My first experiences with OKC were very successful. Everything since March has been frustrating bullshit, or bittersweet at the very least.
Whine like a baby, now with 500% more drama!
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There are definitely 'types' of profiles. The ones that start "FIRST OFF, IF YOU CAN'T BE REAL, I'M NOT INTERESTED" are just asking to be read deeply, oh wait, no. Even people who straight-up announce things like "Don't message me for sex." as their opening line, I skip. I mean, obviously they're being harassed, and that sucks, but it's such a hostile opening line. Plus I have a suspicion the people messaging others for sex aren't exactly reading the profiles.
Also a big fan of "Just doing this as a joke lolz my friendz made me!!!! WHO KNOWS THO RITE"
Hah, the only girl that I've actually connected with avoided all of those tropes but she's also pretty determined not to actually meet anyone from POF. Another girl I'm chatting with started with "I play magic and take part in an all girls dungeon and dragons campaign. Yes, I am that sort of cool. I read a lot, mostly sci-fi and fantasy, yoga-related texts, some classics... always open to suggestions while awaiting the next King Killer Chronicle or A Song of Ice and Fire book to come out. "
Well, hell, how can I resist THAT kind of cool?
Well, hell, how can I resist THAT kind of cool?
Yeah I got messaged by a girl today whose profile reads "If you're not a fan of Firefly, don't bother messaging me". I liked Firefly okay but how can I possibly live up to that?
My favourite so far was an 18 year old whose hobbies included 9/11 conspiracy theories.
1. I'm not interested in that girl.
2. YOU WERE SIX.
There are a lot more of course, will organize thoughts and post again...[DOUBLEPOST=1372976623][/DOUBLEPOST]I just wish I got more than "We've got a lot in common and we get along really well, but I can't see this working out in the long run."
What the fuck does that mean? If you're trying to say I'm ugly, just say it.
My favourite so far was an 18 year old whose hobbies included 9/11 conspiracy theories.
1. I'm not interested in that girl.
2. YOU WERE SIX.
There are a lot more of course, will organize thoughts and post again...[DOUBLEPOST=1372976623][/DOUBLEPOST]I just wish I got more than "We've got a lot in common and we get along really well, but I can't see this working out in the long run."
What the fuck does that mean? If you're trying to say I'm ugly, just say it.
Cajungal
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Nothing more appealing than a martyr.
If you switch to fetlife, you can find people looking explicitly for someone to hurt them.
Even though I have profiles on both Plenty of Fish and OkCupid, I've pretty much given up on online dating and dating in general. I'm just not a catch. I'm really not someone that anyone should be dating right now. I'm emotionally broken after hitting a brick wall last year regarding dropping out of my teaching practicum. I'm 30 pounds overweight. Working at a stupid dishwashing job because there's nothing else for work out there. And going back to school in the fall even though I have no fucking clue if that's what I want. I have nothing going on in my life and have pretty much realized I haven't been happy with my life for years. It's hard for me to even BE happy these days or even find enjoyment in anything.
Ugh. Sorry. Ranted there.
Ugh. Sorry. Ranted there.
These points also apply to most "Kurt Cobain's suicide changed my life" girls.
Sending work emails is surprisingly dull. I mean, I'm a boss now. Shouldn't everything be cool and exciting? Shouldn't my emails involve like... world-changing strategy?
GasBandit
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Shit on Debra's desk.
Well, this is half whine, half victory and because I'm a glass half empty kind of guy, it goes here.
My PC just died recently. Huge ultrastorm ripped right through my so called surge protector and fried my mobo and my power supply. So, whilst I've been waiting for replacements, I've been forced to socialize. A couple of days ago, I met a girl at the local bar my friends and I frequent and things have been going swimmingly. Tonight we went swimming and then played Shadows of Mystara on my neglected PS3, a game she used to play at the 7-11 when she was younger (and when 7-11s had arcade machines).
