I love them. It means I don't have to do much work because the smarter, harder workers will do it for me.
Whine like a baby, now with 500% more drama!
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That reminds my of my Linux professor a couple of years ago. He talked directly to the floor. His Department Chair covered his class, and did an imitation of his lecture style and said.. "I don't know who it is in the floor, but he is getting one hell of a lecture."
I managed to piss off an entire group project group that didn't do anything at all, bu turning in the project 2 days early, all in my handwriting (yeah, computers weren't as all-encompassing them), all my diagrams and only my name on it. Teacher took it, and had the understanding that I didn't get any help from the rest of the crew. The next day, they were, "We've gotta get this project done! What have you finished sp far?" I told them I turned it my project the day before, and didn't know what they were going to do.
I actually think it shocked the teacher more that I did it all (I was a horrible classroom student, always bored and waiting on the slower kids) and had it done early and completely.
I actually think it shocked the teacher more that I did it all (I was a horrible classroom student, always bored and waiting on the slower kids) and had it done early and completely.
If I am putting students into groups, they are doing something that they alone receive a grade for. My students will never write a paper together, unless I invent a class and call it Collaboration 101.
It's early in my career yet...
doomdragon6
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So just for any of you who tune into DoomDragon's Mundane Life, here's what's up with the girl I've been talking about:
We had a chance to have the "Uhh, so what are we?" chat. Keep in mind, things were going amazingly for about a month or two, with her heavily hinting she wanted us to be more. About a month ago she got a little more distant and was cancelling dates and such, so we had a chat.
She was apologetic and essentially said she doesn't know what she wants, but she really likes me and would be really interested in dating-- at some point, but not yet, because she's not very happy with a lot of her life situations, and wants to get to a point where she feels secure and independent before allowing someone else in her life.
That's all completely understandable, because I've been there and my last relationship partially ended because that was pretty much me.
I told myself I'd be fine with whatever the decision was, as long as I knew what it was. So I asked if she wanted to not really talk, just be friends, casually date, or what, and she answered that she wanted to be somewhere between friends and casual dating, which to me is.... friends who... flirt? I don't know? I really have no idea. She also assured me she wasn't interested in anyone else.
Anyhow, she said she felt better and that we'd chat and hang out more now that she'd gotten that off her chest, and she missed our chatting and hanging out. So I was like cool, we can still spend time together, it'll be fun, and whatever. She said she'd start inviting me over again and such.
She hasn't. She seems to specifically leave me out of group hangouts, like her and some others getting food after our club meeting or anything like that. No invites over, and barely any chatting.
So I just decided, "Alright, I'll just stop trying, because it's stressing me out a bit." So I just assume that I won't hear from her ever. But then she does things like send me "Good morning!"s or telling me good night before she goes to bed. There's barely anything in between, but her making that effort throws me off. For example, I responded to her good morning asking what she was up to for the day, and she has not responded, which is what seems to be the norm now. She'll send something, but not respond all day.
Anywho, gurl got me all kinds of confused about what she's doing or what she wants. All I can do is accept her words at face value and gauge her actions.
I've just decided to not expect responses or contact, and just see what happens. At least that way I'm not really stressing on it. As much.
We had a chance to have the "Uhh, so what are we?" chat. Keep in mind, things were going amazingly for about a month or two, with her heavily hinting she wanted us to be more. About a month ago she got a little more distant and was cancelling dates and such, so we had a chat.
She was apologetic and essentially said she doesn't know what she wants, but she really likes me and would be really interested in dating-- at some point, but not yet, because she's not very happy with a lot of her life situations, and wants to get to a point where she feels secure and independent before allowing someone else in her life.
That's all completely understandable, because I've been there and my last relationship partially ended because that was pretty much me.
I told myself I'd be fine with whatever the decision was, as long as I knew what it was. So I asked if she wanted to not really talk, just be friends, casually date, or what, and she answered that she wanted to be somewhere between friends and casual dating, which to me is.... friends who... flirt? I don't know? I really have no idea. She also assured me she wasn't interested in anyone else.
