Thank You.That is pretty good advice.
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My Aunt & Uncle are 7 years apart and have been married for decades now. So, don't call it a bad idea simply from the age difference.[/quote]
But when did they meet? It's not that an 8 year difference is too much, it's that it's too much when one of the people is 16. Just think of the huge changes you, or anyone else, goes through between the ages of 16 and 24. I'm 24 myself, and I couldn't imagine dating a 16 year old. The differences, especially maturity wise, would just be way too much to sustain a relationship - leaving aside the legal and ethical problems.
None of us here can tell you how to live your life, LordRendar. If it's not illegal, it's your decision, obviously. But ask yourself - why are you so afraid to introduce her to your friends? My guess would be because you think the relationship is morally (even if it's not legally) wrong, and you think your friends will think the same thing.
Really, in general, if you have problems introducting a significant other to your friends, that's a big flashing warning sign that something is seriously wrong with the relationship.[/quote]
Dear Dave,
please bring back the feature where it shows you if posts have been made since you started writing your post.
also i want a pony for christmas.
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They do magically appear as you are writing a new post...
talk to my local supermarkt manager?
My Aunt & Uncle are 7 years apart and have been married for decades now. So, don't call it a bad idea simply from the age difference.[/quote]
But when did they meet? It's not that an 8 year difference is too much, it's that it's too much when one of the people is 16. Just think of the huge changes you, or anyone else, goes through between the ages of 16 and 24. I'm 24 myself, and I couldn't imagine dating a 16 year old. The differences, especially maturity wise, would just be way too much to sustain a relationship - leaving aside the legal and ethical problems.
None of us here can tell you how to live your life, LordRendar. If it's not illegal, it's your decision, obviously. But ask yourself - why are you so afraid to introduce her to your friends? My guess would be because you think the relationship is morally (even if it's not legally) wrong, and you think your friends will think the same thing.
Really, in general, if you have problems introducting a significant other to your friends, that's a big flashing warning sign that something is seriously wrong with the relationship.[/QUOTE]
I disagree with this. If I had a homosexual relationship I would have a hard time introducing them to some of my friends.
However I do see your point and how it pertains to this situation. It seems like on some level he is questioning the relationship based on his own moral issues. This is something else he really has to think about.
Perhaps she seems mature now, just because the relationship is still new and they haven't had a moment where she does something immature. Maybe she is mature though, and everything will be alright.
I suppose I would say introduce her to your friends and don't bring up her age unless directly asked. If they call you out on it, and ask why you're hanging out with someone who is obviously too young for you, then maybe they see something you don't. If they don't mention it at all, then maybe she really is as mature as you think.
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I don't care about the legality of it all, or that you like her and she likes you and her parents don't mind.
This relationship is not going to last because she's an immature 16-year old girl who is far from ending her development as an adolescent, let alone as a human being. Plus, you know, it's really fucking gross and you should date people your own age.
What the fuck do you have in common with a 16 year old?
This relationship is not going to last because she's an immature 16-year old girl who is far from ending her development as an adolescent, let alone as a human being. Plus, you know, it's really fucking gross and you should date people your own age.
What the fuck do you have in common with a 16 year old?
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Inb4loch.
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Sir, allow me to tell you something right now: You are a sick fuck. And I mean that with all sincerity possible. You should have ended it the moment, nay, the very nanosecond you learned her age. Get your shit together immediately and cut this relationship off. Germany's "consenting age" aside, you damn well -know- what is right and what is wrong and this has 10 different kinds of wrong written all over it. Falsch falsch FALSCH.
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IT'S OOOONNNN!!
So, before this get more out of hand, im asking any mod online to lock this thread.Got good advice from some calmer minds,which i`m gonna take to heart. Thanks.
I agree with these posts.
My Aunt & Uncle are 7 years apart and have been married for decades now. So, don't call it a bad idea simply from the age difference.[/quote]
But when did they meet? It's not that an 8 year difference is too much, it's that it's too much when one of the people is 16. Just think of the huge changes you, or anyone else, goes through between the ages of 16 and 24. I'm 24 myself, and I couldn't imagine dating a 16 year old. The differences, especially maturity wise, would just be way too much to sustain a relationship - leaving aside the legal and ethical problems.
None of us here can tell you how to live your life, LordRendar. If it's not illegal, it's your decision, obviously. But ask yourself - why are you so afraid to introduce her to your friends? My guess would be because you think the relationship is morally (even if it's not legally) wrong, and you think your friends will think the same thing.
Really, in general, if you have problems introducting a significant other to your friends, that's a big flashing warning sign that something is seriously wrong with the relationship.[/QUOTE]
I disagree with this. If I had a homosexual relationship I would have a hard time introducing them to some of my friends. [/QUOTE]
Ok, good point. I'm not saying EVERY situation where you have a hard time introducting a significant other to your friends means that there is a problem with the relationship. In GENERAL, though, you have to ask yourself: why do I have a problem telling my friends about this? And in LordRender's case, I think it's because he does have moral problems with the relationship - as well he should.
You're welcome.
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care to wager on that?[/QUOTE]
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what kind of terms are we talking? how about: if the thread is still up in 3 days, loser has to use a disney princess av/sig for a week?
WAIT SHIT NO DONT DO THAT
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what kind of terms are we talking? how about: if the thread is still up in 3 days, loser has to use a disney princess av/sig for a week?[/QUOTE]
No, Powderpuff Girls. av and sig. I have them ready.
Oh darling, I'm quite calm in my assessment of your disturbing fuck-upedness. Trust me. The only reason you care to close this thread now that you've started it is because you're getting people who aren't afraid to call you out on what you're doing and it makes you feel bad. And if it doesn't make you feel bad, or at the very least a smidge uncomfortable, it is far worse than I thought. Far, far worse.
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what kind of terms are we talking? how about: if the thread is still up in 3 days, loser has to use a disney princess av/sig for a week?[/QUOTE]
Terms accepted, I shall be winning soon
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Goddammit.
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what kind of terms are we talking? how about: if the thread is still up in 3 days, loser has to use a disney princess av/sig for a week?[/QUOTE]
Terms accepted, I shall be winning soon
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Done.
Enjoy your new sig, Gurps.
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