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My father has hepatic cancer.

#1

Bones

Bones

And i have to be strong for my mother. I want to curl up into a ball and cry but i cant because my mother needs someone to be there. Fuck me i dont want to be this person. if i go crazy and implode know that this place has been like family to me. I cant tell anyone else this shit so you guys get to be my audience.

Im sorry to make you all be those people who have to bear this news.
Humbly yours,
Mike "Bones".


#2

Emrys

Emrys

Mon ami, if you need to talk or if I can help with anything, please let me know.


#3

Zappit

Zappit

We're here for you, Bones. Just try to stay optimistic.


#4

drifter

drifter

Aw geez Bones, my heart goes out to you. I know you said you need to stay strong for your mom, but cry if you gotta.


#5

Dave

Dave

Been there. Done that. I can help you through it. Everything about this sucks.

If you Google "David Nihsen phone" the first link is the white pages. My number is there and correct. Day or night. Preferably day. ;-)

I know it's rough and you are in one roughest patches - discovery and all the fear that goes with it. Next comes acceptance and just dealing with it all.

And you can always vent here. Yell, scream, call people names, curse at God. We'll listen.


#6

PatrThom

PatrThom

I'm also at the age where parents are starting to become infirm-er than previous.
Kati and I will take turns holding each other up as we work our way through 'em.
Best of wishes.

--Patrick


#7

evilmike

evilmike

Add me to the list of people who want to help. I've been through this sort of thing too.


#8

Bones

Bones

im a big boy and ill handle it, I just needed a place to vent that so it didnt eat me alive.
in anycase as I told Emrys, im easiest to harass and amuse via google hangouts/gmail at mikessoul@gmail.com


#9

Squidleybits

Squidleybits

I'm so sorry to hear this! Vent here whenever you need to, we're here!


#10

Bones

Bones

just got the final prognosis, fully metastasized fast metabolizing stage 4 cancer. 2-3 months to live with chemotherapy. so im kinda fucked up at the moment and planning to get even more fucked up tonight, sorry guys.


#11

Jay

Jay

Shit

Sorry mate


#12

Bowielee

Bowielee

I'm sorry to hear this. I haven't lost a parent yet, so I can't imagine what you're going through. All I can do is offer support and e-hugs.


#13

bhamv3

bhamv3

Holy shit man, so sorry to hear that.

We're here for you, buddy.


#14

Cajungal

Cajungal

Jesus, that's terrible news. I don't know what to say...except come and talk whenever you need. I'll be thinking of yall.


#15

Dave

Dave

Get as fucked up as you want.


#16

Yoshimickster

Yoshimickster

Vent as much as you need to man, do what you feel you need to.


#17

Celt Z

Celt Z

I'm so very sorry Bones, for you and your family. Being strong for your mom doesn't mean you can't have your own time to vent and cry and whatever gets you through it. Like others have said, you can do that here all you want and we'll be there for you.


#18

Zappit

Zappit

Jesus, Bones. I'm so sorry.

Fuck cancer, man. Just...fuck cancer.


#19

jwhouk

jwhouk

The like is for the "Fuck Cancer".

Yeah, I said it, because it's taken too many of my family members.


#20

GasBandit

GasBandit

I know what you're going through, Bones. I've been there, and I know how nothing I tell you can make you feel better. Just know we're here for you, and we're all sorry this happened to you and your family.


#21

Null

Null

Shit, man, that sucks.


#22

WasabiPoptart

WasabiPoptart

I'm sorry, Bones. Vent all you want. We're here for you.


#23

Bones

Bones

I dont know how to handle this. I dont really feel sad as I can accept the nature of this. I feel worse for my father who has such a short time to finish out anything he wanted done before he goes, and for my poor mother who has to soldier on without him. I keep making these morbid jokes and everyone is disturbed, but i feel like the comedian, life is grim so I might as well laugh in the face of death.


#24

Emrys

Emrys

If it's not upsetting your parents and it brings you emotional relief, everyone else can bugger off and let you handle this in the best way for you.


