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Jul 7, 2009#1

Chummer

A friend of mine recently freaked the fuck out when she couldn't deal with the fact that I have feelings for her and she might feel the same (as she came to me for a night of comfort etc).

There is more to the story but...

Anyways she recently cut me off completely. From quitting her job to get away from me to defriending me from myspace. She somewhat explained in some weird martyr/victim thing where she has to save herself from my false love and me so I can find someone else. etc etc childish bullshit.

Anyways, she was nice enough to leave a list of flaws I have, if she meant to leave it where I could find it here in the office I'm not sure, but anyways:

-No ambition or goals, educational or career
(I'm more family orientened in my goals so...)

-No interest in personal health or appearance
(I'm a t-shirt and jeans guy, and yea I could eat better)

-Narrow Spiritual Focus
(Her religion seems to change weekly, I'm a plain old Christian.)

-Too Sensitive
(Got me there)

-Too many "tune-out" hobbies
(I like comics and video games, which she feels is time wasting. Read a book!)

-Believes in necassary violence
(I like horror movies, she does not. I also think the world is to complicated to have all its problems solved with love and talking)

-No artistic or creative ability
(She's a passionate artist, I like tv so...)

-Weak-Willed
(Thats a toughy, not so much as i go by what others say, I just find that i'm more apathetic -as in go with the flow- to certian things.)

-Not environmentally conscious
(Not really sure where this comes from... i don't have a garden?)

-Doesn't contribute to the world
(She likes to "fight the power", even by atleast just talking about it. Where as I know I'm just a small fish in a large ocean. Although, i do donate to charity on a monthly basis if that counts.)

-Not especially witty or intelligent
(Pot Kettle Black? Actually she is highly intelligent, so much it impresses me. As for me... eh.. she could be right there.)

-Narrow food choices
(Shes a veggie, which limits her choices? But I'm not much of a cook so in a way she pegged me there)

-Not spontaneous or adventurous
(She feels she's "lived" cause she stole a car and drove to Florida when she was 15. Has been in orgies, and tried drugs. She's "LIVED". I've been a good boy my whole life, which I suppose does make me a tad boring.)

So yea, I have found the last couple of weeks pretty jarring and hurtful. The friendship finally imploded today for such weird reasons.

My word of advice: Don't stick it in the crazy. Even if he/she's been one of your best friends for over a decade. Or simply: Don't sleep with your friends, it never ends well.

Jul 7, 2009#2

Hylian

Man I share most of your :quote: flaws :quote:

Jul 7, 2009#3

Cajungal

Gee, she sounds swell.

Jul 7, 2009#4

Fun Size

Seriously. I love me some judgmental hippy chicks, but damn brother. I'm thinking you'd do well to just step away.

Jul 7, 2009#5

Shannow

So...she was a hippe whore?

Jul 7, 2009#6

Shegokigo

Your flaws?

You abandoned the Sausage House updates. :eek:

rly:

Jul 7, 2009#7

Tinwhistler

I've slept with friends and had it end well.

But they weren't as crazy as this girl sounds.

Jul 7, 2009#8

A girl I was dating once "complimented" me by saying, "Well, you're not Tom Cruise, but you're not hideous."

My advice?

RUN AWAY! :aaahhh:

-- Tue Jul 07, 2009 10:42 am --

Tinwhistler said:
I've slept with friends and had it end well.

Yeah, but they were dudes.

Jul 7, 2009#9

B

bhamv2

hylian said:
Man I share most of your :quote: flaws :quote:

Ditto.

By the way, the author of the Chinese novel Lust, Caution, Eileen Chang, once wrote in one of her stories, "Men love women to cherish them. Women love men to admire them." While this is, naturally, a highly oversimplified and romanticized view, I find there's still an element of truth. Women often prefer men who have qualities they find admirable.

Jul 7, 2009#10

Cajungal

Sounds like the girl who dumped my buddy a few months back... loved to criticize him and play the martyr. I'm sorry she went out of her way to mess with you like that. :\

Jul 7, 2009#11

strawman

She took the midnight train to crazytown, and good riddance!

I'm sorry for you that it didn't work out as you might have hoped.

Regarding your list of 'flaws' note that many people would not see them as such, and they should in no way impede you from succeeding and living a happy life. From her perspective they may be weaknesses, and perhaps you look at a few of them and want to change them.

But don't change for her, or try to live up to her standards.

Be yourself, change what you don't like about your life, and you'll find someone who sees those as strengths, and is strong where you are weak.

