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Oct 16, 2009#1

Gusto

Okay so I've heard that on other forums' they have these threads. The idea is that I set up an email address:

halforums.secrets(at)gmail.com

...And people can use a verified anonymous email program:

http://www.anonymousfeedback.net/
http://anonymouse.org/anonemail.html

...To send me their confessions or requests for advice, which I will post in this thread.

RULES:

1) I will not post anything blatantly illegal.
2) I will not post any outright attacks on other forum members.
3) I will not post anything that is obviously fake or moronic.

Should my personal life/work/school get in the way of updating this thread I may ask a trusted ally to post secrets/confessions in my stead for a while.

I'd love to try to keep this a positive experience for all of us so let's try to keep it civil. I'd also like to avoid letting it degrade too far into creepiness or assholishness, and keep it pretty fun for everyone.

Oct 16, 2009#2

Tinwhistler

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I don't think I've kept any real secrets. My life's mostly an open book.

There's a chinese philosophy that goes something like this:
If there is a thing that you do not wish others to know that you have done, do not do it.

Oct 16, 2009#3

Kitty Sinatra

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Well, I've got plenty of secrets. And do you know why they're secret? Because I don't tell anyone about them!

So yeah, count me out. Sorry man.

Oct 16, 2009#4

Fun Size

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Sometimes, I lust after cantaloupe.

...

That wasn't anonymous, was it?

Oct 16, 2009#5

Wasabi Poptart

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Tinwhistler said:
I don't think I've kept any real secrets. My life's mostly an open book.

This.

Oct 16, 2009#6

The Lovely Boehner

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Gruebeard said:
Well, I've got plenty of secrets. And do you know why they're secret? Because I don't tell anyone about them!

So yeah, count me out. Sorry man.

You don't know how this works. You use an anonymous e-mailer so no one knows it's you. Then Gusto posts them, and no one knows it's you. Confession is good for the soul.

Oct 16, 2009#7

Tinwhistler

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Gruebeard said:
Well, I've got plenty of secrets. And do you know why they're secret? Because I don't tell anyone about them!

So yeah, count me out. Sorry man.

If two people know a secret, it is no longer a secret.

Oct 16, 2009#8

ThatNickGuy

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Okay, I admit it! I confess!

It was me.

I did it. It was me all along.

Whew! I feel so much better, now!

Oct 16, 2009#9

Fun Size

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ThatNickGuy said:
Okay, I admit it! I confess!

It was me.

I did it. It was me all along.

Whew! I feel so much better, now!

So you're gonna clean it up then, right? 'Cause I ain't doing it.

Oct 16, 2009#10

ElJuski

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as expected, Halforum takes a cute little bunny of an idea and smashes its pretty face in. I'll have to think of some good secrets for you Goost

Oct 16, 2009#11

Steven Soderburgin

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I sent in a secret.

Oct 16, 2009#12

Hylian

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How can you share a secret? Once it's told it is no longer a secret so if I tell you all my secrets i won't have any secrets left. So I am taking my secrets with me to my grave bwa ha ha ha ha ha :6:

Oct 16, 2009#13

Gusto

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I once stole 200 dollars from my best friend while she was away. I did it because I needed some extra spending money.

Oct 16, 2009#14

Steven Soderburgin

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gusto post my secret >:[

Oct 16, 2009#15

Gusto

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I have received the obligatory Johnny Cash reference.

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I think one of my cousins is hot.

Oct 16, 2009#16

Jake

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Gusto said:
I have received the obligatory Johnny Cash reference.

---------- Post added at 12:54 PM ---------- Previous post was at 12:50 PM ----------

I think one of my cousins is hot.

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Actually, I think that's a Jerry Lee Lewis reference.

Oct 16, 2009#17

Gusto

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No I mean someone sent me:

I once shot a man in Reno, just to watch him die.

The cousin one I assume is legit and not a reference.

Oct 16, 2009#18

Steven Soderburgin

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ugh fine i'll send in a real secret if you're not going to post mine, shit

Oct 16, 2009#19

HoboNinja

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I am trying to think of a good one to send in, I really don't have many secrets.

Oct 16, 2009#20

General Specific

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Confess! Confess! Confess! Confess!

Oct 16, 2009#21

Gusto

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I'm severely terrified about coming out to my family. My brother's already know about my sexuality, but no one in my family knows other than them. It's sort of fucking with me. And I really want to come out to them so they can meet my boyfriend. I feel ashamed because I feel like I'm hiding him, and he doesn't deserve that. But still, it's really frightening.

Oct 16, 2009#22

Deschain

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You could always pretend like they knew all along. Fuck with them a little.
'I'm pretty sure you already know my boyfriend etc. etc., I've told you all about him. Anyway, let's have dinner."

and act like everything is normal. Get your brother in on it. Your parents will either be too shocked to protest or too polite to.

Oct 16, 2009#23

Jake

HF Anonymous Confessions

Gusto said:
No I mean someone sent me:

I once shot a man in Reno, just to watch him die.

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The cousin one I assume is legit and not a reference.

Confession: people often don't get my jokes.

Oct 16, 2009#24

Gusto

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This may sound weird, but the secret is olive oil and mayonnaise.
The things you can do with your lover with this, is SICK.

Oct 16, 2009#25

drawn_inward

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Tinwhistler said:
I don't think I've kept any real secrets. My life's mostly an open book.

There's a chinese philosophy that goes something like this:
If there is a thing that you do not wish others to know that you have done, do not do it.

I was raised with a similar philosophy: Don't do anything you wouldn't want your mom to know about or put on the front page of the newspaper.

But, I like the idea of anonymous advice. Nice idea gutso, I mean, gustov, gus.

But, seriously, nice idea.

Oct 16, 2009#26

Morgoth

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I once put peanut butter on my nuts and called the dog over... wait? Anonymous?

Oct 16, 2009#27

Gusto

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I think the majority of people on the forum are pathetic. But I still keep reading because it makes me feel great about my life.

Oct 16, 2009#28

Krisken

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Oct 16, 2009#29

Gusto

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I wet the bed every once in awhile up until my freshmen year in high school. I tried numerous different medications. Everything from bladder control medication to nasal spray to make me sleep lighter, nothing worked. The only method that works for me is to stop drinking anything 4 to 5 hours before bed.

Oct 16, 2009#30

Shegokigo

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I'm reminded of that XKCD strip with the police and the "Yeah, nice try" thing.

I may send a secret, but not really some that I would like to just blurt out.

On the other hand, I do have a few that would be nice to just say out loud to someone. I do like the effort you're putting up here Gusto!

Oct 16, 2009#31

Gusto

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Thanks Sheegs.

I'm trying but I dunno if this idea will take off at all.

---------- Post added at 04:42 PM ---------- Previous post was at 04:28 PM ----------

I sometimes want to kill myself...just to see what is feels like. The only thing that stops me is I don't want hurt my family.

This is a bad idea.

Oct 16, 2009#32

Allen, who is Quiet

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I'm worried that I might not be as smart as Leela, but I feel relieved knowing that I'm cuter than her

Oct 16, 2009#33

Denbrought

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While you wait for new secrets, you guys may enjoy CaveCanum

Oct 16, 2009#34

Gusto

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Sometimes I have dreams in which I cheat on my girlfriend. A fictional girl will always blackmail me into it. I wake up extremely turned on but feeling guilty.

Oct 16, 2009#35

Gusto

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I was arrested when I was thirteen for breaking into the Canadian National Rail yard in Peterborough, Ontario and taking a locomotive engine for a joyride.

Sounds kinda fun!

Oct 16, 2009#36

WolfOfOdin

HF Anonymous Confessions

25$ for the first one, flat fee of 50$ for each extra one, plus a 100$ per week for a permenant unlimited secrets per week retainer.

Oct 16, 2009#37

Gusto

HF Anonymous Confessions

Whenever I post a picture of myself on Halforum, I photoshop myself to look younger.

*purposely leaves obvious joke untold*

Oct 16, 2009#38

ZenMonkey

HF Anonymous Confessions

Gusto said:
Whenever I post a picture of myself on Halforum, I photoshop myself to look younger.

Click to expand...

*purposely leaves obvious joke untold*

NO, that wasn't me. :mad:

Oct 16, 2009#39

Jake

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Gusto said:
Whenever I post a picture of myself on Halforum, I photoshop myself to look younger.

Click to expand...

*purposely leaves obvious joke untold*

Not an Icarus joke, I hope...

Oct 16, 2009#40

MindDetective

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I'm going to post a non-anonymous confession. Not trying to show off, just like the expediency.

While applying for new jobs, I feel like I'm not trying as hard at my current job. I haven't totally checked out or anything but I worry that I'm way too premature in my confidence that I'll be able to move on to the next stage of my career. Especially since that next stage could be right where I already am working...

Oct 16, 2009#41

Gusto

HF Anonymous Confessions

I think ZenMonkey is pretty cool and would like to chat with her and be internet buds, but I'm pretty sure she hates me.

Oct 16, 2009#42

The Lovely Boehner

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hey I'll take over this for a while.

I'm purposefully destroying myself, and while I know that isn't good, I don't care enough to do anything about it.

Don't hurt yourself.

Oct 16, 2009#43

Gusto

HF Anonymous Confessions

Alright homies I'm going Oktoberfesting for the night. I've handed off the email addy to a trusted ally in the fight against Shame.

Have fun.

Oct 16, 2009#44

ZenMonkey

HF Anonymous Confessions

I think ZenMonkey is pretty cool and would like to chat with her and be internet buds, but I'm pretty sure she hates me.

It's true. I totally, totally hate you.

Oct 16, 2009#45

The Lovely Boehner

HF Anonymous Confessions

I want to fuck my best friend's girlfriend.

oh I wish she was jessie's girl

Oct 16, 2009#46

ZenMonkey

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(Um, also, I don't actually know who that person was, and I probably don't hate them. Probably.)

Oct 16, 2009#47

The Lovely Boehner

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I'm sick of Shego's killer persona. I think it has been really overdone, and what could be a funny joke if used sparsely has become annoying and repetitive.

If it ever was a funny joke (up for debate), I concur it's definitely kind of run into the ground at this point. Buuuut nothing ever really gets old here so

I cut out a lame Icarus secret

My father revelaed to me about two weeks ago that he has had MS (Multiple Sclerosis) for three years now. He didn't tell me because he thought I might inform the CIA/arms corporations.

Every day I am a little bit closer to just fucking off or joining the french foreign legion or something. I don't even know anymore.

Oct 16, 2009#48

Adammon

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Your commentary isn't exactly encouraging me to send stuff in.

Oct 16, 2009#49

Gurpel

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Lol this is great. Everyone is all gung-ho until charlie don't surf takes over.

It's more like a "let's laugh at the silly forumers' confessions and they can't yell at me for it cuz then they have to tell it was THEIR secret! LULZ!"

Go ahead and point out where this happened, please.

Oct 16, 2009#50

The Lovely Boehner

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Okay, I made fun of the best friend's girl secret, granted.

Oct 16, 2009#51

ZenMonkey

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Since I'm often misinterpreted for being too dry, I was actually trying in my usual classless way to be nice.

Oct 16, 2009#52

Wasabi Poptart

HF Anonymous Confessions

:popcorn:

Oct 16, 2009#53

Gurpel

HF Anonymous Confessions

Amorous Bitch;276372][quote=Gurpel said:
Lol this is great. Everyone is all gung-ho until charlie don't surf takes over.

It's more like a "let's laugh at the silly forumers' confessions and they can't yell at me for it cuz then they have to tell it was THEIR secret! LULZ!"

Click to expand...

Go ahead and point out where this happened, please.

Oct 16, 2009#54

Adammon

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Amorous Bitch said:
My point is that an honest true confession that someone has been carrying around for possibly years does NOT need to be made fun off IN ANY WAY; lighthearted, in jest or otherwise. They feel bad enough as it is (THAT'S WHY IT'S A SECRET, DUMBASS!). Leave them for what they are.

If you're doing an 'honest, true confuession' in this avenue, you're the dumbass. Sorry.

