Personal Dealbreakers

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Hansagan

Just curious to get peoples thoughts....Wether you were just making someone's acquaintance, or had known them a long time, what would be a personal dealbreaker in the relationship? What single thing that they did or believed would cause you to think that they were no longer worth your time? What would make you give up on a person?

I would have to say Racism....not the everyday prejudices that most of us have (Whether we admit it or not) but honestly believing that one race is better/smarter than another. Neo Nazi / KKK type racism.

Thoughts?
 
bhamv3

bhamv3

Racism is actually not a huge deal breaker for me, partly because it's so common in my culture, you have to learn to accept it.

Personally I can't stand extreme lacks of personal hygiene. Back in high school, the computer lab technician's office was FULL of his body odor. I'd walk in and gag from the noxious fumes. He had a window in his office but it was never open. Probably all for the best, the smell would knock birds out of the sky.

I'm not the cleanest guy myself. I'll admit that. I'm a big slob. So when someone is so utterly unhygienic even I can't stand it, it's a deal breaker for me.
 
FnordBear

FnordBear

I am pretty forgiving of all the people I know but I have to say in recent years it has been "downer people". That is people who may not have it easy (and we all have had rough times at some point) but try to bring you down with them or make you feel bad because your life is going ok and theirs is not.
 
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TotalFusionOne

"My friends think that you..."

"I was talking to my friends about you and..."

"My friends don't like that you.."
 
Shegokigo

Shegokigo

Lie to me once.

I give everyone the benefit of the doubt from the moment I meet them. I give you my 100% trust from the get go. As a balancer to that, you only get one shot with me. Fuck it up once, and you're done.
 
Enresshou

Enresshou

-Willful ignorance. I cannot stand people who believe they're right, regardless of any sort of evidence, and will take every opportunity to remind you of this.
-In the same vein, if you believe Intelligent Design should be taught in schools. You could be the smartest, most awesome person ever, but that causes my brain to feel like it's being wrung inside out.

-Cheating. I would rather have someone call me in the dead of night and say, "I'm breaking up with you; sorry, we'll talk later." than me find out/they confess later. Like Shego said, I will trust you implicitly; if you take advantage of that, fuck off. I don't need you.
 
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Dusty668

Trust breaking. However I'm not likely to form a relation ship with someone who has a lot of drama going on either.
 
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LordRavage

B.O.

I cant hide my facial expressions when someone smells bad.

Trust is also a very big deal. I have ended long term friendships over trust issues. If a friend "F"'s me over...then it is over.

*Shrugs*
 
Hailey Knight

Hailey Knight

Shegokigo said:
Lie to me once.

I give everyone the benefit of the doubt from the moment I meet them. I give you my 100% trust from the get go. As a balancer to that, you only get one shot with me. Fuck it up once, and you're done.
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This.

My stepsister is the only one in my family I tell things to, because everyone else has broken my trust.
 
Tinwhistler

Tinwhistler

These are things that are deal breakers in friendship:

Lying, stealing. Those aren't things a real friend does.

I also don't do 'drama'...if someone is a total drama queen and is always surrounded by some kind of crisis or another, I tend to let those friendships peter out. Most people who are always surrounded by drama bring it into their own lives, and i just dont' have the energy to deal with someone else's problems all the time.

For relationships, the above also applies, but add the following:
Cheating (sexually), chronic poor personal hygiene, lack of intimacy (emotionally and sexually), lack of respect.
 
bhamv3

bhamv3

Charlie Dont Surf;296414][quote=bhamv3 said:
Racism is actually not a huge deal breaker for me, partly because it's so common in my culture, you have to learn to accept it.

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Man, I can't see any situation where I accept racism :( I'd date outside any culture that has racism as some pillar.[/QUOTE]

I wouldn't say it's a pillar, nothing as significant as that. It's that we don't have the racial diversity of other parts of the world, nor do we have racial issues as significant as those that have plagued the West. As a result we lack the racial sensitivity that some other countries might have.

I suppose an analogy might be saying obesity is an accepted part of American culture, or alcoholism is an accepted part of British culture.
 
