[Informational] Let's Talk About Sex!

Anonymous · Jul 12, 2015

I find myself in need of a longer lasting lubricant. She's enjoying everything during sex, but she is experiencing some minor tearing if we go for anything longer than a quickie. Astroglide is our current line.

Any one have suggestions?

WasabiPoptart · Jul 13, 2015

slippery stuff gel

Bubble181 · Jul 13, 2015

Does it need to be either oil or water based (depending on condom or not, sensitivity to some stuff, etc)?

Anonymous · Jul 13, 2015

Water based would be ideal.

Frank · Jul 13, 2015

Muko Lubricating Jelly. It's medical grade, water based and an ex of mine that's a nurse swore by it.

Officer_Charon · Jul 13, 2015

Never had to use lube before... does that put me in the minority here?

PatrThom · Jul 13, 2015

Water-based is safest and easiest to clean.

In my experience, failing lube is a sign that the water is being dried out too fast. Rehydrating existing lube should slippery it back up again (rather than just piling on more and more), the question is more one of choosing clean water to do so. Do you wet your dick in a glass? Do you mist it on? Do you dribble it from on high? That part's up to you, just don't use water that's been sitting out uncovered with a chance to have things land in it.

You might also want to see if the drying is happening because of too little humidity in the room. A fan pointed at the two (or more?) of you might help keep you cool, but it'll also dry her out sneaky fast. If you must have a fan, you can either aim the fan up more towards head/torso, or you can keep the sheet/body positioned to block the breeze's direct path.

--Patrick

fade · Jul 13, 2015

Celt Z said:

Was expecting a banana outfit. Disappointed.

Frank · Jul 13, 2015

Officer_Charon said:
Never had to use lube before... does that put me in the minority here?

You have never been with someone who liked the backdoor I see.

Officer_Charon · Jul 13, 2015

Frank said:
You have never been with someone who liked the backdoor I see.

Only once... Neither of us knew what we were doing then. YEARS ago, when just starting out.

PatrThom · Jul 13, 2015

Frank said:
You have never been with someone who liked the backdoor I see.

You didn't specify, or else I would've given different advice.

--Patrick

Dei · Jul 13, 2015

You don't need to be backdooring to need lube, shush.

Celt Z · Jul 13, 2015

fade said:
Was expecting a banana outfit. Disappointed.

It was Nick's sexual fantasy, not mine.

GasBandit · Jul 13, 2015

Dei said:
You don't need to be backdooring to need lube, shush.

Yeah, but you DEFINITELY need it in that case.

Dei · Jul 13, 2015

True, but there is a misconception out there that if you need lube for normal sex, something is wrong.

grub · Jul 13, 2015

My wife and I find that lube is more necessary when using a condom. Luckily my vasectomy is scheduled for the end of next month, so only 4 months until we won't need them anymore.

Emrys · Jul 13, 2015

I am learning more about you guys than I ever wanted to know.

<starts taking notes....>

grub · Jul 13, 2015

Voluntary sterilization is not that interesting. Two kids is enough for me.

Officer_Charon · Jul 13, 2015

Same here, brother. Looking into getting the snip, myself.

fade · Jul 13, 2015

I did it. It was quick and painless. I never took any of the pain meds, because it never hurt. There was a mounting pressure for about a week when I was told not to do anything naughty, solo or otherwise. At the end of the week, it was a little like that scene from Scary Movie, though, and the pressure was gone.

PatrThom · Jul 13, 2015

Dei said:
You don't need to be backdooring to need lube, shush.

Never said that. Just said I would've given a different product recommendation if I'd known we weren't talking PIV. It would've probably been oil-based, though, so that has other caveats.

--Patrick

Celt Z · Jul 13, 2015

Just stay away from Trojan's lubes. Those sucked.

GasBandit · Jul 13, 2015

Celt Z said:
Just stay away from Trojan's lubes. Those sucked.

Celt Z · Jul 13, 2015

GasBandit said:

That's....fairly accurate, really.

GasBandit · Jul 13, 2015

Celt Z said:
That's....fairly accurate, really.

fade · Jul 13, 2015

Especially the outpouring of blood.

Bowielee · Jul 13, 2015

Anonymous said:
I find myself in need of a longer lasting lubricant. She's enjoying everything during sex, but she is experiencing some minor tearing if we go for anything longer than a quickie. Astroglide is our current line.

Any one have suggestions?

Silicone based lubricants last forever.

Dei · Jul 13, 2015

But they aren't good to use with condoms, so that's an important detail to know.

Ravenpoe · Jul 13, 2015

Dei said:
But they aren't good to use with condoms, so that's an important detail to know.

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Officer_Charon said:
Same here, brother. Looking into getting the snip, myself.

Your new avatar makes that terrifying.

Bowielee · Jul 13, 2015

Dei said:
But they aren't good to use with condoms, so that's an important detail to know.

Some silicone based lubes are fine to use with condoms. Personally, my choice is this. It's a little expensive, that's ten dollars for that small bottle, but it works better than just about anything I've ever used.

WasabiPoptart · Jul 13, 2015

grub said:
My wife and I find that lube is more necessary when using a condom. Luckily my vasectomy is scheduled for the end of next month, so only 4 months until we won't need them anymore.

Just make sure you get the results of the "after" sample test before not using condoms. I've talked about this previously, but Aussie's vasectomy didn't work. The Navy gave him the run around as far as having another procedure done, so I had surgery about two years ago to get my fallopian tubes removed (yes totally removed and I have photos since it was a laparoscopic surgery :eek:

).

Ravenpoe · Jul 13, 2015

WasabiPoptart said:
Just make sure you get the results of the "after" sample test before not using condoms. I've talked about this previously, but Aussie's vasectomy didn't work. The Navy gave him the run around as far as having another procedure done, so I had surgery about two years ago to get my fallopian tubes removed (yes totally removed and I have photos since it was a laparoscopic surgery).

"I don't want you to just close the roads, I want you to blow the goddamn bridge!"

Frank · Jul 13, 2015

Double down on the Muko recommendation. If it's good enough for medical professionals sticking shit in you, it's probably good enough for recreational use. Also, it's inexpensive and discreetly packaged.

WasabiPoptart · Jul 14, 2015

Muko must be a Canadian product since I can't find it (online) in a US store. It's not even on Amazon.

Hailey Knight · Jul 14, 2015

I forget what the procedure is called, but my wife had a small bit of metal inserted into her abdomen. Makes pregnancy impossible, lasts 10 years, and is removable at any time. This might be useful information for some. I don't usually give the "medicine companies only want profit" conspiracy theories, but I feel like few people have heard of this because there's no profit in a 100% effective treatment that lasts a decade.