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Wait, who are you?And changed
Lady Richington, charmed, I'm sure
I came out to my parents today.
it went exactly as I had hoped it would. They immediately accepted me for who I am and said that their love for me was unchanged.
I’m so happy!
it went exactly as I had hoped it would. They immediately accepted me for who I am and said that their love for me was unchanged.
I’m so happy!
I made a video coming out and posted it on FB for my family and all of them gave me love and support. I am soooo blessed and happy!
Next up, I have to come out to friends, then work
Next up, I have to come out to friends, then work
I’m sorry to be posting so much about this, everything is just going so well and so quickly. I’m afraid there will be a comeuppance soon.
I came out to one person at work. A friend and supervisor. She is going to be getting the ball rolling for me with the rest of management and doesn’t see any issues.
incidentally, I will not be the first trans person on the IT team either.
Also, I found a hairstyle I like that sort of fits me right now.
It’s very easy, so I can do it myself and it keeps my hair out of my face. Again, sorry to keepspamming about myself, I’ve just been so happy recently.
I came out to one person at work. A friend and supervisor. She is going to be getting the ball rolling for me with the rest of management and doesn’t see any issues.
incidentally, I will not be the first trans person on the IT team either.
Also, I found a hairstyle I like that sort of fits me right now.
It’s very easy, so I can do it myself and it keeps my hair out of my face. Again, sorry to keepspamming about myself, I’ve just been so happy recently.
Soooo, I just posted a public coming out post on facebook.
I'm kinda scared over who I might lose, kinda excited that it's finally public, and kinda anxious about everything.
I'm kinda scared over who I might lose, kinda excited that it's finally public, and kinda anxious about everything.
Like everything else so far, it's been going really well. Not everyone has seen it yet, but positive response all around. I've not yet lost anyone, but I have actually gained 1 friend. I only wish everyone could experience a coming out that is this positive.
Correction: Gained 3 new friends
Correction: Gained 3 new friends
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More pics of me, because I am an attention hog right now. Sorry not sorry 
This last one is the least edited. The makeup and a little bit of added hair is really all it did.
This last one is the least edited. The makeup and a little bit of added hair is really all it did.
More picture time!
Dill and I went to Ulta Beauty today for a makeover and we ran a bit long and didn’t get to finish before they closed. Dill finished the look at home with what we had. So here are my first unfiltered pics and also the first time FaceApp wanted to turn me masculine when running a picture through the gender filter!
Dill and I went to Ulta Beauty today for a makeover and we ran a bit long and didn’t get to finish before they closed. Dill finished the look at home with what we had. So here are my first unfiltered pics and also the first time FaceApp wanted to turn me masculine when running a picture through the gender filter!
Went out shopping yesterday, first time in public wearing a skirt
Also got a butterfly necklace which I love. I think it is representative of the transition I am starting.
Also got a butterfly necklace which I love. I think it is representative of the transition I am starting.
You're looking confident, happy, and great overall!
I’d be lying if I said I agree. I’m very nervous, especially with the area I live in. Those pictures were taken at home after we got back and my spouse was making me laugh by having me say funny things instead of “cheese” in order to get a more genuine smile out of me.
I still feel very much like a big, clumsy man stomping around in a skirt. I know that it will just take time, this is all new.
BUT, just so this is not all doom and gloom, I have my first appointment to get HRT on Thursday. This will likely just be an initial blood draw so they can gauge my hormone levels and what they need to do to counteract those.
I still feel very much like a big, clumsy man stomping around in a skirt. I know that it will just take time, this is all new.
BUT, just so this is not all doom and gloom, I have my first appointment to get HRT on Thursday. This will likely just be an initial blood draw so they can gauge my hormone levels and what they need to do to counteract those.
I'm going to be blunt here, but to be clear, I don't mean this in any way as a negative or an insult, quite the contrary. So, you know, take from it what you will.
