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#1

Gilgamesh

Gilgamesh

Simple thought crossed my mind, was wondering what Halforums consists of.


#2

Bowielee

Bowielee

:foreveralone:


#3

Gilgamesh

Gilgamesh

Secondary question if not too personal for those who answer: For how long?


#4

ThatNickGuy

ThatNickGuy

:foreveralone:

(For a little over a year.)


#5

WasabiPoptart

WasabiPoptart

Married for 8 years. Together for 10 years as of September 12.


#6

CynicismKills

CynicismKills

Single for two years now, almost three. Closing in on 30 years old, watching all my friends getting married and some have even had kids. It's a bit lonely when I really think about it. Now I hate this thread.



#7

Dirona

Dirona

Started dating on Jan 1, '08.
Married in Sept, '09.


#8

Bowielee

Bowielee

It's been oh, about 13 years since my last relationship.


#9

bhamv3

bhamv3

Been with my current girlfriend for approximately nine years. Recently went down to visit her parents to ask them for permission to get married.

Oh, and my girlfriend and I have never have sex.


#10

Cajungal

Cajungal

Together for 9.5 years, been married since July.


#11

HCGLNS

HCGLNS

Married for 416,188,800 seconds.


#12

Gilgamesh

Gilgamesh

Single for two years now, almost three. Closing in on 30 years old, watching all my friends getting married and some have even had kids. It's a bit lonely when I really think about it. Now I hate this thread.
When my wife and I split up (for 8 months) 2yrs ago, I was in the same boat Cyn, maybe even worse. I was a single dad of two kids and nearing 30 without a college education. I was pretty distraught. Thankfully I drowned my woes in working out daily and changing my eating habits instead of letting go. Which not only gave me alot of energy to go out socializing more often, but also a huge boost in self confidence.

For those 8 months, I had more dates than I ever had in all the years prior to getting married. Don't fret man, it can get alot better.


#13

MindDetective

MindDetective

dating since Jan. 8th, 2009. Married Mar. 21, 2010.


#14

Gilgamesh

Gilgamesh

It's been oh, about 13 years since my last relationship.
I'm not sure there's much of a correlation but a gay friend of mine is the only other person I know that's gone for so long without dating. His issue was that he never actively looked and only really hung out with his friends. He was pretty content with life though and had a good time regardless of his status, but I was just floored by his lack of -care- for the situation.


#15

CynicismKills

CynicismKills

When my wife and I split up (for 8 months) 2yrs ago, I was in the same boat Cyn, maybe even worse. I was a single dad of two kids and nearing 30 without a college education. I was pretty distraught. Thankfully I drowned my woes in working out daily and changing my eating habits instead of letting go. Which not only gave me alot of energy to go out socializing more often, but also a huge boost in self confidence.

For those 8 months, I had more dates than I ever had in all the years prior to getting married. Don't fret man, it can get alot better.
I've been trying. Cut back on the beer and soda, eating better/no snacking, etc. The working out part hasn't started, but that's partially depression's apathy and partially that it's constantly 9000 degrees out.


#16

jwhouk

jwhouk

19 years next month - and counting.


#17

Gusto

Gusto

Been dating/sleeping with someone for almost 4 months, though exclusivity and the boyfriend/girlfriend titles that go with it are on hold until such a time as she can find permanent employment and move back to Waterloo from Creemore.

I voted dating because it's sliiiiightly more accurate than single.


#18

Cheesy1

Cheesy1

Two months actually dating, but close for the last two years or so.

The longest I was single was about 13 years as well.


#19

Bowielee

Bowielee

I'm not sure there's much of a correlation but a gay friend of mine is the only other person I know that's gone for so long without dating. His issue was that he never actively looked and only really hung out with his friends. He was pretty content with life though and had a good time regardless of his status, but I was just floored by his lack of -care- for the situation.
Really, at this point, I'm not even looking. Maybe after I have an established career.

Then again, I've never been one of those people who feel the need to have a partner.


#20

Gilgamesh

Gilgamesh

Really, at this point, I'm not even looking. Maybe after I have an established career.

Then again, I've never been one of those people who feel the need to have a partner.
I figured there was a similarity. Well that's a pretty awesome way to look at life, when you're single it's much easier to attain your personal goals. I envy that sometimes.


#21

Hylian

Hylian

26 years single



#22

Gilgamesh

Gilgamesh

26 years single
You're either 41yrs old or claiming to have been single since birth :p


#23

Hylian

Hylian

You're either 41yrs old or claiming to have been single since birth :p

Since birth



#24

Bowielee

Bowielee

You're either 41yrs old or claiming to have been single since birth :p
Given the pinkie pie, I'm assuming the latter. There are many people who haven't dated well into their late adulthood.