Probably one of the reasons you liked each other - you complemented each others weaknesses to some degree.

This too shall pass.

-Adam

Jul 7, 2009#12

Steven Soderburgin

Let me give you a bit of advice: Consider your behavior and her criticisms honestly and openly. Take this as an opportunity to change yourself for the better. Obviously she saw something that made her make those criticisms and perhaps made some accurate observations. Don't just blow this off as being from some crazy dumb bitch. You were friends with her for years and so obviously you had respect for her opinions before this all went down.

Also, if you kept hounding her with advances to the point where she quit her job to get away from you and ended a long friendship, then for fuck's sake, maybe next time you should take the hint when someone says they don't want to be with you and get over her. From what you've said, it doesn't sound like she was the one being childish when she cut you off.

Jul 7, 2009#13

Cajungal

Looks like you've already been thinking about it a lot and even accept some of it already.

It just sounds like you're not compatible, and she told you so in a way that makes you sound like you're messed up. That's a sign of insecurity to me, and/or a need to validate her own choices.

Jul 7, 2009#14

Espy

Chummer said:
-No ambition or goals, educational or career
(I'm more family orientened in my goals so...)

Well, ambition can be a good thing. This one is worth considering.

-No interest in personal health or appearance
(I'm a t-shirt and jeans guy, and yea I could eat better)

We can all eat better, it's a good thing to do as well. As far as fashion... well, it never hurts to find clothes you like that fit what you do.

-Narrow Spiritual Appearance
(Her religion seems to change weekly, I'm a plain old Christian.)

Oh I love this. God forbid you have something that you hold close to your heart and follow it. :eyeroll: Tell her to have fun with her flavor of the week.

-Too Sensitive
(Got me there)

Yeah, some girls will like it and some won't. Find one who does.

-Too may "tune-out" hobbies
(I like comics and video games, which she feels is time wasting. Read a book!)

Diversifying is good. I like comics and games as well but I also play music and read and etc, etc. Maybe a pro-active hobby would be a good inclusion into your mix.

-Believes in necassary violence
(I like horror movies, she does not. I also thin the world is to complicated to have all its problems solved with love and talking)

You guys differ enough to not be together then.

-No artistic or creative ability
(She's a passionate artist, I like tv so...)

You don't need artistic or creative ability to do many things. You can learn piano or guitar or rock climbing without any of the above.

-Weak-Willed
(Thats a toughy, not so much as i go by what others say, I just find that i'm more apathetic to certian things.)

There is a difference between "apathetic" and "go with the flow". If you are apathetic, that has to change if you go with the flow that's cool. Don't sweat it.

-Not environmentally conscious
(Not really sure where this comes from... i don't have a garden?)

Tell her you buy carbon credits from your carbon credit business. :pud:

-Doesn't contribute to the world
(She likes to "fight the power", even by atleast just talking about it. Where as I know I'm just a small fish in a large ocean. Although, i do donate to charity on a monthly basis if that counts.)

To each their own but I dare say you giving money to charities is probably doing more good for the world than all her talk.

-Not especially witty or intelligent
(Pot Kettle Black? Actually she is highly intelligent, so much it impresses me. As for me... eh.. sh eoucld be right there.)

Good lord. You are so, SO much better off without this girl.

-Narrow food choices
(Shes a veggie, which limits her choices? But Im not much of a cook so in a way she pegged me there)

To reuse: Good lord. You are so, SO much better off without this girl.

-Not spontaneous or adventurous
(She feels she's "lived" cause she stole a car and drove to Florida when she was 15. has been in orgies, and tried drugs. She's "LIVED". I've been a good boy my whole life, which I suppose does make me a tad boring.)

HOLY CRAP YOU ARE SO MUCH BETTER OFF WITHOUT THIS GIRL.
Plus it sounds like you need to get tested for STD's since she sounds like hive of scum and villainy.

Jul 7, 2009#15

B

bhamv2

Espy said:
Plus it sounds like you need to get tested for STD's since she sounds like hive of scum and villainy.

I think I just developed a man-crush on Espy.

Jul 7, 2009#16

Wasabi Poptart

I wouldn't put a lot of merit in her list of "flaws". Anyone who has to resort to making a list and leaving it out where a person who is the subject of said list probably will find it isn't doing so out of sincerity. If she was such a good friend who thought you had issues to overcome, she should have told you these things in person. This list sounds more like she is reassuring herself that you don't fit the mold of her perfect man.

