A little more sparring yesterday
Some background before the video. The video features me sparring Calli's oldest son. He turns 19 in a few days. He's been taking class now for a couple of years, but really only got 'super serious' within this last year.
I've taught a lot of folks martial arts over the years, and unfortunately, when some people get to this point, they get a little megalomaniacal, or as I call it "
Billy Bad-ass syndrome". In other words, they get a little training under their belt, and they start thinking they're the toughest kid on the block, and get arrogant and ego-trippy.
This isn't a big deal, really. I don't want to give the impression that I'm dogging Calli's son, because I'm not. It's something a lot of folks go through in their training, sometimes more than once, myself included. It's one of those things you look for and deal with as an instructor.
You want to instill confidence in your students, but you don't want that self-confidence to blossom into a false feeling of invulnerability and misplaced egoism. This is one of the (among several) watershed moments where you can lose students. When some students reach this level, they feel like they are already bad ass, so they don't need the class any more. When some students reach this level, and then receive a much-needed lesson in humility, they can also leave due to the ego blow. Hopefully, if they stay after getting through this point, they're better students and better people as a consequence.
So, my usual sparring philosophy is to spar a little above a student's level, and not give them everything I've got. That gives them the feeling that if they push just a little harder, they might be able to beat me. This keeps them pushing their training, rather than just taking demoralizing beat downs. After sparring, I love hearing the students all excited and saying how they almost got me with some technique or other, and how next time, they're going to do it. It keeps 'em hungry and gives them an attainable goal.
That's not what happened yesterday. Yesterday was an object lesson. A little pin-prick to deflate the ego a bit.
Three weeks ago, I was showing the upper level students a double-leg standing take down. The boys had a little trouble with it, so after the fact the oldest got on the internet to see what the 'right' way to do it was, found a completely different take down, and concluded I was teaching it wrong. This week, when I was teaching class, we were working on "chicken wing"--also known as kimura, ude-garami, or hammer lock. Halfway through practice, the oldest stepson decides he wants to work on a 'better' way to do it, rather than the way I showed him. The contention was that the way I was teaching it didn't work well from the 'side mount' position.
So, when we sparred today, I figured I'd show him how those things work for real.
I didn't really want to get into the punching/kicking game too much here. I mostly just wanted to grapple and show those techniques. So we spend about a minute feeling each other out, while I wait for a good opening. Sean likes to keep his distance, and I'll wear myself out if I chase him around the yard too much. I see a good shot to get in and grapple at about 1:10 mark. I pop him in the head which distracts him enough for me to get in close, and pretty much can choose whichever take down I want here. I have to actually fight to get the leg take-down, though, because he's not in a good position for it. Lots of other techniques would have been ideal, but I wanted to prove a point. At 1:16, I get his leg levered up, and do a single-leg variation of the take down I'd shown them that day.
From 1:16-1:22, Sean is working to keep me from getting in the mount position, and I'm just trying not to get hit too much as I work my way into the side mount position. I want him to think I'm going for a full mount, rather than a side mount, because it makes it easier to slide into the side mount position once I have it lined up. From 1:22 to 1:27, it's a pretty straightforward chicken wing from the side mount position. At 1:29, he taps out. To his credit, it took a lot more cranking for the pain to reach tap-out level in sparring than it did while we were practicing.
You can hear one of the kids go "from the side mount!" at the end of the video. I was glad they recognized that I'd just done exactly what I was showing them in the class.