And if you happen to be going through Central Cali, pick me up too. I'll pitch in for gas and food.you two dudes should go road tripping together and co-help each other get over your shit. Maybe go to a comic nerd con.
Only to drive through it, flipping it the bird the whole time! Amirite?DID YOU DRIVE TO ONTARIO
Only to drive through it, flipping it the bird the whole time! Amirite?DID YOU DRIVE TO ONTARIO
Only to drive through it, flipping it the bird the whole time! Amirite?DID YOU DRIVE TO ONTARIO
Well said. Most of the women who stay with the assholes are the ones who are so scared of being alone that they'll be with anyone... it doesn't matter who. Man I REALLY hope she doesn't drop those charges.I'm sure you wouldn't want a girl LIKE THAT writing you e-mails. It's all about quality, my friend.
It's too bad General Specific is shy/anxious/agoraphobic or he could stalk the girl and bother her constantly until she got over her abusive boyfriend and told him to go away.You did the right thing by following them. The absolute worst thing to do is nothing. Sadly, it's not uncommon for battered women to go straight back to their abusive boyfriend or husband. Their logic is filled with so many twists and turns and cul de sacs that I can't keep up. Abused women tend to behave in the most irrational manner; just look at how The Psycho treated me.
One time I saw a domestic dispute and intervened. I got into one little fight but my Mom got scared and said, "You're moving with your auntie and uncle in Bel Air."
If my experiences have taught me anything is that after today, she will not cooperate and she will not leave him. They never fucking do.
If my experiences have taught me anything is that after today, she will not cooperate and she will not leave him. They never fucking do.
He could carve her initials into his leg. That will show his commitment.It's too bad General Specific is shy/anxious/agoraphobic or he could stalk the girl and bother her constantly until she got over her abusive boyfriend and told him to go away.
This. *sigh*If my experiences have taught me anything is that after today, she will not cooperate and she will not leave him. They never fucking do.
This. *sigh*If my experiences have taught me anything is that after today, she will not cooperate and she will not leave him. They never fucking do.
I agree 100% here, and I've made the decision long ago that I would use deadly force if and when necessary to defend myself or a 3rd person and is the reason I carry 24/7 anywhere I go (when legally able to do so).(a decision I don't envy)
You'd think so, wouldn't you...Dude, the victim lived with the guy, didn't she? He wouldn't be able to stay away long, they'd have his name, address, phone number, description, credit cards... Unless he had a fake passport and IDs and lots of cash already on him when the hypothetical running occurred, he'd be SOL.
Don't take it too hard when she does. That's her call.In my situation, I was told afterwords that they do not live together. The guy lives in my complex and she apparently lives in another one nearby.
Also, I found out later on that this was the first time that woman had been out with friends since the last time he did something like this. I really hope that she does follow through on this and doesn't wind back up with him again.
I see this whole thing as really dangerous to everyone. I've heard that some of the most dangerous calls are the domestic violence calls. The victim ends up getting upset at someone getting in the middle of a private matter, and you may end up having her come at you. Or maybe he has a gun in the car and you are in a shoot out.@CrimsonSoul: In that situation, if you told the dispatcher all that, we'd get it as:
D: "45C1, be advised that the complainant states he has a firearm and will be attempting to confront the suspect until police arrive."
D: "The complainant has made contact with the suspect, white male, approximately 6 foot 180 pounds, brown hair, blue shirt."
D: "Complainant advises that the suspect is now fleeing on foot, last seen going down [his street]. Complainant is out with the victim."
While motivated by a noble heart, armed confrontations between Samaritans and suspects don't always work. Remember: "No plan survives contact with the enemy." Chances are the guy will take flight, leaving you to either stay with the sobbing victim (who will cuss you out for butting in to a "private discussion" [I wish I was kidding]) or to chase him. You're going to be running to keep him in sight. He's running for his freedom. Guess who tends to win those deals?
This is assuming he runs. Otherwise, he's going to fight, which will either make you pull the trigger (a decision I don't envy) or get physical with him. Then the situation has escalated before police get there, which we never like.
tl;dr - observing and staying in contact with dispatch to provide current intel is always your best bet. If he attempts to drive off, get in your car and FOLLOW (don't INTERCEPT), staying on the phone and providing tag, descriptions, actions, locations - all of this can be relayed in real-time to police. Then we can take the scene from where it ends up.
It's brave of you to offer that up, but if you're not a LEO, he's either not going to respect you attempting to halt the situation, or he's going to bolt, and the suspect is gone.
I feel you, lots of us have a 'I would have done X in Y situation" but when it really comes down to it.... Easier to avoid a possible confrontation and/or situation than to get involved.You know, I can't honestly say if I'd have done the same as GenSpec here. I'd like to think so. But I have to admit, I might look away like people so often do. I think it's admirable that Gen did do what he could.
And Crimmy, you're a nutjob, I'm just saying. Pulling a heater in a situation like that is like waving a sparkler in a gas-filled room.