Oct 16, 2009#55

The Lovely Boehner

HF Anonymous Confessions

I want to have sex with every woman on the boards. Except Zen and Ame.

I'm not sure if not being desired counts as a personal attack

Oct 16, 2009#56

Qonas

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Gurpel;276383][quote=Amorous Bitch;276372][quote=Gurpel said:
Lol this is great. Everyone is all gung-ho until charlie don't surf takes over.

It's more like a "let's laugh at the silly forumers' confessions and they can't yell at me for it cuz then they have to tell it was THEIR secret! LULZ!"

Click to expand...

Go ahead and point out where this happened, please.

Point out a thread, ANY thread,where I ever liked you, please?

Also, see above.[/QUOTE]

1. argumentum ad hominem. classy.

2. I don't even see what's offensive about charlie likening the anonymous confessor's plight to the situation described in rick springfield's song "jessie's girl".[/QUOTE]

He wasn't even "making fun of" the comment or confessor. He just made a (unfortunately no longer) comical remark based off of the confession.

Oct 16, 2009#57

Gurpel

HF Anonymous Confessions

Adammon;276385][quote=Amorous Bitch said:
My point is that an honest true confession that someone has been carrying around for possibly years does NOT need to be made fun off IN ANY WAY; lighthearted, in jest or otherwise. They feel bad enough as it is (THAT'S WHY IT'S A SECRET, DUMBASS!). Leave them for what they are.

If you're doing an 'honest, true confuession' in this avenue, you're the dumbass. Sorry.[/QUOTE]

p. much. I am the guy with the schizophrenic dad. the reason i sent the confession in was so that the forum could provide a bit of levity. jeez.

edit: i will admit though, my situation isn't universal. if someone is really broken up about their thing, maybe posting it on a forum designed to make people laugh isn't the best idea.

Oct 16, 2009#58

ZenMonkey

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Charlie Dont Surf said:
I want to have sex with every woman on the boards. Except Zen and Ame.

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I'm not sure if not being desired counts as a personal attack

I'm not sure if I'm relieved or insulted.

Oct 16, 2009#59

Adammon

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ZenMonkey;276389][quote=Charlie Dont Surf said:
I want to have sex with every woman on the boards. Except Zen and Ame.

Click to expand...

I'm not sure if not being desired counts as a personal attack

I'm not sure if I'm relieved or insulted.[/QUOTE]

Are you over 14? Is so, relieved. If not, insulted.

I may have that backwards though :/

Oct 16, 2009#60

Wasabi Poptart

HF Anonymous Confessions

Charlie Dont Surf said:
I want to have sex with every woman on the boards. Except Zen and Ame.

Click to expand...

I'm not sure if not being desired counts as a personal attack

That's a little creepy, IMO.

Oct 16, 2009#61

Gurpel

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edit: alright i think i see what is going on here.

Oct 16, 2009#62

The Lovely Boehner

HF Anonymous Confessions

Please don't kill yourself.

Oct 16, 2009#63

Gurpel

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ElJuski said:
as expected, Halforum takes a cute little bunny of an idea and smashes its pretty face in.

Oct 16, 2009#64

The Lovely Boehner

HF Anonymous Confessions

I think I might be bisexual. I began to realize this when I stopped looking at lesbian porn and instead observed girls sucking guys off, and suddenly felt that I wouldn’t mind being in either party’s position. I’m not sure what to make of this, because I have spent my entire life lusting after girls, only to find myself suddenly seeing guys in a new light. To be honest, it makes me nervous, especially now when I see a good looking guy, because I have no idea how to tell if someone is gay. Also, considering what the reactions would probably be if I told relatives IRL, I'm probably better off just sticking to girls at the moment.

You're not better off lying to yourself about who you are because you're nervous what others think. Haters gonna hate. Don't let others' small-mindedness and bigotry keep you from being who you are.

Also, I'm probably not gonna be able to cover the night shift. If anyone else wants to take over, IM me or say so here, hopefully you'll get me before I'm gone. If not, then I'll post a big batch tomorrow morning/whenever I'm back. G'nite!

Oct 16, 2009#65

Tinwhistler

HF Anonymous Confessions

drawn_inward;276091][quote=Tinwhistler said:
I don't think I've kept any real secrets. My life's mostly an open book.

There's a chinese philosophy that goes something like this:
If there is a thing that you do not wish others to know that you have done, do not do it.

But, seriously, nice idea.[/QUOTE]

Well, my philosophy is not exactly "don't do anything you don't want your mom to know about" and more like "learn not to give a shit what your mom thinks about the kinky shit you do"

Oct 16, 2009#66

crono1224

HF Anonymous Confessions

Charlie Dont Surf said:
I think I might be bisexual. I began to realize this when I stopped looking at lesbian porn and instead observed girls sucking guys off, and suddenly felt that I wouldn’t mind being in either party’s position. I’m not sure what to make of this, because I have spent my entire life lusting after girls, only to find myself suddenly seeing guys in a new light. To be honest, it makes me nervous, especially now when I see a good looking guy, because I have no idea how to tell if someone is gay. Also, considering what the reactions would probably be if I told relatives IRL, I'm probably better off just sticking to girls at the moment.

Click to expand...

And the line blurs even farther between sexuality, Just thinking that something is hot or attractive may not be a core requirement for that sexuality. I tend to think of kissing as more intimant so for me I would ask if they wanted to kiss and be physically close with the person rather than watch porn or lust over them?

Oct 16, 2009#67

Shegokigo

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I was really enjoying this thread, before people started being idiots about it.

I've never understood the point of "internet lying" as it's just a bunch of anonymous people for the most part. Unless you're an immature child who thinks that other people's online opinion of them holds any weight.

Being honest online is one of the best things I like about posting on the forum or talking to people in general. Those come down on me for being "a persona" are the exact kind of people who just don't "get it" about being online.

I hope others continue to submit their online confessions, it really does make for interesting reads.

Oct 16, 2009#68

Krisken

HF Anonymous Confessions

ZenMonkey said:
I think ZenMonkey is pretty cool and would like to chat with her and be internet buds, but I'm pretty sure she hates me.

Click to expand...

It's true. I totally, totally hate you.

It wasn't me, though it could have been. Love the video. One of my favorite scenes from that movie (not sure why other than Madeline Kahn is brilliant).

Oct 17, 2009#69

ZenMonkey

HF Anonymous Confessions

Krisken said:
It wasn't me, though it could have been.

Pfft, you have no reason to believe I hate you. And seriously, to whoever thinks I do, try me. If we don't become buds at least we can clear up this idea that I hate you.

(Unless it's...you. Yes, you know who I'm talking about. In which case I do hate you and fuck off.)

Krisken said:
Love the video. One of my favorite scenes from that movie (not sure why other than Madeline Kahn is brilliant).

Does there even need to be another reason? That clip never ever fails to make me laugh, even when I post it because I'm for real hating on something or someone.

Oct 17, 2009#70

Jay

HF Anonymous Confessions

(Unless it's...you. Yes, you know who I'm talking about. In which case I do hate you and fuck off.)

Oct 17, 2009#71

Krisken

HF Anonymous Confessions

ZenMonkey;276551][quote=Krisken said:
It wasn't me, though it could have been.

Pfft, you have no reason to believe I hate you.
[/QUOTE]
It's probably me reading between lines words that aren't there. I really need to not do crazy stuff like that!

As for that scene- I laugh every time. Someone always looks at me funny when I do, too.

Oct 17, 2009#72

Gusto

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Oct 17, 2009#73

ZenMonkey

HF Anonymous Confessions

Krisken said:
It's probably me reading between lines words that aren't there. I really need to not do crazy stuff like that!

You were serious? Dude. I don't hate you. Not even close.

Now Jay and Gusto, though...

Oct 17, 2009#74

Cajungal

HF Anonymous Confessions

Freakin awesome idea. I'll have to start thinkin'.

I propose one rule: Don't guess whose secrets are whose.

Oct 17, 2009#75

Shegokigo

HF Anonymous Confessions

The best secrets are the ones you don't have to think about, but rather, have been gnawing at your conscious for years and just waiting for an outlet.....

Oct 17, 2009#76

Frankie Williamson

HF Anonymous Confessions

I guess the one I sent was deemed not to be real.

Oct 17, 2009#77

AshburnerX

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Frankie said:
I guess the one I sent was deemed not to be real.

Or it could just be that no one with access to the account is awake. It's 4:46am where I'm at and it's clearly going to be earlier in the central and western parts of the US. Give them until the morning.

Oct 17, 2009#78

Frankie Williamson

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I sent it shortly after the thread was started.

Oct 17, 2009#79

GeneralOrder24

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Shegokigo said:
I was really enjoying this thread, before people started being idiots about it.

Yep, I enjoyed the first post, too.

Oct 17, 2009#80

The Lovely Boehner

HF Anonymous Confessions

Goooooooooooood morning vieeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeet-halforums

I often think that all the emotional pain and mental anguish I've had to deal with in my life has stunted my growth into an adult. I know overcoming ordeals is supposed to make you stronger as a person, but I can't seem to let go of all the pain in my life, even though I feel that doing it would help me move on in my life. It feels like the Pain is all I have and if I let it go, I'll have nothing. I just don't know what to do anymore... I always feel worthless and anything that I DO accomplish just makes me feel hollow, like I should have been able to do it much sooner.

While I respect the quality of the movie, I do not like the Godfather.

*struggling not to say anything*

I have forgotten how to speak in sign language.

Every so often, I wish I was gay. One of my best friends of all time is a homosexual man, and we get along so well. I love him more than most other human beings I've ever known.

But every so often, when I try to think of him romantically, or sexually, it just doesn't go. I can't do it. And I'm fine that I could never go there. I don't feel bad for being straight, but it feels like we would have the fairytale relationship, if only I could think of him that way.

I want to see if a seriously deep dicking will turn Shego straight.

ugh.

I'm tired. I can't remember the last time I wasn't tired. And I'm scared of the world ahead. Its bleak and empty, odds are I'll be a paper pusher all my life, my life will amount to nothing. Just another link in the chain of bureaucracy.
I'm so tired, but I'm holding out. I just don't know why for.

I feel the same way some times.

I miss Chaz a bit. We didn't agree much, but I actually enjoyed reading his posts most of the time.

I can never fathom how people justify being such DICKS to each other. Or how they can somehow feel justified enough to defend their dickishness.

It's as though the untold millenia worth of philosophers and religious figures were all for naught.

I'm a Christian. I believe that the purpose of life involves serving God.

But during my long philosophical musings, I sometimes wonder if we've slightly overestimated God's power. If He were the tiniest bit less than omnipotent, everything would make so much more sense.

Oct 17, 2009#81

Shegokigo

HF Anonymous Confessions

I'm gonna say kudos to Charlie though, he does make a good secret teller when he tries.

Thanks for being "The Voice" Charlie. Oh, and you need to sleep more, it's like 5am over here!

Oct 17, 2009#82

The Lovely Boehner

HF Anonymous Confessions

Shegokigo said:
I'm gonna say kudos to Charlie though, he does make a good secret teller when he tries.

Thanks for being "The Voice" Charlie. Oh, and you need to sleep more, it's like 5am over here!

shut up MOM

Oct 17, 2009#83

Shegokigo

HF Anonymous Confessions

Most frightening words you could have ever used against me.

On the other hand, I've slept 4hrs in the past 72. :twisted:

So who am I to demand others to sleep.

Oct 17, 2009#84

Gusto

HF Anonymous Confessions

I often think that all the emotional pain and mental anguish I've had to deal with in my life has stunted my growth into an adult. I know overcoming ordeals is supposed to make you stronger as a person, but I can't seem to let go of all the pain in my life, even though I feel that doing it would help me move on in my life. It feels like the Pain is all I have and if I let it go, I'll have nothing. I just don't know what to do anymore... I always feel worthless and anything that I DO accomplish just makes me feel hollow, like I should have been able to do it much sooner.

While I respect the quality of the movie, I do not like the Godfather.