However, if you feel there is something to this list, you have to want to make these changes for yourself. Don't do it because she says this is what she finds wrong with you and therefore why she can't see herself with you. She is but one fish in the entire ocean. What she thinks of as a "flaw" could be seen as appealing to another woman.

Jul 7, 2009#17

The Lovely Boehner

This thread is 10 lbs of bitter in a 5 lb bag

Jul 7, 2009#18

Tinwhistler

Edrondol said:
Tinwhistler said:

I've slept with friends and had it end well.

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Yeah, but they were dudes.

Only about 6% of them...

aranoid:

Jul 7, 2009#19

Espy

bhamv2 said:
Espy said:

Plus it sounds like you need to get tested for STD's since she sounds like hive of scum and villainy.

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I think I just developed a man-crush on Espy.

I get that a lot.

Jul 7, 2009#20

Hylian

bhamv2 said:
Espy said:

Plus it sounds like you need to get tested for STD's since she sounds like hive of scum and villainy.

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I think I just developed a man-crush on Espy.

You sicko he's just a little baby! How can you have a crush on a little innocent baby?

Jul 7, 2009#21

Chazwozel

Is it that time of the month already?!?!?! :rofl:

Jul 7, 2009#22

Chibibar

WildSoul said:
I wouldn't put a lot of merit in her list of "flaws". Anyone who has to resort to making a list and leaving it out where a person who is the subject of said list probably will find it isn't doing so out of sincerity. If she was such a good friend who thought you had issues to overcome, she should have told you these things in person. This list sounds more like she is reassuring herself that you don't fit the mold of her perfect man.

However, if you feel there is something to this list, you have to want to make these changes for yourself. Don't do it because she says this is what she finds wrong with you and therefore why she can't see herself with you. She is but one fish in the entire ocean. What she thinks of as a "flaw" could be seen as appealing to another woman.

I concur. I say, do what makes you happy. I can assure you DON'T change in hope to get her. It will not end well. There are some items on the list that we all can update (I love video games so does my wife but take time to do other things as well) It is up to you. You can change in you WANT to change.

Jul 7, 2009#23

B

bhamv2

hylian said:
bhamv2 said:

Espy said:

Plus it sounds like you need to get tested for STD's since she sounds like hive of scum and villainy.

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I think I just developed a man-crush on Espy.

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You sicko he's just a little baby! How can you have a crush on a little innocent baby?

He's a smoking baby. Obviously he's more mature than your everyday infant.

Also... innocence is hot! :unibrow:

Jul 7, 2009#24

Chazwozel

Shannow said:
So...she was a hippe *?

Sounds about accurate. I had a girlfriend like her in High School. I keep in contact with her now, but she sounds spot on the same i.e. she's lost in a perpetual Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder loop of thinking she's so much better than everyone else, but she's the one wearing burlap sacks and smelling to high heaven like shit due to lack of showering.

Jul 7, 2009#25

Fun Size

Chazwozel said:
Shannow said:

So...she was a hippe *?

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Sounds about accurate. I had a girlfriend like her in High School. I keep in contact with her now, but she sounds spot on the same i.e. she's lost in a perpetual Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder loop of thinking she's so much better than everyone else, but she's the one wearing burlap sacks and smelling to high heaven like poop due to lack of showering.

They didn't have patchouli where you went to high school? :puke:

Jul 7, 2009#26

Jake

Reading between the lines, you should probably get out of the basement and away from the cheeseburgers a bit, but if you ever speak to this person again, you're validating all the shit she has flung at you.

Get a bottle of wine and take a long hike. You can work out a lot of existential kinks that way.

Jul 7, 2009#27

Chummer

Kissinger said:
Let me give you a bit of advice: Consider your behavior and her criticisms honestly and openly. Take this as an opportunity to change yourself for the better. Obviously she saw something that made her make those criticisms and perhaps made some accurate observations. Don't just blow this off as being from some crazy dumb *. You were friends with her for years and so obviously you had respect for her opinions before this all went down.

Also, if you kept hounding her with advances to the point where she quit her job to get away from you and ended a long friendship, then for smurf's sake, maybe next time you should take the hint when someone says they don't want to be with you and get over her. From what you've said, it doesn't sound like she was the one being childish when she cut you off.

Trust me, I backed off. I would never try to hurt her. One of her problems is she blows things up A LOT. Give her an inch and she takes a mile.

Such as: I told her I have feelings for her. To her this meant that I've been lying to her for months now and real friends shouldnt have feelings etc I just wanted to use her to placate my feelings etc.

