Sweet 16

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LordRendar

LordRendar

So, I met this awsome girl a couple of weeks ago during an Indi rock concert.
Sweet as hell,Funny and Intelligent. After a couple of drinks one thing led to another,
and we woke up the next morning at my place where I found out she just turned 16 (im 24).
After initial Shock,a little talk,we continued seeing each other and we are now in a relationship.
Her parents know,and seem to like me,but I dont know how to break it to my friends.

I started a theoretical discussion on older guys having a quite younger girlfriends with my friends,but got mostly negativ feedback. But I really don't want to hide the relationship any longer.

What to do?
 
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Silvanesti

oh god. I can see this thread is going to go downhill quick.

I dont know what to tell you man, but it sounds like your relationship is going to be a problem.
 
Troll

Troll

I'm sorry, but you need to end the relationship. She's too young, and that means there are issues about maturity and informed decisions. I understand that things started on the level as far as you knew, and I'm sure you like this girl. Still, it's a problem.

In the meantime, I'll stick around and watch the impending train wreck of a thread you started.
 
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Iaculus

First off, what country're you from?

Need to know whether this is even legal before we comment on anything else.

Also, in before trainwreck. At least you have a name that takes a great deal of creativity to misspell as 'Iaculus'... though LordRavage may not be so lucky.
 
C

Cuyval Dar

Jesus, is everyone on here a pedo?
First Iaculus, now Ravage?
:peep:
 
Nile

Nile

Alright. So technically, it's not illegal. However, there's still an eight year age difference. It'll only end poorly. Get out now.
 
Gusto

Gusto

I don't even look at it in terms of an 8-year difference.

She is literally 2/3rds your age.

I dunno, seems kinda doomed from the outset. My question is how do you pick up a girl and NOT know that she's 16?
 
LordRendar

LordRendar

Uff...i hope I wont come over as a racist by saying this.I Lived most of my life in Asia, and moved 2 years ago to Germany. I still have a little problem placing Caucasian faces. And shes like 5,9 tall (taller then me).
 
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Cuyval Dar

LordRendar said:
Uff...i hope I wont come over as a racist by saying this.I Lived most of my life in Asia, and moved 2 years ago to Germany. I still have a little problem placing Caucasian faces. And shes like 5,9 tall (taller then me).
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I can buy that. The reverse of most Americans/Western Europeans not being able to differentiate Asians.
 
Troll

Troll

Divide your current age by half. Then, add seven years. That is the minimum age of people you should be dating.
 
phil

phil

Really there is no good way to deal with it. If you tell them, they'll react however they react and may or may not alienate you from their group. If you value your friendship with them more than your relationship with her, then you might want to consider breaking up with her.
 
LordRendar

LordRendar

Phew.. a lose/lose situation.Well,I guess i'll just bring her along to the next concert and Introduce her to the group.And see from there.
 
Gurpel

Gurpel

well, if the age of consent is 16 there i don't see anything wrong with it.

i mean, it makes you seem creepy and there is basically 0 chance it will end well, but it's ethical i guess.
 
General Specific

General Specific

Nile said:
Alright. So technically, it's not illegal. However, there's still an eight year age difference. It'll only end poorly. Get out now.
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My Aunt & Uncle are 7 years apart and have been married for decades now. So, don't call it a bad idea simply from the age difference.
 
@Li3n

@Li3n

A Troll said:
I'm sorry, but you need to end the relationship. She's too young, and that means there are issues about maturity and informed decisions. I understand that things started on the level as far as you knew, and I'm sure you like this girl. Still, it's a problem.

In the meantime, I'll stick around and watch the impending train wreck of a thread you started.
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Dude, train wrecks build character...


Plus, i never got that line of thought, it's like saying that you'll eventually die, so why not just end your life already.


My Aunt & Uncle are 7 years apart and have been married for decades now.
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They're doomed, DOOMED I SAY...
 