It's only viewed as unusual because we're culturally conditioned to believe that you should date around in high School/college.


#25

RoboKomodo

RoboKomodo

Married 9 months today.


#26

Gilgamesh

Gilgamesh

Given the pinkie pie, I'm assuming the latter. There are many people who haven't dated well into their late adulthood.

It's only viewed as unusual because we're culturally conditioned to believe that you should date around in high School/college.
No, I mean claiming the years of 1-15 as single is a bit on the strange side. One would figure you'd start counting your single status from age 14-16 to upward.


#27

Bowielee

Bowielee

Gotcha.


#28

strawman

strawman

Married for 14 years. We were dating off and on since our teens.


#29

grub

grub

Dating for 12.5 years, engaged for 10 on Oct 1, Married for 9 and change.


#30

Gilgamesh

Gilgamesh

Dating for 12.5 years, engaged for 10 on Oct 1, Married for 9 and change.
Dated for 12yrs, were engaged for another 10yrs and have now been married for 9yrs?


#31

David

David

I've been single for a year now. My last relationship lasted about two weeks, and went so badly it has kept me off of actively looking ever since. I keep telling myself to worry most about education/career right now, but lately have been considering trying Okcupid.


#32

phil

phil

Single.....


ladies;)


#33

Hailey Knight

Hailey Knight

Got together 6 years ago, been married 1 year and 5 months.


#34

Espy

Espy

Together since... Dec 2001. Got Married in 2003 so we've been married for 9 years, together for a little over 11. And we have a chubby little bundle of baby girl joy. Who keeps us very, very busy.


#35

blotsfan

blotsfan

Dating for about 2.5 years.


#36

HowDroll

HowDroll

Dating for almost three years.


#37

Thread Necromancer

Thread Necromancer

married in 99. separated 4 years ago, many dates in that time, dated for one year, split up, single now for 2 years, and then find out I'm still legally married and not even "separated" anymore even though we haven't been together for four years and I've been 2 years without any significant dating.


#38

Tress

Tress

Well, let's see... it's been a few years since a certain someone utterly destroyed me. A few dates here and there since, but nothing serious.


#39

Grytpipe-Thynne

Grytpipe-Thynne

Married to second wife twenty years.


#40

North_Ranger

North_Ranger

Single for... well, barring a six-month relationship in '10, I've been single for close to a decade now. :(


#41

Frank

Frank

Single since getting dumped in April. Had a few trists here and there sort of.

Super single since having a microstroke and I have very little confidence to even try right now. So thanks for the pick me up thread.


#42

LittleSin

LittleSin

Hm. Started dating in February 2004. Got married August of 2007. So, nine years all together.


#43

Charlie Don't Surf

Charlie Don't Surf

If I wasn't swamped at work I would make a joke about taken and being a man with a very specific set of skills and cuningulus but instead I'll just say I'm happily single


#44

Bowielee

Bowielee

If I wasn't swamped at work I would make a joke about taken and being a man with a very specific set of skills and cuningulus but instead I'll just say I'm happily single
I don't know who you are. I don't know what you want. If you are looking for a relationship, I can tell you I don't have emotion to spare. But what I do have are a very particular set of skills; skills I have acquired over a very long career of performing cunnalingus. Skills that make me an orgasmic pleasure for people like you. If you let my penis go now, that'll be the end of it. I will not look for you, I will not pursue you. But if you don't, I will look for you, I will find you, and I will make you orgasm.


#45

Piotyr

Piotyr

I...can't follow that with justice, sorry.

It's been...almost exactly 14 years since I got so utterly destroyed by a female, every time I think of her and the event, it still makes me sick and sad. It was enough to turn me off of relationships forever....however, I've been married now for 8 years, together for almost 12.

So, I guess what I'm saying is that for every significant other that treated you like garbage, there's another one out there who'll do you right.


#46

Adam

Adam

I answered "Married" because to me "dating" means dating several people in a row, or at the same time, which is what I did when I was dating. (random encounters, FWB, ONS, etc..) Now I am in a long term relationship but there was no option for that, so I put in Married.
I would consider a long term relationship still dating.

Also, I would like to enter "Married and Available" but it's not multiple choice![DOUBLEPOST=1349126267][/DOUBLEPOST]
I would consider a long term relationship still dating.