I have forgotten how to speak in sign language.

Every so often, I wish I was gay. One of my best friends of all time is a homosexual man, and we get along so well. I love him more than most other human beings I've ever known.

But every so often, when I try to think of him romantically, or sexually, it just doesn't go. I can't do it. And I'm fine that I could never go there. I don't feel bad for being straight, but it feels like we would have the fairytale relationship, if only I could think of him that way.

I'm tired. I can't remember the last time I wasn't tired. And I'm scared of the world ahead. Its bleak and empty, odds are I'll be a paper pusher all my life, my life will amount to nothing. Just another link in the chain of bureaucracy.
I'm so tired, but I'm holding out. I just don't know why for.

I miss Chaz a bit. We didn't agree much, but I actually enjoyed reading his posts most of the time.

I miss him too.

I can never fathom how people justify being such DICKS to each other. Or how they can somehow feel justified enough to defend their dickishness.

It's as though the untold millenia worth of philosophers and religious figures were all for naught.

I'm a Christian. I believe that the purpose of life involves serving God.

But during my long philosophical musings, I sometimes wonder if we've slightly overestimated God's power. If He were the tiniest bit less than omnipotent, everything would make so much more sense.

I wonder if I fucked myself over with this whole 'love and devotion' thing. I think I may have missed the boat on doing that one thing that would have made supremely happy but now I'm stuck in a spot where I'm happy sometimes just not in what I'm doing.

There's no way out either. No way I can easily do the things that would make me feel more complete.

I actually hate a friend of mine because they are living my dream right now.

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Glad to see this is picking up. Will check the box again when I get home from work, but Chucky D might take over for me again.

PEACE

Oct 17, 2009#85

The Lovely Boehner

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Gusto said:
Glad to see this is picking up. Will check the box again when I get home from work, but Chucky D might take over for me again.

PEACE

I JUST POSTED MOST OF THESE

NON-ANONYMOUS SECRET- FUCK GUSTO

Oct 17, 2009#86

Gusto

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Sorry Chuck. I completely didn't see the third paaaaaaaage.

Oct 17, 2009#87

Hailey Knight

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Shegokigo said:
I've never understood the point of "internet lying" as it's just a bunch of anonymous people for the most part. Unless you're an immature child who thinks that other people's online opinion of them holds any weight.

Being honest online is one of the best things I like about posting on the forum or talking to people in general. Those come down on me for being "a persona" are the exact kind of people who just don't "get it" about being online.

This.

Shegokigo said:
The best secrets are the ones you don't have to think about, but rather, have been gnawing at your conscious for years and just waiting for an outlet.....

And this! Damn, Shego's just full of being right.

Confessions should be an issue of peace with yourself and no one else. Anything you'd feel the need to hide even on the internet would probably qualify. I'm fairly open.

Oct 17, 2009#88

Krisken

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ZenMonkey;276579][quote=Krisken said:
It's probably me reading between lines words that aren't there. I really need to not do crazy stuff like that!

You were serious? Dude. I don't hate you. Not even close.

Now Jay and Gusto, though...[/QUOTE]
Heh, just me being the dumb insecure dork at heart.

Now those two you have to keep an eye on. :spy: :ninja:

Oct 17, 2009#89

SeraRelm

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I sometimes wonder if my family was right about me and it erodes at my self esteem.

Fuck anonymity.

Oct 17, 2009#90

Cajungal

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Finally thought of one worth mentioning.

Oct 17, 2009#91

Shegokigo

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SeraRelm said:
I sometimes wonder if my family was right about me and it erodes at my self esteem.

Fuck anonymity.

Sorry to hear it Sera, it's the exact opposite that keeps me going at times.

Oct 17, 2009#92

Frankie Williamson

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Gusto said:
I once stole 200 dollars from my best friend while she was away. I did it because I needed some extra spending money.

Click to expand...

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Yeah, eff anonymity. This one is me.

I'm eternally ashamed of it.

Oct 17, 2009#93

Shegokigo

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A ressurection of the original style of confession threads? Now those were really interesting! :uhhuh:

Oct 17, 2009#94

Hailey Knight

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SeraRelm said:
I sometimes wonder if my family was right about me and it erodes at my self esteem.

Fuck anonymity.

They're not.

*hugs*

Oct 17, 2009#95

Espy

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No need for anonymity: Living through my wife being on two deployments was honestly, the second hardest thing I have ever had to do and it was a daily struggle to not be extremely depressed. Oddly enough, this place helped way more than anyone might think...

Oct 17, 2009#96

Hailey Knight

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I think Halforums helps more than many people like to admit, including that one person whose confession was that s/he hates the people here or reading about us makes them feel better about themselves 'cause we all suck, blah blah blah.

Oct 17, 2009#97

Alucard

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I usually read threads than post in them hence why I'm not on the 'in group' with you guys including the last forum before we all moved from there to here.

I've got nothing to hide feel free to ask me any questions if this is the thread to do it in or another one.

Oct 17, 2009#98

ThatGrinningIdiot!

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No one will have my golden, delicious eg . . . shit, I mean secrets.

Oct 17, 2009#99

Alucard

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wait you poop out golden eggs?

Oct 17, 2009#100

ThatGrinningIdiot!

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BlackCat said:
wait you poop out golden eggs?

*sigh*

I might as well confess, I have a hen that defecates solid golden eggs.

Oct 17, 2009#101

Nile

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I'm purposefully destroying myself, and while I know that isn't good, I don't care enough to do anything about it.

Yeah... Who knows, it might help to talk about it. Already anonymous on the internet, so what's the point?

There is a part of me that realizes that what I'm doing is self-destructive, but... it's just white noise on the edge of my consciousness. I'm in college for another 7 years, and then, 80 years after that, I'll be in a box in the ground. So what does it matter if I make some bad decisions now? In the end, it's all the same, and it's easier to just let it go.

Oct 17, 2009#102

Iaculus

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BlackCat said:
wait you poop out golden eggs?

You mean you don't?

Oct 17, 2009#103

Gusto

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I don't think I'll ever be a great writer. I'm happy, and I feel like that gets in my way somehow. My technique is excellent, but my words seem untrue. I don't know what to do. I wish I could say I wrote only for me (it is mostly for me) but the truth is I care. I want people to read what I've written and enjoy it in some way... laugh, cry, or find a simple moment of peace or enjoyment.

But I truly believe that it will never, ever happen for me.

I've been in love with one of my best friends since high school. I've told her how I feel but she doesn't feel the same way and just wants to be friends. It kills me on the inside because I have never met anyone else who is as cool, funny, and smart as she is and it makes me feel like I will be alone for the rest of my life.

I've had this too. And I thought it would never end until I fell in love with someone else.

I have an crush on a certain non-USA citizen here. He's sweet and warm. He reminds me of someone from years ago.

D'awwww.

Oct 17, 2009#104

Alucard

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We should create who has a crush on whom thread on fellow forumites here

Oct 17, 2009#105

Gusto

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That'll get outta hand REAL quick.

Oct 17, 2009#106

Alucard

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Well it'll create some real drama haha plus I'll bring popcorn

Oct 17, 2009#107

Kitty Sinatra

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I have a crush on the dudes from 300.

Wait, no I don't. I have a crush on Bubble. He looks nothing like those Spartans.

Oct 17, 2009#108

ZenMonkey

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Here's a non-anonymous confession.

I often wish my dad would just drop dead. Painlessly, in his sleep, if possible. I would rather have my inheritance and some grief than the constant emotional trauma.

I'm not at all proud of this. (And any well meaning forumites with advice: thanks, but don't bother. It's all been tried for years, it's all failed, the whole family's given up.)

Oct 17, 2009#109

Hailey Knight

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I got a couple people on here whose dads should die.

Oct 17, 2009#110

The Lovely Boehner

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ZenMonkey said:
Here's a non-anonymous confession.

I often wish my dad would just drop dead. Painlessly, in his sleep, if possible. I would rather have my inheritance and some grief than the constant emotional trauma

I could/ and considered sending in this exact same secret.

Oct 17, 2009#111

Wasabi Poptart

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ZenMonkey said:
Here's a non-anonymous confession.

I often wish my dad would just drop dead. Painlessly, in his sleep, if possible. I would rather have my inheritance and some grief than the constant emotional trauma.

I'm not at all proud of this. (And any well meaning forumites with advice: thanks, but don't bother. It's all been tried for years, it's all failed, the whole family's given up.)

I wish I could kick your dad's ass.

Oct 17, 2009#112

ZenMonkey

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Frau VildSoul said:
I wish I could kick your dad's ass.

You and Mr ZM. *hug* Thanks.

Oct 17, 2009#113

Wasabi Poptart

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Espy said:
No need for anonymity: Living through my wife being on two deployments was honestly, the second hardest thing I have ever had to do and it was a daily struggle to not be extremely depressed. Oddly enough, this place helped way more than anyone might think...

I don't think it's odd at all. I started over at the HP forum because I was bored while my husband was away. At least you have people to "talk" to who share your interests. It does help the time go by.

Oct 17, 2009#114

Gusto

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I have two:

1) I think my family thinks I'm something of a monster. I was in a frowned upon relationship, nothing illegal, but certainly unusual. My brother made a joke about it in front of guests at a get together once and so I know that's just what he sees when he looks at me.

2) I sometimes question my own sexuality. I sometimes find myself wondering into shemale sections of porn sites. I know there's nothing wrong with that, but it's new to me because I'd think I should have a grasp on this by now.

Oct 17, 2009#115

Gusto

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During my worst depression four years ago (it has become an annual thing, but I can manage it now) I found out that my mother was worrying about me. She had consulted a local witch who had held rituals for me and sent a concoction for me to drink. Because of my great respect and love for my parents I went through with it, but I have silently judged my mother for her superstition ever since.

Oct 17, 2009#116

North_Ranger

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I don't think it's any use going all anonymous. If and when I want to confess something, I do it for humour value, to vent or because I seek to improve myself.

So here's a couple of mine:
- I have plenty of gas, so whenever I know there's no one around to hear, I either fart or burp.
- I have been procrastinating with my MA thesis for way too long. Always with the mañana mentality, and always worried that whenever I have written down all I want to write down, it's either going to be complete crap or too short.
- I turned down a chance to substitute for two weeks because I was scared. It's been far too long since my last actual teaching gig, and I was afraid I would make a complete fool of myself.
- Obligatory manbawww: sometimes I fear I will live and die alone and unloved, that because I fear of being so deeply hurt again I've wasted my chance for love.
- I think my brother and his wife are being idiots for continuing a feud with our sister and her family for no good reason. They have practically cut all contact to our side of the family; his wife even insisted on leaving early the one time they came to a family event, and that was grandma's funeral. I seriously think she is acting like a whiny little bitch.
- I definitely need to lose weight. Surprise surprise...

Oct 18, 2009#117

Cajungal

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North_Ranger said:
I definitely need to lose weight. Surprise surprise...

Oct 18, 2009#118

AshburnerX

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Cajungal;277261][quote=North_Ranger said:
I definitely need to lose weight. Surprise surprise...

Oct 18, 2009#119

Silver Jelly

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AshburnerX;277263][quote=Cajungal;277261][quote=North_Ranger said:
I definitely need to lose weight. Surprise surprise...

I'll hop on that non-anonymous confession train too. After 2 years of work I'm still teh chubbs.

Also, I really need to break the habit of tearing my bangs out when I'm stressed. I have 2 little bald spots because it. You can see em in some of my pictures.[/QUOTE]

I've lost a bit of weight in the last year and half, so I'm happy. Really though, I know I'll never been back down to a XL. I've seen everyone else in my family, even looking back a few generations... it is NOT in my DNA. I just want to get back to 2X so I can fucking buy stuff off the rack again without having to spend hours looking for something that will fit.[/QUOTE]

I'm on my all time highest weight. 103 kg.

3 years ago I was 86ish...

