That's why I put this in the Whine thread. It just seems like everyone one I know is married or getting married, having kids and are doing at least decently well with their jobs.
Meanwhile, I can't seem to get ANY of my shit together. And I can't blame anyone but myself for that.
Part that you have to remember, and it's important to remember, you are seeing the "finalized" public portrayal with most people. You're not seeing the wrinkles, warts and arguments that even the most "with it" and seemingly got it all together people have. Don't try to compare yourself to what they are showing you, because you see ALL your own faults, and faults that you think you have that nobody else sees. We are our own worst critics, and we can be very harsh and unforgiving with our criticism, simply because we know our own thoughts.
I've been married for almost 25 years, I've had people say stuff like "You two just have it all right, you don't argue, you have a great kid (she's 19) and we just don't know how you do it." We honestly tell them, we've had our rough spots, we know what it's like to not have any money, we've had arguments (bad ones) and fights, but through it all we've kept our faith in God and each other. We do take seriously the "Til death do you part" line of our wedding vows, we do get on each others nerves at times (even now) but we've come to understand that we will have to work our way through whatever is happening. It's not easy. One of the things that we discussed, and agreed upon, was that we wouldn't have arguments (I'm talking the between us stuff here, not that I think that "Space Mountain" is a better ride than "it's a small world") in public. It's between us, not for everyone else to see us hash something out. We've taken ourselves through some bad times, because we made bad choices, but don't look too bad now because we learned from those choices and made ourselves better. Communication is the key, you don't have to knock it all out before bedtime (or when being woken up at 2am because your wife had a dream that you did something in....) but having talks about stuff is much better than trying to come to terms with each other on the public stage for everyone to watch and make up their own rumors about you.
I can't tell how visible they are to other people. But every time I put on makeup all I want to do is get all that stupid hair lasered off... Freakin teen wolf face
