My father has hepatic cancer.

Bones · Jun 10, 2015

And i have to be strong for my mother. I want to curl up into a ball and cry but i cant because my mother needs someone to be there. Fuck me i dont want to be this person. if i go crazy and implode know that this place has been like family to me. I cant tell anyone else this shit so you guys get to be my audience.

Im sorry to make you all be those people who have to bear this news.
Humbly yours,
Mike "Bones".

Emrys · Jun 10, 2015

Mon ami, if you need to talk or if I can help with anything, please let me know.

Zappit · Jun 10, 2015

We're here for you, Bones. Just try to stay optimistic.

drifter · Jun 10, 2015

Aw geez Bones, my heart goes out to you. I know you said you need to stay strong for your mom, but cry if you gotta.

Dave · Jun 10, 2015

Been there. Done that. I can help you through it. Everything about this sucks.

If you Google "David Nihsen phone" the first link is the white pages. My number is there and correct. Day or night. Preferably day. ;-)

I know it's rough and you are in one roughest patches - discovery and all the fear that goes with it. Next comes acceptance and just dealing with it all.

And you can always vent here. Yell, scream, call people names, curse at God. We'll listen.

PatrThom · Jun 10, 2015

I'm also at the age where parents are starting to become infirm-er than previous.
Kati and I will take turns holding each other up as we work our way through 'em.
Best of wishes.

--Patrick

evilmike · Jun 10, 2015

Add me to the list of people who want to help. I've been through this sort of thing too.

Bones · Jun 10, 2015

im a big boy and ill handle it, I just needed a place to vent that so it didnt eat me alive.
in anycase as I told Emrys, im easiest to harass and amuse via google hangouts/gmail at mikessoul@gmail.com

Squidleybits · Jun 10, 2015

I'm so sorry to hear this! Vent here whenever you need to, we're here!

Bones · Jun 10, 2015

just got the final prognosis, fully metastasized fast metabolizing stage 4 cancer. 2-3 months to live with chemotherapy. so im kinda fucked up at the moment and planning to get even more fucked up tonight, sorry guys.

Jay · Jun 10, 2015

Shit

Sorry mate

Bowielee · Jun 10, 2015

I'm sorry to hear this. I haven't lost a parent yet, so I can't imagine what you're going through. All I can do is offer support and e-hugs.

bhamv3 · Jun 10, 2015

Holy shit man, so sorry to hear that.

We're here for you, buddy.

Cajungal · Jun 10, 2015

Jesus, that's terrible news. I don't know what to say...except come and talk whenever you need. I'll be thinking of yall.

Dave · Jun 10, 2015

Get as fucked up as you want.

Yoshimickster · Jun 10, 2015

Vent as much as you need to man, do what you feel you need to.

Celt Z · Jun 10, 2015

I'm so very sorry Bones, for you and your family. Being strong for your mom doesn't mean you can't have your own time to vent and cry and whatever gets you through it. Like others have said, you can do that here all you want and we'll be there for you.

Zappit · Jun 10, 2015

Jesus, Bones. I'm so sorry.

Fuck cancer, man. Just...fuck cancer.

jwhouk · Jun 10, 2015

The like is for the "Fuck Cancer".

Yeah, I said it, because it's taken too many of my family members.

GasBandit · Jun 10, 2015

I know what you're going through, Bones. I've been there, and I know how nothing I tell you can make you feel better. Just know we're here for you, and we're all sorry this happened to you and your family.

Null · Jun 11, 2015

Shit, man, that sucks.

WasabiPoptart · Jun 11, 2015

I'm sorry, Bones. Vent all you want. We're here for you.

Bones · Jun 11, 2015

I dont know how to handle this. I dont really feel sad as I can accept the nature of this. I feel worse for my father who has such a short time to finish out anything he wanted done before he goes, and for my poor mother who has to soldier on without him. I keep making these morbid jokes and everyone is disturbed, but i feel like the comedian, life is grim so I might as well laugh in the face of death.