It atually depresses me right now to watch me in a mirror, if I look below my neck. I like my face, though, and some recent surgery to help my baldness is making me feel almost handsome faced (I just have a little too much cheek-filling ¬¬)

Oct 18, 2009#120

Wasabi Poptart

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I'd like to lose about 50 pounds. That would get me down to about a size 10 which I looked fabulous in. Right now, I'm just happy I lost all of the baby weight already.

Oct 18, 2009#121

Chippy

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Admittedly, there are times when I'm NOT awesome.

Shocking, I know.

Oct 18, 2009#122

Kitty Sinatra

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I'd like to lose my beer gut, then gain a few pounds of good weight. What I really need to do is get into a steady exercise routine but I'm too smurfing lazy

Oct 18, 2009#123

Cajungal

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Sorry, Gusto, I momentarily transformed your thread into the "I'm chubby" thread... >.<

Oct 18, 2009#124

Dave

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I have nothing to add. My life is pretty open.

Oct 18, 2009#125

Shegokigo

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Dave said:
I have nothing to add. My life is pretty open.

And we love you for it Dave.

Oct 18, 2009#126

Dave

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Shegokigo;277325][quote=Dave said:
I have nothing to add. My life is pretty open.

And we love you for it Dave.

[/QUOTE]

Shouldn't that be in our crushes thread?

Oct 18, 2009#127

Allen, who is Quiet

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the crushes thread would be for asking somebody to tell ed i'd rondol her

Oct 18, 2009#128

Steven Soderburgin

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While I respect the quality of the movie, I do not like the Godfather.

UGH philistine.

but seriously, I'd love to discuss the film with you and hear what you don't like about it.

Every so often, I wish I was gay. One of my best friends of all time is a homosexual man, and we get along so well. I love him more than most other human beings I've ever known.

But every so often, when I try to think of him romantically, or sexually, it just doesn't go. I can't do it. And I'm fine that I could never go there. I don't feel bad for being straight, but it feels like we would have the fairytale relationship, if only I could think of him that way.

That's gotta be awkward! Just remember that even though you aren't romantically or sexually attracted to him, you can and do still love him dearly. Be sure to appreciate his friendship and show him how much you appreciate him being part of your life, and I'm sure you'll be fine.

Oct 18, 2009#129

Kitty Sinatra

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Allen said:
the crushes thread would be for asking somebody to tell ed i'd rondol her if she wasn't so old

ftfy

Oct 18, 2009#130

Allen, who is Quiet

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I guess grue would give ed a mighty rondoling if he wasn't afraid of breaking her hip

Oct 18, 2009#131

Kitty Sinatra

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ayup

Oct 18, 2009#132

Gusto

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MOAR :Leyla:

Oct 18, 2009#133

Silver Jelly

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This is not anonymous: I feel both very happy and envious that my little brother seems to finally have some kind of pre-girlfriend.

Wich is strange, though, as he is quite a heart breaking stylish handsome youngster. He simply used to prefer the hummingbird approach.

Oct 18, 2009#134

ThatGrinningIdiot!

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Gusto said:
MOAR

Well, I don't need anonymity, I was in jail for two and a half weeks in the summer.
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KIDS, don't break the law, jail is boring. <---- not directed towards anyone here, just being a joker.

Oct 18, 2009#135

ElJuski

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Charlie Dont Surf;276885][quote=ZenMonkey said:
Here's a non-anonymous confession.

I often wish my dad would just drop dead. Painlessly, in his sleep, if possible. I would rather have my inheritance and some grief than the constant emotional trauma

I could/ and considered sending in this exact same secret.[/QUOTE]

A-yup. Well, I wouldn't think he should have a painful death. But I hope guilt overtakes his heart every night for the wreck he left behind.

But then again I doubt he feels guilty, to this day >: |

Oct 18, 2009#136

Calleja

i have a non-anonymous confession... I'm pretty sure I'm still in love with the exex, whom I haven't seen or even spoken with in about 3 years now. I've had one other serious relationship since, but I'm pretty sure it didn't work out cause she just couldn't compare to her predecessor in my head.

I'm scared to death that I'll never really love anyone as much as I loved her.

Oct 18, 2009#137

Singularity.EXE

Non-anonymous confession for me as well.

I really want to drop out of college. The whole experience is miserable, and I don't want to do it anymore. I'm supposed to be writing my essay now but I just can't. Every time I sit down to write I Just freak out and then go off to do something else.

And I know I shouldn't, and I probably won't drop out. But GODDAMN am sick of this. And my degree is utterly worthless too. Who gives a shit about a B.A in English Writing?

I just want to be done with this period of my life and move on.

Oct 18, 2009#138

The Lovely Boehner

having a degree in whistle-crafting is better than not, dude. It opens a lot of doors and often can literally result in getting paid more to do the same job.

Oct 18, 2009#139

Shegokigo

Quick question, why'd you remove your earlier confession Charlie?

Oct 18, 2009#140

Rob King

Whenever I see this thread, I wish I had something to contribute, but most of my confessions seem more appropriate for the Rant! or Random thread.

I'll contribute if I think of anything appropriate, but I just wanted to support this thread, also.

Oct 18, 2009#141

The Lovely Boehner

Shegokigo said:
Quick question, why'd you remove your earlier confession Charlie?

eh, it was a drunk post and felt kind of stupid/attention whore-y or something to post like that.

Oct 18, 2009#142

Kitty Sinatra

Singularity.EXE said:
And my degree is utterly worthless too. Who gives a shit about a B.A in English Writing?

that BA should be enough to move on to an MBA if you so choose, and that'll net you some sweet ass jobs wrecking the economy while you profit.

Oct 18, 2009#143

ncts_dodge_man

Singularity.EXE said:
Non-anonymous confession for me as well.

I really want to drop out of college. The whole experience is miserable, and I don't want to do it anymore. I'm supposed to be writing my essay now but I just can't. Every time I sit down to write I Just freak out and then go off to do something else.

And I know I shouldn't, and I probably won't drop out. But GODDAMN am sick of this. And my degree is utterly worthless too. Who gives a shit about a B.A in English Writing?

I just want to be done with this period of my life and move on.

Having that piece of paper that says you may know something about what you studied is a good thing to have - even if it's something you may not totally like. My former manager had an English degree yet he did IT Network Support - companies like the fact that you have that piece of paper - looks "good" to the corporate types.

An example of how it can hurt you to not have a degree anymore - my dad, who went to work right out of high school, went for 21 months (back in the early 2000's) without a job after getting laid off - lots of companies wouldn't even talk to him because of not having that piece of paper, even though his experience more than made up for that lack of knowledge (he found this out through friends).

The second biggest thing that helps you out with getting jobs (esp. in this market) is knowing people, but that's besides my point above.

Oct 18, 2009#144

Hailey Knight

Singularity.EXE said:
Non-anonymous confession for me as well.

I really want to drop out of college. The whole experience is miserable, and I don't want to do it anymore. I'm supposed to be writing my essay now but I just can't. Every time I sit down to write I Just freak out and then go off to do something else.

And I know I shouldn't, and I probably won't drop out. But GODDAMN am sick of this. And my degree is utterly worthless too. Who gives a shit about a B.A in English Writing?

I just want to be done with this period of my life and move on.

Editing. You're in good for editing. I have an English major and it's the field I was picked up in.

Oct 18, 2009#145

ElJuski

My english degree is basically tacked up against my wall, but it's not completely useless. Just get your degree. Even if it is like a highschool diploma in this day and age.

---------- Post added at 01:37 AM ---------- Previous post was at 01:37 AM ----------

that said, hopefully the economy picks up so us B.A. carrying middle-men can get employed at offices again for having "people skills".

Oct 19, 2009#146

Gusto

I was 16, and I didn't want to take responsibility for my unborn child. We decided to get an abortion, even though I had always been against them. I regret it every day, and I'd do almost anything to go back and do it differently, but assholes who spout pro-life bullshit without having been in that situation themselves really piss me off.

Oct 19, 2009#147

North_Ranger

Should I be surprised that the Google Ads for this page show up as "Interracial Gay Dating"?

Oct 19, 2009#148

Morgoth

ElJuski said:
My english degree is basically tacked up against my wall, but it's not completely useless. Just get your degree. Even if it is like a highschool diploma in this day and age.

---------- Post added at 01:37 AM ---------- Previous post was at 01:37 AM ----------

that said, hopefully the economy picks up so us B.A. carrying middle-men can get employed at offices again for having "people skills".

It seems like he hates doing what he's doing. Why pressure yourself through that? He really sounds like he's trapped in his own life.

Oct 19, 2009#149

Shegokigo

North_Ranger said:
Should I be surprised that the Google Ads for this page show up as "Interracial Gay Dating"?

Perhaps it's time you came clean with your confession? :slywink:

Oct 19, 2009#150

ElJuski

Morgoth;277723][quote=ElJuski said:
My english degree is basically tacked up against my wall, but it's not completely useless. Just get your degree. Even if it is like a highschool diploma in this day and age.

---------- Post added at 01:37 AM ---------- Previous post was at 01:37 AM ----------

that said, hopefully the economy picks up so us B.A. carrying middle-men can get employed at offices again for having "people skills".

It seems like he hates doing what he's doing. Why pressure yourself through that? He really sounds like he's trapped in his own life.[/QUOTE]

No, it seems like he's burnt out with the college workload. There's a slight difference.

Oct 19, 2009#151

North_Ranger

Shegokigo;277727][quote=North_Ranger said:
Should I be surprised that the Google Ads for this page show up as "Interracial Gay Dating"?

Perhaps it's time you came clean with your confession? :slywink:[/QUOTE]

Naaaah... But I will meet you halfway. I wouldn't mind dating a beautiful African or Asian woman. Latina, too, but that isn't interracial, isn't it? More like intercultural...

Oct 19, 2009#152

Shegokigo

I got a confession I can post here without too much issue/coming back at me:

Sometimes I wonder if I'm going to make anything of myself. I'm 28, nearly 30, and I have nothing to show for it careerwise. I have no college hours, but to be honest I have no drive/motivation to actually go to college. I was one of those students with a high IQ and amazing test scores, but my day to day grades were shit because I could never give a damn enough to actually do my schoolwork. Hell, I didn't even graduate HS and ended up getting a GED.

Right now my current goal is to get into Chefing after my GF finishes her teaching degree, moving to a larger city nearby and attending Culinary School. I figure I can get though that, spend a few years Chefing before attempting my real goal career, being a Food Critic. While I know I'll never get rich doing it, it's truly my dream job and the one I'd like to do till the day I keel over a fine meal.

Problem is, I have trouble with motivation at times and worry that perhaps I'll lose motivation partway through my path to my goal, lose my way, and end up at temporary jobs till I'm 50. Or that I'm already too old to really get into the profession at a young enough age.

Oct 19, 2009#153

HowDroll

Gusto said:
I was 16, and I didn't want to take responsibility for my unborn child. We decided to get an abortion, even though I had always been against them. I regret it every day, and I'd do almost anything to go back and do it differently, but assholes who spout pro-life bullshit without having been in that situation themselves really piss me off.

Click to expand...

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In b4 shitstorm.

Oct 19, 2009#154

Allen, who is Quiet

Shegokigo said:
Problem is, I have trouble with motivation at times and worry that perhaps I'll lose motivation partway through my path to my goal, lose my way, and end up at temporary jobs till I'm 50. Or that I'm already too old to really get into the profession at a young enough age.

Well, you have people who want to see you succeed, both here and probably in real life. I mean, look at how people here try to beat somebody into shape if they come with problems re: school or romance or seeking employment.

Even though a lot of people may not say anything, I'm sure there are quite a few of us who want to see people we know, like you, succeed. So give it a try.

Besides, that's putting the cart before the horse. Get into culinary school first, then worry about being motivated.

Oct 19, 2009#155

MindDetective

Here's another confession related to my last one. The people at my current job want me to stay, hoping I'll apply for the permanent position when (if) they get it approved. I'll apply, but I really, really hope that I get a job offer somewhere else. I'm ready to move.

Oct 19, 2009#156

Hylian

Here is one that I don't mind if people know who posted it.

