Whine like a baby, now with 500% more drama!
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Been there. I eiither cut the superficial layers of skin with a razor or dug it out with a needle.I got a beard splinter in my thumb, and it's in too deep to get with tweezers!
The job I'm at now just isn't working out. I'm almost terrified to have any interactions with my boss because I feel like most times, I've screwed up on something. Like not restocking items in the store (usually because I didn't realize there were more out back). There have been a few times where I'm almost certain he'll say, "Nick, this isn't working out." And I feel useless because I don't know enough about bike mechanics to really help in that area. Plus, I'm only getting 3 shifts a week. It's just not enough.
I'm looking into taking a yoga instructor course in September (which might be fully funded by Teamworks), so I'd like a solid, steady job during that. And probably after since I won't be rolling in the dough with instructing, either.
But of course, as always, when I looked online for potential jobs, there's just nothing. Nothing that either I'm unqualified for or it's just not something I can do. And it's almost always the same places looking for people, which also isn't a good sign.
So, I really don't know what to do.
I'm looking into taking a yoga instructor course in September (which might be fully funded by Teamworks), so I'd like a solid, steady job during that. And probably after since I won't be rolling in the dough with instructing, either.
But of course, as always, when I looked online for potential jobs, there's just nothing. Nothing that either I'm unqualified for or it's just not something I can do. And it's almost always the same places looking for people, which also isn't a good sign.
So, I really don't know what to do.
Netflix and Chromecast are seriously pissing me the hell off. This only happens with Netflix, but if at any time or for any reason the Netflix feed times out (like if I take too long to respond to the "Are you there?" prompt), and the screen goes back to "Netflix Ready to Cast" I can't do it. I can close the Netflix tab and cancel the casting, and then I can cast literally any other service just fine, but if I try to cast Netflix again I just get an error message in Chrome that casting failed and the TV goes back to the photo roll background. Before I can cast Netflix again I have to do the following, in sequence.
- Exit out of Chrome - not just click the X or hit ALT+F4, go to the menu and exit. You can move on to the next steps while all of the instances of Chrome clear out of the task manager.
- Shut down the computer.
- Power cycle the Chromecast device.
- Once the Chromecast background has come back online on the TV, turn the computer back on, reload Chrome, cast from Netflix.
I don't have a Chromecast, so I'm not sure what's going on here. Can you run Netflix from the Chromecast just hooked to the TV? Is this a dumb TV without apps of its own? What's the advantage of running the Chromecast hooked to the PC instead of going to Netflix via the web browser alone?
I think every A/V device I have in the house has Netflix and Pandora installed. Both TVs, the Blu-ray player, and the Roku stick. And the phones. And the PCs. And so on and so on.
+1 on @Dei 's suggestion of trying through Android, if possible. I have an issue with PC-to-Chromecast streaming every other time, compared to once in a blue moon with the phone casting. I ended up getting a Steam Link (when they went on sale for $15 shipped) to handle the PC side.
Grandfather's in the hospital, blood infection due to a hitherto undetected birth defect (I think an AVM?) that gave gut bacteria artery access or somesuch. Anyway, by the time this was caught and treated, he was feverish. His Alzheimers has made a fucking leap due to this and he's not really cognizant or coherent. Doctors are unsure whether he'll revert to pre-sickness self (i.e. mild/bearable dementia) once he's had time to recuperate.
My mom and uncle are moving him to a pretty nice nursing home once he's released. It's 5-1o minutes from my grandparents apartment, so my gmom will be able to visit him every day (she's still in OK health, and needs a break from being a full-time caretaker--not to mention she can't deal with any gdad emergencies past pushing her LifeAlert-type button and waiting).
Aging sucks.
My mom and uncle are moving him to a pretty nice nursing home once he's released. It's 5-1o minutes from my grandparents apartment, so my gmom will be able to visit him every day (she's still in OK health, and needs a break from being a full-time caretaker--not to mention she can't deal with any gdad emergencies past pushing her LifeAlert-type button and waiting).
Aging sucks.
