Whine like a baby, now with 500% more drama!
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Was not able to fall asleep until around 4am, son woke up an hour early wailing about not getting his homework done even though I told him to do it all weekend, husband told me last night he has to stay out of town until Saturday instead of Thursday, and then my dad texts me to tell me that they are putting their dog down because he can't even walk anymore. Today can die in a fire and it's only 8am. Oh and my leg still hurts so I can't do anything that might hurt it more.
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Necronic
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So I proposed on Sunday right. 2 hours after that I have my meth-head friend that I haven't seen in like 6 years show up tweaked out of his mind, no notice. From out of town. I try to get him into the VA, which is what he wanted (rehab/homeless vet program). Only the emergency room is open so we take him there, based on his mental state I am sure they will psych him, which he is ok with. They discharge him after 2 hours and I have to find him a place to sleep, so I get him a hotel near the VA. I have to get it for 2 nights because the VA is run by the government so they get all these magical holidays. So I get him a room for 2 days. Apparently I misheard the room-rate, because the bill just showed up today and its 500$. My friend starts acting like he's going to go argue with the staff, which is a terrible idea because he is borderline crazy. So I have to call them up from work and I'm able to knock 100$ off the price, whooptie doo.
Now I find out that my buddy is going to be using this program as an outpatient thing, leaving it whenever. Which....I'm not ok with. I don't want him back on my doorstep until he is clean.
And I have to deal with all this bullshit when I really just want to be happy about getting engaged. I am so pissed at him right now, but that's not really fair. I mean sure, he's a screw up, but he didn't know I was proposing. I need to help him, but it is wearing on my patience hard. He is incapable of caring for himself, and I can't do that for him.[DOUBLEPOST=1392740969,1392740823][/DOUBLEPOST]Oh yeah and I dropped my phone last night knocking the Sim card lose, and since it's an apple product and they hate their consumers I can't fix that myself, so I had to go buy a 15$ burner just so I could get ahold of my friend and make sure he was ok. I am not ok with whats happening.
Now I find out that my buddy is going to be using this program as an outpatient thing, leaving it whenever. Which....I'm not ok with. I don't want him back on my doorstep until he is clean.
And I have to deal with all this bullshit when I really just want to be happy about getting engaged. I am so pissed at him right now, but that's not really fair. I mean sure, he's a screw up, but he didn't know I was proposing. I need to help him, but it is wearing on my patience hard. He is incapable of caring for himself, and I can't do that for him.[DOUBLEPOST=1392740969,1392740823][/DOUBLEPOST]Oh yeah and I dropped my phone last night knocking the Sim card lose, and since it's an apple product and they hate their consumers I can't fix that myself, so I had to go buy a 15$ burner just so I could get ahold of my friend and make sure he was ok. I am not ok with whats happening.
When you figure that out, let me know. I have a friend from high school who thinks after 20+ years that we are still good friends. We aren't. We haven't been in a long time. I've tried being subtle since she is a nice person and there is no reason to be a jerk, but she is doesn't seem to get it.
Some people think that anybody that they know is a "great friend." These are cheery morning people, usually, in my experience. I'm not one of those people.
@CG, I usually just find "excuses" to not visit, already have plans, working, running short on cash... They usually get the message after a couple of weeks, or longer...
@CG, I usually just find "excuses" to not visit, already have plans, working, running short on cash... They usually get the message after a couple of weeks, or longer...
Cajungal
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She hasn't yet. She was upset when I called today, so maybe we'll have a real talk this weekend.
I don't feel guilty for any reason besides her being upset. I have a demanding job, nieces, a husband, and aspirations for finishing a novel someday. Something has to go on the back burner. For me, it's friends. I dot expect people to hang around if they don't like it. It's my choice and people have to deal with it.
I don't feel guilty for any reason besides her being upset. I have a demanding job, nieces, a husband, and aspirations for finishing a novel someday. Something has to go on the back burner. For me, it's friends. I dot expect people to hang around if they don't like it. It's my choice and people have to deal with it.
fade
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Today, our valentines meal arrived. It was stuck in Atlanta. It consisted of sashimi grade tuna and raw filet mignon. The smell was fantastic. The company has been great. They are delivering replacements. Hopefully this doesn't kill them. They are a kickstarter funded startup that ships raw ingredients and recipe cards.
Cajungal
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That's kind of what I plan to say. I know she'll always want to keep in touch, though I can't imagine why. I don't want her to think we're going to be hanging out all the time. I'll just be honest and let her deal with the facts. I feel like that's what I've been trying to do for a while now.
Keep it together bruv. If you need anything, give me a shout.
This surprises me. Then again, I don't know what you mean by "breakdown." I know that losing yourself in a project is a good way to keep your mind off something, but wasn't expecting it to snap back so hard.
--Patrick
GasBandit
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It means that when I finally realized there was nothing left to do but go home, I was incapable of leaving my office, or even standing up, and instead slumped over my desk in my chair with my arms over my head sobbing and gasping like an asthmatic for ~20 minutes.
And then I got home and had a second round on the couch. It's been a bad day.
You have my info, Gas. If not I can resend here or have Aussie give it to you in Minecraft. Can you get together with any local friends this weekend? I know you probably don't feel much like it, but it could get you out of the house for a bit.
GasBandit
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Yes, there's absolutely no way I'm going to spend all weekend cooped up in here by myself. I appreciate you, and Adam, and the others who have PMed me over the last few months offering support and contact info, if I need anything. But I don't even know what I need. I don't even know what to ask for, or say. I've told the whole story at length. I feel like there's nothing left but to sit and be sad about the best person in the whole world having died.
I could snipe at you some more, if you think it'll help.
This is the part where people do something like go to the gun range with 1000 rounds of ammo, or chop down a few dozen trees with nothing but a 2lb hatchet, or get a massive tattoo. I dunno how it'll manifest with you, but I hope you find it.
--Patrick
This is the part where people do something like go to the gun range with 1000 rounds of ammo, or chop down a few dozen trees with nothing but a 2lb hatchet, or get a massive tattoo. I dunno how it'll manifest with you, but I hope you find it.
--Patrick
Then maybe it is time for you to do what she would have wanted you to do? I don't know what that might be, never had the pleasure of meeting either of you, but you have some ideas I know. Celebrate something she would have celebrated. Give some time to things that she supported.
This is something that my wife and I have actually talked about. She has Lupus. (even though it's never lupus) It's controlled at this time, but we always live with the knowledge that tomorrow that could change. We've talked about all of it. I don't know what I'd do if suddenly she wasn't there, we've been together so long that I honestly can't imagine being without her. But I do know that she wants me to continue to be me.
I can't tell you how long, or how hard this will be, but you know that people are here that will give you what support we can, or you want.
I think for a lot of people continuing is the hardest part.
Truthfully, sometimes it's okay to not know. And it's also 100% okay to sit and be sad. Let yourself do that, there's no sense in holding back. And while it feels pretty terrible at the time, it's a big part of the grieving process and is the one thing I've had a hard time doing myself. Just be Gas for a weekend. Do nothing, or everything. See nothing, or something. Just breathe in and out. And tomorrow will come, and the next.
Oh God. I'm so sorry. I didn't know.