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I hate crowds and I usually have a contempt towards most strangers I see walking past me. Heck even some people I have known for years I secretly hold in contempt. I know it's wrong but for some reason I can never shake the feeling. I just view humanity as a whole as a usually nothing more than a bunch of kids mindlessly bickering. Heck even at times I despise myself cause I know that I really am not any better than most of the people that I look down on especially not if I constantly see people in that light. Now I do like people but at the same time I dislike them. I try not to look at the general populace like that and there is a good chance that they are good people. I think the main thing is that I have seen people hurt me and hurt my family and I feel better just assuming the worst about them. Now I don't feel that way all the time but there are times when I just can't help but feel that way.

Oct 19, 2009#157

Shegokigo

HowDroll;277800][quote=Gusto said:
I was 16, and I didn't want to take responsibility for my unborn child. We decided to get an abortion, even though I had always been against them. I regret it every day, and I'd do almost anything to go back and do it differently, but assholes who spout pro-life bullshit without having been in that situation themselves really piss me off.

Click to expand...

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In b4 shitstorm.[/QUOTE]

*shrug*

My ex had an abortion before we got together. Never really affected her as much, though I'm sure she kept most of anything about it that bothered her to herself.

I can say that the person who made this confession is right. If you're Pro-Life, that's fine, but don't yell at someone who's gone through the process when you have no ground to stand on (vs them anyway).

Oct 19, 2009#158

Morgoth

Shegokigo;277825][quote=HowDroll;277800][quote=Gusto said:
I was 16, and I didn't want to take responsibility for my unborn child. We decided to get an abortion, even though I had always been against them. I regret it every day, and I'd do almost anything to go back and do it differently, but assholes who spout pro-life bullshit without having been in that situation themselves really piss me off.

Click to expand...

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In b4 shitstorm.[/quote]

*shrug*

My ex had an abortion before we got together. Never really affected her as much, though I'm sure she kept most of anything about it that bothered her to herself.

I can say that the person who made this confession is right. If you're Pro-Life, that's fine, but don't yell at someone who's gone through the process when you have no ground to stand on (vs them anyway).[/QUOTE]

I am Pro-Choice for society and Pro-Life personally.

Oct 19, 2009#159

Denbrought

Morgoth said:
I am Pro-Choice for society and Pro-Life personally.

So you... choose... to not abort.

Oct 19, 2009#160

Steven Soderburgin

I was 16, and I didn't want to take responsibility for my unborn child. We decided to get an abortion, even though I had always been against them. I regret it every day, and I'd do almost anything to go back and do it differently, but assholes who spout pro-life bullshit without having been in that situation themselves really piss me off.

Hey, person. I'm sorry that you had to make that tough decision, but you probably made the right one. I have never had to make that decision, and as a male, I'll never personally go through this, but I do know people who have, and it's always tough. I'm glad that the resources were available for you to be able to make the choice.

Have you considered seeing a counselor or therapist about your regret and grief? It might be something to consider. But be strong, and know that when you choose to have a child, you will be in a much better position to give it the life that it deserves.

Oct 19, 2009#161

Morgoth

Denbrought;277830][quote=Morgoth said:
I am Pro-Choice for society and Pro-Life personally.

So you... choose... to not abort.[/QUOTE]

I'm officially a Pro-Choice person, meaning that I don't think that abortions should be outlawed and all that jazz.

Personally, I'm Pro-Life, meaning if I were to knock up my wife for a third time, we'd keep the baby, despite it possibly being hard on us financially.

Oct 19, 2009#162

Shegokigo

I thought of another one, a bit on the "bawww" side:

I'm actually afraid I love my GF. All this time I was in it for the "ease of life" that being with her provided. Life was easy for me, I never worried about much, I got everything I wanted out of it. The only times I wanted out, were times where I focused on, what now seems, insignificant issues (oh my god, she's not a gamer/sci-fi geek).

Recently I had a chance to experience life without her for a few days, and even get to date Gamer/SciFi girls..... I didn't do it. I spent 5 days away from her and was ornery the entire time. I got home and we almost split up.... from HER side. I actually found myself fighting the rest of the night for her to STAY. It was so surreal. I felt like I was watching myself do it all. I realized at that point, there WAS something there. Something I couldn't pinpoint or describe with words, but when it came down to it, I didn't want to be apart from her....

Oct 19, 2009#163

Dave

Shegokigo said:
I thought of another one, a bit on the "bawww" side:

I'm actually afraid I love my GF. All this time I was in it for the "ease of life" that being with her provided. Life was easy for me, I never worried about much, I got everything I wanted out of it. The only times I wanted out, were times where I focused on, what now seems, insignificant issues (oh my god, she's not a gamer/sci-fi geek).

Recently I had a chance to experience life without her for a few days, and even get to date Gamer/SciFi girls..... I didn't do it. I spent 5 days away from her and was ornery the entire time. I got home and we almost split up.... from HER side. I actually found myself fighting the rest of the night for her to STAY. It was so surreal. I felt like I was watching myself do it all. I realized at that point, there WAS something there. Something I couldn't pinpoint or describe with words, but when it came down to it, I didn't want to be apart from her....

And Shego's heart grew three sizes that day.

(Seriously, though, congrats!)

Oct 19, 2009#164

Silver Jelly

Shegokigo said:
I thought of another one, a bit on the "bawww" side:

I'm actually afraid I love my GF. All this time I was in it for the "ease of life" that being with her provided. Life was easy for me, I never worried about much, I got everything I wanted out of it. The only times I wanted out, were times where I focused on, what now seems, insignificant issues (oh my god, she's not a gamer/sci-fi geek).

Recently I had a chance to experience life without her for a few days, and even get to date Gamer/SciFi girls..... I didn't do it. I spent 5 days away from her and was ornery the entire time. I got home and we almost split up.... from HER side. I actually found myself fighting the rest of the night for her to STAY. It was so surreal. I felt like I was watching myself do it all. I realized at that point, there WAS something there. Something I couldn't pinpoint or describe with words, but when it came down to it, I didn't want to be apart from her....

But you didn't break up, did you??

Oct 19, 2009#165

Shegokigo

No, we're still together now, and she's happier than before. I on the other hand, am a bit "weirded out" by it.

I mean, she doesn't even "really" know me or understand me. Yet she loves me so intensely. (the whole reason she wanted to leave was because she didn't think I was in the relationship for the long haul and didn't think I wanted more than what we have, which at the time, she was right for calling me out on it)

I put on a mask in my day to day life, being what society deems "acceptable" behavior, even around her... the strange part is, pretending to be something different around her doesn't bother me the same way as doing it everywherelse.

Oct 19, 2009#166

Silver Jelly

Shegokigo said:
No, we're still together now, and she's happier than before. I on the other hand, am a bit "weirded out" by it.

I mean, she doesn't even "really" know me or understand me. Yet she loves me so intensely. (the whole reason she wanted to leave was because she didn't think I was in the relationship for the long haul and didn't think I wanted more than what we have, which at the time, she was right for calling me out on it)

I put on a mask in my day to day life, being what society deems "acceptable" behavior, even around her... the strange part is, pretending to be something different around her doesn't bother me the same way as doing it everywherelse.

Well, that's also part of love, isn't it? I say "Congratulations"!

Oct 19, 2009#167

Qonas

hylian said:
Here is one that I don't mind if people know who posted it.

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I hate crowds and I usually have a contempt towards most strangers I see walking past me. Heck even some people I have known for years I secretly hold in contempt. I know it's wrong but for some reason I can never shake the feeling. I just view humanity as a whole as a usually nothing more than a bunch of kids mindlessly bickering. Heck even at times I despise myself cause I know that I really am not any better than most of the people that I look down on especially not if I constantly see people in that light. Now I do like people but at the same time I dislike them. I try not to look at the general populace like that and there is a good chance that they are good people. I think the main thing is that I have seen people hurt me and hurt my family and I feel better just assuming the worst about them. Now I don't feel that way all the time but there are times when I just can't help but feel that way.

Right there with ya all the way on this one. I like people one-on-one, can handle being around a group of friends, but put me in a public place or surround me with a crowd and I turn into the most visibly angry misanthrope you could imagine. I hold a very, very dim view of humanity in general (kids bickering is good, I prefer kids whining "me-me-me!" and pushing each other over to be the one swinging on that last open swing on the playground). It's the old "a person is smart, people are dumb panicky animals" adage just taken to the next step.

Oct 19, 2009#168

Cajungal

I never correct people when they give me too much change, and that makes me feel guilty.

Oct 19, 2009#169

ThatGrinningIdiot!

Ya know Cajun, they might be giving you a tip, no need to feel bad.

Oct 19, 2009#170

Shegokigo

Cajungal said:
I never correct people when they give me too much change, and that makes me feel guilty.

I almost made more than my weekly paycheck doing that when I was a teller.

aranoid:

Oct 19, 2009#171

Silver Jelly

I sometimes can't help but feel that I completely depend on my parent's "contacts" to do stuff. It's not exactly like that, because I, for example, worked for almost a year in a newspaper by my own means (even if i also made myself fired with these same means and a little extra help form the economic recession), and have been considered an exceptional writer by both the teachers in the only scriptwriting course I've taken (one of them was one of the most important script doctors and screenwriters in the spanish speaking world though). I also finished my studies without any interventions by my parents...

But, of course, I got to study in a private university thanks to their money, I got a job (i'm on trial) screenwriting thanks to them, and some other minor or not so minor details during my still short career.

EDIT: Also, I have never had to work to live.

Oct 19, 2009#172

Gusto

I LOVED the Matrix sequels when they first came out. I bought them on DVD and their soundtracks and was a HUGE fan.

This has faded somewhat but I still go back and watch them every once in a while, in a secret way, like one might with pornography.

Oct 19, 2009#173

Dave

Silver Jelly said:
EDIT: Also, I have never had to work to live.

Confession: I seriously feel envy at people who can say things like this.

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Also, this one is old enough that I think I can say it now without looking like a total whore:

When I first started Halforum, I put myself in some pretty hefty debt. With the server move from SiteGrounds to Arvixe and the domain registration I was in the hole fairly deep. The donations that were given put me back to about even but I've been paying for the site month to month since then. I know I said that I paid for 2 years but I didn't want anyone to know where the money really went.

Oct 19, 2009#174

Morgoth

Gusto said:
I LOVED the Matrix sequels when they first came out. I bought them on DVD and their soundtracks and was a HUGE fan.

This has faded somewhat but I still go back and watch them every once in a while, in a secret way, like one might with pornography.

Click to expand...

Why is this an anonymous confession? My rational is that everyone who hated the Matrix sequels was just too dumb to get them. BOOYA! Take that Rotten Tomatoes!

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Shegokigo;277882][quote=Cajungal said:
I never correct people when they give me too much change, and that makes me feel guilty.

I almost made more than my weekly paycheck doing that when I was a teller.

aranoid:[/QUOTE]

I like your style. I'd do that kind of crap working at the grocery store, meaningless jobs while in high school through med school. For minimum wage, they're lucky I didn't let hobo's off the street and take what they wanted. I definitely take a Randal Grave's viewpoint on clerk positions.

Oct 19, 2009#175

ThatNickGuy

Dave said:
Also, this one is old enough that I think I can say it now without looking like a total whore:

When I first started Halforum, I put myself in some pretty hefty debt. With the server move from SiteGrounds to Arvixe and the domain registration I was in the hole fairly deep. The donations that were given put me back to about even but I've been paying for the site month to month since then. I know I said that I paid for 2 years but I didn't want anyone to know where the money really went.

Oct 19, 2009#176

SeraRelm

I feel as though I must confess, I stole Dave's daughter's iPod and camera. :eek:

Oct 19, 2009#177

Dave

SeraRelm said:
I feel as though I must confess, I stole Dave's daughter's iPod and camera.

And THIS is why I love Sera. That's a hell of a callback.

Oct 19, 2009#178

Gusto

Daaaaamn.

Oct 19, 2009#179

SeraRelm

HF Anonymous Confessions

Dave said:
Shouldn't that be in our crushes thread?