As a regular old cishet whathaveyou guy, I represent the typical Male Gaze. Now, while you don't ooze feminine sensuality like, errr, I dunno, insert-your-example-of-a-very-feminine-looking-celeb-I-guess, in those pictures, you absolutely scan as a woman. If I crossed you in the street, I wouldn't turn my head to stare at your ass perhaps, but I wouldn't give you a second glance - you'd just be "some woman I passed in the street'. Also, I think you look better and more like a normal human being in these last pictures or the ones after the beauty parlor, than you do in the FaceApp filter pictures. That may be my personal preference at work, though, I just generally don't like the airbrushed look that app tends to try and give everyone.
So, you know, I really don't think you're ugly, just fairly average-ish (though I don't remember how old you are, if you're over 35 you look great!) for a woman. But definitely woman.
I'm aware that's what we call in Dutch "throwing someone flowers with the pot still attached", sorry
but I figured you'd appreciate true honesty more than just a generic "no guurrrlll you look amazing 10/10 fabulous OMG wow so hot" where your own mind can tell you I'm saying it "just to make you feel better but doesn't really mean it".I'll be 42 in July, so thank you.
And yes, I prefer honesty over platitudes. I don't fault anyone for liking or not liking anything. I appreciate your words as you intended them, @Bubble181
That is an interesting phrase as well. I get the meaning and I'm not sure we have an analog in the US. Maybe calling something a "backhanded compliment" is close, but has kind of the reverse implication. Saying, "Well, at least you're not ugly." could be construed that way (and again, I am not reading your words as such).
In "The South" we also have the phrase "Bless [his/her/their] heart!" as a way of nullifying insults. It sort of means that what we just said was true, but not meant maliciously. As in, "He's as dumb as a box of hammers, bless his heart!" This is usually employed by kindly older ladies.
And yes, I prefer honesty over platitudes. I don't fault anyone for liking or not liking anything. I appreciate your words as you intended them, @Bubble181
That is an interesting phrase as well. I get the meaning and I'm not sure we have an analog in the US. Maybe calling something a "backhanded compliment" is close, but has kind of the reverse implication. Saying, "Well, at least you're not ugly." could be construed that way (and again, I am not reading your words as such).
In "The South" we also have the phrase "Bless [his/her/their] heart!" as a way of nullifying insults. It sort of means that what we just said was true, but not meant maliciously. As in, "He's as dumb as a box of hammers, bless his heart!" This is usually employed by kindly older ladies.
I'm going to agree with @Bubble181's basic sentiment. If I saw you walking down the street, my mind would categorize you as a woman. Certainly not "a big, clumsy man stomping around in a skirt."
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Yeah, Bubble captured my thoughts perfectly as well. You definitely pass as a woman to me. You also look... at peace, if that makes sense. Comfortable.
Also, we have a similar expression in French (at least in Quebec), where we'll say "merci pour les fleurs, j'attends le pot" (literally "thanks for the flowers,now where'sthe pot"?). The closest thing I can think of in English would be the old "compliment sandwich" approach to evaluations where you alternate praise and criticism...
But of course, English is my second language, so i very well could be missing something.
Also, we have a similar expression in French (at least in Quebec), where we'll say "merci pour les fleurs, j'attends le pot" (literally "thanks for the flowers,now where'sthe pot"?). The closest thing I can think of in English would be the old "compliment sandwich" approach to evaluations where you alternate praise and criticism...
But of course, English is my second language, so i very well could be missing something.
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Posting more pics of me, feel free to disregard
Actual photo of me, just had a shower, which is why my hair looks like that, it is still drying
And processed through FaceApp, damn I want to look like this all the time
Actual photo of me, just had a shower, which is why my hair looks like that, it is still drying
And processed through FaceApp, damn I want to look like this all the time
Just make an Instagram.
You can look however you want on Instagram.
--Patrick
I got this today
My first dose of HRT, I am very excited to be starting it!
My first dose of HRT, I am very excited to be starting it!
Got a new picture taken for my work id now that I am out there as well. This is not it, but it is the outfit and makeup I was wearing.
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If anyone wants to buy me this, I wear a size 4 at Torrid.
Oh wow, good for you! It is exciting to finally start the changes
Been over a year since I posted in this thread. Wow.
So anyway, MORE PICS!
How it started
vs How it's going
A wild DILL appears!
So anyway, MORE PICS!
How it started
vs How it's going
A wild DILL appears!