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Andromache
If you had a magical 1 time 1 use undo button, is there any moment in your life you'd go back to and stop yourself from doing? Again, requires a suspension of disbelief in the laws of physics.
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I would go back in time and stop myself from reading this thread.
I don't think I'd use it. I view everything I've done in the past (good and bad) to have been integral in shaping who I am today. I like who I am and would hate to change any part of it.
Cajungal
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Actually, yeah. The night my godmom committed suicide, I could have slept over at her house (my folks were going out of town, so I decided to stay with a relative). I decided to stay with my grandma instead, because Aunt Karen had been sick lately and I didn't want to be a burden. Now I think about what might have happened if I decided to go stay with her that weekend. She might not have done it if I was there, then maybe she could have gotten help and gotten better. 
Sorry, that's an enormous bummer. Feels good to say, though.
Sorry, that's an enormous bummer. Feels good to say, though.
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Kitty Sinatra
She just would have waited a couple days, CG.
I'd undo which sperm mated with the egg. I'd be a whole new person and experience everything in a totally different way. I'd live two lifetimes at once! Yeah Physics - FUCK YOU!
I'd undo which sperm mated with the egg. I'd be a whole new person and experience everything in a totally different way. I'd live two lifetimes at once! Yeah Physics - FUCK YOU!
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SeraRelm
Yes, but only if I still ended up with my fiancee.
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Kitty Sinatra
Of course. Just as anyone who had the slightest chance to stop Timothy McVeigh or Marc Lepine would likely go back and do so. Or should.
The title of this thread reminds me of:
Oh no, wait, there is another one:
Taking back "coming out" to my parents at 15 and instead, lived my life as secretly as possible, live off them long enough to get out of High School and graduate college. After landing a REAL career, I would just drop them out of my life completely, leaving them wondering why and what they could have possibly done wrong.
Taking back "coming out" to my parents at 15 and instead, lived my life as secretly as possible, live off them long enough to get out of High School and graduate college. After landing a REAL career, I would just drop them out of my life completely, leaving them wondering why and what they could have possibly done wrong.
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Chibibar
I am happy now. I have a great wife, pretty solid career (and retirement future) and doing pretty good.
I am afraid if I change anything, I might miss the chance of getting what I have now (even if I go back in time and win the great lottery where I actually guess all the numbers right)
I am afraid if I change anything, I might miss the chance of getting what I have now (even if I go back in time and win the great lottery where I actually guess all the numbers right)
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Lally
[hugs CG] I can't imagine constantly thinking something I did could have saved someone's life. I know if it had been me I would have a lot of trouble convincing myself otherwise. But I hope you don't really blame yourself for that.
My "one thing" is really stupid. I used to have a very close friend, and without telling the whole long story, we sort of drifted apart and would go for months without talking to each other (his choice, not mine). He would come back into my life only when he was bored, needed some attention, or needed some moral support, and because I missed him, I would let him back into my life, only for him to piss off again shortly thereafter. Well, the last time he contacted me, I told him if he was just going to pull the same routine again, that he could piss off forever. I haven't heard from him since.
There's no reason for me to want someone like that back in my life, but I miss our friendship. So, that's what I would change, even though I know it's stupid. I've done things that are probably more deserving of this magic trick, but that's the thing I want to change the most. Everything else I can live with.
My "one thing" is really stupid. I used to have a very close friend, and without telling the whole long story, we sort of drifted apart and would go for months without talking to each other (his choice, not mine). He would come back into my life only when he was bored, needed some attention, or needed some moral support, and because I missed him, I would let him back into my life, only for him to piss off again shortly thereafter. Well, the last time he contacted me, I told him if he was just going to pull the same routine again, that he could piss off forever. I haven't heard from him since.
There's no reason for me to want someone like that back in my life, but I miss our friendship. So, that's what I would change, even though I know it's stupid. I've done things that are probably more deserving of this magic trick, but that's the thing I want to change the most. Everything else I can live with.
Dave
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This one is tough for me because I can clearly see moments in my life which I wish I could go back and do over. But would doing so prevent my daughter from being born? I mean, right out of high school I could have gone to college on a free-ride academic and track scholarship but I declined and went into the Marines. Biggest mistake of my life and yet one of the best things I'd ever done.
When I went into the military I knew nobody else but other white people and I come from a family that is not exactly progressive. Had I gone to college it would have been in South Dakota which would have been just as bad as small town Iowa for diversity. My meeting and rooming with a black guy was one of the best things for me as it made me open my eyes to what I thought about other people and how I needed to individualize instead of stereotyping.