:toocool:

Oct 19, 2009#180

Gusto

That is an excellent confession, hylian.

OH WAIT :Leyla:

Oct 19, 2009#181

AshburnerX

Shegokigo said:
No, we're still together now, and she's happier than before. I on the other hand, am a bit "weirded out" by it.

I mean, she doesn't even "really" know me or understand me. Yet she loves me so intensely. (the whole reason she wanted to leave was because she didn't think I was in the relationship for the long haul and didn't think I wanted more than what we have, which at the time, she was right for calling me out on it)

I put on a mask in my day to day life, being what society deems "acceptable" behavior, even around her... the strange part is, pretending to be something different around her doesn't bother me the same way as doing it everywherelse.

Good to hear things are working out, even if your not exactly sure why you feel you do. I really hope you can figure things out one way or another soon too. It's never easy having to figure out things about yourself.

Oct 19, 2009#182

Hylian

Gusto said:
That is an excellent confession, hylian.

OH WAIT

I don't know you're talking about :5:

Oct 19, 2009#183

Gusto

I'm not madly in love with my wife. I love her well enough, I suppose. But I certainly don't think of her as a soulmate. If we split, I'd be sad, but not devastated. When my best friend got divorced, I was actually jealous at how broken up he was about it. I rushed into marriage when I was young, and I've sadly met several people I would think of as soulmates since then.

Oct 19, 2009#184

Shegokigo

Whoever wrote that in, I TOTALLY know what you're feeling.

Oct 19, 2009#185

Gusto

Yeah my first thought upon reading it was "Wait, Shego's not married..."

Oct 19, 2009#186

phil

oh! I got one!

In the back of my mind I feel like I missed my chance to win the lotto. I noticed a billboard advertising that week's jackpot and something in me told me that if I played, I would win that week. I ignored it and chalked the feeling up to the jackpot being particularly big (170ish million). I didn't buy a ticket, and no one won, so next week I saw that it was for even more, I think just shy of 200 million. I thought I would feel the same feeling as before, the hunch that told me I would win, but I specifically did not. Like maybe if I had just lived a little and spent that buck I'd be makin' it rain right now.

Oct 19, 2009#187

Gusto

I have a couple secrets of my own waiting in the wings and I'm resisting the urge to post them...

But it's difficult because I really feel like this thread is constantly on the edge of collapse.

Oct 19, 2009#188

Gusto

Whenever I bleed, like from a cut or nosebleed or something, I have an almost compulsive need to drink it. I am not a vampire, I just think it has something to do with self-preservation or something.

I was raped when I was 3

I think (and hope) this is fake.

My SO doesn't like when I give her oral sex. She enjoys it physically the few times I've done it but she doesn't seem to like the idea of it, and it bugs me a bit

Oct 19, 2009#189

Denbrought

Whenever I bleed, like from a cut or nosebleed or something, I have an almost compulsive need to drink it. I am not a vampire, I just think it has something to do with self-preservation or something.

Ditto, it's kind of compulsive for me. I used to get nosebleeds weekly when I was a kid, I got the habit back then.

Oct 19, 2009#190

Gusto

I get nosebleeds every couple days in the fall and spring. Some sort of barometric pressure thing maybe....

Oct 19, 2009#191

Wasabi Poptart

Cajungal said:
I never correct people when they give me too much change, and that makes me feel guilty.

Oct 19, 2009#192

Gusto

There are times when I wake up and wish I didn't. Everything I do feels unnecessary, incomplete. There are days where if I wasn't married I am sure I would have ended my life. I could never hurt her, and knowing she is there depending on me is sometimes the only thing that keeps me from following through with how I feel.

Aw man.

Oct 19, 2009#193

fade

Frau VildSoul;278120][quote=Cajungal said:
I never correct people when they give me too much change, and that makes me feel guilty.

Ok along the same lines, here is my confession. Last week, I was in Target waiting in the checkout line. The customer being rung up was a man a fringed scarf draped over his shoulder. At first, I figured he was wearing it because he thought he looked fashionable (it looked kind of dumb really). Then I saw the Target price tag hanging off of it in plain view. I looked at the cashier and glanced back at the man. The guy walked out with that scarf still over his shoulder. No alarm sounded. Nothing. I didn't say a word. I figure if the cashier was so dumb to have not seen the tag, then the man deserved to walk out with it.[/QUOTE]

My wife walked out of a target with a pair of sunglasses on her head once. She didn't mean to. It was totally innocent. She really just forgot they were up there. I did it once with a bag of charcoal. It was on the bottom of the cart, and I really forgot about it until I got to the car. In both cases, I figured they'd marked up enough cheap junk for the holidays over the years to make up for it.

Oct 19, 2009#194

Gusto

As someone who works in retail, assuming that the person failed to charge for everything is a little inaccurate. There are plenty of people who think they're fighting the power by allowing shoplifting and accidental theft from occurring, or other people who just wanna help.

I occasionally don't charge someone full price for food towards the end of my shift because I know all the stuff that we don't sell is just gonna end up in the trash anyway. So I'll give someone a few extra wings or something like that. I'm not charging a dozen wings at the half-dozen price because I'm stupid, I have my reasons and I'm trying to keep it pretty close the vest.

Oct 19, 2009#195

Steven Soderburgin

There are times when I wake up and wish I didn't. Everything I do feels unnecessary, incomplete. There are days where if I wasn't married I am sure I would have ended my life. I could never hurt her, and knowing she is there depending on me is sometimes the only thing that keeps me from following through with how I feel.

Please, please consider seeing a therapist about this. There is no shame it in. For your own sake and the sake of your wife, see someone.

Oct 19, 2009#196

fade

I confess I want to confess which of the anonymous confessions was mine. I also confess I don't know why. Probably some whiny need for attention.

Oct 19, 2009#197

Krisken

Not me. I admit I feel better sharing mine, even if it is anonymous.

Oct 19, 2009#198

Tinwhistler

Gusto said:
As someone who works in retail, assuming that the person failed to charge for everything is a little inaccurate. There are plenty of people who think they're fighting the power by allowing shoplifting and accidental theft from occurring, or other people who just wanna help.

Or maybe sometimes they just don't know what they're selling.

I once bought three black truffles from Whole Foods. By weight, they were priced at $90.00. For 3 mushrooms. And that was a fairly decent price for them, for the size.

The cashier asked me what they were, and I said "Truffles." And he said "like chocolate?" And I said "Like mushrooms."

And he looked at his screen and said "those rang up $90. That can't be right. Does $4.99 sound fair?"

I was like "Uh, yeah. More than fair."

heh

Oct 19, 2009#199

LordRavage

This is a confession I could be upfront about...

I used to feel like I was in complete control of my life. Now I feel like life has taken control over me. I am 35 and turning 36. I have an okay job but I always wanted to have a creative career. Something big so I could change how people see the world.

Now...I have a hard time with stress. At times I feel defeated but try to keep fighting. I have kept quiet about it for a long time. I have reached points where I dont know what to do or even who to talk to. I have been bottling it up.

Believe it or not..I want to join in more when it comes to the dicussions here in HF. I have been around for awhile. I figured I could just speak my mind...I just dont which is really weird for me.

I guess I am just confessing that I want to be more like the old me....wild and fun.

Oct 19, 2009#200

Shegokigo

You don't look remotely in your 30s. If that's any consolation.

Oct 19, 2009#201

LordRavage

Shegokigo said:
You don't look remotely in your 30s. If that's any consolation.

Thank you. You are too kind. (Now I feel like I should add something like 'my pointy toothed fiend.')

Maybe its just an early midlife crisis. *Shrugs*

But I did see your confession a page back or so...I couldnt help but agree with it. It seems there are many people out in the world who are simply dont know what they want. For myself in certian areas of my life..Im trying to be okay with that.

Oct 19, 2009#202

Cajungal

Damn, man, I guessed 26-28 at the oldest.

Oct 19, 2009#203

Adammon

Ok, it's been driving me crazy and I'm sworn to secrecy, but none of you know me so it's basically secret still. HAH.

My wife and her sister went to Vegas for 4 days as a "Sister Trip", stayed in the same hotel room with two double beds. Down there, the sister had a bit too much fun - and my wife was fortunate enough to be too drunk to really hear the sister having fun in the other bed that night.

That morning my wife messages me to tell me about this unfortunate incident. I, in my shock, assumed it was all a joke until they finally returned home where no, my wife confirmed it did happen.

The sister regales me with stories from Vegas, about this guy buying her drinks and everyone having a good time.

It was about that time I punched her in the face and reminded her about her husband and 3 kids at home.

Alas no, I had to grin and bear being completely ignorant to what actually took place. My issue here is that she can sit and lie to everyone with no qualms, no conscience, no 'Shit, I fucked up' regrets. And then she adds him on Facebook.

WHARGLBLAGH.

I sat down with my wife and I explained my position to her. I said "Look, everyone makes mistakes. That's okay. If that was you, I'd want you to tell me right away, and then we could deal with it like adults. However, if you did that and didn't tell me like your sister is doing, and I found out - there wouldn't be any talking. There would be leaving."

There's my confession. If my wife cheated on me in a drunken stupor, I'd probably be okay with it. I'd me hurt, mad, upset, all of that, but I love her so much that I'd work past it. If it was hidden from me and I found out, love ain't enough to talk down this nuke.

Oct 19, 2009#204

crono1224

Did we just read you punched a woman in the face? (not to nitpick).
Drunken stupor or not I would be worried because I would say to myself whats to stop them from doing it again? Also adding that guy to facebook is fucked up, screw relationship code or what ever that guy should know, especially since it seems she is still communicating with the guy she cheated on with.

Oct 19, 2009#205

Hailey Knight

He said that as "I did this... actually, I did this instead."

Oct 19, 2009#206

Qonas

Adammon said:
The sister regales me with stories from Vegas, about this guy buying her drinks and everyone having a good time.

It was about that time I punched her in the face and reminded her about her husband and 3 kids at home.

See, it's dumbass shit like this that makes me angry and puts me in the mindset I/hylian mentioned earlier. It's one thing to be a drunk slut when you're single and not attached (even if I still disagree with it at that point, it's not "wrong"). But MARRIED?! With KIDS?! Sorry that's plain wrong. I absolutely would punch her in the face with no qualms whatsoever.

There's my confession, I guess, I would absolutely punch a woman who pulled this stunt right in the face with no questions asked. Judge away.

Oct 19, 2009#207

Steven Soderburgin

She made a mistake, had too much to drink and had sex with one guy and she's a "drunk slut" who deserves to be punched?

Wow, dude.

Oct 19, 2009#208

ElJuski

Kissinger said:
She made a mistake, had too much to drink and had sex with one guy and she's a "drunk slut" who deserves to be punched?

Wow, dude.

Yeah, I was gonna say. A lot of anger.

That said I'd be hella displeased if that was my wife and she didn't tell me. Brokenhearted, mostly >: |

Oct 19, 2009#209

Qonas

Kissinger said:
She made a mistake, had too much to drink and had sex with one guy and she's a "drunk slut" who deserves to be punched?

Wow, dude.

While married with kids? Absolutely she's a drunk slut who deserves to be punched. She has a family, it was way beyond time for her to grow up and be an adult. And by being an adult, I don't mean XXX adult. Pulling this kind of behavior is high-school level idiotic lustful nonsense.

Oct 19, 2009#210

Calleja

Making a drunken mistake is one thing... being unrepentant and even giddy about it is another.

That does kinda deserve a bitch slap. By one of her kids, at least.

Oct 19, 2009#211

Espy

Wow. that's terrible Adamm. Terrible. Honestly... I might tell her husband. He and his wife need to get tested for STD's ASAP.
You don't want to find out he got the HIV when you could have warned him his wife is doing random dudes.

Oct 19, 2009#212

Hylian

While I think it would be better for her to tell her husband. But since it doesn't seem likely that she will if I where you I would definitely tell her husband.

Oct 19, 2009#213

Silvanesti

whats the best way to tell a guy that their wife boned another guy?

