If she's not going to listen to the doctors then there's nothing you can do. She's going to have health issues and until it gets bad she won't do anything.Well, some advice is required on how to talk to a girl about this, folks.
My girlfriend's sister is apparently pregnant, but in a bad way. From what Kat's told me of the situation, the egg went wonky and attatched itself to her sister's fallopian tube, instead of the uterine wall. From what my med teachers have told me, it's right now nothing more than a combination tumor and parasite, it could never, ever be a reach pregnancy and will in fact endanger the girl's life, possibly leading to fatal internal bleeding if it ruptures.
Kat and I are set to talk to Mischa (the sister) tonight, who despite all sense and rationality, refuses to have ANYTHING done, because "It's still technically my child, and I don't want to kill it". Any advice on talking to the girl here? The only thought I keep having is "it will NEVER be a child, ever, there's no way to make it one."
But it sounds like an ethical and/or religious issue, and you will NOT make any progress unless you convince her from that standpoint.Ectopic pregnancies cannot be carried to term and eventually rupture or involute. Early symptoms and signs include pelvic pain, vaginal bleeding, and cervical motion tenderness. Syncope or hemorrhagic shock can occur with rupture.
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Rupture may be heralded by sudden, severe pain, followed by syncope or by symptoms and signs of hemorrhagic shock or peritonitis.
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Untreated ectopic pregnancy is fatal to the fetus, but if treatment occurs before rupture, maternal death is very rare. In the US, ectopic pregnancy probably accounts for 9% of pregnancy-related maternal deaths.
This advice should only be taken if all else fails.I'm a little more harsh, Darwinian (is that even a word?). If you've (and by you, I mean family, medical professionals, anyone she respects the opinion of) has tried to talk to her about it. Let it be. Let her go and experience the joys of trying to have this her way. As everyone has brought to her attention, it won't happen. That's a result she'd probably be 'okay' with. It's the "If I'm not meant to have this child, then I won't have this child, but I will not do anything to harm this child." mentality, then fine.
I have a firm belief in that if anyone isn't able to make tough decisions, they probably shouldn't be a parent.
As George Carlin says... kids that eat marbles don't grow up to have kids that eat marbles.
"What we've got here is failure to communicate.
Some men you just can't reach...
So, you get what we had here last week,
which is the way he wants it!
Well, he gets it!
N' I don't like it any more than you men."
This advice should only be taken if all else fails.[/QUOTE]I'm a little more harsh, Darwinian (is that even a word?). If you've (and by you, I mean family, medical professionals, anyone she respects the opinion of) has tried to talk to her about it. Let it be. Let her go and experience the joys of trying to have this her way. As everyone has brought to her attention, it won't happen. That's a result she'd probably be 'okay' with. It's the "If I'm not meant to have this child, then I won't have this child, but I will not do anything to harm this child." mentality, then fine.
I have a firm belief in that if anyone isn't able to make tough decisions, they probably shouldn't be a parent.
As George Carlin says... kids that eat marbles don't grow up to have kids that eat marbles.
"What we've got here is failure to communicate.
Some men you just can't reach...
So, you get what we had here last week,
which is the way he wants it!
Well, he gets it!
N' I don't like it any more than you men."