Like a cell phone in a bomb shelter, I don't get signals (dating advice)
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Thank you. I look at where I was last year and where I am today and I can't help but think that I'm doing something at least half right.
I'm think of getting "You might not know it, baby, but I are - I'm a...STAR!" tattooed on me. That song seriously helps me get into a positive head space.
Back on topic, signal or no? Opinion?
This... has... got to be a joke. You're not seriously asking someone this now. Because... I mean... And then you... And we... And the...
Whytheface.
It is the original topic of the thread. So yeah. But no, I'm not asking seriously, because I already decided on a course of action.
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Gagaoohlala
So...... My opinion is your friend may be holding you back. Either intentionally or unintentionally. Either mrs m
Wants you to be her friend forever and is consciously or unconciously keeping you single and at her whim, or she cares so much about you that she is afraid of you getting hurt. Either way, holding you back.
In my opinion a possibility.... Not knowing her or you just throwing it out there.
Wants you to be her friend forever and is consciously or unconciously keeping you single and at her whim, or she cares so much about you that she is afraid of you getting hurt. Either way, holding you back.
In my opinion a possibility.... Not knowing her or you just throwing it out there.
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Chibibar
You know, You are right, we don't know you, but I am not like how at first you "try to ask for advice" and then on your last post, kinda feel like a spit on all our faces. (that is what I think)
Granted, I can't tell emotions from a sentence, but the choice of words and responses seems a bit.... harsh. I think that is why a lot of people are taken back. I can personally tell you, all my advice is from my own heart and experience. You may not know 100% of me, but on my life stories, I say a good 70% to maybe even 80% most of you can peg me down pretty good knowing from all the angles and where I'm from.
I feel like this is more of a test of your own amusement really. You gave us a small bit of scenario and let us fill in the blanks, but told us the blanks are all wrong and then fill it with different blanks and stories and we adjust and then you change it up by going another direction.
I don't know about you, but I feel like I'm being played while I'm trying to be sincere, but after 6 pages, it seems that you have a handle on things in the first place and you are just "testing out" instead of asking for genuine answers cause most of the answer given are good, but you just don't like it.
I was my hands of it. I don't like people playing mind games and I don't have time to deal with people who don't really want to be help. I am willing to give up my time and personal experience hoping to help people really need help and be helped by people who are genuinely wanted to help.
but if you just want to play mind games with me, I am not playing.
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Granted, I can't tell emotions from a sentence, but the choice of words and responses seems a bit.... harsh. I think that is why a lot of people are taken back. I can personally tell you, all my advice is from my own heart and experience. You may not know 100% of me, but on my life stories, I say a good 70% to maybe even 80% most of you can peg me down pretty good knowing from all the angles and where I'm from.
I feel like this is more of a test of your own amusement really. You gave us a small bit of scenario and let us fill in the blanks, but told us the blanks are all wrong and then fill it with different blanks and stories and we adjust and then you change it up by going another direction.
I don't know about you, but I feel like I'm being played while I'm trying to be sincere, but after 6 pages, it seems that you have a handle on things in the first place and you are just "testing out" instead of asking for genuine answers cause most of the answer given are good, but you just don't like it.
I was my hands of it. I don't like people playing mind games and I don't have time to deal with people who don't really want to be help. I am willing to give up my time and personal experience hoping to help people really need help and be helped by people who are genuinely wanted to help.
but if you just want to play mind games with me, I am not playing.
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And this is the reason why I post what I post in the end. it was just a "game" to you. I am sorry you have to do this for your personal sick amusement (from what I can see since you already decided) instead of people who are really wanting to help.
I reread the thread a couple of hours ago Chibi. I only ever asked 'is that a signal'. I didn't ask for people to weigh in on my mental health. I had made my decision about the original question on page three. I do appreciate your posts in particular, because you've been very respectful throughout this whole thread. I apologize if I'm coming off as playing games.
Still, I have no one to blame but myself for the road this thread went down. I'm sorry, I should have kept things more focused on the original concept. Something put me in a mood yesterday. I kind of...I don't know. Went back in time a year.
