I have now spent an entire week or more with absolutely nothing to do. Literally, nothing. I think about things I could fix up around the apartment, or clean, or whatever, and nothing comes to mind. I guess I took care of it all last time I had a manic episode. >>
I have nothing to do. I don't have enough room for many hobbies, and anything I created would take up too much space (even if it's a little trinket) because my room is like 11x11 and I have to make everything I own fit in that.
Any other physical hobby requires money I can't spend or driving really, really far away (and gas money). The ones that are free, like going to the archery range, are crowded with so many people I can't enjoy it.
I'm aware I'm just whining, but that's the name of the thread. I'm also aware that I'm shutting myself out of everything my mind suggests.
Somebody said go to a library and just read a book. I could, but then I'm just like, "Okay, I read a book. So what?" Like, I'm not depressed, but I am VERY AWARE that I'm in the "what's the point of bothering to do anything" mindset.
I've been wanting to see Guardians of the Galaxy and the new Ninja Turtles movie, and I have a girl I could go with. But I don't want to deal with the social implications of going to a movie with a girl. Anyone else I'd want to go with has already seen them. I COULD go by myself, but I don't think I've done that ever in the history of movie-going, and I honestly, truly feel that that would make me feel that I've hit a new level of sad.
I've applied to jobs, but haven't heard back. I'm trying to avoid applying to crap part-time jobs so I don't get stuck in that trap, but I may need to.
I'm basically at the point where no matter what iteration of "Why not do this?" seems pointless. I'd love it if I got invited to things, but all my friends don't really do much. They're all pretty well set in their lives, are married/coupled, and don't go do anything. They're doing the comfortable sit at home thing.
Speaking of, I fluctuate between missing my ex and not. We had that nice comfortable relationship thing, before everything got ridiculously stressful. She's back in town for good now, and I know full well we wouldn't work out long term, but yeah. I've actually realized that girl-wise, there are 3 girls I think about at different times (none of them really healthy):
- I think about my ex when I'm lonely
- I think about girl-I-almost-dated when I think of what a nice future with a girl could be like (so optimistic)
- I think about movie girl above when I'm bored.
I just feel-- not stuck, but... I guess the word is stagnant. I'm not progressing in any way, and I'm not sure how to. Or rather, where I want to go. Because, if I had a goal in mind? I'd ABSOLUTELY obtain it. I'd get it and work towards it. I just don't know what the shit I want, at all, in ANY aspect of my life. Jobs, where to live, relationships, anything. I have -no- idea where I want to go, so I have no idea how to get there.
Typically I just went with the flow and that worked perfectly, but that seems to have run its course.
We have our weekly club meetings starting up soon again, so maybe that'll help from a social aspect, but who knows. Most of them are 19-21 now and I'm realizing that 5-7 years can make a big difference.
tl;dr: whine whine whine life whine whine