Constructive ways to deal with heartbreak

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Dusty668

Rebound sex is great, heck if someone else was in the room with me when I had it, I bet it would be a whole new level of amazing!!!!


What?
 
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Kitty Sinatra

Put on that dress she left at your place, slap on a wig. Rob as many banks as you can before getting nabbed.
 
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Kitty Sinatra

I still have my ex-wife's dress. I could put it on (and my wig) and give him a hug.
 
Timmus

Timmus

Thanks for all the advice so far everyone.

I did end up reconsidering giving her a chance to explain it to me. Whatever she has to say I don't need to hear. I arranged to give her her stuff back through a mutual friend so If all goes well I won't have to see her again for a very long time.

Lots of you mentioned music. Maybe this is a time to start broadening my horizons. Any suggestions on bands I should start looking into.

The artist I listen to most frequently are Radiohead, Ween, Pink Floyd, Phontaine, Kraftwerk, and Frank Zappa. I've found that discovering a new band really helps to distract me from other things.
 
Cajungal

Cajungal

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Just keep listening to "Piss Up a Rope." That oughta make you feel better. :p

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An album that always cheers me up is "Dance Like There's No Tomorrow" by John Ellis, if you're in to jazz. :)
 
North_Ranger

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Timmus said:
I did end up reconsidering giving her a chance to explain it to me. Whatever she has to say I don't need to hear. I arranged to give her her stuff back through a mutual friend so If all goes well I won't have to see her again for a very long time.
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Actually, that might depend. If she's a reasonable person who harbours you no ill-will, you just might want to hear what she has to say... If, on the other hand, she's a vindictive little bitch who can see nothing wrong in what she's doing and keeps telling everything that's wrong in her life is someone else's fa... whoops, sorry, projecting my own issues there. In that case you shouldn't talk to him.
 
Timmus

Timmus

North_Ranger;296079][quote=Timmus said:
I did end up reconsidering giving her a chance to explain it to me. Whatever she has to say I don't need to hear. I arranged to give her her stuff back through a mutual friend so If all goes well I won't have to see her again for a very long time.
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Actually, that might depend. If she's a reasonable person who harbours you no ill-will, you just might want to hear what she has to say... If, on the other hand, she's a vindictive little bitch who can see nothing wrong in what she's doing and keeps telling everything that's wrong in her life is someone else's fa... whoops, sorry, projecting my own issues there. In that case you shouldn't talk to him.[/QUOTE]

Yeah she is a reasonable person. She ended up falling for another person and I understand why. I have a feeling she will just want to explain why she chose who she chose. The only thing I want her to say is that she'll have me back and I know she won't do that. Why waste both our time right?
 
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WolfOfOdin

Timmus;296089][quote=WolfOfOdin said:
Timmus: Jace Everett and John Cale
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Any specific albums or songs I should start with?[/QUOTE]

For Jace Everett, Bad Things is his 'big' song since it's the theme song for true blood, and it has an AWESOME old school blues bass beat behind it.

For John Cale, Hallelujah and Dying on the Vine are great songs to use to get into his sound. I'd say listen to Procol Harum's Whiter Shade of Pale, but it's depressing as all fuck
 
Timmus

Timmus

WolfOfOdin;296095][quote=Timmus;296089][quote=WolfOfOdin said:
Timmus: Jace Everett and John Cale
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Any specific albums or songs I should start with?[/QUOTE]

For Jace Everett, Bad Things is his 'big' song since it's the theme song for true blood, and it has an AWESOME old school blues bass beat behind it.

For John Cale, Hallelujah and Dying on the Vine are great songs to use to get into his sound. I'd say listen to Procol Harum's Whiter Shade of Pale, but it's depressing as all fuck[/QUOTE]

Thanks. I had heard that version of Hallelujah before and liked it but I didn't know who did it. I'll check the rest of it out.
 
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Skinny Santa

From my (admittedly limited) experience I've found that if you really cared about someone you have to hate them for a while to get over it. Love and Hate are opposites for a reason, trying to justify everything will only make you think about good parts of her and your relationship. I'm not saying go and destroy her car or something but allowing yourself to think about her negatively is a necessary part of the process. I tried to have congenial breakups a few times but they only really worked if I had no real investment in the person by the end of it anyways.

My 2 cents, I may just be extremely petty.

As for ideas, if you have a dog try going for walks with it into any nearby woods, a person is just as effective but theres something comforting about having a silent companion in a calm environment like that.
 
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Dusty668

Jerry Reed's "Blugrass (with guts)" is one heck of a pick me up. I can't feel bad listening to it, wish it was an hour long.
 
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Kitty Sinatra

Just let her go. Maybe y'all will hook up again when she breaks up with the reason she's drifting away. But if that's the end of the relationship, you just have to move on and find a new gal.

(Man, I could've made the exact same post in Enresshou's thread)
 
Timmus

Timmus

Erased her from my phone. I kept waffling on whether or not to let her have a last talk with me and sent her texts each time I changed my mind.

Just got to let go of one thing at a time I guess.
 
Timmus

Timmus

Only like half a year. Third major breakup I've gone through and this one hurts way more than the other two.
 
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