Jay

Jay

Shegokigo said:
Lie to me once.

I give everyone the benefit of the doubt from the moment I meet them. I give you my 100% trust from the get go. As a balancer to that, you only get one shot with me. Fuck it up once, and you're done.
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I'm the same way.

I don't forgive people who lost their honor in my eyes. Example, my neighbor walked over to introduce himself when I first moved into my new house last March. He asked him if I intended to put up the fence this year, I told him yes, it was on my to do list and to give me a week or two to settle in.

Two weeks later I go see him about the fence, he tells me what sort of fence he wants, he wanted to go all fancy with black grills with golden pikes with an ornamental door. I look at him oddly and start to ask him questions about “lattes” (basically something to put on fences that will provide some privacy as the fence is closed off). He’s not interested. I’m unwilling to proceed as my other neighbor put up a nice beige frost fence with lattes and my backyard neighbor wanted the same. I didn’t exactly want to have one side of my backyard be black and open compared to beige and close. This neighbor also has 3 kids. I ask him to give me a week to think of it.

3 days later, some fence guys come and install the fence on his side of the yard.

I was pissed, but took their number nonetheless since we were shopping.

That weekend I invited 7-8 companies over to receive quotes, including the company who installed my neighbor’s fence. Ironically, the seller was someone I knew from high school and I got the best quote from them. I asked them about my neighbor’s and he told me they booked the installation from them…last August.

I was pissed. Since then, I’ve not spoken to them. Whenever they would wave or say hello (it has now long stopped), my fiancée and I ignore them. On Halloween, they tried to bring their kids over to get candy, I closed the door on them.

*snip* I wish they would either die or move. You can choose your house… but you cannot choose your neighbors.

Since this has happened, I left them a few surprises to say the least.
 
Dave

Dave

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Jesus Christ, Jay! Talk about holding grudges. Taking it out on the kids when they've tried to make amends?

I wonder who has the bad neighbors? "Korean fucks"?
 
David

David

In the past I have actively chosen to break off relationships over

1) drug use
2) Secretly spiking my drink
3) flat-out refusal to return things I lend them
4) Bitching at me because I was busy doing my homework rather than doing her some favor that would have taken me all night
5) Being a woman-beating douchebag
 
Silver Jelly

Silver Jelly

I don't like people who are mixed race. Or those guys that want me to shower every day. or that try to cheer me up when I'm telling them how miserable I am.



Sorry, sorry, I'm joking, this wasn't true!


D'oh!
 
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jasonisgreat

Loyalty is a big thing for me. I also can't stand people who are two-faced.
 
Jay

Jay

lol

Yes, I do hold grudges. That’s my deal breaker… I despise dishonorable people. If they can lie about something as insignificant about “fences”, how am I supposed to trust them? They tried to pawn me to front half his fee to buy his shitty fence selection. They could have easily told me that they already paid for it… they didn’t. They tried to fool me to think I had some option. That’s pretty damn douche. I got my own fence up now.

They are Korean... and they always yap in Korean. Especially when they see us in front of our house… they yap and stare at us. Maybe they are suspicious that perhaps I had something to do with various… unfortunate accidents.

*snip* No ammends can be made, lying to me and try to make me a fool = I HATE YOU

and they are lucky i caught them in the lie, cause if i got caught... shit... i don't want to go there
 
Charlie Don't Surf

Charlie Don't Surf

SeriousJay said:
lol

Yes, I do hold grudges. That’s my deal breaker… I despise dishonorable people. If they can lie about something as insignificant about “fences”, how am I supposed to trust them? They tried to pawn me to front half his fee to buy his shitty fence selection. They could have easily told me that they already paid for it… they didn’t. They tried to fool me to think I had some option. That’s pretty damn douche. I got my own fence up now.

They are Korean... and they always yap in Korean. Especially when they see us in front of our house… they yap and stare at us. Maybe they are suspicious that perhaps I had something to do with various… unfortunate accidents.

*snip* No ammends can be made, lying to me and try to make me a fool = I HATE YOU

and they are lucky i caught them in the lie, cause if i got caught... shit... i don't want to go there
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what the fuck is wrong with you
 
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