Still, I have no one to blame but myself for the road this thread went down. I'm sorry, I should have kept things more focused on the original concept. Something put me in a mood yesterday. I kind of...I don't know. Went back in time a year.
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Biannoshufu
So from "need dating advice" to "you don't know me" in six pages.
I think it's time for an after party.
Booze on at my house!
I think it's time for an after party.
Booze on at my house!
Re-read the thread dude. I flat out say on page two that I decided on how to approach Mads. I stick to that fucking plan for the rest of the thread. However, the thread then moved to examining the motives behind my initial indecision. I came to a decision...BECAUSE OF OPINIONS IN THIS THREAD.
GOD FUCKING DAMN IT! I asked for advice on whether or not a girl gave me a hint she'd be interested in a date, not whether or not I need fucking therapy! You guys were very helpful on the former, but seemed really interested in helping unbidden with the latter.
Operation: Facebook is underway, people. Learn2Read, newbs.
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Biannoshufu
Oh shush. She's already messaged me back saying she would be interested in checking out AP with me assuming she's not buried under homework (which is reasonable for a college student).
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Chibibar
I did re-read it. You were asking advice in the beginning and many gave advice base on the original situation given.
BUT you brought on different issues like why it wouldn't work and different anxieties you have and couple of baggage. While you may not think it is related, to people who date a lot, got dumped a lot (like me) or been in soooo many situation in the friend zone (again me) what you say in each post shows a little bit of yourself.
This of course change the course of the thread to adjust to new info given. Again, I use statistics (since that is your method) you can only predict with what information you have (hence statistic) but as you enter more variables, the situation changes, the answers changes/adjusted according to the new info.
People here are trying to help you and not hinder you, but you don't seem to see it. Yes, we DON'T know you cause you don't give all the info, but what little info you gave, it is scary to some people (like me) cause I HAVE been down that path
I have face near death
I have fought for my life
I have live in poor
I have been in that dark world
I have seen the emptiness and consequences of my actions
I have been depress enough to wanting to kill myself
I have been too chickenshit to do actually do it (I did poison myself couple of time and do daring stunt hoping to die with a bang) but no luck
I do have anxiety attack once in a while where I can't control myself.
I have been down that dark road and I don't like it.
When I read each of your "reasoning" I see that little darkness in me also and I do not WISH that on anyone. not even my worst enemies (if I had any) some of us see a little darkness in themselves in you also (at least on how it was presented)
People here ARE trying to help you, but you are getting all defensive about it which I can understand, but you have to understand it is something we see in ourselves and it can be destructive if not kept in check.
The thing is that we want you to have a successful relationship BUT seeing that "hint of darkness" some of us take back the original answer cause if we knew what we know on page 6, we wouldn't give the answer that was given on page 1.
Do you see that?
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Biannoshufu
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Chibibar
expanded on the answer:
Lets say we know what we know (at least what is told) about you on page 2- 6.
My answer would be, don't ask her out. Take a little slower cause you may not be ready for such a date. Cause dating can bring a whole new level of stress if you are not prepare for it. You have to be mentally prepare for the best and the worst. And seeing that you have some personal issues, I say, wait a little and move on.
My answer on page 1 NOT knowing what I know now (or think I know from 2-6)
I say ASK her out you dummy.
See how extra information change the situation?
Alas, relationship answer is not a one answer fits all situation. You have to craft the answer to fit the situation at hand and that is what this Forum was trying to do.
Lets say we know what we know (at least what is told) about you on page 2- 6.
My answer would be, don't ask her out. Take a little slower cause you may not be ready for such a date. Cause dating can bring a whole new level of stress if you are not prepare for it. You have to be mentally prepare for the best and the worst. And seeing that you have some personal issues, I say, wait a little and move on.
My answer on page 1 NOT knowing what I know now (or think I know from 2-6)
I say ASK her out you dummy.
See how extra information change the situation?
Alas, relationship answer is not a one answer fits all situation. You have to craft the answer to fit the situation at hand and that is what this Forum was trying to do.
