Headed Towards Monogamy?

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Calleja

Calleja

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After 2 years of enjoying.. really, really enjoying... single life... I think that life has put me back on the relationship track.

Met a girl... had a date with her... and didn't even try to kiss her until the second date.

WTF?

I think this means I'm in "serious" mode. I didn't even REMEMBER "serious" mode.


The problem is, I'm not so sure I want to STOP being single. This hit me quite unexpectedly. But I also wonder how much the fact that she's the daughter of a good friend of my mom's factors into me going straight into "serious" mode. She talks to my mother more than I do, I think. But I do like her.

Oh shit, son. I just don't know.

Asked her out to a movie today... she JUMPED at the opportunity to go watch A-Team. Not the sappy mexican movie everyone's raving about down here.. no, A-Team.

She's not making this any easier!!
 
HCGLNS

HCGLNS

Calleja said:
But I also wonder how much the fact that she's the daughter of a good friend of my mom's factors into me going straight into "serious" mode. She talks to my mother more than I do, I think.
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You're dating a girl chosen from your mom's gaggle? ...you just met your wife.
 
Calleja

Calleja

No, I actually quite enjoy being monogamous. But I really do have been enjoying being single, and there's a time limit for that almost, y'know?

I WANT HCLGNS TO FUCKING EXPLAIN, THOUGH!! :aaahhh:
 
Officer_Charon

Officer_Charon

*snrk*

Seriously, though... don't think of it as giving up your "single life".... think of it, if it's applicable, of finding someone you could see yourself with 40+ years later, without worry.

Obviously, for you , the most important question is going to be her stance on the Beatles... *grins*
 
HCGLNS

HCGLNS

Calleja said:
I WANT HCLGNS TO FUCKING EXPLAIN, THOUGH!! Click here to enlarge
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Well I don't want to prick your balloon, but OC's suggestion can help illustrate my point. She already knows you love the Beatles, because your mom already told her. This girl has already passed the hardest test, getting your moms approval, since she already has that she knows almost as much about you as your mom does.
 
Hailey Knight

Hailey Knight

HCGLNS;398656][QUOTE=Calleja said:
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Well I don't want to prick your balloon, but OC's suggestion can help illustrate my point. She already knows you love the Beatles, because your mom already told her. This girl has already passed the hardest test, getting your moms approval, since she already has that she knows almost as much about you as your mom does.[/QUOTE]

That's terrifying. What will Callosaur do?
 
Calleja

Calleja

HCGLNS;398656][QUOTE=Calleja said:
I WANT HCLGNS TO FUCKING EXPLAIN, THOUGH!! Click here to enlarge
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Well I don't want to prick your balloon, but OC's suggestion can help illustrate my point. She already knows you love the Beatles, because your mom already told her. This girl has already passed the hardest test, getting your moms approval, since she already has that she knows almost as much about you as your mom does.[/QUOTE]

Well.. my mom has never had a problem with any girl I've ever dated. She's actually quite the cool in-law. Winning her approval is not the hardest test, not even close. It's like there always, even. It's actually quite harder to win MY approval :S

My mom's pretty hippie-ish, you know, one of those laid back cool moms.
 
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Philosopher B.

This thread is making me imagine little baby Callejas. Running around in diapers and beards humming 'We all live in a yellow submarine'.
 
Gusto

Gusto

monogamy
the custom of marriage to one wife or one husband at a time. — monogamous, adj.
See also: Marriage
 
Gusto

Gusto

Possibly. I'm just bustin' your chops dude. Maybe you should use less ambiguous terminology next time. :)
 
Calleja

Calleja

Well, I guess it's a good a time as any to update you guys...

We went to see A-Team yesterday... held hands pretty much throughout. She even loved the movie.

Then we decided to go get some coffee but the starbucks at the same mall decided to close early for some reason. Neither of us being in the mood for a "normal" Saturday night activity like clubbing or drinking or whatever, we ended up coming to my place to watch a movie. I introduced her to Shaun of the Dead. She loved it.

And then we watched an episode of Friends from one of my DVDs... and cuddled. She was at my bed with me and it went straight to cuddling. We made out a bit but it was all very... held back. And not because she seemed uncomfortable, I think *I* was holding back more, even.

And we talked. We talked for hours about how weird it was to like each other so much so quickly. About our likes and dislikes, about how we are, or have been, in relationships. We were basically having the pre-relationship talk. And then I just had to flat out say, surprising myself so much it felt like someone had taken control over my mouth: I'm gonna pursue you seriously. (It doesn't sound as creepy in Spanish, couldn't think of a better translation).

And she didn't run away and in fact spent one more hour cuddling and talking. And then I took her home without so much as removing her shoes.


So.. yeah. A fuck buddy of mine contacted me this morning and I instantly felt guilty about the possibility of seeing her. That only means one thing.

The monogamy switch has been thrown. I'll have an official girlfriend soon.
 
Silver Jelly

Silver Jelly

Calleja said:
Well, I guess it's a good a time as any to update you guys...

We went to see A-Team yesterday... held hands pretty much throughout. She even loved the movie.

Then we decided to go get some coffee but the starbucks at the same mall decided to close early for some reason. Neither of us being in the mood for a "normal" Saturday night activity like clubbing or drinking or whatever, we ended up coming to my place to watch a movie. I introduced her to Shaun of the Dead. She loved it.

And then we watched an episode of Friends from one of my DVDs... and cuddled. She was at my bed with me and it went straight to cuddling. We made out a bit but it was all very... held back. And not because she seemed uncomfortable, I think *I* was holding back more, even.

And we talked. We talked for hours about how weird it was to like each other so much so quickly. About our likes and dislikes, about how we are, or have been, in relationships. We were basically having the pre-relationship talk. And then I just had to flat out say, surprising myself so much it felt like someone had taken control over my mouth: I'm gonna pursue you seriously. (It doesn't sound as creepy in Spanish, couldn't think of a better translation).

And she didn't run away and in fact spent one more hour cuddling and talking. And then I took her home without so much as removing her shoes.


So.. yeah. A fuck buddy of mine contacted me this morning and I instantly felt guilty about the possibility of seeing her. That only means one thing.

The monogamy switch has been thrown. I'll have an official girlfriend soon.
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I found that to be very sweet, but, of course, I'm me...

The important thing is: how do you feel about it? I mean, you say you like your single life, but would you not like having a gf? Wich one is a lifestyle you like the best (right now, I'm sure this can change with time)?
 
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