Also, I would like to enter "Married and Available" but it's not multiple choice!
My more serious answer is Married 6 years, together 10 years.


#47

Gilgamesh

Gilgamesh

Don't get me started on the "Available" thing as I have done (and still do to some extent) the poly thing. Maybe it's a cultural thing but here we don't say we are "dating" after we've been together for 10 years but simply aren't married (yet). Dating and being in a relationship has two very distinct meanings here.

Edit: Not to mention to more complex relationship types outside of your primary. You can have additional lovers, be dating, have a secondary live in partner, be in a triad, and of course the various BDSM dynamics that can be outside of your primary relationship. (E.g.: Vanilla with primary, Domme of others, sub with secondary.)
Let's just say it's the simplified version. Dating = In a Relationship with one or others. Married = Legally married/common law. Single = Not seeing anyone.


#48

Adam

Adam

Don't get me started on the "Available" thing as I have done (and still do to some extent) the poly thing. Maybe it's a cultural thing but here we don't say we are "dating" after we've been together for 10 years but simply aren't married (yet). Dating and being in a relationship has two very distinct meanings here.
I think it's pretty similar here. I know I've seen in the past couples on my Facebook calling themselves married after being in a longer term committed relationship and it doesn't go over very well with actual married people.


#49

Gilgamesh

Gilgamesh

I think the reason for that is that a married person can't simply just walk away from a relationship without any legal issues. A long term relationship can literally just one day call it quits and there are no ramifications.


#50

Jay

Jay



#51

Adam

Adam

I think the reason for that is that a married person can't simply just walk away from a relationship without any legal issues. A long term relationship can literally just one day call it quits and there are no ramifications.
Ehhh, not so much nowadays. Most (if not all) of Canada has Common Law marriages on their books stating that if you've been living together in a committed relationship and presenting each other as firm and commited partners, legally you might as well be married and assets can be divided as if you were married.

I know I like to grind the gears of anyone who refers to their live-in girlfriend as a wife. "OH, so you went through the process of making it official and you didn't invite us? OH, you aren't actually married? OH."


#52

Frank

Frank

As far as I know, you have to file quite a bit of paperwork to be considered common-law.


#53

linglingface

linglingface

Dating since 2003, almost 9 years now! Engaged for... I forget how many years. :p


#54

Squidleybits

Squidleybits

Married for 416,188,800 seconds.
This plus however many seconds since he posted.


#55

Adam

Adam

As far as I know, you have to file quite a bit of paperwork to be considered common-law.
  • In British Columbia, a person who has lived and cohabited with another person, for a period of at least two years is considered a common law spouse, unless one or both of them were married to another person during this time, according to the "Estate Administration Act".[15]
  • In Nova Scotia, a couple must cohabit for two years in a marriage-like relationship, and may not have been married to another person during this time.
  • In New Brunswick, a couple must live together for three years or have a natural or adopted child together. They cannot have been married to another person during this time.[16]
  • In Alberta, common law marriage has been subsumed since 2003 under the terms of the Adult Interdependent Relationship Act,[17] which may additionally apply to any two unrelated people living together in a mutually dependent relationship for three years. Only one interdependent relationship is allowed at a time. In the event either of the common law spouses are married to other persons during this time, neither of the common law couple can begin to be "interdependent" until divorce from other spouses occurs.
As far as I've seen, no paperwork required other than checking off "Common Law" on your tax return if you want to do a joint filing.


#56

Sparhawk

Sparhawk

Married for almost 24 years, December 17 will be that date.


#57

Jay

Jay

Honey Boo Boo's mother has a boyfriend and you're single. Just let that sink in.


#58

Gilgamesh

Gilgamesh

Perhaps it's because unlike Honey Boo Boo's mother, Bowielee has standards? ;)


#59

Jay

Jay

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#60

Hailey Knight

Hailey Knight

I think the reason for that is that a married person can't simply just walk away from a relationship without any legal issues. A long term relationship can literally just one day call it quits and there are no ramifications.
I think it's because a lot of married people want to feel like they're some special class of person. We're not. Some married people aren't even happy or in healthy relationships, while many "long-term unwed relationship" people are.

So I go by Ame's version.

Alternatively, could add a "going steady" option and retro up this poll.


#61

Puntabul

Puntabul

Dated for 2.5 years been married for 6 years this past August.


#62

sixpackshaker

sixpackshaker

Single, I date a bit. Have not been in a long term relationship for two years. My longest stretch with out a GF, 7 years.


#63

BananaHands

BananaHands

Single. Prone to mingle.


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