But I do have a different take on whether to picket the funeral and say hateful things. Yes, I understand the need to rise above, but this is a very concrete opportunity to show the family - who remain hate-filled and in the church - how these things affect those grieving a loved one's passing. Yes, we can be better, but does that teach them anything at all? Would they then say, "Well, we were given compassion and privacy so we should stop doing what we're doing!" I don't think so.