#25

Cajungal

Cajungal

Bones said:
I dont know how to handle this. I dont really feel sad as I can accept the nature of this. I feel worse for my father who has such a short time to finish out anything he wanted done before he goes, and for my poor mother who has to soldier on without him. I keep making these morbid jokes and everyone is disturbed, but i feel like the comedian, life is grim so I might as well laugh in the face of death.
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Everyone experiences something like this differently. Just roll with whatever you're feeling.
*huuuuuuug*


#26

LittleKagsin

LittleKagsin

The biggest of hugs from me to you!

I can barely verbalize how sorry I am for you and how much I will be thinking about you and your family in the coming days. :(

I want to also agree with the sentiment that everyone deals with things like this differently and if it doesn't make anyone upset, there's nothing wrong with making a joke here or there. It's how I deal with sadness too - making inappropriate jokes that are morbid in nature - so you're not alone in that regard.


#27

Dave

Dave

So is your dad going to go through the chemo?


#28

drawn_inward

drawn_inward

Sorry that your family is going through this. Don't apologize for using this place to vent. I'd say that's one of reasons we're all here.

I wish you well, and hope your family grows closer through this awful time.


#29

Bones

Bones

Dave said:
So is your dad going to go through the chemo?
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Yep being a marine and a devil dog he is going hard till the end, whatever god might be out there might smile upon his resolve to shake the reapers hand.


#30

Dave

Dave

Bones said:
Yep being a marine and a devil dog he is going hard till the end, whatever god might be out there might smile upon his resolve to shake the reapers hand.
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Tell him Semper Fi for me from one old Dog to another.


#31

Simfers

Simfers

Fuck, Mike, I'm so sorry... Do what you need to do, deal however you need to deal, here, anywhere. We'll be there every step.


#32

Bones

Bones

the next person who asks me how I am doing repeatedly is getting pistol whipped. THE MAN IS STILL HERE AND KICKING I AM ONLY MARGINALLY UPSET RIGHT NOW. GO COMFORT MY POOR MOTHER WHO WORRIES ABOUT ME BEING WITHOUT A FATHER AT THE AGE OF 28! SHE ISNT WORRIED ABOUT ANYTHING ELSE BUT HOW WILL I DO WITHOUT HIM! FUCK ME, I AM MORE UPSET ABOUT THEIR PAIN! i will shoulder any pain, I am soft and weak but I will bear it, what tears me up is watching their suffering. anyways time for work, this has been another installment of watch Bones rage against the dying of the light.


#33

Bubble181

Bubble181

So, is he (going to be) able to leave the hospital for some last wishes/getting around/farewells/etc or will he be confined to the hospital for the last few months? And how did he find out?


#34

PatrThom

PatrThom

I think most people assume you are only mentioning it because you want sympathy.
You might try starting the discussion about how much you are worried about your mother.
"Oh? Why is that?" "Because she's probably going to lose her husband soon."
Let them connect the dots.

--Patrick


#35

Bones

Bones

PatrThom said:
I think most people assume you are only mentioning it because you want sympathy.
You might try starting the discussion about how much you are worried about your mother.
"Oh? Why is that?" "Because she's probably going to lose her husband soon."
Let them connect the dots.

--Patrick
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no these are people who found out about it from other sources and are coming to me!
Bubble181 said:
So, is he (going to be) able to leave the hospital for some last wishes/getting around/farewells/etc or will he be confined to the hospital for the last few months? And how did he find out?
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he is fucking home and going back to work on monday, the old dog is fucking going to go about his business as if nothing ever happened. so whatever, with my luck he will fucking survive the god damn cancer.


#36

Bones

Bones

So my father passed away at 7 am saturday the 25th after one long nights battle. Everyone but mom and i had left, mom passed out in the chair in a ball. I made a phone call to work to say i wouldnt be in. When i came back dad was breathing much more comfortably and softer. I went to the chair at his side, put my hand on his and he grasped it, smiled, and died...
I took my fathers hand as he went quietly into that black desert of eternity, the fact that he died at ease will forever lighten the burden on my heart and mind.
Vaya con dios pops. I hope whatever dreams may come will be beautiful.


