When my wife and I split up (for 8 months) 2yrs ago, I was in the same boat Cyn, maybe even worse. I was a single dad of two kids and nearing 30 without a college education. I was pretty distraught. Thankfully I drowned my woes in working out daily and changing my eating habits instead of letting go. Which not only gave me alot of energy to go out socializing more often, but also a huge boost in self confidence.Single for two years now, almost three. Closing in on 30 years old, watching all my friends getting married and some have even had kids. It's a bit lonely when I really think about it. Now I hate this thread.
I'm not sure there's much of a correlation but a gay friend of mine is the only other person I know that's gone for so long without dating. His issue was that he never actively looked and only really hung out with his friends. He was pretty content with life though and had a good time regardless of his status, but I was just floored by his lack of -care- for the situation.It's been oh, about 13 years since my last relationship.
I've been trying. Cut back on the beer and soda, eating better/no snacking, etc. The working out part hasn't started, but that's partially depression's apathy and partially that it's constantly 9000 degrees out.When my wife and I split up (for 8 months) 2yrs ago, I was in the same boat Cyn, maybe even worse. I was a single dad of two kids and nearing 30 without a college education. I was pretty distraught. Thankfully I drowned my woes in working out daily and changing my eating habits instead of letting go. Which not only gave me alot of energy to go out socializing more often, but also a huge boost in self confidence.
For those 8 months, I had more dates than I ever had in all the years prior to getting married. Don't fret man, it can get alot better.
Really, at this point, I'm not even looking. Maybe after I have an established career.I'm not sure there's much of a correlation but a gay friend of mine is the only other person I know that's gone for so long without dating. His issue was that he never actively looked and only really hung out with his friends. He was pretty content with life though and had a good time regardless of his status, but I was just floored by his lack of -care- for the situation.
I figured there was a similarity. Well that's a pretty awesome way to look at life, when you're single it's much easier to attain your personal goals. I envy that sometimes.Really, at this point, I'm not even looking. Maybe after I have an established career.
Then again, I've never been one of those people who feel the need to have a partner.
You're either 41yrs old or claiming to have been single since birth26 years single
You're either 41yrs old or claiming to have been single since birth
Given the pinkie pie, I'm assuming the latter. There are many people who haven't dated well into their late adulthood.You're either 41yrs old or claiming to have been single since birth
No, I mean claiming the years of 1-15 as single is a bit on the strange side. One would figure you'd start counting your single status from age 14-16 to upward.Given the pinkie pie, I'm assuming the latter. There are many people who haven't dated well into their late adulthood.
It's only viewed as unusual because we're culturally conditioned to believe that you should date around in high School/college.
Dated for 12yrs, were engaged for another 10yrs and have now been married for 9yrs?Dating for 12.5 years, engaged for 10 on Oct 1, Married for 9 and change.