Yea, I get she has major problems. I just wish I could help her and make her realize I'm not trying to hurt her. But she doesn't want to listen.

i appreciate what everyone has said so far. I'm not taking what shes says to heart. I know shes hurt and striking out. I just found the list interesting (yea and a tad hurtful but...).

Oh yea, as for "having lived" that was years ago. She's pretty clean cut now, aside from her emotional issues, which I wish she would see a professional for. She seems hippy ish but dresses like any other average girl.

Jul 7, 2009#28

Cajungal

Whatever happens with you guys, I hope that you continue to develop and grow however you think is best for you. One thing I'm grateful about is the philosophy I got from my mom--that change occurs at every stage of life <--as opposed to the "you can't teach an old dog new tricks" philosophy. If there's something about you you actually want to change, I'm sure you'll achieve that.

Jul 7, 2009#29

The thing about dating the opposite sex (either side) is simple.

They're sane.
They're attractive.
They're smart.

Pick two.

Jul 7, 2009#30

Shegokigo

ThatNickGuy said:
The thing about dating the opposite sex (either side) is simple.

They're sane.
They're attractive.
They're smart.

Pick two.

Disagree completely, GF is all 3.

Jul 7, 2009#31

strawman

ThatNickGuy said:
The thing about dating the opposite sex (either side) is simple.

They're sane.
They're attractive.
They're smart.

Pick two.

Only because it reminds me of engineering:

You can have it cheap (low cost)
You can have it fast (high performance and/or full of features)
You can have it now (short development time)

Pick two.

And engineering solutions applied to relationships --> hilarity.

-Adam

Jul 7, 2009#32

Chummer

She has now wished (via myspace) for parthenogenesis to be more widespread.

This means a lack of males aka asexual reproduction.

I was tempted to mention if that were so her son wouldn't exist but whatev....

Sigh. Everything is mens fault. Why must we use and abuse women? Darn penis brains.

Jul 7, 2009#33

strawman

Chummer said:
She has now wished (via myspace) for parthenogenesis to be more widespread.

It's hard, but don't beat yourself up by checking out her myspace.

-Adam

Jul 7, 2009#34

Shegokigo

stienman said:
Chummer said:

She has now wished (via myspace) for parthenogenesis to be more widespread.

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It's hard, but don't beat yourself up by checking out her myspace.

-Adam

Take this man's advice, I spent 2 solid months trying to learn how to hack private MySpace accounts to glimpse at the girl I have feelings for's site. It's an obessesion I can't break, don't fall into the same thing.

Jul 7, 2009#35

GasBandit

Sounds to me like you inadvertently

Jul 7, 2009#36

Jake

GasBandit said:
Sounds to me like you inadvertently

Inadvertently fail at image linking?

Jul 7, 2009#37

GasBandit

Jake said:
GasBandit said:

Sounds to me like you inadvertently

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Inadvertently fail at image linking?

Shows what I get for trusting shitty photobucket. Imageshack all the way. I copied and pasted the exact code they provided for forum linking the image. Fixed now via the tinypic upload widget.

Jul 7, 2009#38

Espy

stienman said:
You can have it cheap (low cost)
You can have it fast (high performance and/or full of features)
You can have it now (short development time)

Pick two.

That was our saying in the video/dvd/tv world as well.
Although I never met a client who didn't decide they could get all 3. :eyeroll:

Jul 7, 2009#39

Chummer

I inadvertently woke up in the matrix? Well that explains everything.

Jul 7, 2009#40

Chippy

She sounds like a pretentious waste of space.

Jul 7, 2009#41

CrimsonSoul

You forgot the fact that you're not attractive, that's a flaw! :twisted:

Jul 7, 2009#42

Chazwozel

And you smell!

Jul 7, 2009#43

GasBandit

Let me put it another way. I made the following image many a year ago to post on the image forum when a then-user named Despanan posted a similar thread about having left his job at a theater company whilst it was in the midst of imploding... Somebody didn't understand his story and posted "Sucks that you got fired dude." I banged this out quickly to explain to the poster that Despanan, while naturally upset about the loss of the job, realized he was better off not going down in flames with the theater.

Change the above names to "Chummer" and "His Bitchy Psycho Fuckbuddy" and I think we have an accurate portrayal here, too. The pilot, while not happy with the loss of the plane, is far better off now. Chummer, while not happy with the loss of someone he considered a friend, is also better off now.

Jul 7, 2009#44

Le Quack

I got nothin against orgies or drugs, but god damn this bitch needs to get off her high (get it?) horse.

Jul 7, 2009#45

sixpackshaker

Just hope she finds the "goal oriented" "bad boy" that she wants...