I would go with a cake, everyone loves cake.

Oct 19, 2009#214

Hylian

Silvanesti said:
whats the best way to tell a guy that their wife boned another guy?

I would go with a cake, everyone loves cake.

Oct 19, 2009#215

Denbrought

hylian;278222][quote=Silvanesti said:
whats the best way to tell a guy that their wife boned another guy?

I would go with a cake, everyone loves cake.

[/QUOTE]

Oct 19, 2009#216

Steven Soderburgin

It's pretty clear that we don't have all the information. It's possible she doesn't remember. It's possible she was drugged. It's possible that her marriage is open or that her husband said it'd be okay with him if she had fun while in Vegas. Maybe her marriage is unhappy and unsatisfying and this was her attempt to get a little bit of fun in so she could stay with her husband a little longer, thus preserving the marriage for the sake of the kids. The list of things we don't know about this situation is a mile long, and before you go throwing around words like "drunk slut" and saying she deserves violent consequences, you should really start thinking about these sorts of things.

Oct 19, 2009#217

Silvanesti

hylian;278222][quote=Silvanesti said:
whats the best way to tell a guy that their wife boned another guy?

I would go with a cake, everyone loves cake.

[/QUOTE]

Tragic, and Delicious!!

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Denbrought said:
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Only stein is allowed to do that

Oct 19, 2009#218

Espy

Silvanesti said:
whats the best way to tell a guy that their wife boned another guy?

I would go with a cake, everyone loves cake.

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Kissinger said:
Maybe her marriage is unhappy and unsatisfying and this was her attempt to get a little bit of fun in so she could stay with her husband a little longer, thus preserving the marriage for the sake of the kids.

All of what you say is true. Wouldn't you want to know if this happened though? At the very least so you could potentially avoid some sort of nasty, possibly life threatening disease?

Oct 19, 2009#219

Tinwhistler

Don't google slut cake at work with safe search turned off..

Just sayin.

Oct 19, 2009#220

Denbrought

Silvanesti;278229][quote=Denbrought said:
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Only stein is allowed to do that[/quote]

(;___

Oct 19, 2009#221

Adammon

Kissinger said:
It's pretty clear that we don't have all the information. It's possible she doesn't remember. It's possible she was drugged. It's possible that her marriage is open or that her husband said it'd be okay with him if she had fun while in Vegas. Maybe her marriage is unhappy and unsatisfying and this was her attempt to get a little bit of fun in so she could stay with her husband a little longer, thus preserving the marriage for the sake of the kids. The list of things we don't know about this situation is a mile long, and before you go throwing around words like "drunk slut" and saying she deserves violent consequences, you should really start thinking about these sorts of things.

:eyeroll:

If I realized that this thread would be about rationalizing stupid behavior, I wouldn't have posted anything.

Oct 19, 2009#222

Qonas

He's the only one trying to defend dumb behavior. I'm the one irrationally wanting to punch her in the face.

Oct 19, 2009#223

Steven Soderburgin

I'm not defending her actions, I'm just trying to express that there could be very reasonable explanations for her behavior as well as showing the slightest bit of human decency and empathy.

Oct 19, 2009#224

MindDetective

But it's so easy to imagine punching anonymous women that I've been told did something that would offend me personally if it happened to me!! So. Easy. :smug:

Oct 19, 2009#225

Adammon

Kissinger said:
I'm not defending her actions, I'm just trying to express that there could be very reasonable explanations for her behavior as well as showing the slightest bit of human decency and empathy.

You should be empathising with the victim, not the victimizer. There are no 'reasonable' explanations for deception of that kind inside a marriage.

Oct 19, 2009#226

Shegokigo

Kissinger said:
I'm not defending her actions, I'm just trying to express that there could be very reasonable explanations for her behavior as well as showing the slightest bit of human decency and empathy.

And if there isn't?

Oct 19, 2009#227

crono1224

No reason for physical violence :O..... And the best bet is inform the husband incase she got something. Not really your right to judge someone and take physical violence with her.

or

Bitch stepped out of line you had to keep your pimp hand strong?

Oct 19, 2009#228

Cajungal

Wow. Sounds like that woman needs to back away and reassess. Doesn't sound like a one-night mistake if she's keeping up with the guy. It's not fair to her husband to do this, and if she respects him at all--never mind love--she'll come clean and deal with the consequences.

Although I wouldn't encourage a man to haul off and punch her in the face... if she was my friend and I knew, it would be hard for me to keep quiet.

Oct 19, 2009#229

Adammon

Jesus people, I'm not going to punch her - as cathartic as it would be. While some people deserve a smack upside the head (and this would be one of those cases), it's not up to me to enforce my idea of marriage on other people.

Oct 19, 2009#230

Cajungal

I didn't take it literally, personally.... just jokin'. You have every right to be angry... and to fantasize about woman-punching.

Oct 19, 2009#231

fade

Wait. You just called me Jesus.

*Attempts to heal leprosy with a touch*

Sorry. Thought we were taking Adammon literally.

Oct 19, 2009#232

Espy

Seriously. Anonymous email saying go get tested.

Oct 19, 2009#233

Shegokigo

Espy said:
Seriously. Anonymous email saying go get tested.

Yeah, you can even use the ones in this thread!

Zomg, Full circle post ftw! :cool:

Oct 19, 2009#234

Adammon

Cajungal said:
I didn't take it literally, personally.... just jokin'. You have every right to be angry... and to fantasize about woman-punching.

Mmm woman-kicking too...

(Fixed image)

I don't really have a right to be angry. It's not my marriage. However, I feel bad for my nephews. This is her second marriage (The first one, *drumroll* cheated on her) and the husband's a decent guy. Not someone I'd sit down with beers with but he works hard and he's close enough to the kids that they call him dad even if he's not theirs.

I'm probably more angry at my wife for just letting the deception go.

Oct 19, 2009#235

Cajungal

If you like the guy or are friends with him, then sure you have a right to be angry. It's great that you respect that your values aren't everyone's, but I understand your frustration. He's being wronged and there's nothing you can do. I'd be pissed.

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that woman's foot is grossing me out...

There's another confession... I hate feet. I hate looking at them or having someone else's feet near me.

Oct 19, 2009#236

Espy

Adammon said:
I'm probably more angry at my wife for just letting the deception go.

Yeah... that would be a little bothersome...

Oct 19, 2009#237

Adammon

Cajungal said:
If you like the guy or are friends with him, then sure you have a right to be angry. It's great that you respect that your values aren't everyone's, but I understand your frustration. He's being wronged and there's nothing you can do. I'd be pissed.

And even if I could do something, would I? Is it worth destroying the lives of 3 young boys and a guy, just so I can clear my conscience about knowing something I shouldn't?

Assuming that the guy was clean and she's still clean, this really would be the type of crime that one could get away with.

Morally right to say something.
Ethically right to say something.

Humanely wrong?

Oct 19, 2009#238

Cajungal

Exactly. Any way you look at it, it just sucks. :\

Lol... even if you're trying not to judge, Scrooge judges her.

Oct 19, 2009#239

Adammon

Cajungal said:
If you like the guy or are friends with him, then sure you have a right to be angry. It's great that you respect that your values aren't everyone's, but I understand your frustration. He's being wronged and there's nothing you can do. I'd be pissed.

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that woman's foot is grossing me out...

There's another confession... I hate feet. I hate looking at them or having someone else's feet near me.

Fixed

Oct 19, 2009#240

crono1224

If there is no say std ramifications then its a tricky subject, as a society we frown on cheating, but we think people deserve privacy.

I think it would be important to talk to your wife about it but outside that, you may accomplish nothing, confronting her may do nothing. Telling him may have him go into denial then accuse you of spreading roomers and maybe driving a nail between your relationship with their family and still accomplishing nothing.

Oct 19, 2009#241

Hailey Knight

I'd say confessions shouldn't be for over-analyzing and bickering.

Oct 19, 2009#242

Adammon

crono1224 said:
If there is no say std ramifications then its a tricky subject, as a society we frown on cheating, but we think people deserve privacy.

I think it would be important to talk to your wife about it but outside that, you may accomplish nothing, confronting her may do nothing. Telling him may have him go into denial then accuse you of spreading roomers and maybe driving a nail between your relationship with their family and still accomplishing nothing.

I'm failing to see the downside on driving a nail in the relationship with their family, hahaha. But no seriously, you're right. This is just one of those things where there's a difference between what is right and what is easy. Harry Potter taught me that much.

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escushion said:
I'd say confessions shouldn't be for over-analyzing and bickering.

You should have submitted that anonymously, just to get this thread back on track.

Oct 19, 2009#243

crono1224

Adammon;278288][quote=crono1224 said:
If there is no say std ramifications then its a tricky subject, as a society we frown on cheating, but we think people deserve privacy.

I think it would be important to talk to your wife about it but outside that, you may accomplish nothing, confronting her may do nothing. Telling him may have him go into denial then accuse you of spreading roomers and maybe driving a nail between your relationship with their family and still accomplishing nothing.

I'm failing to see the downside on driving a nail in the relationship with their family, hahaha. But no seriously, you're right. This is just one of those things where there's a difference between what is right and what is easy. Harry Potter taught me that much.[/QUOTE]

Oh i meant a nail with say your wife/her sister relationship... your relationship to the husband.. In fact if the sister is a big enough bitch, it may become a us vs them senario.

Oct 19, 2009#244

Adammon

crono1224 said:
Oh i meant a nail with say your wife/her sister relationship... your relationship to the husband.. In fact if she is a big enough bitch, it may become a us vs them senario.

Yeah, for all intents and purposes, I don't "know". My wife was asked to keep it a secret, from even me.

Oct 19, 2009#245

crono1224

Eh also sorry bout the punch in the face, i miss read how you phrased it lol. Good luck either way i would for my g/f make sure that it was clear that keeping it from me would be worst than just out and saying it i guess.

Oct 19, 2009#246

LordRavage

escushion said:
I'd say confessions shouldn't be for over-analyzing and bickering.

Agreed.

Oct 19, 2009#247

Gusto

I want my boyfriend's grandmother to die, even though she's not as unkind as she used to be. She's sooooo old and sooooo bitter, and she doesn't do much except have seizures and insult people. Well I take that back, she stopped insulting people too much because I think she's afraid of being stuck in a crappy home. I'm ashamed of it deep down, but mostly I'm just tired of seeing her cause the family grief. She's totally alienated her mother in law, who used to take her shopping every week, her son, who she guilts all the time about not being Catholic, and her grandchildren, who were never really treated kindly by her. The sad thing is that my boyfriend's grandpa, who died of diabetes years ago, was really nice and someone who should have lived on.

M-Molly? Molly Sanders? Put Roast Beef on the phone!

I don't really like to be with my friends all the time anymore, once a week is enough, I grow bored really fast and I find it happening more and more. I have friends enough that I can rotate enough so I'm never alone but I find it really weird that I don't have any real good friends left and it's my own damn fault

Sometimes when I hang out with my friends it feels more forced than I really want it to. Sometimes its awesome and just like old times.

You may just be in a funk.

I find former Alaskan Governor and Vice Presidential candidate Sarah Palin to be an incredibly attractive, sensual and voluptuous woman.

I'll take Tina Fey any day. :unibrow:

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Glad to see some discourse in this thread!

Oct 19, 2009#248

Qonas

Confession, though not really as this is public knowledge: I hate, HATE Tina Fey with the fiery hot passion of a thousand suns.

Oct 19, 2009#249

Gusto

I'm not all that bright, even though people sometimes think I am. I blame the glasses really. I struggled just to pass high school algebra. People post questions about calculus and stuff on the boards and I just feel like a complete moron, especially when people point out that only a complete moron wouldn't know what this is about.

I don't actually *know* how anything works. Government, economics, computers, cars, you name it. I chose my major because it seemed easy and I knew I wouldn't have the IQ the handle anything else.

I feel this way too, and I think that Ontario STILL considers me a genius.