Anyhow, she said she felt better and that we'd chat and hang out more now that she'd gotten that off her chest, and she missed our chatting and hanging out. So I was like cool, we can still spend time together, it'll be fun, and whatever. She said she'd start inviting me over again and such.
She hasn't. She seems to specifically leave me out of group hangouts, like her and some others getting food after our club meeting or anything like that. No invites over, and barely any chatting.
So I just decided, "Alright, I'll just stop trying, because it's stressing me out a bit." So I just assume that I won't hear from her ever. But then she does things like send me "Good morning!"s or telling me good night before she goes to bed. There's barely anything in between, but her making that effort throws me off. For example, I responded to her good morning asking what she was up to for the day, and she has not responded, which is what seems to be the norm now. She'll send something, but not respond all day.
Anywho, gurl got me all kinds of confused about what she's doing or what she wants. All I can do is accept her words at face value and gauge her actions.
I've just decided to not expect responses or contact, and just see what happens. At least that way I'm not really stressing on it. As much.
End it. It's already over, but she doesn't want to be the one to really cut the cord. She wants to leave it to you so when she feels bad/lonely/whatever she has someone else to blame. That's my take.
doomdragon6
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Yeah, I'm not especially fond of it. I'm just leaving it alone. I'll be friendly but I'm not going to actively pursue anything. If she wants it to peter out, cool, if she wants to try something later, whatever.
Yep.
I will note here that you are making the same mistake as she is, though: You won't actively pursue anything; if she wants it to peter out; if she wants to try something...
This way you don't have to feel responsible if you try and it doesn't work out again, and you don't have to worry about regretting the 'what-might-have-been' if you shut it down.
She is doing the same thing, so it will peter out, but it will be slow and vexing because each of you will proffer the least amount of effort to keep your vegetative-state friendship technically alive, so no one is the asshole cousin who unplugged grandma.
I lost control of that metaphor quickly.
The point is, your relationship is dead, stop talking to her because its just jerking you both around since neither of you are willing to define terms.
doomdragon6
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Apparently according to one of her friends who reads her blog, she's currently terrified of trying a relationship because her last one went so terribly and she's afraid of being hurt / losing a friendship. So really that's something she has to sort out herself, so. *shrug*
Cajungal
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G'uhhhh awesome.
I've been doing this solidarity thing with the fella. Some weight snuck up on him at work after he moved to managing the kitchen and working the line. He's been doing really well, and as long as he's in this jump-start phase, I don't want to have anything in the house that will make this difficult. Soon, though, we'll get to enjoy the occasional chicken wings and booze/Ben and Jerry's and a movie Saturday night. But not til he's ready to move to the next step.
Blahhh I just want to keep Edy's double churn in the freezer again.
I've been doing this solidarity thing with the fella. Some weight snuck up on him at work after he moved to managing the kitchen and working the line. He's been doing really well, and as long as he's in this jump-start phase, I don't want to have anything in the house that will make this difficult. Soon, though, we'll get to enjoy the occasional chicken wings and booze/Ben and Jerry's and a movie Saturday night. But not til he's ready to move to the next step.
Blahhh I just want to keep Edy's double churn in the freezer again.
Ugh I am in so much pain
GasBandit
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Was the doctor able to get it out with just muscle relaxants, or did they need to go surgical? I told you to be careful with that crab mallet no matter how much crisco you used.
The muscle relaxants help, but it brings it from like an 8/10 to a 2/10, and the stiffness reigns.
They say my x-ray came back normal, but I have trouble believing that since my scapula is sticking out of my back all the time
Are you seeing a physical therapist?
I'm currently looking for one
Stretching always seem to help more than relaxers. I mostly just do the ones from the lying position.
