Good Parenting or Bad?

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Jay

Jay

http://www.nwfdailynews.com/news/ol...tml?utm_source=twitterfeed&utm_medium=twitter
CRESTVIEW – A father tried to give his 11-year-old daughter a time-out, but she ended up getting charged with a misdemeanor.


Around 9:30 p.m. March 24, the girl and her 7-year-old brother got into a fight over who got to sit in a certain chair, according to an Okaloosa County Sheriff’s Office arrest report. The father ended up escorting the girl to her room. The man stood in the hallway watching her, making sure she wouldn’t try to run away out her bedroom window, the report said. The girl grabbed a toy gun and threw it, striking her father in the head and causing him to bleed from a laceration on his scalp.


The girl was charged with domestic battery and is due in juvenile court May 5.
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The girl thought she got it bad? Now it's got a whole lot worse. It'll give her some food for thought, won't it?
 
Officer_Charon

Officer_Charon

My question is, why call the police? Florida's like Georgia - we still encourage corporal punishment. Now, instead of a sore butt and an object lesson in parental respect (although, at 11 it might not be as effective as one might hope) she's got a juvenile record.

My only guess is that he went to the hospital and he told them what happened. Florida is also like Georgia in that they have the Domestic Violence Law - if there is visible injury, the state prosecutes the primary aggressor. There are times when it's not a good thing, though... *sigh*
 
ThatNickGuy

ThatNickGuy

Wait, did the father make the charges here? There's not a lot of information in the article about this.

If he did, I'd say it was a huge overreaction on his part. Then again, it might scare her straight, so who knows.
 
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makare

Maybe this is just one of many incidents and the parents have had enough. Maybe it is like a CHINS thing.
 
Dave

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If he had to follow her to her room to make sure she didn't flee through the window it says to me that this is her usual thing to do and that there's been trouble in the past.

11 to me is a little old for the whole corporal punishment thing, but there's only so much you can do to an unruly child who isn't afraid of consequences. Without knowing much more about the situation it's too easy to make snap judgments. These could be wonderful parents of an evil child or terrible parents of a kid who had just had enough.

In any event, this will allow people to look inside and see if there's anything going on either way.
 
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Chibibar

Dave said:
If he had to follow her to her room to make sure she didn't flee through the window it says to me that this is her usual thing to do and that there's been trouble in the past.

11 to me is a little old for the whole corporal punishment thing, but there's only so much you can do to an unruly child who isn't afraid of consequences. Without knowing much more about the situation it's too easy to make snap judgments. These could be wonderful parents of an evil child or terrible parents of a kid who had just had enough.

In any event, this will allow people to look inside and see if there's anything going on either way.
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I have to agree. I think there might be more history to this. Also, I'm curious on who file the report. It could be the hospital.
 
Thread Necromancer

Thread Necromancer

Dave said:
If he had to follow her to her room to make sure she didn't flee through the window it says to me that this is her usual thing to do and that there's been trouble in the past.
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This is what I was thinking too. And if it's a usual thing for her then I find it unlikely that the court event will "scare her straight." To many times have I seen children like this and rather than learning from it they almost wear it as a badge of honor. Sadly it's a slippery slope from that point.

I'm not saying it's the right or wrong thing to do, and (especially in the case of a few kids I know who are similiar) I wish I knew a better way, but I don't.
 
Eriol

Eriol

Officer_Charon said:
My only guess is that he went to the hospital and he told them what happened. Florida is also like Georgia in that they have the Domestic Violence Law - if there is visible injury, the state prosecutes the primary aggressor. There are times when it's not a good thing, though... *sigh*
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This seems the most likely to me. Otherwise the father is just weird.
 
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Chazwozel

Dave said:
If he had to follow her to her room to make sure she didn't flee through the window it says to me that this is her usual thing to do and that there's been trouble in the past.

11 to me is a little old for the whole corporal punishment thing, but there's only so much you can do to an unruly child who isn't afraid of consequences. Without knowing much more about the situation it's too easy to make snap judgments. These could be wonderful parents of an evil child or terrible parents of a kid who had just had enough.

In any event, this will allow people to look inside and see if there's anything going on either way.
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I was thinking the same thing, Dave. 11 is kinda old to spank.
 
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Wasabi Poptart

The man stood in the hallway watching her, making sure she wouldn’t try to run away out her bedroom window, the report said.
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That bolded part speaks volumes to me about this girl's behavior. It is hard to say if making her go to juvenile court is bad parenting Maybe the dad has had enough of her crap and wants to scare her a bit or maybe he had to file the report because of his injury. The fact that he had to watch her to make sure she didn't try to go out of her bedroom window makes it sound like there is a lack of control in that household.
 
Cajungal

Cajungal

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Dave said:
If he had to follow her to her room to make sure she didn't flee through the window it says to me that this is her usual thing to do and that there's been trouble in the past.

11 to me is a little old for the whole corporal punishment thing, but there's only so much you can do to an unruly child who isn't afraid of consequences. Without knowing much more about the situation it's too easy to make snap judgments. These could be wonderful parents of an evil child or terrible parents of a kid who had just had enough.

In any event, this will allow people to look inside and see if there's anything going on either way.
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Pretty much this. I've known kids who I'd love to scare like that--kids who are totally out of control. But if it's a normal kid who just went a little overboard that one time, I'd say this was an overreaction.
 
Math242

Math242

my father would have kicked my ass for something like that. 11 or not.

and it would have served me right.

Damn kids today
 
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