Gurpel

Gurpel

General Specific;299753][quote=Nile said:
Alright. So technically, it's not illegal. However, there's still an eight year age difference. It'll only end poorly. Get out now.
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My Aunt & Uncle are 7 years apart and have been married for decades now. So, don't call it a bad idea simply from the age difference.[/QUOTE]

speaking in broad generalisations:

if a 16 year old is dating a 24 year old, then the 24 year old is approximately 150% as experienced as the 16 year old.

if a 30 year old is dating a 38 year old, while there is still a 8 year difference, the 38 year old is only 125% as experienced as the 30 year old.

a relationship where 1 party has 150% as much life experience as the other will most likely be creepy and not end well.
 
Nile

Nile

General Specific;299753][quote=Nile said:
Alright. So technically, it's not illegal. However, there's still an eight year age difference. It'll only end poorly. Get out now.
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My Aunt & Uncle are 7 years apart and have been married for decades now. So, don't call it a bad idea simply from the age difference.[/QUOTE]

Well, what age were they when they began their relationship? There's a difference between a relationship between a 15 year old and a 22 year old, and a relationship between a 23 year old and a 30 year old.
 
LordRendar

LordRendar

Does it matter that I was attacted to her before I knew her age? That we have been talking for hours about Politics, why we support the Left Faction,and all in all,a pretty cultured conversation.i really thought she was college level.
 
Gurpel

Gurpel

@Li3n said:
What was that about % given on the net...
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"broad generalisations"

a 24 year old is 150% as old as a 16 year old. ERGO it is relatively likely that they will have 150% the experience, or at least a relative headstart on the 16 yr old in terms of maturity/decision making.
 
Dieb

Dieb

General Specific;299753][quote=Nile said:
Alright. So technically, it's not illegal. However, there's still an eight year age difference. It'll only end poorly. Get out now.
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My Aunt & Uncle are 7 years apart and have been married for decades now. So, don't call it a bad idea simply from the age difference.[/QUOTE]
But when did they meet? It's not that an 8 year difference is too much, it's that it's too much when one of the people is 16. Just think of the huge changes you, or anyone else, goes through between the ages of 16 and 24. I'm 24 myself, and I couldn't imagine dating a 16 year old. The differences, especially maturity wise, would just be way too much to sustain a relationship - leaving aside the legal and ethical problems.

None of us here can tell you how to live your life, LordRendar. If it's not illegal, it's your decision, obviously. But ask yourself - why are you so afraid to introduce her to your friends? My guess would be because you think the relationship is morally (even if it's not legally) wrong, and you think your friends will think the same thing.

Really, in general, if you have problems introducting a significant other to your friends, that's a big flashing warning sign that something is seriously wrong with the relationship.
 
Gurpel

Gurpel

Dieb;299763][quote=General Specific;299753][quote=Nile said:
Alright. So technically, it's not illegal. However, there's still an eight year age difference. It'll only end poorly. Get out now.
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My Aunt & Uncle are 7 years apart and have been married for decades now. So, don't call it a bad idea simply from the age difference.[/QUOTE]
But when did they meet? It's not that an 8 year difference is too much, it's that it's too much when one of the people is 16. Just think of the huge changes you, or anyone else, goes through between the ages of 16 and 24. I'm 24 myself, and I couldn't imagine dating a 16 year old. The differences, especially maturity wise, would just be way too much to sustain a relationship - leaving aside the legal and ethical problems.

None of us here can tell you how to live your life, LordRendar. If it's not illegal, it's your decision, obviously. But ask yourself - why are you so afraid to introduce her to your friends? My guess would be because you think the relationship is morally (even if it's not legally) wrong, and you think your friends will think the same thing.

Really, in general, if you have problems introducting a significant other to your friends, that's a big flashing warning sign that something is seriously wrong with the relationship.[/QUOTE]

Dear Dave,

please bring back the feature where it shows you if posts have been made since you started writing your post.

also i want a pony for christmas.

-gurpel
 
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