Other things I wish I'd have done:
1) Not robbed my neighbor when I was 14. Yeah. I got caught fast and got the snot beat out of me. The only time my father ever hit me. Boy did I earn that one.
2) Cheated on my high school girlfriend with her best friend. First and last time I ever dovetailed. I still feel guilty about it and that was 25 years ago.
3) I never got on stage trying comedy until it was too late in life. I'd like to have been able to do it sooner. I gave up that dream because I couldn't tour with a family. I still play the "what if" game about that one.
There are other smaller ones that don't affect much like wishing I'd have let Zappit do his thing with the boards. Sometimes I feel a bit overwhelmed with all the things I take on.
When I went into the military I knew nobody else but other white people and I come from a family that is not exactly progressive. Had I gone to college it would have been in South Dakota which would have been just as bad as small town Iowa for diversity. My meeting and rooming with a black guy was one of the best things for me as it made me open my eyes to what I thought about other people and how I needed to individualize instead of stereotyping.
Other things I wish I'd have done:
1) Not robbed my neighbor when I was 14. Yeah. I got caught fast and got the snot beat out of me. The only time my father ever hit me. Boy did I earn that one.
2) Cheated on my high school girlfriend with her best friend. First and last time I ever dovetailed. I still feel guilty about it and that was 25 years ago.
3) I never got on stage trying comedy until it was too late in life. I'd like to have been able to do it sooner. I gave up that dream because I couldn't tour with a family. I still play the "what if" game about that one.
There are other smaller ones that don't affect much like wishing I'd have let Zappit do his thing with the boards. Sometimes I feel a bit overwhelmed with all the things I take on.
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Andromache
i wouldn't have written that letter, and sent it, drunk. ^_^. Probably wouldn't have sent it sober either.
Dave
Staff member
Practically all the things I ever do and say seem enormous errors a few minutes later but, at the same time, they're my life. Pressing the undo button would effectively be suicide, in the same way as causing oneself amnesia, under my criteria.
I might try to undo what led up to me dropping out of college but then I would never have ended up in my current career choice but I might still be in the only relationship that's ever mattered to me in a creatively fulfilling job rather than this rather creatively bankrupt career I am in. I dunno, it's probably best I don't have that power.
I'd do it: I would have talked to my friend about my feelings for her sooner, before she got in a relationship with that other guy. I expect it would turn out the same way, but at least I would have had enough cause to completely remove her from my life when she did it then.
There are other events in my life I wish I could change, but this is the only event I can think of right now that I could change that wouldn't be potentially be undone by an anxiety attack at a later date, so simply changing a single event wouldn't help with those.
There are other events in my life I wish I could change, but this is the only event I can think of right now that I could change that wouldn't be potentially be undone by an anxiety attack at a later date, so simply changing a single event wouldn't help with those.
I can think of a few things, some I'm pretty sure about and others I'm not.
1) I'd have been a better friend to sammy. He was annoying in middleschool, which lead a lot of us to avoid and make fun of him. I think that's what lead him down to drugs and eventually suicide.
2) I may undo my last relationship. Not because it was bad and I regret it happening, but if I know that it's not going to work out, I might as well spend those 3 years in more productive pursuits perhaps.
3) Not participating in my school's IB program. I think I would have enjoyed my high school life a lot more if I had been in the same classes as all my friends.
1) I'd have been a better friend to sammy. He was annoying in middleschool, which lead a lot of us to avoid and make fun of him. I think that's what lead him down to drugs and eventually suicide.
2) I may undo my last relationship. Not because it was bad and I regret it happening, but if I know that it's not going to work out, I might as well spend those 3 years in more productive pursuits perhaps.
3) Not participating in my school's IB program. I think I would have enjoyed my high school life a lot more if I had been in the same classes as all my friends.
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TwoBit
I kinda wish I had never been born. That wasn't any of my doing unfortunately.
but... if you did that, you would find the thread again and become stuck in an infinite time loop!
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but... if you did that, you would find the thread again and become stuck in an infinite time loop.
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but... if you did that, wouldn't you find the thread again and become stuck in an infinite time loop?
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Twitch
There's two things I'd like to redo. One of them would be talking to a friend and the other would be telling another how I feel. The first is more important than the second so it would be the one. I'd have to buy someone elses redo so I could do both.
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