I has a date - The Dating Saga Continues...

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Matt²

Originally Posted by Matt²'s thread
though we have some things in common, in our lives we are both going separate directions
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first lady puffinstuff said:
That's a killer, man, sorry. It's easy to find people that have similar interests, but it's hard to fine someone that has compatible (note - not similar, compatible) life goals.

It's always going to be a hard hit when you get close to something you think might actually work out, then fall. Take a breather, but get back out into the ring again soon. This too shall pass.

Kids will come when you find the right person, but don't push yourself into the wrong relationship because you think you are somehow behind or running out of time. The best thing you can do now is get your life in order so when things do work out, you'll be the person you want to have fathering your children.
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re: Jay closing the other thread:

Note: It wasn't that I didn't want to talk about it PERIOD... it's just really hard to open up about that for me.. that and couple with work, the weekend and cocooning myself into Everquest, well I had other things on my mind. I needed to vedge out for a while.

As far as the other lady, we had quite a few common interests, spiritual beliefs, we got along pretty well, and had common likes. Where we REALLY differed was our personality traits, and specifically where we wanted to end up in life. THEN there came a life altering chronic illness she had not disclosed. There were dealbreakers all around, but that ultimately became the clincher. We both parted amicably, even though it hurt very much to do so.

I am looking. I am still looking. This is the hardest part of the year to look, save mid-to-late January through Feb 14th. My subscription to Match.com expires in 5 more months unless I've met someone, with which they specifically give me another 6 months free... not that I want to do that but it's already paid for.

Please.. (without pointing fingers or casting blame here) I'm not upset,... yeah I had a few very off days, but I'm ok now.. so let's continue if you guys and gals wish to be serious in discussion.

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yeah, mentally I was initially thinking "PHEW! I can relax, I found her!" then it became "crap.. I gotta keep looking" because I REALLY DO want children. I know men's stuff keeps working but I'm concerned of having children with a wife over 40-45... one thing I learned is there is a large age difference between 26 and 37. :p
 
Shegokigo

Shegokigo

Best of luck on your search. I'm still "half-searching" myself as stated in my Lesbaw thread. From what I understand, the best thing to do is to not stop looking, but also not to throw your whole life and breath into it either.

I considered Match, but is one of the sites I haven't tried yet, mostly because of the price attached...
 
Jay

Jay

Sorry, I closed the other thread as it clearly seemed you didn't want to discuss the issue any longer and I wanted to respect your privacy.

As far as "the search" goes, I always went with "not giving a shit" and enjoying life. Then again, I guess that works for me as someone who generally don't have a problem with breaking the ice easily and can shrug off rejection relatively easily. Though I feel if you do put yourself out there and have opportunities to meet people you'll eventually get to meet someone.
 
phil

phil

There's this radio ad I keep hearing for a thing called "events and adventures". Basically it's this like club where they constantly set up things to do for singles. Maybe there's something like that you can try out in your area.
 
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darkangel6988

I think Dating sucks.......I suck at it too for the record....I too am on match.com actually I closed it cuz well I don't know I don't get dating...I agree with the above you find it when your not looking so now I just go to work and workout and try not to think. I too wanna find my person.....I thought I had my life made being married and all and I thougth kids we're around the corner but that didn't happen .....life came in and smacked me in the face. Now all I focus on is remaining tough since I've come so far it's a little bit late to give up.

Best of luck to you Matt. I'm rooting for ya , I'm sure your'll find your special person to marry have kids with try not to let it stress you out! :)
 
IronBrig4

IronBrig4

I hate dating because it always feels like a job interview. That's why I'm glad I found eHarmony. The people there want exactly what I want.
 
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Matt²

Dating do's and don'ts:

don't: consider dating someone who's got the same name (or very similar) to a pet you used to or currently have!

don't: give business advice to the opposite person while on a date, no matter your expertise or how you feel about it.
 
linglingface

linglingface

I agree with "you find it when you're not looking". That doesn't mean stop looking all together and stay inside, though. :)
Good luck!!
 
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Element 117

curiously, why not try geek/comic oriented dated sites out there?
 
Shegokigo

Shegokigo

An interesting prospective. I haven't fully settled on this town yet.

I simply picked the closest "far away" place I could move to after the split. Since my brother was here, it was possible.
 
PatrThom

PatrThom

There's always Fashionable Ferndale. Childhood friend of mine ran a bar there...before she ran away to TX with her girlfriend to become a full-time dominatrix.

Hmm. Some potential Karmic coincidence to be had, methinks.

--Patrick
 
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Matt²

ha! Met yet ANOTHER person who's been to Japan and shares my spiritual beliefs.. we have started a fun filled chat tonight.
I'm in good spirits.
 
Espy

Espy

mr_thehun said:
what are the spiritual beleifs and Japan have to do with things?
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I'm going out on a limb here, so just roll with me:

Going to Japan - Common experience people can bond over.

Common spiritual beliefs - a healthy thing for any couple
 
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Element 117

We've all known Matt not to be the world's best orator. But neither are the rest of us. Especially Chibi.

cheers for Matt.
 
phil

phil

She's been to japan, yet maintains that it is where all souls pass through on their journey to the final battle for the last seats in Valhalla.
 
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Chibibar

Element 117 said:
We've all known Matt not to be the world's best orator. But neither are the rest of us. Especially Chibi.

cheers for Matt.
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heh. I read it as "She been to Japan yet share my spiritual beliefs" = She seen all the strange stuff in Japan and accepts it (and could be kinky) and yet maintain her spiritual belief... that can be a plus ;)
 
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Chibibar

heh. I'm my own defense, after I went to Japan..... yea. they are into some kinky stuff.
 
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Matt²

that was an odd movie!! watched both versions - Japanese and English. Both of them were odd.. I was in Japan when that movie came out, it was everywhere in posters.

New romantic interest (mentioned above) is named Susan... last was Mirlandra.. yes I typed that correctly. ..amazingly, her name is NOT the first to come up on Google Images (thankfully) search. ..hey, STOP THAT!... you know who you are!

Anyway, after a few days absence from communication (my GOD the waiting game on that was horrible!!) she finally wrote back again this morning and we're talking. I'm a little intimidated, she has a Bachelor's Degree,.. I only have an Associate's and no plans to further my education until my school loans are paid off...
 
Hailey Knight

Hailey Knight

Matt² said:
Anyway, after a few days absence from communication (my GOD the waiting game on that was horrible!!) she finally wrote back again this morning and we're talking. I'm a little intimidated, she has a Bachelor's Degree,.. I only have an Associate's and no plans to further my education until my school loans are paid off...
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Having equal degrees is a crucial part of any relationship. She's too good for you, Matt. You should just drop it now and recede into a very tiny hole we reserve for people with Associate's degrees and no plans to further their education.

You lesser being.
 
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Matt²

wait,...my Sarcasm Detector is working this morning! ... it's... BLINKING!!
 
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