Then maybe you can catch her on an episode of COPS, wanting them to arrest the bastard.

Jul 7, 2009#46

chakz

Kissinger said:
Let me give you a bit of advice: Consider your behavior and her criticisms honestly and openly. Take this as an opportunity to change yourself for the better. Obviously she saw something that made her make those criticisms and perhaps made some accurate observations. Don't just blow this off as being from some crazy dumb *. You were friends with her for years and so obviously you had respect for her opinions before this all went down.

Also, if you kept hounding her with advances to the point where she quit her job to get away from you and ended a long friendship, then for smurf's sake, maybe next time you should take the hint when someone says they don't want to be with you and get over her. From what you've said, it doesn't sound like she was the one being childish when she cut you off.

Actually i had a friend like this of whom I wound up dating and then broke up with. We also seem to have stopped being friends. I thought long and hard about our friendship, what had brought us together and about the connections we shared. We had similar tastes, humor, personalities and had found each other attractive. But we had vastly different values, spiritual views and ideals about social interaction. We were both strong willed about our opinions and couldn't discuss something without having it devolve into an argument. Bottom line: We were friends at arms length. We were never really that close. I have friends of whom which I know there values, views, and ideals and whom I admire and understand. Looking back, I can say that She was not a friend of who I was truly close to.

So ya, it sucks to lose a friend especially one you had feelings for, but think about your relationship. Were you really that close? Did you actually respect her spiritual views and values? It sounds like you didn't. I'm not saying its wrong to be friends with someone who has different views from you, different strokes for different folks after all, but its difficult to get close to someone who has contrary beliefs.

Jul 7, 2009#47

doomdragon6

I haven't readanything beyond your first post, but gawd, that girl sucks!

Every "flaw" you mentioned (implying she is the opposite) makes me GAG at how shitty of a person she sounds! Do you like her just because she's a female? Cuz holy shit, she is the embodiment of women I hate.

Do you really WANT a girl that stole a car, was in an orgy, and does drugs?? All 3 of those would make me drop a girl like a hot potato.

Seriously dude, you're not missing anything. I know love is blinding and all that, but that is by far one of the worst-sounding girls I've ever heard in my life.

Go find a nice girl. One that isn't a politically ignorant cunt, one who loves meat, and one who actually HAS ANYTHING SIMILAR TO YOU IN ANY WAY.

Seriously, you described the most annoying "artist" "political activist who doesn't know shit" "annoying cunt rag who bitches about everything because she thinks she's smart" whore steriotypes all in one.

You are so lucky to be rid of this person.

Jul 7, 2009#48

Rob King

Chummer said:
-Not spontaneous or adventurous
(She feels she's "lived" cause she stole a car and drove to Florida when she was 15. Has been in orgies, and tried drugs. She's "LIVED". I've been a good boy my whole life, which I suppose does make me a tad boring.)

doomdragon6 said:
Do you really WANT a girl that stole a car, was in an orgy, and does drugs?? All 3 of those would make me drop a girl like a hot potato.

Huh. And I thought the shameful part was that she drove to Florida.

Jul 7, 2009#49

Chummer

Shes actually pretty cool. All those sex and drugs etc was back in the younger days.

Shes very intelligence and fun to talk to. She can make you think.

I respect everything about her. I accept her and her values (spiritual or otherwise), even if they aren't my own.

What she has is a problem accepting and respecting mine. She can't see past my differences (see the list). Wheer as I just see hers as making her unique.

She's been hurt a lot in her life and made some choices i think she's afraid to change and this causes her to lash out and hurt others cause it's easier and safer to attack first then to possibly get hurt again, especially by a man.

Jul 7, 2009#50

Cajungal

It's nice of you to stand up for her.

What you just said is pretty much why I was annoyed with her in the first place. People often do that kind of thing in order to validate hurting someone. I don't know you well, so for all I know, most of these "flaws" are just differences that are no more a weakness in your life than how you choose to do your hair. But in order to explain this severing of contact, instead of respecting your differences like you did, she turns your differences into flaws and makes it your fault.

Sometimes a rift is someone's fault. Sometimes it's just time to move on.

Jul 7, 2009#51

Rob King

Chummer said:
She's been hurt a lot in her life and made some choices i think she's afraid to change and this causes her to lash out and hurt others cause it's easier and safer to attack first then to possibly get hurt again, especially by a man.

I have this conversation with my brother quite frequently: Just because there is a reason behind the behavior does not excuse it.

