"I'd rather risk rape than quit partying"

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and we got 28 posts before any victim-blaming
Careful there, Charlie. You're right on the verge of insinuating that women are too weak and feeble-minded to be responsible for their own decisions, like drinking alcohol while taking medications that specifically prohibit such, and that men must therefor be in charge of every aspect of a woman's life.
 

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And I'm going to go one further for CDS's reading pleasure as well - It just occurred to me... the friend in the story was closer to being a rape victim than the woman was! Consider if, once he figured out she was drug-addled and out of control, he decided he didn't want sex with her any more. Probably the only thing still stopping her at that point was (I'm assuming) that the guy was physically larger and stronger than her, and thus put a stop to the situation.

But what if the situation had been reversed? What if a man, we'll call him Joe, had taken pills and drank 2 beers, suddenly turning him into an aggressively horny maniac with no concept of self or location? Suppose the girl he met, we'll call her Jane, was unaware of the drugs reacting with his mere 2 beers but upon realizing his mental state decided she didn't want to have sex with him any more and put a stop to it, despite his firm insistence and amorous advances. Who really just got "almost raped" here? Joe, or Jane? The answer is plain... the author's male friend "Jane" in the article was closer to being a victim.
 
Passing out in the middle of a party is not giving consent
And no one said it was. We said that the girl who drank while taking meds prohibiting drinking should be responsible for herself and not drink while taking medications that prohibit drinking. We also said that the guy who (gasp) didn't take advantage of the situation did not "almost rape her" because he did nothing of the sort. He did everything in his power to find out why she was being so aggressively sexual, and when he found out that she was incapable of giving consent, he didn't have sex with her.

But by now everyone here should know that we can't do anything to make you see beyond the one itty-bitty little point that you want to put forward. So I'm done trying to make you see a point of view other than your own. Go ahead and continue to think that, while every other man in the world is the worst kind of scum imaginable, you're above that.
 
I still don't understand why Charlie feels it's 100% a male's job to be the responsible party if both people are equally inebriated.
 
I have a cousin that accused a guy of rape because she didn't like the fact said guy liked my OTHER cousin. Needless to say, there was on rape. She hadn't even had sex.

Though I felt awful. She confided in me that she had been 'raped' and I told my Dad who told her parents.

She doesn't like me any more.
 
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