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Okay, a friend of mine has been talking to a guy online and they both now want to meet. But she's very leery, of course. She has a given name, location, birth date and profession but can find nothing online for this guy. I've been looking also and have found nothing. Now, you'd think that a lawyer in New York City would have some web presence, even if it were to advertise. But I find nothing.

She wants to do a little checking before they meet so I'm putting some information out there. If you are interested in doing this with me send me a PM and I'll give the personal information that I won't put in here.

He's a lawyer in New York named Jack Buchanan. That's all I'm putting publicly.

Time to get someone on our law enforcement side to run a backround check!

Shegokigo said:

Time to get someone on our law enforcement side to run a backround check!

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Which would be, of course, completely legal and wouldn't get those on the law enforcment side into trouble...

I did a search for all lawyers in New York with the last name Buchanan and I couldn't find him but I will keep looking.


Here is what came up when i searched by the last name you gave.


http://lawyers.findlaw.com/lawyer/lawyer_dir/search/jsp/nameSearch_process.jsp


Thomas D. Buchanan Latham, NY Map this www.hackermurphy.com View Website View Profile

David R. Buchanan New York, NY Map this View Profile

Patricia L. Buchanan New York, NY Map this View Profile

Douglas W. Buchanan Albany, NY Map this View Profile

The New York State Bar Association lists no lawyer by that name. Are you spelling it correctly?

Yup.

Ooooo, sounds like a bullshitter to me. :uhhuh:

Well here is a list of all 35 people I can find by that name (or at least close to that name) that live in New York

http://www.whitepages.com/search/Fi...&firstname=Jack+&name=Buchanan&where=New+york

Did you try searching pipl.com?

http://www.nysba.org/AM/Template.cf...TaggedPageDisplay.cfm&TPLID=15&ContentID=1823

Those lawyers Hylian posted are listed in the NY bar. I find the fact that there's no "jack buchanan" to be suspicious. I wonder if it's a wanna-be paralegal who's trying to talk himself up.

It's entirely possible the he's registered under the BAR in a different state...

Someone lying on the internet? I am shocked, SHOCKED.

Personally, my best advice would be for your friend to just meet him. HOWEVER, take the usual precautions when it comes to internet dating:

1) Take her own car/transportation; don't have him pick her up.
2) Meet in a public place.
3) Make it short. A coffee or something.

I'd already be a little leery if you can't find any information on the guy, though. Red flags would include if he contacts her only on cellphone (no home number sometimes MIGHT mean he's married). But if you can't find the guy at all, then yeah, that's another big red flag.

You forgot the 4. Precaution: never go unarmed...

Jack is usually a nickname. Maybe he has a different first name.

It's his name, not a nickname. I've already found his home town, that he has two kids, possibly a sister, and the name of his wife. I don't yet know if he's still married.

Same information here. His oldest daughter was born in June of 2007 and the last post we have from him says his daughter is due and he's happily married.

Awww... hope your friend still goes on the date so she can ask him some awkward questions! Tell her to bring a spy camera!

Man I've hit a brick wall.

We found out a bit but nothing concrete on the marriage. This guy is an internet ghost.

Which is a surefire reason to completely trust the guy and date him!

Call his house and ask for Mrs. Buchanan.

Shakey said:

Call his house and ask for Mrs. Buchanan.

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^

Sounds like a fun time to be had by all.

Andi said:

You forgot the 4. Precaution: never go unarmed...

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I suggest using a smartcarry or a crossbreed supertuck

Shegokigo said:

Ooooo, sounds like a bullshitter to me. :uhhuh:

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That is what I thought. He is a liar.

Either he is who he says he is, a lawyer, which makes him a liar by trade.

Or he is not who he says he is, which makes him a lying creep.

Well well another interesting development in the life of Dave! Take notes! This is sitcom material baby, especially if it's a case of mistaken internet id

ThatNickGuy has good tips, I've meet lots of people though internet sites, good bad and married. Meet public and ask him how his wife is doing Then everyone can move on

Eh, just have her go on the date, absorb him, and rifle through his memories. Easy.

... I've played too much Prototype lately, haven't I?

Well, I see I'm late to the party.

But being in NYC I might just happen to be able to accidentally run into the guy...

....it's a small town.....

This has nothing to do with me, by the way. It's for a friend.

Dave said:

This has nothing to do with me, by the way. It's for a friend.

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Sure it is. Have fun on your little internet date.


Seriously though, have someone call and ask for his wife. Easiest way to find out. Sounds to me like he's probably married.

I'll call. I know all the great telemarketer rants.

Hey, I'll take a look again.

I can't believe I hadn't thought of sooner, but:

That lawyer's a spy! *suddenly pictures a TF2 Spy wearing a Phoenix Wright mask*

He's not in the Cornell student/alumni directory but that doesn't prove anything.
Edit: Hmm it only does current students. nvm.

He graduated Georgetown, not Cornell.

Any new news on this guy?

Dave, I'm sorry but when yu said "It's for a friend" I immediately thought of-

Married. She kicked him to the curb and "somehow" it all got back to his wife. No, she didn't do it on purpose, but she spoke with someone that turned out to be his wife's sister so he got snagged BIGTIME!!

Funny how we found out first....

Shegokigo said:

Funny how we found out first....

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you gotta love the internet

Oh you.

She talked to sister BECAUSE of us. Basically we saved her from making a BIG mistake. She is thankful.

Dave said:

Married. She kicked him to the curb and "somehow" it all got back to his wife. No, she didn't do it on purpose, but she spoke with someone that turned out to be his wife's sister so he got snagged BIGTIME!!

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This warms my cockles. Oh yes it does.

SeraRelm said:

Oh you.

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That happened to my sister years ago. Her husband/my brother-in-law was secretly seeing someone else.

My sis didn't find out until the other woman called her to confirm that they were indeed separated, as he had said.

They separated after that, but I guess after a lot of marriage counselling and such, they got back together. Their second daughter was born just this past weekend. Honestly, I still hate the guy for what he did, but I can't deny that he's changed...a little. He's a pilot and flies all over the world, so I trust him about as far as I can throw him.

People can and do change if they value what it is they are set to lose. The fact that your brother-in-law was willing to go to counseling is a huge indication that he was willing to work it out.

I'm filled with mirth, worry, and perplexity at that picture.

Also, wtf is with all these "cheating" threads this month?

Dave said:

People can and do change if they value what it is they are set to lose. The fact that your brother-in-law was willing to go to counseling is a huge indication that he was willing to work it out.

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Oh, I know that. And he's great with Victoria (their first daughter).

That doesn't mean I have to like him for what he did to my sister. It's something that I've always wanted to confront him about, but never have, so it's just something I've had to deal with on my own.