If someone explains to me why someone is being a douche, I will nod and appreciate the understanding. But after that heartfelt moment where all is unified in understanding, I will still request that they function like a human being.

Again: the reasons behind behavior are mostly useful for correcting said behavior, not excusing it.

Jul 7, 2009#52

LordRavage

You can do two things here....

Torch a house. (Women love bad boys and rebels. She will think your hot!)

-Or-

Torch her house. (She had it coming! No one unfriends you in MySpace. No one!)

Jul 7, 2009#53

Allen, who is Quiet

It may suck that she broke off contact like this, but look at it this way: if you guys ever meet up again in the future, you're going to wonder "why was I attracted in the first place?"

Jul 7, 2009#54

Gusto

Hahahahahahaha.

Was this like a fucking exit interview? Sounds like she fired you.

Jul 7, 2009#55

GeneralOrder24

Chummer said:
Shes actually pretty cool. All those sex and drugs etc was back in the younger days.

Shes very intelligence and fun to talk to. She can make you think.

I respect everything about her. I accept her and her values (spiritual or otherwise), even if they aren't my own.

What she has is a problem accepting and respecting mine. She can't see past my differences (see the list). Wheer as I just see hers as making her unique.

She's been hurt a lot in her life and made some choices i think she's afraid to change and this causes her to lash out and hurt others cause it's easier and safer to attack first then to possibly get hurt again, especially by a man.

I've been through this, more or less. Just let her go. No love, no hate, only forgiveness. We are all human and flawed. If you are destined to be together, then the fates will make it so. If not, it's better not to drown in the bitterness of "why'd she blah blah" Just stop talking/thinking about her. I wager in six months you start to realize that she's not as wonderful as you think she is now.

Jul 7, 2009#56

Shegokigo

Gusto said:
Hahahahahahaha.

Was this like a fucking exit interview? Sounds like she fired you.

Jul 7, 2009#57

Cajungal

Gusto said:
Hahahahahahaha.

Was this like a fucking exit interview? Sounds like she fired you.

Jul 7, 2009#58

The Lovely Boehner

It seems like this thread is more for you to attack her and discuss her flaws more than anything.

Jul 7, 2009#59

ElJuski

Charlie Dont Surf said:
It seems like this thread is more for you to attack her and discuss her flaws more than anything.

I agree with this. Also, the only thing I know about this situation is completely soaked in your personal bias on the sitchey, for good or bad. So maybe take this time to not talk to her either, not complain to us about it, and focus on yourself and how you can make yourself better in any way that you see yourself to be better.

Giving us an arbitrary list from a stranger who is mad at you isn't going to help either. You're gonna have to sort through your troubles and woes on your onesome with this business if you want to come out changed for the better.

(Also, I'm not going to call manbaww time of the month just yet, because this thread was more original and interesting than the average wahhwahh girl doesn't like me I'm a nerd wahh wahh. BUT I'M WATCHING THE REST OF YOU :angry: )

Jul 7, 2009#60

strawman

ElJuski said:
Charlie Dont Surf said:

It seems like this thread is more for you to attack her and discuss her flaws more than anything.

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I agree with this. Also, the only thing I know about this situation is completely soaked in your personal bias on the sitchey, for good or bad. So maybe take this time to not talk to her either, not complain to us about it, and focus on yourself and how you can make yourself better in any way that you see yourself to be better.

Giving us an arbitrary list from a stranger who is mad at you isn't going to help either. You're gonna have to sort through your troubles and woes on your onesome with this business if you want to come out changed for the better.

(Also, I'm not going to call manbaww time of the month just yet, because this thread was more original and interesting than the average wahhwahh girl doesn't like me I'm a nerd wahh wahh. BUT I'M WATCHING THE REST OF YOU :angry: )

blah blah blah.

You guys obviously don't know how this game works.

:humph:

-Adam

Jul 7, 2009#61

Gusto

ElJuski said:
Charlie Dont Surf said:

It seems like this thread is more for you to attack her and discuss her flaws more than anything.

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I agree with this. Also, the only thing I know about this situation is completely soaked in your personal bias on the sitchey, for good or bad. So maybe take this time to not talk to her either, not complain to us about it, and focus on yourself and how you can make yourself better in any way that you see yourself to be better.

Giving us an arbitrary list from a stranger who is mad at you isn't going to help either. You're gonna have to sort through your troubles and woes on your onesome with this business if you want to come out changed for the better.

