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makare
Seppuku
Whine like a baby, now with 500% more drama!
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I think you can upgrade this from a whine to a full-bore rant
figmentPez
Staff member
So, I watched this video:
I thought it was pretty funny. Then it dawned on me. This is a pretty young woman fretting over the rejection she might face talking to someone about their t-shirt. The worst she might get is some annoyed words, and that won't come often. Should I, as a guy, try talking to some girl about the shirt she's wearing, I have to worry not only about her being annoyed, but also by her feeling threatened by the fact that I'm a guy who took notice of her physical being. Having someone think you're a dork is not on the same level as having someone think you're a threat to their wellbeing.
As far as I know I've never had that reaction. Most girls I've known have told me I'm nice and come across that way. (However... most of my life experience is years and years ago, so what was true in my early twenties may not be true now that I'm over 30.) It just bugs me that the default view of society is "male = likely threat". I know it's true that women are far more likely to be victims of assault. I don't fault them for being wary. I just don't like that such distrust is necessary.
I thought it was pretty funny. Then it dawned on me. This is a pretty young woman fretting over the rejection she might face talking to someone about their t-shirt. The worst she might get is some annoyed words, and that won't come often. Should I, as a guy, try talking to some girl about the shirt she's wearing, I have to worry not only about her being annoyed, but also by her feeling threatened by the fact that I'm a guy who took notice of her physical being. Having someone think you're a dork is not on the same level as having someone think you're a threat to their wellbeing.
As far as I know I've never had that reaction. Most girls I've known have told me I'm nice and come across that way. (However... most of my life experience is years and years ago, so what was true in my early twenties may not be true now that I'm over 30.) It just bugs me that the default view of society is "male = likely threat". I know it's true that women are far more likely to be victims of assault. I don't fault them for being wary. I just don't like that such distrust is necessary.
ElJuski
Staff member
I don't think it's the "male = likely threat" more so than "man who doesn't know how to talk to me = kind of weird = weird people = likely threat". I've said to plenty of girls in passing, "Hey, nice shirt!" And, say, when I'm not drunk, it's just a compliment. But then there are other times, and definitely other people, who just don't understand when they're being creepy.
Not to mention, I've had plenty of girls say the same thing to me too, and depending on how much of a creep they were, have never thought of it OR thought they were weird and put me off.
Not to mention, I've had plenty of girls say the same thing to me too, and depending on how much of a creep they were, have never thought of it OR thought they were weird and put me off.
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makare
yeah I agree with eljuski. I mean the stereotype is that all women live in fear and think rapist every time a guy looks at them but this isnt Lifetime and the world doesn't actually work like that.
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makare
well men are evil... you cant deny this.
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makare
I ended up having to hurt someone's feelings today. I feel bad about it but I don't see how it could be avoided. 
BananaHands
Staff member
I want a job.
ElJuski
Staff member
I keep telling you--and everyone else that needs employment--come to the city of promise, hope, and homeless people stretched out on the ellipse. I can get you a job as an aide at my school. You'll be making scraps, but hell if it's better than nothing.
And then while you're doing that you can make those fancy moving pictures you keep talking about.
And then while you're doing that you can make those fancy moving pictures you keep talking about.
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SeraRelm
You never want their weather, it always smells funny.
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Soliloquy
Heh. I remember having a conversation with a tour guide in France who had never heard of Fahrenheit. She was all like "70 degrees? What!?"
Then we had to get out a calculator to show her that, no, we weren't 30 degrees below the boiling point in San Diego.
Man we've had great weather the past week and a half. It was over 20 yesterday!
I'm not serious about the rude part, but a big hunk of my house blew away last week. I appreciate the offer for help, but we have excellent insurance, so it's all being taken care of for the 3-6 months it's going to take to rebuild.
The bright side is that my house is now Internet famous. This is my place.
http://theglobeandmail.com/news/world/tornado-rips-through-michigan-damaging-homes/article2371114/
The bright side is that my house is now Internet famous. This is my place.
http://theglobeandmail.com/news/world/tornado-rips-through-michigan-damaging-homes/article2371114/
This song is so bad. I am mystified someone could write these words. AND I KEEP HEARING IT.
Oooh, nice splatter pattern there. Sheared off the part of the house over the garage. (/semisarcastic_mode)
Is the main part of the house still liveable, or are you in a trailer/hotel for the time being?
We've actually installed a new harbour reclaiming project so the smell is much less.