Whine like a baby, now with 500% more drama!
- Thread starter strawman
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I don't know. I'm feeling really discouraged tonight over several things.
Plenty of ways to incorporate belle ringing, depending on the type of bell and the situation Dill's in.
Boxing match? Phone going off at the worst possible moment? The hour being tolled meaning someone failed a task/deadline, dinner being ready, calling someone at reception, a doorbell,... But how to get there or make a punchline out of it is why I'm not a writer
Boxing match? Phone going off at the worst possible moment? The hour being tolled meaning someone failed a task/deadline, dinner being ready, calling someone at reception, a doorbell,... But how to get there or make a punchline out of it is why I'm not a writer
She just cancelled the second date.
It's official. No one wants me.
It's official. No one wants me.
This isn't a Dill thing, for a change.Plenty of ways to incorporate belle ringing, depending on the type of bell and the situation Dill's in.
Boxing match? Phone going off at the worst possible moment? The hour being tolled meaning someone failed a task/deadline, dinner being ready, calling someone at reception, a doorbell,... But how to get there or make a punchline out of it is why I'm not a writer
Did she say why? I know it's tempting to immediately apply the "it's because of me, I'm terrible/unlovable" logic to it (my mind works like that too) but there can be a million reasons - from "I got back together with my ex after all" over "I was test dating 7 people and I'm only moving forward with 3 and you placed fourth, sorry" and "I liked you as a friend but didn't feel much of a sexual spark" or "my friends talked me out of it because you're a bit nerdy but actually so am I and they aren't and why should I listen to them hold on a minute" to "I'm unexpectedly out of town that day but would still like a second date on another time".
It's just another rejection to me. All I get are first dates, if it even gets to that. This was the first time someone actually made plans for a second.
I'm just so tired of being lonely.
This is completely understandable, and reasonable. It's really, really hard to find someone you're totally, or honestly, mostly in sync with; emotionally, physically, etc. But the thing you need to remember is that it's not just you, it's that way for everyone. Taking her at her word, she didn't feel like she'd be a good partner to you at this point, and that's good that she could see that in herself. It's hard to be honest with your own flaws. Don't look at this as a rejection. For whatever reason, you guys aren't the right match at this time, and it opens up the opportunity to meet someone who is.
Yes, dating kinda sucks right now. The wife and I people watch at the restaurants and bars we go to and we've observed people who are overly stressed on dates when they really should just be having fun getting to know someone. Dating has become a pressure cooker environment. It gets even more difficult as you get older because it feels like a job interview. "How many relationships have you had over the past five years? I see. How did your last relationship end? Interesting. So you're available two evenings a week and most weekdays? Good. Mackenzie has soccer practice on Saturday and I need someone to cover that shift. Are you going to do something about those sideburns?"
Maybe go to Meetup and look for social singles groups. Before I met my wife, I signed up for a young single professionals group in Houston. It turns out there were lots of people like me who enjoyed intellectual pursuits and geekdom, and who hated nightclubs and all that went on in nightclubs. More importantly, the group events were members-only and held in public venues. Everyone was relaxed because they knew all the members were vetted. Had I not met the wife on Match just a couple months later, I'm almost positive I would have found someone in that group.
Maybe go to Meetup and look for social singles groups. Before I met my wife, I signed up for a young single professionals group in Houston. It turns out there were lots of people like me who enjoyed intellectual pursuits and geekdom, and who hated nightclubs and all that went on in nightclubs. More importantly, the group events were members-only and held in public venues. Everyone was relaxed because they knew all the members were vetted. Had I not met the wife on Match just a couple months later, I'm almost positive I would have found someone in that group.
MeetUp honestly sucks in Halifax. There aren't any good groups to join.