Oct 19, 2009#250

Hailey Knight

I want my boyfriend's grandmother to die, even though she's not as unkind as she used to be. She's sooooo old and sooooo bitter, and she doesn't do much except have seizures and insult people. Well I take that back, she stopped insulting people too much because I think she's afraid of being stuck in a crappy home. I'm ashamed of it deep down, but mostly I'm just tired of seeing her cause the family grief. She's totally alienated her mother in law, who used to take her shopping every week, her son, who she guilts all the time about not being Catholic, and her grandchildren, who were never really treated kindly by her. The sad thing is that my boyfriend's grandpa, who died of diabetes years ago, was really nice and someone who should have lived on.

My best friend's mother is a kind of a ditzy blond in many ways, and I can't take my friend's repetition of her words seriously, but she did put forward a piece of observation that probably didn't originate with her, but nonetheless feels wise and accurate to me:

Some people find peace, finish growing, and die. Some people keep living because they still have something to learn.

And it seems true. The nasty ones persevere, like they're already rotted, failing to grow, while the good die young.

I probably butchered all of that. I'm tired and have gone through some heavy fictional bullshit these past couple days. Hopefully it made some sense.

Oct 19, 2009#251

Rob King

My confession:
I want so bad to wander the earth and have adventures. And I'm not even trying to propagate a bad forum joke. It's what I've been actively working toward for the last year or two: settling away my affairs so I can just up and leave.

And here's the slightly embarrassing part: every so often, I'll eat a lump of hard bread for breakfast. I don't really have a good reason. It's bland, and hard as all hell to eat. But if makes me feel somehow connected to the adventurers and explorers of generations past.

(Pretty lame confession, but I figured it was time I contributed something)

Oct 19, 2009#252

ZenMonkey

Rob King said:
And here's the slightly embarrassing part: every so often, I'll eat a lump of hard bread for breakfast. I don't really have a good reason. It's bland, and hard as all hell to eat. But if makes me feel somehow connected to the adventurers and explorers of generations past.

That's rather adorable.

Oct 19, 2009#253

fade

Hoo boy, do I have a webcomic for you, my brother. That was the whole idea behind Fade. This modern, content life is boring. Incidentally, having given it a ton of thought, it's also my partial theory on the increase in school violence. Nothing to fight for or against, so we turn inward.

Oct 19, 2009#254

Cajungal

ZenMonkey;278457][quote=Rob King said:
And here's the slightly embarrassing part: every so often, I'll eat a lump of hard bread for breakfast. I don't really have a good reason. It's bland, and hard as all hell to eat. But if makes me feel somehow connected to the adventurers and explorers of generations past.

That's rather adorable.[/QUOTE]

Seconded. I think it's cool that you find a way to somehow connect with adventurers.

'Somehow makes me feel less dumb about something I did when I was about 4.

When my parents explained homeless people to me, I slept without any sheets or blankets for about a week because if they couldn't be warm, I didn't want to be. If course, I still went to bed with a full stomach on a soft mattress, so it was pretty pointless in the end.

Oct 19, 2009#255

ZenMonkey

Cajungal said:
When my parents explained homeless people to me, I slept without any sheets or blankets for about a week because if they couldn't be warm, I didn't want to be. If course, I still went to bed with a full stomach on a soft mattress, so it was pretty pointless in the end.

I did the same kind of thing when I was eight and obsessed with Helen Keller's story. I walked around my house blindfolded and was frustrated that even earplugs couldn't really let me know what it was like to be deaf.

Oct 19, 2009#256

Cajungal

ZenMonkey;278462][quote=Cajungal said:
When my parents explained homeless people to me, I slept without any sheets or blankets for about a week because if they couldn't be warm, I didn't want to be. If course, I still went to bed with a full stomach on a soft mattress, so it was pretty pointless in the end.

Oct 19, 2009#257

ZenMonkey

Cajungal said:
Now, that's just touching, that is.

I'm sorry. Show me on the doll where my story touched you.

Oct 19, 2009#258

Cajungal

ZenMonkey;278472][quote=Cajungal said:
Now, that's just touching, that is.

I'm sorry. Show me on the doll where my story touched you.[/QUOTE]

*points to the cockles of the doll's heart*

Oct 19, 2009#259

ZenMonkey

Cajungal;278474][quote=ZenMonkey;278472][quote=Cajungal said:
Now, that's just touching, that is.

I'm sorry. Show me on the doll where my story touched you.[/quote]

*points to the cockles of the doll's heart*[/QUOTE]

*ignores the obvious joke because you're being so nice*

How about this: I had to make a movie in 3rd grade (long story) and I made a video about Helen Keller. I played Helen and in several key scenes I completely forgot to take off my glasses. I literally made a spectacle out of myself. On the bright side, I'm pretty sure that remains a truly unique dramatic interpretation of Helen Keller.

Oct 19, 2009#260

Cajungal

Aw, that's so sweet.

And I totally went out on that limb with that, I know. It would have been ok. I was prepared to guffaw.

Oct 19, 2009#261

Rob King

Cajungal said:
When my parents explained homeless people to me, I slept without any sheets or blankets for about a week because if they couldn't be warm, I didn't want to be. If course, I still went to bed with a full stomach on a soft mattress, so it was pretty pointless in the end.

I met a guy who actually decided to become homeless for three months once. He ran his Church's homlessness outreach program or something, and basically decided that having never been without in his entire life, he could not seriously empathize, or understand completely where their needs lay. So he set out to live on the streets in five different American cities for a quarter of a year.

Interesting guy. He wrote a book about it, but I don't remember the name of it. Some interesting anecdotes, he had to share, though. One that I found particularly poignant was a story about sitting hungry and foodless inside of a SubWay, where a local church was holding a bible study. He said they were debating different bible translations "Talking about the NLT, KJV, NIV ... and all I wanted, just two tables away was a BLT!"

ZenMonkey said:
I did the same kind of thing when I was eight and obsessed with Helen Keller's story. I walked around my house blindfolded and was frustrated that even earplugs couldn't really let me know what it was like to be deaf.

I still want to do this sort of thing. Wear a blindfold for a week, and try and get on with my life to experience blindness. Or somehow wear noise-cancelling headphones playing white noise to experience deafness.

Maybe one day, if I become a novelist, I could get away with those sorts of things by calling them research.

Oct 20, 2009#262

Kitty Sinatra

I find former Alaskan Governor and Vice Presidential candidate Sarah Palin to be an incredibly attractive, sensual and voluptuous woman.

I'm gonna claim this confession as my own.

Oct 20, 2009#263

Silver Jelly

ZenMonkey;278457][quote=Rob King said:
And here's the slightly embarrassing part: every so often, I'll eat a lump of hard bread for breakfast. I don't really have a good reason. It's bland, and hard as all hell to eat. But if makes me feel somehow connected to the adventurers and explorers of generations past.

That's rather adorable.[/QUOTE]

And I'm stealing it as possible future characterization for a potential character in one of my potential stories. From the future.

Oct 20, 2009#264

Gusto

I don't understand drinking to a point of being drunk. It doesn't make sense to me to get so wacked out that you cannot make rational decisions or even remember clearly what you did the night before. Same with drugs, I just cannot understand why you would do that to yourself on purpose. I don't like being around people that do crap like that, and I will leave a place that they are hanging around. Wine, beer, and liquor drinking don't bother me, but the act of an adult getting so past their "limit" just disgusts me.

Oct 20, 2009#265

Dusty668

I want to be Brian Blessed's man wife and bear him many strong loud large sons that one day our progeny will consume death, time and the very Gods themselves.

Oct 20, 2009#266

@Li3n

Gusto said:
I don't understand drinking to a point of being drunk. It doesn't make sense to me to get so wacked out that you cannot make rational decisions or even remember clearly what you did the night before. Same with drugs, I just cannot understand why you would do that to yourself on purpose. I don't like being around people that do crap like that, and I will leave a place that they are hanging around. Wine, beer, and liquor drinking don't bother me, but the act of an adult getting so past their "limit" just disgusts me.

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Dude, that's not being drunk, it's being wasted... but i don't get it either, i never got that far, just drunk enough to count but still remember it the next day, and only drank more when it started to wear off.

I mean if you can't remember it what's the point, might as well just go to sleep.

Oct 20, 2009#267

Jake

Qonas said:
He's the only one trying to defend dumb behavior. I'm the one irrationally wanting to punch her in the face.

Wild guess here: you're single and have been for a long time.

Oct 20, 2009#268

SeraRelm

They drink to forget the demons of the past, to escape the pain of memories by drowning them in a sea of liquor, but when they wake, it's still there, always there, staring them in the face every time they look in the mirror.

Oct 20, 2009#269

Dave

I've known about the trials of a forumite whose wife was just diagnosed with cancer. He's scared and doesn't know how to handle it. It's been hard not saying anything because it isn't my place to say.

Sometimes it sucks to be the Admin because you just want to grab people and say, "Hey! Stop being suck a fucking dick!" and you can't because you don't do it to everyone.

Oct 20, 2009#270

Tinwhistler

Dave said:
I've known about the trials of a forumite whose wife was just diagnosed with cancer. He's scared and doesn't know how to handle it. It's been hard not saying anything because it isn't my place to say.

That freaking sucks. Whoever it is, I wish them well.

Dave said:
Sometimes it sucks to be the Admin because you just want to grab people and say, "Hey! Stop being suck a fucking dick!" and you can't because you don't do it to everyone.

Freudian.

Oct 20, 2009#271

Shegokigo

Tinwhistler;278739][quote=Dave said:
Sometimes it sucks to be the Admin because you just want to grab people and say, "Hey! Stop being suck a fucking dick!" and you can't because you don't do it to everyone.

Freudian.[/QUOTE]

:uhhuh:

Oct 20, 2009#272

Kitty Sinatra

It's chaz, Tin. Morgoth just spilled the beans in the flame wars forum, which is what prompted Dave to put in this confession.

You know, just so everyone's up to speed.

Oct 20, 2009#273

SeraRelm

:blue:

Oct 20, 2009#274

Vytamindi

Oct 20, 2009#275

Shegokigo

Vytamindi said:

Oh? Why?

Oct 20, 2009#276

Kitty Sinatra

Yeah. I mentioned Chaz so that we are all up to speed. We don't have to turn this into another Chaz thread . . . and even if we do it's gonna be the support chaz thread, so the lock makes no sense.

Oct 20, 2009#277

Vytamindi

Bah... I've been reading back and forth between general and flame wars again... got confused! My bad

Oct 20, 2009#278

Zonker

HF Anonymous Confessions

Gusto said:
I don't think I'll ever be a great writer. I'm happy, and I feel like that gets in my way somehow. My technique is excellent, but my words seem untrue. I don't know what to do. I wish I could say I wrote only for me (it is mostly for me) but the truth is I care. I want people to read what I've written and enjoy it in some way... laugh, cry, or find a simple moment of peace or enjoyment.

But I truly believe that it will never, ever happen for me.

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Oh! Oh! Oh!

Just figured that out myself. I was going over all my old stuff thinking, damn I was totally talented and now I can't write like that any more because I'm so much happier. And then I read it again and I was like, this is total crap! This is written by someone who's endlessly trying to figure out what's wrong with himself and trying to purge it out, which is bs! And I've started writing to figure out what I WANT, rather than what I WANT TO GET RID OF.

Big improvement!

Also I write to create good work, not for publishing. But then I have a decent day job so it doesn't matter too much.

Oct 20, 2009#279

Rob King

Silver Jelly;278534][quote=ZenMonkey;278457][quote=Rob King said:
And here's the slightly embarrassing part: every so often, I'll eat a lump of hard bread for breakfast. I don't really have a good reason. It's bland, and hard as all hell to eat. But if makes me feel somehow connected to the adventurers and explorers of generations past.

That's rather adorable.[/QUOTE]

And I'm stealing it as possible future characterization for a potential character in one of my potential stories. From the future.[/QUOTE]

Hey, let me know if you do, even if it's in Spanish. Not for any reason. I just think it'd be fun to see that in a story.

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