Rant VII: Now With 25% Less Drama
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You made the right choice. You're a man whose punctuality is at STEAK very RAREly.
Well done.
C-c-c-combo breaker!
Ex-boss thinks I should be raging that I didn't get the manager spot.
So much stuff that continues to be not my problem. Any assistance I give to dig out will be considered extra credit and not "it's your job, duh." So many people who will continue to be not my problem. The new guy should have an easier time laying down the law with the people who didn't think they had to give a fuck. It won't be laughed off as me "just having a power trip 'cause I got made manager."
Ex-boss thinks I should be raging that I didn't get the manager spot.
So much stuff that continues to be not my problem. Any assistance I give to dig out will be considered extra credit and not "it's your job, duh." So many people who will continue to be not my problem. The new guy should have an easier time laying down the law with the people who didn't think they had to give a fuck. It won't be laughed off as me "just having a power trip 'cause I got made manager."
Dave
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Going from worker to manager of the area is one of the hardest things ever. It's one of the biggest reasons most places don't do that but either hire from outside or promote from a different area in the business. Half of the former employees don't realize that while you are still their friend you also now are the boss and they try to take advantage of it. The other half resent you because they think they were better suited for the position.
You dodged a bullet by NOT getting promoted.
You dodged a bullet by NOT getting promoted.
http://thatnickguy.livejournal.com/282498.html
Just wrote a stupidly long (like, seriously TL;DR territory) blog post that was basically free writing about all the things juggling around in my head lately. A lot of it boils down to why I've been so goddamn depressed off and on for the past few months. Read at your discretion, I guess. Or don't. I don't know. I'm tired and should just go to bed.
Just wrote a stupidly long (like, seriously TL;DR territory) blog post that was basically free writing about all the things juggling around in my head lately. A lot of it boils down to why I've been so goddamn depressed off and on for the past few months. Read at your discretion, I guess. Or don't. I don't know. I'm tired and should just go to bed.
Let me revisit this for a moment. Yes, I did get called in during my vacation. But after all of the fallout of the following days, I would not call the vacation "ruined". Not in the slightest. The end result is besides myself, the only other front desk person still here of those here when I left for vacation is the 75-year old lady who has been here for decades. The two buddies who guests called Beavis and Butthead are both now gone, to the relief of everyone.
The new manager has previous managerial experience and seems to actually know what he's doing. The old style was "do as you're told or you're fired." paperwork was a shambles, and invoices from as far back as 2009 were found unpaid. He had to just trash everything and start anew.
I doubt any of this would have happened if I hadn't been on vacation that week. So no, it wasn't ruined. This is like a whole new place where people care about the job they're doing.
Cajungal
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Damnit damnit DAMNIT. I am going to kill my future husband's best man. The bachelor party's tomorrow. He *was* nice enough to rent out an Internet cafe that one of our acquaintances owns (he got a really good deal cuz we all went to school together).
Why am I mad? He didn't... fucking... CALL anyone on the list that Jake gave him. So MAYBE 3 people are coming. Goddamnit, dude. "Oh, uh, you didnt do that?". Why would he have given you a list?! YOU are the one who wanted to organize this. If you wanted us to help you contact people, why didn't you ask last month?? If Jake doesn't have the time of his life I'm going to be pissed.
You call to tell us you don't know who's coming AND you need us to help you move 6 days before our wedding? Jesus Christ, man. I do love you usually but you are dumb as a fucking rock sometimes. Think. For 2 fucking seconds, think of the shit you need to take care of.
Jake was so looking forward to this. He doesn't ask anyone for shit. I just hope
he has a good time. Damnit, I'm going to cook him a steak this week. He's been awesome throughout this whole planning process, and I should do something nice for him.
Why am I mad? He didn't... fucking... CALL anyone on the list that Jake gave him. So MAYBE 3 people are coming. Goddamnit, dude. "Oh, uh, you didnt do that?". Why would he have given you a list?! YOU are the one who wanted to organize this. If you wanted us to help you contact people, why didn't you ask last month?? If Jake doesn't have the time of his life I'm going to be pissed.
You call to tell us you don't know who's coming AND you need us to help you move 6 days before our wedding? Jesus Christ, man. I do love you usually but you are dumb as a fucking rock sometimes. Think. For 2 fucking seconds, think of the shit you need to take care of.