(Also, I'm not going to call manbaww time of the month just yet, because this thread was more original and interesting than the average wahhwahh girl doesn't like me I'm a nerd wahh wahh. BUT I'M WATCHING THE REST OF YOU :angry: )

I didn't take this as a manbaww. I took at as a person who received a list of grievances from an ex. I've never heard of this before.

Jul 7, 2009#62

Docseverin

Chummer said:
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So you're friends with my ex-wife?

Jul 8, 2009#63

Bubble181

I find it amazing, time again, how much this sort of stories stay the same no matter how muvh they change.
Been there, done that, got the t-shirt (well, no, I didn't get a t-shirt, but...).

Yeah, better off without her. And at least half of those "flaws" are good qualities described badly, so don't worry about them too much.

Oh, and manbaww period will have to be moved this month, I'm away for vacation for almost two weeks starting day after tomorrow :-P

Jul 8, 2009#64

Bubble181 said:
Oh, and manbaww period will have to be moved this month

Just start the next pack of pills instead of taking the inert ones.

Jul 8, 2009#65

PatrThom

I hear they have ones now that let you go three months at a time.

--Patrick

Jul 8, 2009#66

Denbrought

PatrThom said:
I hear they have ones now that let you go three months at a time.

--Patrick

Yeah, but the you get very strong cramps. It ain't worth it.

Jul 8, 2009#67

Math242

smack that bitch up

Jul 8, 2009#68

Bubble181

ZenMonkey said:
Bubble181 said:

Oh, and manbaww period will have to be moved this month

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Just start the next pack of pills instead of taking the inert ones.

So I take *just* the blue ones for a whole month? Yikes, sounds painful.

Denbrought said:
PatrThom said:

I hear they have ones now that let you go three months at a time.

--Patrick

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Yeah, but the you get very strong cramps. It ain't worth it.

Plus, I've heard it's much less dependable. And the other kind you have to stick under your skin, eww

....what?

Jul 8, 2009#69

ElJuski

I didn't take this as a manbaww. I took at as a person who received a list of grievances from an ex. I've never heard of this before.

Me either, hence me saying I wasn't going to call it a manbaww :uhhuh:

Jul 8, 2009#70

Bumble the Boy Wonder

...I need this thread bumped.

...Keep it alive for me guys!

:ninja:

Jul 8, 2009#71

Jake

Chummer (loosely) said:
She's not so bad, you just don't know her. I was asking for it, really. She said she wouldn't do it again...

Jul 8, 2009#72

HCGLNS

-No ambition or goals, educational or career
(I'm more family orientened in my goals so...)
You do not have a dogged mindset and this leaves you open to new things.

-No interest in personal health or appearance
(I'm a t-shirt and jeans guy, and yea I could eat better)
You reject the mass market fashion industry and its viscious child labour practices.

-Narrow Spiritual Focus
(Her religion seems to change weekly, I'm a plain old Christian.)
You have a strong moral compass.

-Too Sensitive
(Got me there)
You are a compassionate listener

-Too many "tune-out" hobbies
(I like comics and video games, which she feels is time wasting. Read a book!)
You are Modern anthropologist.

-Believes in necassary violence
(I like horror movies, she does not. I also think the world is to complicated to have all its problems solved with love and talking)
You choose to protect those who cannot protect themselves.

-No artistic or creative ability
(She's a passionate artist, I like tv so...)
You are grounded and aware of your limitations.

-Weak-Willed
(Thats a toughy, not so much as i go by what others say, I just find that i'm more apathetic -as in go with the flow- to certian things.)
You are a team player and work well with others.

-Not environmentally conscious
(Not really sure where this comes from... i don't have a garden?)
You choose to learn the facts before you act, thus avoiding costly error prone decisions.

-Doesn't contribute to the world
(She likes to "fight the power", even by atleast just talking about it. Where as I know I'm just a small fish in a large ocean. Although, i do donate to charity on a monthly basis if that counts.)
You take a community minded approach to changing the world.

-Not especially witty or intelligent
(Pot Kettle Black? Actually she is highly intelligent, so much it impresses me. As for me... eh.. she could be right there.)
You didn't quit your job in the middle of a recession.

-Narrow food choices
(Shes a veggie, which limits her choices? But I'm not much of a cook so in a way she pegged me there)
You're a carnivore, keep being awesome.

-Not spontaneous or adventurous
(She feels she's "lived" cause she stole a car and drove to Florida when she was 15. Has been in orgies, and tried drugs. She's "LIVED". I've been a good boy my whole life, which I suppose does make me a tad boring.)
You know that your best days lie ahead of you, not behind.