Emrys · Jun 11, 2015

If it's not upsetting your parents and it brings you emotional relief, everyone else can bugger off and let you handle this in the best way for you.

Cajungal · Jun 11, 2015

Bones said:
I dont know how to handle this. I dont really feel sad as I can accept the nature of this. I feel worse for my father who has such a short time to finish out anything he wanted done before he goes, and for my poor mother who has to soldier on without him. I keep making these morbid jokes and everyone is disturbed, but i feel like the comedian, life is grim so I might as well laugh in the face of death.

Everyone experiences something like this differently. Just roll with whatever you're feeling.
*huuuuuuug*

LittleKagsin · Jun 11, 2015

The biggest of hugs from me to you!

I can barely verbalize how sorry I am for you and how much I will be thinking about you and your family in the coming days.

I want to also agree with the sentiment that everyone deals with things like this differently and if it doesn't make anyone upset, there's nothing wrong with making a joke here or there. It's how I deal with sadness too - making inappropriate jokes that are morbid in nature - so you're not alone in that regard.

Dave · Jun 11, 2015

So is your dad going to go through the chemo?

drawn_inward · Jun 11, 2015

Sorry that your family is going through this. Don't apologize for using this place to vent. I'd say that's one of reasons we're all here.

I wish you well, and hope your family grows closer through this awful time.

Bones · Jun 11, 2015

Dave said:
So is your dad going to go through the chemo?

Yep being a marine and a devil dog he is going hard till the end, whatever god might be out there might smile upon his resolve to shake the reapers hand.

Dave · Jun 11, 2015

Bones said:
Yep being a marine and a devil dog he is going hard till the end, whatever god might be out there might smile upon his resolve to shake the reapers hand.

Tell him Semper Fi for me from one old Dog to another.

Simfers · Jun 11, 2015

Fuck, Mike, I'm so sorry... Do what you need to do, deal however you need to deal, here, anywhere. We'll be there every step.

Bones · Jun 12, 2015

the next person who asks me how I am doing repeatedly is getting pistol whipped. THE MAN IS STILL HERE AND KICKING I AM ONLY MARGINALLY UPSET RIGHT NOW. GO COMFORT MY POOR MOTHER WHO WORRIES ABOUT ME BEING WITHOUT A FATHER AT THE AGE OF 28! SHE ISNT WORRIED ABOUT ANYTHING ELSE BUT HOW WILL I DO WITHOUT HIM! FUCK ME, I AM MORE UPSET ABOUT THEIR PAIN! i will shoulder any pain, I am soft and weak but I will bear it, what tears me up is watching their suffering. anyways time for work, this has been another installment of watch Bones rage against the dying of the light.

Bubble181 · Jun 12, 2015

So, is he (going to be) able to leave the hospital for some last wishes/getting around/farewells/etc or will he be confined to the hospital for the last few months? And how did he find out?

PatrThom · Jun 12, 2015

I think most people assume you are only mentioning it because you want sympathy.
You might try starting the discussion about how much you are worried about your mother.
"Oh? Why is that?" "Because she's probably going to lose her husband soon."
Let them connect the dots.

--Patrick

Bones · Jun 12, 2015

PatrThom said:
I think most people assume you are only mentioning it because you want sympathy.
You might try starting the discussion about how much you are worried about your mother.
"Oh? Why is that?" "Because she's probably going to lose her husband soon."
Let them connect the dots.

--Patrick

no these are people who found out about it from other sources and are coming to me!

Bubble181 said:
So, is he (going to be) able to leave the hospital for some last wishes/getting around/farewells/etc or will he be confined to the hospital for the last few months? And how did he find out?

he is fucking home and going back to work on monday, the old dog is fucking going to go about his business as if nothing ever happened. so whatever, with my luck he will fucking survive the god damn cancer.