Buying an engagement ring
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Mike and I talked about marriage but never about rings since I never wore rings and rarely wore jewelry anyway. He knew that I liked silver better than gold, though. He went shopping with his mom and they didn't know my ring size since, well, I didn't even know my own ring size! She knew we were similar though and went 1/4 size up from hers.
He ended up getting me a gold ring but I love it! The size was perfect, it's beautiful and I love it.
When our best friends were getting engaged, Jake and I actually went shopping first. We looked at some rings, he had an idea of what Sara wanted since she talks a lot. He knew she wanted something in a "different" shape. They talked about marriage a lot, knew they wanted to get married, but Sara can be oblivious to obvious signals, so that was a plus. Jake was able to ask questions without her realizing anything was going on. (She's great with puzzles and picking up clues in books, shows, etc... but real life? Not so much. It's easy to gather information from her!
I grabbed one of her rings while we were walking once and wore it "just for fun" and kind of figured out her ring size. (I think Jake ended up taking one of her other rings with him though.) And then Mike and Sara went to a baseball game once and she just happened to talk about the type of ring she would want if Jake were to ever propose, so that was covered too. Also, because Jake has bought her other jewelry, we get the Kay Jewelers catalogs at home, and she always says what she likes!
She was 100% surprised when he ended up proposing to her and loved the ring, except for the fact that it was just a little big.
He ended up getting me a gold ring but I love it! The size was perfect, it's beautiful and I love it.
When our best friends were getting engaged, Jake and I actually went shopping first. We looked at some rings, he had an idea of what Sara wanted since she talks a lot. He knew she wanted something in a "different" shape. They talked about marriage a lot, knew they wanted to get married, but Sara can be oblivious to obvious signals, so that was a plus. Jake was able to ask questions without her realizing anything was going on. (She's great with puzzles and picking up clues in books, shows, etc... but real life? Not so much. It's easy to gather information from her!
I grabbed one of her rings while we were walking once and wore it "just for fun" and kind of figured out her ring size. (I think Jake ended up taking one of her other rings with him though.) And then Mike and Sara went to a baseball game once and she just happened to talk about the type of ring she would want if Jake were to ever propose, so that was covered too. Also, because Jake has bought her other jewelry, we get the Kay Jewelers catalogs at home, and she always says what she likes!
She was 100% surprised when he ended up proposing to her and loved the ring, except for the fact that it was just a little big.
Necronic
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Oh man, I guess I should probably go to a therapist.
Anyways, the reason I am being pretty specific about what I want advice for is that I'm not looking to crowdsource my proposal, as that undermines the personal nature of it. I should have mentioned that in the OP though. My main concern is just what to do about the ring itself, and you guys have given me quite a lot to work with here.
But seriously you should probably go to a therapist.
I knew roughly the size to buy my wife's engagement ring because I essentially stole one of her other rings and sized it appropriately to that. Bought the diamond and then showed my mother who promptly took me BACK to the jeweler and made me double the size of it.
Proposed in a park, down on one knee and all that stuff. She didn't notice all the romantic stuff because as soon as I opened the box it was like the Flash had swooped by and stolen it, it was on her finger so fast. She spent days examining it closely until one day at work she noticed a flaw along the interior of it. And now that she had seen it, she couldn't UNsee it. So, being the dutiful husband I took it back and upgraded it again one size larger. Didn't tell her I had done this so I drove her back again to the park telling her I had to do some work prep for an event. Went to the same spot, got down on one knee again and she laughed and asked for her ring.
She was happy with this new one until I upgraded it again a couple years ago.
Proposed in a park, down on one knee and all that stuff. She didn't notice all the romantic stuff because as soon as I opened the box it was like the Flash had swooped by and stolen it, it was on her finger so fast. She spent days examining it closely until one day at work she noticed a flaw along the interior of it. And now that she had seen it, she couldn't UNsee it. So, being the dutiful husband I took it back and upgraded it again one size larger. Didn't tell her I had done this so I drove her back again to the park telling her I had to do some work prep for an event. Went to the same spot, got down on one knee again and she laughed and asked for her ring.
She was happy with this new one until I upgraded it again a couple years ago.
The company got mine from had it in a box with a little light at the top shining down on the ring once opened. She took the box from me, turned it this way and that, then looked into the lid and exclaimed, "Oh! There's a light in there!" I said, "Yes. There's also a ring... so is that a yes?"
I love your mom already.
My ring is pretty small, because we were broke ass college students when my husband proposed, and he went for cut and color and clarity over size. Honestly I don't mind a small understated ring because I am not a big jewelry person and would be terrified of somehow losing a giant diamond. This does not stop be from being a dick and ribbing my husband when we see other people's rings. I'm a bad person.
That's like when my friend was proposed to! Her family went camping, her now-husband showed up and she thought nothing of it. They went for a walk in the woods, she just thought he was being romantic. He got down on one knee and had a box with a light and all she was wondering at the time was how he got the box to light up. XDThe company got mine from had it in a box with a little light at the top shining down on the ring once opened. She took the box from me, turned it this way and that, then looked into the lid and exclaimed, "Oh! There's a light in there!" I said, "Yes. There's also a ring... so is that a yes?"
Alternate answer: smash the patriarchy. It is the 21st century and you are dating an independent woman. She buys you a ring and proposes to you. Take her last name.
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