MPDG heavily hitting on me

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Rosie Palmer

Rosie Palmer

Thanks for helping me talk this out. Like I said, this was actually after the fact. I stopped the advances some time ago. But I sure wanted to go through with it for a while. It's not a logical thing. At least not at the time. It's easy to see the right path in retrospect, but when someone is telling you they find you attractive (not just physically), it's a hard thing to fight. It wasn't the first time it's happened, but I've never felt the return attraction as much as I did this time. I guess I was trying to puzzle out why.
 
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Rosie Palmer said:
Thanks for helping me talk this out. Like I said, this was actually after the fact. I stopped the advances some time ago. But I sure wanted to go through with it for a while. It's not a logical thing. At least not at the time. It's easy to see the right path in retrospect, but when someone is telling you they find you attractive (not just physically), it's a hard thing to fight. It wasn't the first time it's happened, but I've never felt the return attraction as much as I did this time. I guess I was trying to puzzle out why.
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Try figuring out why it feels hard to fight.
 
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SeraRelm

God damn it... three days in a row where the webcomics I check post something relevant (and hilarious) to these boards.
 
Dave

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If you left your wife or had a fling, you would invariably find the "grass is always greener" certainly applies. If you've been married long, you will not have the "head over heels" thing because your relationship is more than just raging hormones. Sure, the new thing might be fun for a little while, but that relationship would have several flaws as well, and you'd constantly find yourself doing comparisons.

Plus, there are always a couple of things to consider. First, if she hits on married men how much do you think you can trust her? Secondly, if you cheat on your wife, how can you expect her to trust you?

In the end it's entirely up to you, but you have to weigh the benefits against the things you'd lose. Frankly, if your marriage is that good I think you'd be a fool to give it up. So it's not perfect or filled with choirs of angels singing. Big fucking deal. Women and their emotions are different than men. Men can get ready to go if there's a slight breeze. Women need more care than that to get ready. You want more sexy times? Do some housework. Make her dinner when she's not expecting it. Buy her a card. It doesn't have to be anything big, just something that shows you are thinking of her and still interested. Find something you can do together - bike riding, taking a walk - and do it regularly.

You have to make more of an effort than you have been - which you have admitted.

Good luck, my friend.
 
LittleSin

LittleSin

Serious Question: Is your wife apathetic to the relationship?

I mean, I love my husband...but I must admit that I sometimes get a little too comfy, allowing silences to stretch on forever, forgetting to ask about his day, going weeks with out sex (sometimes), just being a lazy fuck.

You should talk to her if she she is apathetic...and be understanding but forceful.
 
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