Well, let's go ahead and take the last 45 days, the $950 appraisal fee, and the $750 inspection fee and throw them right in the garbage can, shall we? The seller is so fucking hung up about this shed that he's decided he won't permit any work to be done on the house. Either it sells as is, or it doesn't sell and that's that. Seriously, the place was built in '71 but the shed and garage are both add-ons, Hoffa disappeared in '75... just sayin'. We have a backup house, though - all I regret is the wasted time.
How the hell does it cost almost $500 to make a quilt? My mother just inherited a huge amount of money so I find it disturbing when she complains to her daughter on disability that something is expensive or when she asks my sister to buy her something. It's tacky. Fuck off. So when she bitches about some group quilting project costing more than planned and begs my sister and I for money I get furious. Just pay it. You agreed to do it for the woman who took care of your father. Omg stop being so cheap!! She has the money because she quite vulgarly has told me how much she inherited. None of her brothers and sisters told their kids because that's tacky. One of her sisters is close to my age and asked me for general financial advice but didn't get into numbers. It was totally ok and I'm happy to help with that kind of thing. Most of them with adult kids shared it. Again, I'm not asking for that but STFU and stop asking me for $25 here and $50 to help you pay for shit. I'm on disability and while I'm doing ok because it's based on my salary, I'm not even close to the category of wealth that she's now in. There current drama is a quilt made for a wedding gift. I got sucked in at $50 even though I never said yes. It's now almost three times that and WTF?? I feel like I'm being fleeced here. Asking for receipts would not be worth the shit show.
Cost of a handmade item should be materials + labor. If you estimate the materials at $50 (for simplicities sake), that means $450 of labor. Divide that by number of hours put into it, and you get the hourly rate. So if took her 45 hours to make that's $10/hr.
I mean, I don't know if those are reasonable estimates on either side of the equation, but I could easily see "why" it might cost that much.
I mean, I don't know if those are reasonable estimates on either side of the equation, but I could easily see "why" it might cost that much.
It's a group quilting project, I suspect she's just talking about materials.
My mother is a quilter, and material can cost upwards of $500 including batting and then it is usually around $150 for the machine quilting portion as well due to most people not having the tens of thousands for the long arm machine. And that is not including the hours of piecing and time. So it's not and unreasonable price, but forcing you to contribute when you didn't want in in the first place is wrong.
The fact that it's quilting is irrelevant. Mom, well off, asks daughter, doing ok, to contribute to mom's pet project. Daughter repeatedly says no, mom wears her down until she contributes.
It's ridiculous. If I remember correctly this has something to do with being a gift, and mom thinks this is the best way to include daughter, which involves lots of guilt trips, but at the end of the day mom is behaving very badly.
Gifts which have to be taken or forced aren't gifts at all.
Of course I could be misremembering or misattributing the situation, but either way it's a lousy situation to be put in and mom should lay off.
It's ridiculous. If I remember correctly this has something to do with being a gift, and mom thinks this is the best way to include daughter, which involves lots of guilt trips, but at the end of the day mom is behaving very badly.
Gifts which have to be taken or forced aren't gifts at all.
Of course I could be misremembering or misattributing the situation, but either way it's a lousy situation to be put in and mom should lay off.
fade
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About 365 of them a year.
There are multiple gifts involved. The recent one that provoked the rant is a wedding gift. There was a baby gift recently where she took one off her shelf that she made for fun and when a friend of mine had a baby she put a price tag on it and repeatedly tried to sell it to me over the course of my friend's high risk pregnancy. The other ones are group quilting projects where ten plus women work on patches and put them together. I was neither involved in the project nor do I know the recipient of the gift in these cases. I am being asked to infuse cash into a project that went over budget when I had no part in it and the leader of the project is wealthy.
When I draw a gift for someone or give them a gift of my photography it's a gift and there is no labour charge. I give them a gift. Bringing an invoice into it makes it no longer a gift in my eyes. If someone asks me to do something, that's a commission and an entirely separate thing that requires a contract and a down payment to start. I often do portrait photography for family without a sitting fee but I am clear about the fact that they will be paying for framing and printing up front. I try very hard to avoid getting into these situations. Not hard enough it would seem.
