This week in particular it seemed like he's been doing it a lot and I felt like somebody needed to call him on it.
Yeah, I guess the imminent death of his grandmother may have nothing to do with this increase...[/QUOTE]
That doesn't fly with my as an excuse for his behavior. Do you want to know why? When I was 5 years old my paternal grandfather died of congestive heart failure. When I was 14 my mother was killed in a car accident. A year or two after that, my maternal great-grandmother died of pancreatic cancer that metastasized literally
everywhere. When I was 18 my paternal grandmother died of complications of a bladder infection and, quite frankly, also being old. Last February my uncle blew his brains out in the parking lot of a hospital, leaving behind an invalid wife and two, thankfully grown, sons. The only one I actually got to say goodbye to was my grandmother and by that time she was barely cognizant anyway.
Everybody has their issues. Everybody has had family members die. Some people have had many more family members die than others. I've had to deal with a lot of death and other serious issues in my family and not once have I used that as an excuse for my behavior. NOT. ONCE. I will admit that I at times get sensitive, especially regarding my mom, but I do not go around acting like a prat and then blame it on the fact that I had a family member die. I absolutely hate when people do that. It's a pathetic, juvenile excuse. Calleja playing the "my grandma is dying" card did more to undermine his masculinity than any number of gift kittens would.
Grieving with family and friends is essential and at no point in this post do I mean to imply otherwise. For me the biggest part of dealing with grief is just having people to talk to about it. For Calleja it may be different but I hope he finds something. However, once you grieve you put your shoulder back to the wheel and you continue to press forward. A true man owns up to his actions. He takes responsibility for how he acts, for what he does, and he soldiers on.