Jake was so looking forward to this. He doesn't ask anyone for shit. I just hope
he has a good time. Damnit, I'm going to cook him a steak this week. He's been awesome throughout this whole planning process, and I should do something nice for him.
Whoa, now, if there's anything this forum has taught us, it's that steak is pretty freaking contentious.
Seriously though, that's shithouse. Flaky people drive me up the wall... It's almost like it would be better if they were intentionally and maliciously screwing up. It's the complete ignorance that seems to betray lack of caring that really gets me. I sympathise
Cajungal
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Thanks, man. I agree with you. It's just so frustrating. He's the greatest friend in the world, and he deserves better. He deserves the best. I just want him to have the party he wants. He never demands anything of anyone, never makes a fuss, helps people out... He should have the best party ever.
Man, I can't even convey how much sympathy I have for you and Jake, Cajun. Of all of the celebratory times you want your friends around you... that really sucks. I agree with the other guys though. If he doesn't have the time of his life, throw him another party later to make up for it. Make his next birthday party one to remember or something.
Or just let steak-and-blowjob-day come early, that's bound to work 
No seriously though, that sucks. I sort-of had the opposite problem, back when I was best man for my brother. He was getting married to a South-African girl, in South Africa. Since all his friends and family lived in Belgium, he was getting his bachelor party over here. He was goingto be in Belgium for three weeks, a month or so before the wedding. Then he was going to be in Belgium for just two weeks. Then only one week - and I had to do all the organizing over again. After that, another change of plans and he wasn't coming to Belgium at all. Instead he had a bachelor party organised by his brother-in-law-to-be, with just others from her family and me (when I got there). He still hasn't gotten his bachelor party in Belgium because he hasn't actually been back for more than 1 day....*sigh*
No seriously though, that sucks. I sort-of had the opposite problem, back when I was best man for my brother. He was getting married to a South-African girl, in South Africa. Since all his friends and family lived in Belgium, he was getting his bachelor party over here. He was goingto be in Belgium for three weeks, a month or so before the wedding. Then he was going to be in Belgium for just two weeks. Then only one week - and I had to do all the organizing over again. After that, another change of plans and he wasn't coming to Belgium at all. Instead he had a bachelor party organised by his brother-in-law-to-be, with just others from her family and me (when I got there). He still hasn't gotten his bachelor party in Belgium because he hasn't actually been back for more than 1 day....*sigh*
fade
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I went to my wife's bridal shower, because most of the people who RSVP'd that they'd be there didn't show up. My sisters, her sisters, my soon-to-be mother-in-law and me. Plenty of notice was given, plenty of people said yes, but then just didn't show up. I keep telling myself it was because she's from New York, and we were in my home state (SC), but if travel was an issue, they should've said no. And it doesn't excuse the local people at all.
I can sympathize. My bachelorette sucked. My sister was supposed to plan it. Every time I inquired she would say "It's a surprise!"
Then the week before my wedding came...and I asked what we were doing. "Oh! I've been working so much that I couldn't do anything. Sorry! Also, I'm working the night of the party soooo...you might wanna do something about that."
I cried. My adopted mom stepped in...but all my friends she called said it was too last minute so they couldn't come. In the end my bachelorette was her, her cougar friend and my cousin having dinner then going to an 'old person bar' where my moms friends hit on anything with a dick and got so drunk she passed out. My cousin was the saving grace because she a sharp wit and can make anything funny.
I just don't know what anyone was thinking. I don't drink! I hate crowded places!
I went home and cried and cried. My mom said I should be grateful I got anything at all and that just caused me to feel even more miserable cuz I felt like a bitch.
Even just typing this out makes me feel resentful.
Then the week before my wedding came...and I asked what we were doing. "Oh! I've been working so much that I couldn't do anything. Sorry! Also, I'm working the night of the party soooo...you might wanna do something about that."
I cried. My adopted mom stepped in...but all my friends she called said it was too last minute so they couldn't come. In the end my bachelorette was her, her cougar friend and my cousin having dinner then going to an 'old person bar' where my moms friends hit on anything with a dick and got so drunk she passed out. My cousin was the saving grace because she a sharp wit and can make anything funny.
I just don't know what anyone was thinking. I don't drink! I hate crowded places!
I went home and cried and cried. My mom said I should be grateful I got anything at all and that just caused me to feel even more miserable cuz I felt like a bitch.
Even just typing this out makes me feel resentful.