I have a similar guide; my problem is that I definitely need more that focus on upper-back, and a lot of the upper back stretches I find cause very sharp pain immediately upon starting them. Most guides/doctors suggest not to do a stretch past the point of pain, and soooo
Stretching always seem to help more than relaxers. I mostly just do the ones from the lying position.
doomdragon6
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So, back when "things were good" girl-person and I arranged to go to an anime con together this weekend. So we're riding up as a small group of 4, staying in a hotel room of... like.. 6 or more, but we're riding back just us for about 3 hours.
Let's see how awkward it can get!
Let's see how awkward it can get!
I just spent way too much time reading anti-vaccine stuff trying to understand it. I guess I get the fear and the willful ignorance...but something bothers me. It almost sound like these people thinking having an autistic child is the end of the world.
Wouldn't it be worst for your child to die from a preventable disease like measles or something? I mean, how much must you despise autistic people if you'd rather your kid be sick or die than be autistic?
Wouldn't it be worst for your child to die from a preventable disease like measles or something? I mean, how much must you despise autistic people if you'd rather your kid be sick or die than be autistic?
I expect it's more a matter of "being saddled with an autistic child for the rest of your life," and less about Autism, itself.
--Patrick
I have cousins that are autistic and, with one exception, they are able to live mostly normal lives. One even got married recently. I just...it seems discriminatory somehow?
I dunno if I can properly voice my feelings on it.
GasBandit
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A great many people who don't have first hand experience with autistic people view it as a serious deficiency, a mental malfunction akin to being learning imparied (ironic, when the opposite is often true). Some extremely uninformed people have even said within my hearing, "Autism, like, Down's Syndrome?" No, those are two completely different things that aren't related at all.
Hell, even Downs people can live decent lives and understand the world around them.
I just...I mean, I would be upset if one of my kids had something like that. I was fearful when Jet was being test for autism. I didn't know what it meant, really.
I still wouldn't write off these kids though and do things to damage them. I'd give them as much hope and faith as was reasonable and push them (gently) to be the best they can be...it just seems a lot of these parents are like "nope..damaged" and start blaming things.
Man...I would suck in a debate where I have ot state my opinions.
My sister works as a nanny & has looked after a few kids with Downs. She describes them as some of the happiest, nicest kids she's ever met.
One of her favourite stories is the time she was at a coffee shop with the girl she was looking after at the time & got talking to a pregnant woman at the next table. When she got up to leave the woman said her doctor had told her her baby may have Downs & she was due to go for a screening to confirm this one way or the other, and if the baby did she might have gone for an abortion. After meeting this little girl with Downs though she'd decided not to go through with the test. Because she'd realised that it didn't matter if her child had Downs - her child could lead a happy life and she'd love them no matter what.
Bear in mind that Autism is a spectrum disorder and there are kids who are severely impaired. Just because the media stereotype is kids that are savants does not make it true. My son is pretty high functioning, but that doesn't mean it doesn't have challenges, like him throwing fits at the drop of a hat about nothing in particular, or getting an idea in his head that sticks so firmly that he freaks out. Again, like I said though, the parents who think they are choosing between vaccines and autism live in a fantasy world that believes that their kids aren't going to get sick.
Most of these people have no idea what can happen to a child or adult due to complications of these childhood diseases. They don't remember a time when people were afraid of these diseases. They mistakenly believe measles, mumps, chicken pox, etc. have been eradicated or just aren't something to worry about since they are usually mild. They don't realize people can die from complications of measles and chicken pox, mumps and chicken pox can lead to encephalitis or meningitis, rubella/German measles can be dangerous to a developing fetus, that whooping cough is mild in adults but can kill infants that catch it...and so on. The only reason these illnesses are not as common in the US (and presumably Canada) as they once were is because of the vaccines which prevent them.
This. This sort of thinking frightens me. I always keep my fingers crossed Li'l Z isn't going to run into kid who's parents think they're invincible.
I had it twice as a kid. Once before I got vaccinated and once after. At least that's the story I get told by my mom.[DOUBLEPOST=1397781364,1397781128][/DOUBLEPOST]
Slightly off topic. but do you think 3D printed organs could be a reality? I think I skimmed an article about it not that long ago, but don't remember for sure.