I do. But that is also why I say that you guys don't know me. You may see a hint of darkness in me, and hell it might even be there, but my friends who I love and trust with my life disagree with you. I'm sorry, but I put those people's opinions above those of anyone on halforums'.
That said, I am very sorry for derailing my own thread. It should have dropped at page two.
If I'm not ready for dating now, I doubt I ever would be. I'd rather take a journey of self improvement with someone by side than alone.
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Chibibar
That I can respect, but also you don't give us all the info. You only give us bits and pieces here and there and thus we still don't know the whole picture. You being the calculated one should know that. Of course you know your friends better than us. So we can't say if those friends are good or not. There can be "bad friends" who just want to use to for their own personal amusement. I am not saying that your friends are like that, but there are people who are friends for long time and enjoy "messing" with people.
again, any info given, we reflect with our own personal lives and instance that could relate. I always take the path "If I was in your shoes" and try to relate as best as I could with the information given and how it would relate in my life and formulate a decent answer as best as I can from my personal experience.
Your experience is your own and we can never know the full stories unless you happen to tell it all like an open book or have a face to face chats for hours/days to get to know "Who is Norris?"
6 pages is not much, you did gave like 80% dark and 20% good while in reality you may be 20% dark and 80% good but that is not how YOU present to the forum.
He doesn't:
Hate women
Need to start a union
Irritate everyone all the times always
There's not a speck of Mav to be seen!
I know. I was in...well, I was all nervous and shit and that really put me into what me an my ex would call being "spirally". Just down further and further down a hole. It wasn't until I spoke to Mrs. M about it that I rediscovered "perspective". By then...things here had gotten way the fuck out of hand because I somehow thought posting while in one of my moods was a good idea. 
At the end of the day...yeah, I do have more social phobias and depressive behaviors than I probably should. But I'm trying. Trying real hard to not indulge them. And I slip sometimes. But I am more successful than not.
And the friends I'm talking about haven't steered me wrong yet. I would not be where I am today (and it is leagues above where I was a year ago) without them.
At the end of the day...yeah, I do have more social phobias and depressive behaviors than I probably should. But I'm trying. Trying real hard to not indulge them. And I slip sometimes. But I am more successful than not.
And the friends I'm talking about haven't steered me wrong yet. I would not be where I am today (and it is leagues above where I was a year ago) without them.
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Biannoshufu
chibibar.
you can stop kicking the dead horse now.
you can stop kicking the dead horse now.
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Chibibar
Yea. I'm done now, but I'm Texan. Gotta take the horse to a slaughter house and chop them into steaks and sell them to France
Gods no. I'd have to turn around and defend Norris if someone seriously suggested that.
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Biannoshufu
He would need artificial limbs, new skin, and a hell of a lock pick tool se-OH WAIT I AGREE IT IS TOTALLY POSSIBLE.
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Philosopher B.
Because when the clock struck twelve and Heroes was cancelled, Mav turned back into a pumpkin.
Also, does David Nihsen know you're posting his pic around??? :-P
</lurking> after following this a few days ago and getting caught back up on this tonight . . . This has been one helluva Mega-Troll, or you all are dealing with somebody that has some serious issues. One of which is he won't admit they're serious. *And this is coming from someone with issues of his own, who has been meaning to find the free/cheap therapists in the locale but hasn't 
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* <lurk>Speaking from personal experience, and it depends where you are, but a lot of therapists/counselors are willing to play ball on price, especially those affiliated with larger therapeutic institutes to handle administration.*And this is coming from someone with issues of his own, who has been meaning to find the free/cheap therapists in the locale but hasn't
When my old grad school insurance stopped, I lost therapy coverage, but I didn't want to have to stop seeing the therapist I had built up a relationship with. So I talked to him and his institute, and they cut my per session fee in half in exchange for losing 15 min out of an hour.
Start your own thread. If we can't fix you, we'll at least enjoy screwing you up more.</lurking> And this is coming from someone with issues of his own, who has been meaning to find the free/cheap therapists in the locale but hasn't
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