#37

Amy

Amy

((*hugs for Bones*))


#38

Dave

Dave

Hugs just won't cut it, man. You have all my condolences.


#39

PatrThom

PatrThom

I'm glad he didn't go angry.

--Patrick


#40

Frank

Frank

Nope, shitty, fuck July! I'm so sorry dude. I can't even begin to properly sympathize, so you get a sad hugs rating.


#41

Hailey Knight

Hailey Knight

I'm glad the burden was lightened, but I'm sorry there had to be one at all. It sucks.


#42

evilmike

evilmike

Bones, I'm so sorry that you family went through this. I'm glad he found peace at the end.


#43

Emrys

Emrys

You and your family are in my thoughts.


#44

drifter

drifter

Brutal. Words seem so trivial at times like this, but you have my sympathies, Bones.


#45

Yoshimickster

Yoshimickster

Sorry for your loss Bones.


#46

Null

Null

I am very sorry for your loss, Bones. But at least he went at peace, with his loved ones at his side, seeing him off as he departed for his next journey.


#47

Zappit

Zappit

I'm so sorry, Bones. My heart goes out to you and your family.


#48

Cajungal

Cajungal

I'm so sorry for your loss, but I'm glad you were with him. Having you there obviously made him happy. I'll be thinking of you and hoping that y'all can take comfort in one another.


#49

WasabiPoptart

WasabiPoptart

Our condolences to you and your family, Bones.


#50

Celt Z

Celt Z

I'm so sorry Bones.


#51

Gared

Gared

Bones, I'm so sorry man. My condolences to you and your family.


#52

Bones

Bones

so story time, when i was a freshman in high school I got picked on for my red shoes. I switched to black shoes and my father wore my red shoes, he earned the nickname red shoes for always wearing said colored shoes as a pont of making something different cool. I have made the choice that I would like to pick up where he left off in his memory. they shall call me THE SON OF REDSHOES!


#53

PatrThom

PatrThom

Careful or you'll turn into David Duchovny.

--Patrick


#54

Ravenpoe

Ravenpoe

Bones said:
so story time, when i was a freshman in high school I got picked on for my red shoes. I switched to black shoes and my father wore my red shoes, he earned the nickname red shoes for always wearing said colored shoes as a pont of making something different cool. I have made the choice that I would like to pick up where he left off in his memory. they shall call me THE SON OF REDSHOES!
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#55

Bubble181

Bubble181

Condolences & hugs, man.


#56

Frank

Frank

Bones said:
so story time, when i was a freshman in high school I got picked on for my red shoes. I switched to black shoes and my father wore my red shoes, he earned the nickname red shoes for always wearing said colored shoes as a pont of making something different cool. I have made the choice that I would like to pick up where he left off in his memory. they shall call me THE SON OF REDSHOES!
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#57

drawn_inward

drawn_inward

Sorry Bones. I wish you and your family peace.


#58

fade

fade

Glad you were there with him at the end. Probably meant a great deal to him.


#59

Hylian

Hylian

I am sorry Bones :(


#60

Simfers

Simfers

Seems woefully inadequate, but all my sympathies, Bones.


#61

Ravenpoe

Ravenpoe

DexterKUlrich said:
My sincerest condolences.
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You might want to check post dates. Also just give us the spam right now and get it over with.


#62

Bones

Bones

lol holy shit! I was wondering whose dad had cancer!? I forgot I even made this thread!


#63

Dave

Dave

@Bones I'm so sorry this thread was necro'd by a spammer. I can lock it and send it away if you want.


#64

Bones

Bones

nah dave its all good, everything is cool, @PatrThom and I were remarking about it, I found it more funny than anything else. its now been over 7 years, those wounds are well healed. :)


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