Glad this was necro'd, because weeks ago I came upon a discussion I meant to mention here, pertaining to the original want/need point of the thread. I don't know where to find it again, but the bottom line of it was that the desire to be the other gender is itself a symptom of dysphoria or being trans. People who go "that's cool that he's his gender now; I wish I was a man too" or "wish I was trans" are likely trans without realizing it. Wish I could find it again; I feel like it (much later) informed on what Fade was asking about.
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I recently saw an article that at least partially made a point I've thought about too - not wanting to fit into specific cultural gender roles doesn't equal being non-cis. A girl can be a tomboy without being kind of a little bit trans. You can be perfectly male and happy as a guy and still think pink's a neat color and princesses rule.
In some ways, pushing everyone towards trans can be a regression. The stereotype used to be that if a woman was overly "masculine" she was probably a lesbian. Now we've sort of accepted that women can be gay without being butch, but now butch women are being todl they might be repressing their feeling of wanting to be a man.
Those who do feel they are a different gender than the physical sex they were born with - by all means, present however you want. Be who you want to be - be who you should be. But we also need to bear in mind the differences between cultural, psychological and biological identifiers.
In some ways, pushing everyone towards trans can be a regression. The stereotype used to be that if a woman was overly "masculine" she was probably a lesbian. Now we've sort of accepted that women can be gay without being butch, but now butch women are being todl they might be repressing their feeling of wanting to be a man.
Those who do feel they are a different gender than the physical sex they were born with - by all means, present however you want. Be who you want to be - be who you should be. But we also need to bear in mind the differences between cultural, psychological and biological identifiers.