When I draw a gift for someone or give them a gift of my photography it's a gift and there is no labour charge. I give them a gift. Bringing an invoice into it makes it no longer a gift in my eyes. If someone asks me to do something, that's a commission and an entirely separate thing that requires a contract and a down payment to start. I often do portrait photography for family without a sitting fee but I am clear about the fact that they will be paying for framing and printing up front. I try very hard to avoid getting into these situations. Not hard enough it would seem.
So essentially she's giving a wedding gift to our family member and making a profit on it at the same time from my sister and I's contributions. She tried to sell us on the idea at contributing $50 each for material and neither of us said anything and we are now being pressured into almost triple that each. From what @grub said it could get up there cost wise, so we're either having some bizarre game played with us or our mother is completely incapable of budgeting and understanding that not all of us have more money than we know what to do with.
Squids, I don't know anything about your mother other than what you've posted here, and I certainly am not qualified to do any armchair psychiatry, but everything you've said about her sounds like it stems from control. She's not pressuring you for money because she needs it, she's pressuring you so she can control you.
I call that Tuesday.
And Wednesday, and Thursday, and Friday, and Saturday, and Sunday, and Monday.
Is that better or worse than the alternative of her having already blown through a huge inheritance?
Classic shit vs diherhea.
GasBandit
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DAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAVE
I'm so over fighting with our medical system and my lazy family doctor. It's exhausting to have to fight to be taken seriously for every single thing. I spent an hour and a half and managed to get my drug rep/nurse from the biologic company to understand my problem finally and to go to her company for the testing I need. My family doctor is too lazy to make one call to an on call specialist while mine is on an extended vacation. At least this time he said he wouldn't up front rather than string me along for seven months.
But he didn't seem concerned that I have my next infusion coming up and that I may be rejecting it. He didn't seem concerned that I don't want to take it again until I'm tested. He agreed that my symptoms are suspicious enough to warrant the test. He just won't call the on call specialist. He wants me to wait until mine is back. Which is too late to guarantee I get the test before my next infusion. The test can only be done the day the infusion is scheduled as it has to be done on blood drawn at the time when the drug is at its lowest level in my system. If this is screwed up, I have to take another infusion and wait a month to try again and hope the symptoms don't continue to escalate.
Thanks for coming out buddy.
This may not be what's happening, but it's possible and if even my drug rep who isn't assigned to me for my well being but rather for retention, is actually worried about my health, then I know that it's certainly a risk that I have to explore. The drug carries a high rejection risk due to its non human proteins. My family doctor didn't know either part of that statement when I saw him and my specialist didn't tell me about it. All this information is being passed on my sister's specialist who is a sub-specialist in our illness and is clearly on the ball. She used her appointment to discuss me because she was so worried.
Sorry about the wall of text guys. I wasn't going to get into details and they just sort of came out. Believe it or not, this is the Coles Notes. There is a lot more but I'll spare you all.
But he didn't seem concerned that I have my next infusion coming up and that I may be rejecting it. He didn't seem concerned that I don't want to take it again until I'm tested. He agreed that my symptoms are suspicious enough to warrant the test. He just won't call the on call specialist. He wants me to wait until mine is back. Which is too late to guarantee I get the test before my next infusion. The test can only be done the day the infusion is scheduled as it has to be done on blood drawn at the time when the drug is at its lowest level in my system. If this is screwed up, I have to take another infusion and wait a month to try again and hope the symptoms don't continue to escalate.
Thanks for coming out buddy.
This may not be what's happening, but it's possible and if even my drug rep who isn't assigned to me for my well being but rather for retention, is actually worried about my health, then I know that it's certainly a risk that I have to explore. The drug carries a high rejection risk due to its non human proteins. My family doctor didn't know either part of that statement when I saw him and my specialist didn't tell me about it. All this information is being passed on my sister's specialist who is a sub-specialist in our illness and is clearly on the ball. She used her appointment to discuss me because she was so worried.
Sorry about the wall of text guys. I wasn't going to get into details and they just sort of came out. Believe it or not, this is the Coles Notes. There is a lot more but I'll spare you all.