I was working evenings in the theater, wife was working a slightly early office job. I was usually home around midnight, she'd head out the door around 6ish. It helped work out day care for our, at the time, 18 month old. She only needed to spend a few hours at grandpa's before mom was home early evening.
So while the baby usually would have me up by 9 or 10ish, that morning, I got the call just after 8. Wifey called in a panic...barely able to speak, and me barely awake...:
Her: They're flying planes into the Towers, I'm coming home....
Me: (thinking) probably "A" plane but she's only lived in the city for the last 2 years now, and she is only a few blocks from their, that's gotta be creepy..."OK hunny, do what you gotta do, it's OK, I love you.
Her: Iloveyoutooigottagonow...
Me..simultaneously seeing the baby-head is still sleeping and turning the TV on just as NBC is reporting but NOT confirming a second hit.
The next few hours are mostly a blur of me starring mouth agape at what's happening to my city, my playground, my backyard. (Living in Queens, but, as mentioned, wife was working on Maiden Lane, a few blocks west of the Towers, I grew up in the City) Logged onto ICQ, AIM, whatever I was using back then to contact anyone and everyone I knew from a couple online communities, partly to let them know I was ok, more so just for the human contact. A lot of talking back to the TV in shock/disbelief. I don't remember when the little one woke up, at some point I know she did because I had to finally back away from the TV, flipped on Nick for her as they were, thankfully, showing mindless toddler cartoons..but I was focused on communicating online.
All the time I "knew" wifey was on her way. No idea where she was or if she got on a train or was walking or a bus or how far she was when the towers came down...just one of those instinctual things...it was nearly 4:00 pm by the time she made it home...
The next few days, all she could do was sit on the couch and watch the news...in shock...she was in a bad way for months after that...and even still to today, after what she saw. She copes by taking in all she can on tv..the documentaries, the National Geographic/Discovery shows...I can't....I know she lived through a lot of it in person, but for me, I lived through it through TV...and I can barely stand to watch any of the recap/memorials that way....