HF Confessions (Anonymous or Otherwise)
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Silvanesti
whats the best way to tell a guy that their wife boned another guy?
I would go with a cake, everyone loves cake.
I would go with a cake, everyone loves cake.
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Steven Soderburgin
It's pretty clear that we don't have all the information. It's possible she doesn't remember. It's possible she was drugged. It's possible that her marriage is open or that her husband said it'd be okay with him if she had fun while in Vegas. Maybe her marriage is unhappy and unsatisfying and this was her attempt to get a little bit of fun in so she could stay with her husband a little longer, thus preserving the marriage for the sake of the kids. The list of things we don't know about this situation is a mile long, and before you go throwing around words like "drunk slut" and saying she deserves violent consequences, you should really start thinking about these sorts of things.
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Silvanesti
Tragic, and Delicious!!
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Only stein is allowed to do that[
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All of what you say is true. Wouldn't you want to know if this happened though? At the very least so you could potentially avoid some sort of nasty, possibly life threatening disease?
Don't google slut cake at work with safe search turned off..
Just sayin.
Just sayin.
:eyeroll:
If I realized that this thread would be about rationalizing stupid behavior, I wouldn't have posted anything.
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Qonas
He's the only one trying to defend dumb behavior. I'm the one irrationally wanting to punch her in the face. 
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Steven Soderburgin
I'm not defending her actions, I'm just trying to express that there could be very reasonable explanations for her behavior as well as showing the slightest bit of human decency and empathy.
But it's so easy to imagine punching anonymous women that I've been told did something that would offend me personally if it happened to me!! So. Easy. :smug:
You should be empathising with the victim, not the victimizer. There are no 'reasonable' explanations for deception of that kind inside a marriage.
And if there isn't?
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crono1224
No reason for physical violence :O..... And the best bet is inform the husband incase she got something. Not really your right to judge someone and take physical violence with her.
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Bitch stepped out of line you had to keep your pimp hand strong?
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Bitch stepped out of line you had to keep your pimp hand strong?
Cajungal
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Wow. Sounds like that woman needs to back away and reassess. Doesn't sound like a one-night mistake if she's keeping up with the guy. It's not fair to her husband to do this, and if she respects him at all--never mind love--she'll come clean and deal with the consequences.
Although I wouldn't encourage a man to haul off and punch her in the face... if she was my friend and I knew, it would be hard for me to keep quiet.
Although I wouldn't encourage a man to haul off and punch her in the face... if she was my friend and I knew, it would be hard for me to keep quiet.
Mmm woman-kicking too...I didn't take it literally, personally.... just jokin'. You have every right to be angry... and to fantasize about woman-punching.
I don't really have a right to be angry. It's not my marriage. However, I feel bad for my nephews. This is her second marriage (The first one, *drumroll* cheated on her) and the husband's a decent guy. Not someone I'd sit down with beers with but he works hard and he's close enough to the kids that they call him dad even if he's not theirs.
I'm probably more angry at my wife for just letting the deception go.
Cajungal
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If you like the guy or are friends with him, then sure you have a right to be angry. It's great that you respect that your values aren't everyone's, but I understand your frustration. He's being wronged and there's nothing you can do. I'd be pissed.
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that woman's foot is grossing me out...
There's another confession... I hate feet. I hate looking at them or having someone else's feet near me.
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that woman's foot is grossing me out...
There's another confession... I hate feet. I hate looking at them or having someone else's feet near me.
Yeah... that would be a little bothersome...
And even if I could do something, would I? Is it worth destroying the lives of 3 young boys and a guy, just so I can clear my conscience about knowing something I shouldn't?
Assuming that the guy was clean and she's still clean, this really would be the type of crime that one could get away with.
Morally right to say something.
Ethically right to say something.
Humanely wrong?
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crono1224
If there is no say std ramifications then its a tricky subject, as a society we frown on cheating, but we think people deserve privacy.
I think it would be important to talk to your wife about it but outside that, you may accomplish nothing, confronting her may do nothing. Telling him may have him go into denial then accuse you of spreading roomers and maybe driving a nail between your relationship with their family and still accomplishing nothing.
I think it would be important to talk to your wife about it but outside that, you may accomplish nothing, confronting her may do nothing. Telling him may have him go into denial then accuse you of spreading roomers and maybe driving a nail between your relationship with their family and still accomplishing nothing.
I'd say confessions shouldn't be for over-analyzing and bickering.
I'm failing to see the downside on driving a nail in the relationship with their family, hahaha. But no seriously, you're right. This is just one of those things where there's a difference between what is right and what is easy. Harry Potter taught me that much.
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You should have submitted that anonymously, just to get this thread back on track.
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crono1224
I'm failing to see the downside on driving a nail in the relationship with their family, hahaha. But no seriously, you're right. This is just one of those things where there's a difference between what is right and what is easy. Harry Potter taught me that much.[/QUOTE]
Oh i meant a nail with say your wife/her sister relationship... your relationship to the husband.. In fact if the sister is a big enough bitch, it may become a us vs them senario.
Yeah, for all intents and purposes, I don't "know". My wife was asked to keep it a secret, from even me.
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crono1224
Eh also sorry bout the punch in the face, i miss read how you phrased it lol. Good luck either way i would for my g/f make sure that it was clear that keeping it from me would be worst than just out and saying it i guess.
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