So, I guess that freak psychotic hail thunder-kill storm we had was a good thing? It fucked up my computer, which pisses me off, but I wouldn't have been at the bar in the middle of the week if my PC was working.
My PC just died recently. Huge ultrastorm ripped right through my so called surge protector and fried my mobo and my power supply. So, whilst I've been waiting for replacements, I've been forced to socialize. A couple of days ago, I met a girl at the local bar my friends and I frequent and things have been going swimmingly. Tonight we went swimming and then played Shadows of Mystara on my neglected PS3, a game she used to play at the 7-11 when she was younger (and when 7-11s had arcade machines).
So, I guess that freak psychotic hail thunder-kill storm we had was a good thing? It fucked up my computer, which pisses me off, but I wouldn't have been at the bar in the middle of the week if my PC was working.
FWIW, consumer-grade surge protectors need to be periodically replaced, just like furnace filters or water softener salt.
--Patrick
Are you from B.C. or Alberta? I can't remember. If you're in Alberta you should come over for a BBQ and some free beer sometime dude.
BananaHands
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Someone on my goddamn street likes shooting fireworks off in the middle of the night on Sunday.
Frickin' roots every where, makin' it all hard to dig. My land is practically LITTERED with swamp trees its ridiculous.
GasBandit
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So move to the desert if you want no trees.
Funny you say that, as the roots of said swamp trees usually absorb SO much moisture the dirt around my house is almost all sand.
I have data I can see in my database but I cannot actually find out where in the database it is.
I thought I was just tired on Friday, so I left it until today but I've really no idea where it is in my database. This problem confused me and two of my coworkers, so I sent it along with a lengthy explanation of what was happening, and what we had done to troubleshoot it and find where in the DB the data was to the guy who built the database. Even he seems to be baffled.
I thought I was just tired on Friday, so I left it until today but I've really no idea where it is in my database. This problem confused me and two of my coworkers, so I sent it along with a lengthy explanation of what was happening, and what we had done to troubleshoot it and find where in the DB the data was to the guy who built the database. Even he seems to be baffled.
GasBandit
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I didn't do my dishes from this morning because I decided to write a lengthy opinion in an advice thread here, and now I'm hungry and I wanna eat now but I gotta clean my saucepan first.
The disagree's about this part, obviously
You're currently not at your peak. Yeah, okay. Neither am I, nor most people on this forum - we can't all be Doc Severin. So what? Feeling blue/down/being depressed (there's a limit to this at the bottom - if you're there, seek professional help) makes you feel like you're doing worse than you are; dating the right person might give you much more energy, make you look at things more positively, find a new reason to be active and go on; they might even inspire you to explore new job/course/lifestyle choices. Perhaps you've never considered a career in [topic] but it would be a great fit for you - only someone who knows you and cares about you and has a positive view of life can see it.
Finding someone, getting to know someone well enough to connect - those may be hard or practically impossible at specific times. But certainly not because OH NOES YOURE A BIT OVERWEIGHT. Because, hey, anyone who wouldn't date a guy who's a bit over weight probably isn't worth pursuing (again - there are limits. If you're morbidly obese, say over 300 pounds, that would be a good reason to say nope) (also, I'm not saying getting in better shape wouldn't help dating - it probably will, since first impressions are so important and so shallow).
You're funny, you have a way with words, as far as I can tell you're gentle and kind and actually care about people who are around you. You may not be Brad Pitt, but there are certainly women out there dating guys that are much, much worse for them than you could be, and there are most certainly girls out there who would be happy to be with you - because for all the things they might do for you, you can and would do much for them as well - be it providing stability, support, a listening ear, a critical voice, someone to help organize their life when it gets too much, whatever. Don't underestimate how much some people may struggle with things you might find obvious/easy/basic - just like you may struggle with things other people may perceive as self-evident or commonplace or not even a bother.
And probably fling less poo.
GasBandit
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... white... girl... has... knife?