the sly. T for males. So a trans woman will go on E, and a trans man will go on T.

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I figured it had something to do with that, but wasn't sure if it was started taking/got approval to start going on/etc.

Good luck!

Zero Esc said:

Spoiler

E is a way to refer to female hormones on the sly. T for males. So a trans woman will go on E, and a trans man will go on T.

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Yep. Was going to dovetail on @Ravenpoe to make an “Estancia” joke, but turns out they don’t actually make a rosé.

You just keep on being you. Other people will either adjust or else they will distance themselves, either way it’s win-win.

—Patrick

Today was my appointment to see how things are going. The pharmacy that was being rude to me? They were putting me at half dosage.

So now I'll increase to where I was supposed to be and move up to where I should be now in six to eight weeks. -_-

Zero Esc said:

Today was my appointment to see how things are going. The pharmacy that was being rude to me? They were putting me at half dosage.

So now I'll increase to where I was supposed to be and move up to where I should be now in six to eight weeks. -_-

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I hope you took your business elsewhere.

Absolutely take your business elsewhere, unless they can give you a valid reason like harmful drug interactions or the like. But if it's because they are against your wanting to be who you are, fuck them. Take the few minutes and drive somewhere else.

Dei said:

I hope you took your business elsewhere.

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Dave said:

Absolutely take your business elsewhere, unless they can give you a valid reason like harmful drug interactions or the like. But if it's because they are against your wanting to be who you are, fuck them. Take the few minutes and drive somewhere else.

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It seems it was just negligence, neither beneficial nor malicious. But we're going to Julie's pharmacy now.

Zero Esc said:

It seems it was just negligence, neither beneficial nor malicious. But we're going to Julie's pharmacy now.

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Yeah...that's not any better. If they're incompetent enough to be filling out medication at the wrong dosage that is not a pharmacy you want to be going to.

I was going to suggest it might’ve just been negligence, since this stuff really IS still new to most people.

That said, prescriptions are incredibly explicit things, so yah shouldn’t have messed it up.

—Patrick

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Yeah...that's not any better. If they're incompetent enough to be filling out medication at the wrong dosage that is not a pharmacy you want to be going to.

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Exactly! What if they screw up my inhaler next time? This isn't an oopsie-doodle social media error message kind of mistake. I know pharmacy techs are busy, but even in doctor handwriting, a 1 and a 2 are distinguishable.

I should add to this thread in a way that isn't venting .

We went to drop off my new scrip at Julie's pharmacy. They were much better about things. Not even just with me, but she had a refill for one of her meds and a new scrip, so they said they'd put a hold on it so she could make full use of the previous set of refills first. My pharmacy would've just returned the scrip -_-. So this will be a better move overall.

I've been on E for a month and a half and the changes internally have been a big deal for me. Apparently I had pretty low testosterone levels even before I started. It feels like my brain is being fed something I didn't know I was starved of. Emotions have been more complex, though it's hard to explain. I'm picking up a lot more than I used to, but not understanding all of it immediately. Julie and I have had more bickering, but the resolution is better than it used to be.

I'm hungrier though. I don't know if that's a side effect of the increased dosage or just coincidence. :/

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I'm hungrier though. I don't know if that's a side effect of the increased dosage or just coincidence. :/

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Most likely it’s your body requisitioning fuel and materials for the physical changes. Cut back on your caloric intake (i.e., carbs/sugars) and you might even lose a few pounds (or have them relocate somewhere more appropriate), just like puberty all over again. I mean, don’t starve yourself (that would be bad!), but you get somewhat of a second chance to significantly affect your physique, if you’re willing to do something about it.

—Patrick

I don't know what your body type currently is, but women also need to carry more body fat than men.

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Most likely it’s your body requisitioning fuel and materials for the physical changes. Cut back on your caloric intake (i.e., carbs/sugars) and you might even lose a few pounds (or have them relocate somewhere more appropriate), just like puberty all over again. I mean, don’t starve yourself (that would be bad!), but you get somewhat of a second chance to significantly affect your physique, if you’re willing to do something about it.

—Patrick

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Well, I did that before I started so I'm down 30 pounds . That was a personal prerequisite to starting hormones losing weight/getting in shape were going to be slow processes, like HRT. I'm in better shape than I've been my whole life, mentally and physically.

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I don't know what your body type currently is, but women also need to carry more body fat than men.

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Hmm, good point. I'll have to keep an eye on that. I'm trying to cut down on my sugar intake, but fat is fine as long as its within my calorie limit.

Your body will let you know if you are running low, just like always.

—Patrick