It is extremely frustrating to deal with the fact that my son will probably never have grades that match his brains because he doesn't fit into the mold of the ordinary child. It's also hard to shake the feeling of not wanting to be THAT PARENT, even though I know it is not at all the same as pristine suburban mom getting pissed that HER BRILLIANT CHILD is getting bad grades. It frustrates me when I complain about these things, and people in my own family will make the "Well all kids...." comment. NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO it is not the same. My child is very far ahead of his age intellectually, but he's not there on a socio-emotional level. He has made great strides, because in 6th grade he spent half the school day getting overtaxed and throwing a fit and needing to take a mental break, and now he can make it through the day without a single meltdown, but that just makes homework HARDER, and I get frustrated the most at his science teacher, who grades him like a typical child and marks him down for incomplete work EVEN THOUGH he has an accommodation in his IEP that specifically says he should get abbreviated assignments. I agree that he needs to be pushed, but the fact that he is doing his homework at home at all this year is a god damned miracle. And then there will be the people who say "Well why should your kid not have to do all the work and still get the same grade?!" which is another god damned stumbling block in my own brain, but if I feel if like he can show that he knows the work, it's good fucking enough at this point. So I just have to suffer with Cs and Bs, and I say I because my son doesn't care about his grade, he only cares about learning. Which is what I feel should be the real focus of school anyways.
Rambling over, I just always have to rant about something everytime we have a meeting about school, and today it was the high school transition meeting, plus hearing that he was 1 fucking percentile short of being able to get gifted status.