Jul 8, 2009#73

Cajungal

^I think the one that confuses me the most is the one about how you dress. In the midst of all these attacks on your core personality, values, and beliefs, she throws in something so superficial that it totally gives her away. If she's as deep a person as she must think she is (since these criticisms seem to double as a contrast between you two) then what does she care what you wear? Might as well throw it in, I suppose, and go whole hog. :eyeroll: I can see where talking about this could be helpful after a relationship ends--mostly if an opinion is asked for and both parties get to say their piece. But man. The more I read it the more I don't like it.

Man... she doesn't wear those "hippie" clothes that cost 800 bucks, does she?

Jul 8, 2009#74

Gurpel

ouch bro.

@HCGLNS

mind if i use that on my resume? =P

Jul 8, 2009#75

Le Quack

Actually. I changed my mind.

This girl you've been fawning over is perfect for you. She pointed out flaws that you really do need to fix and her attempt to tell you was a bold no beating around the bush method. I suggest that you follow what this girl tells you and alter your life accordingly. You only live once and you need to do it the right way. Go look for a few orgies and buy some drugs. Quit your job and go steal a car and drive to Florida. Her life has been the path of the wise, and you would do best to follow her lead. This girl is modern symbol of the perfect life. I would do everything I can to continue this relationship trying to prove how I've changed to her idea of a man.

Go for it champ.

Jul 8, 2009#76

CynicismKills

ElJuski said:
Charlie Dont Surf said:

It seems like this thread is more for you to attack her and discuss her flaws more than anything.

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I agree with this. Also, the only thing I know about this situation is completely soaked in your personal bias on the sitchey, for good or bad. So maybe take this time to not talk to her either, not complain to us about it, and focus on yourself and how you can make yourself better in any way that you see yourself to be better.

Giving us an arbitrary list from a stranger who is mad at you isn't going to help either. You're gonna have to sort through your troubles and woes on your onesome with this business if you want to come out changed for the better.

(Also, I'm not going to call manbaww time of the month just yet, because this thread was more original and interesting than the average wahhwahh girl doesn't like me I'm a nerd wahh wahh. BUT I'M WATCHING THE REST OF YOU :angry: )

Bitch you best not be judging me, I'll cut you

Also this thread is dying for a "she called you callow" "shit, I thought that was the only part of the letter that was complimentary."

Jul 9, 2009#77

Bumble the Boy Wonder

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I crack myself up. :rofl:

Jul 9, 2009#78

Hylian

Jul 9, 2009#79

Cajungal

Bumble...... never leave. :heart:

Jul 9, 2009#80

Chazwozel

Bumble the Boy Wonder said:
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I crack myself up.

Holy shit my sides are splitting. That's great!

Jul 9, 2009#81

Espy

It wasn't just great it was BUMBLETASTIC!
Seriously? Thats so awesome Bumble I don't even know what to say... :thumbsup:

Jul 9, 2009#82

Shegokigo

Bumble, first your awesome story, and then this. Can you ever not be full of win? :eek:

Jul 9, 2009#83

Bumble the Boy Wonder

Glad you guys like it!

Jul 9, 2009#84

Gusto

Bumble I voted your story as my Number One. Just FYI.

Jul 9, 2009#85

CynicismKills

The best part is playing the Daffy Duck "hoo hoo! hoo hoo! hoo!" as he frolics away.

Jul 9, 2009#86

Bumble the Boy Wonder

Gusto said:
Bumble I voted your story as my Number One. Just FYI.

I have added to my signature. Feel free to read it anytime!

Jul 9, 2009#87

Gusto

Bumble the Boy Wonder said:
Gusto said:

Bumble I voted your story as my Number One. Just FYI.

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I have added to my signature. Feel free to read it anytime!

Bumble Im pretty drunk offa birthday drinks but I love you. dogg

Jul 9, 2009#88

Cajungal

Birthday drinks are the drunkiest drinks of all. :falldown:

Jul 9, 2009#89

Gusto

Cajungal said:
Birthday drinks are the drunkiest drinks of all. :falldown:

Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww YEAH

Jul 9, 2009#90

AshburnerX

I was going to stay the fuck out of this thread, but I must comment on how fucking awesome Bumble's comics are.

Jul 9, 2009#91

CynicismKills

Gusto said:
dogg

Jul 9, 2009#92

Gusto

CynicismKills said:
Gusto said:

dogg

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RBK OR BUST.

But yer a-makin' me laff.

Jul 9, 2009#93

Wasabi Poptart

Cajungal said:
Bumble...... never leave.

Seconded! Bumble is awesome!

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