I didn't have a bachelorette party. I got a bridal shower I didn't want instead. That sounds ungrateful, but we didn't need household goods (we were already consolidating my house and his apartment) and the people my mom invited for the most part were family that you only see at these parties and friends of hers. I had two of my friends at my bridal shower. :/
Cajungal
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That doesn't sound ungrateful. It's irritating when you get thrown a party that doesn't feel like it really has you in mind. Parts of the family are irritated at us for not expanding our registry. We kept it small because we didn't want to ask for what we don't need. We have a honeymoon registry that a lot of people don't want to pay into because they think it's rude. It's just another option for people who asked if try could give money. I'm not trying to shake anyone down for God's sake; I just don't want 5 goddamn blenders.
See, what you fail to realize is that some guests would rather give you money than show up (because it's easier). You have made it so that someone cannot satisfy their obligation by just throwing a blender at you and calling it good, you want them to actually show up? That's too much work!
--Patrick
--Patrick
My biggest problem, after the fact that we did not need more stuff, was that I hate these functions. I don't like how people feel forced into going or that they have to give you something because it's expected of them. That in itself ruined the whole idea of shower-type parties for me.
Cajungal
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I thought so too.
Cajungal
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Same here. We set up a small registry and a honeymoon registry, too, so it's not like there are no options. It's uncomfortable enough telling people what gifts you want. But it's either that or let them fly blind and then probably have to make a bunch of returns.
Man, I got so many hugs for the one story. It was, like, 5 years ago. In retrospect it was a kind of funny and added another story to my huge list.
What does it say about me when I sorta like it when things don't go as planned because then I have another story to tell if the situation arises? I guess I'm kind of a sadist. Also, I should probably try to recollect the things my cousin says because they are GOLD...she acrually reminds me of Jay with how plotting and quick she is,.
Any ways, I hope Jake worked it out CajunGal! He sounds like a sweet guy and he probably deserves a good time!
In retrospect it was a kind of funny and added another story to my huge list.What does it say about me when I sorta like it when things don't go as planned because then I have another story to tell if the situation arises? I guess I'm kind of a sadist. Also, I should probably try to recollect the things my cousin says because they are GOLD...she acrually reminds me of Jay with how plotting and quick she is,.
Any ways, I hope Jake worked it out CajunGal! He sounds like a sweet guy and he probably deserves a good time!
North_Ranger
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Just remember: what happens in a stag party, stays at a stag party.
Except the tattoos
Except the tattoos
M
makare
I don't know what it is like to have a registry for a wedding but I am pretty sure if people gave cash instead of presents I would be pretty sad. If they don't want to buy an actual gift I'd rather not get anything at all. I feel that way at Birthdays, Christmas etc. More than anything I hate getting gift cards. Goddamn do I hate gift cards. Picking out something to buy is usually the hard part for me so it's like they gave me a chore instead of a gift.
I'm the opposite. Some family and friends are considerate, yes, but many times I end up getting the most random and/or pointless gifts. I'm grateful for the thought, don't get me wrong. It's just that I enjoy gift cards because I can make sure I get something I'll use/play with. It's better than a random widget-thing that someone gave me because they felt obligated but didn't know what to get.
Cajungal
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Yep. Not only that but they're giving us the gift of being able to make the most of our honeymoon. And if we don't use it all, we can pay bills nd maybe even start saving up for a down payment for a car that Jake really needs. It's just practical. More practical than most things people want to give-- that's not including some of the very sweet homemade or personal gifts we've gotten from close friends.
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makare
I'm probably just old fashioned. I was always taught that it was tacky to let people know how much the present you are giving them costs. The honeymoon thing is probably a little different though. That is more like chipping in on one big gift.
You see that? That is a tent Jet got for his birthday.
It is pretty cool. It's basically what Canadian Tire set up in their tent display to show what that model looked like all set up. It's not something you're likely to just be able to walk into another store and replace.
My Aunt bought this for him when they were selling it off. It barely opens. It cannot be taken apart. It's rather big and clumsy. Jet, not even on his birthday, has NEVER shown any interest in it. I cannot find a place to store it. I love my Aunt to death...but this tent! It's one of those small things that drives me nuts!
I can't sell it or give it away to a thrift store. What if she knows the person that picks it up and she realizes I gave away the gift she got just a month before? I can't throw it out, it's in perfectly good condition. It's too big to be properly stored.
I just...this TENT.
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