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Especially since no one has ripped into you for posting about personal relationships.[/QUOTE]What a shit storm.... a hilarious one.... but a shit storm none the less.
There is a difference between "I want to share" and "I'm going to share, ask for your opinion, then balk when I don't like what you say to me". Also, sharing that you have met someone great who you like despite not being your usual type is a whole lot different than laying out what their flaws are in detail. While he says he's over it, I don't have much faith that it is true or else those "hurdles" would not still be talked about as such. They sound like they are still a prominent thought or else it wouldn't have mattered enough to mention.I have come here with stories of pooping. Sometimes you just want to share.
Besides, had I first posted about my wife and I when we first dated I'd have said the following things:
Imagine how that would have sounded. A lot like the OP, I assume. He's acknowledging that the girl is not the usual type he goes for and that is okay. It means that he's attracted to her aside from the preconceived notions of what his "type" is. Sounds to me like he is growing as a person. That he may not have communicated it perfectly is neither here nor there. They like each other and that's all that matters.
- She smokes. I have always said I'll never date a woman who smoked.
- She has a kid. Nope. Never going to date a woman with a kid.
- She's a tad on the heavy side. I usually date women more my size (at the time I weighted 120 pounds or so).
- I met her at a bar. I usually hate women I meet at bars.
I agree with you here... but I have a gut feeling that he may have been trying to say that he did meet someone great despite her not being his usual type and it didn't translate well from what he was thinking in his mind.Also, sharing that you have met someone great who you like despite not being your usual type is a whole lot different than laying out what their flaws are in detail.
http://www.halforums.com/forum/show...carus-Syndrome&p=401088&viewfull=1#post401088Ok, I outright apologize for how I seemed to have worded the situation all together.
She's a fantastic girl and she's quirky. She's more down to Earth than anyone I've ever been with and while at first I thought it was a negative, it's really turning into an awesome positive.
She cute, she's funny, she loves alot of the same things I do and being with her is easy and not a chore or a game at all. There is an issue with her age, being 8yrs younger than me. Though she has had her share of misfortunes in life and can be serious and mature when the time calls for it. I can see her growing with me, while still teaching me to forget some of the drama I've had in my life with her as a fresh start. First impressions are sometimes what people judge off of, I'm glad I didn't go off of it and it's beginning to look like a real positive relationship.
Despite a shakey OP, I really do wish you the best. Everyone deserves to be happy.
EDIT: I just noticed that I got negative rep for something I said in this thread and told to "grow up". Was it the quatation mark thing, I wonder? Or was it because I told Tin we were speech buddies? Decisions, decisions.
JCMWHO IS THAT GUY
http://www.halforums.com/forum/t138...carus-Syndrome&p=401088&viewfull=1#post401088Ok, I outright apologize for how I seemed to have worded the situation all together.
She's a fantastic girl and she's quirky. She's more down to Earth than anyone I've ever been with and while at first I thought it was a negative, it's really turning into an awesome positive.
She cute, she's funny, she loves alot of the same things I do and being with her is easy and not a chore or a game at all. There is an issue with her age, being 8yrs younger than me. Though she has had her share of misfortunes in life and can be serious and mature when the time calls for it. I can see her growing with me, while still teaching me to forget some of the drama I've had in my life with her as a fresh start. First impressions are sometimes what people judge off of, I'm glad I didn't go off of it and it's beginning to look like a real positive relationship.
Despite a shakey OP, I really do wish you the best. Everyone deserves to be happy.
EDIT: I just noticed that I got negative rep for something I said in this thread and told to "grow up". Was it the quatation mark thing, I wonder? Or was it because I told Tin we were speech buddies? Decisions, decisions.
Does she know you have kids? And if not, when are you dropping that bomb on her?Ok, I outright apologize for how I seemed to have worded the situation all together.
She's a fantastic girl and she's quirky. She's more down to Earth than anyone I've ever been with and while at first I thought it was a negative, it's really turning into an awesome positive.
She cute, she's funny, she loves alot of the same things I do and being with her is easy and not a chore or a game at all. There is an issue with her age, being 8yrs younger than me. Though she has had her share of misfortunes in life and can be serious and mature when the time calls for it. I can see her growing with me, while still teaching me to forget some of the drama I've had in my life with her as a fresh start. First impressions are sometimes what people judge off of, I'm glad I didn't go off of it and it's beginning to look like a real positive relationship.
Told her on the 3rd date. She's excited to meet them and asked a million questions about their personalities and likes/dislikes. I did make it clear that I wasn't looking for a new "mom" for them though.Does she know you have kids? And if not, when are you dropping that bomb on her?