Whine like a baby, now with 500% more drama!

[PatrThom]

Also I should lose 30 pounds or more.

Doctors are always saying this to everyone, I think.
Just remember that 16oz of fat contains ~3500 calories, so to safely lose 1lb/wk on a "normal" 2500cal/day diet, you can do so without having to change your diet EXCEPT FOR THE 36 STRAIGHT HOURS YOU STARVE YOURSELF EVERY WEEK but otherwise no changes.

--Patrick

 

[strawman]

Doctors are always saying this to everyone, I think.
Just remember that 16oz of fat contains ~3500 calories, so to safely lose 1lb/wk on a "normal" 2500cal/day diet, you can do so without having to change your diet EXCEPT FOR THE 36 STRAIGHT HOURS YOU STARVE YOURSELF EVERY WEEK but otherwise no changes.

--Patrick

Yep.

 

[Squidleybits]

So I'm not doing fantastically health-wise especially with my SI issues and it fusing. Today, I was out at a work thing (not chick's lunch) and I dropped a tray I was trying to put in the trash. I reached over too quickly without thinking to grab it and I heard and felt a crack or maybe a pop and hard a hard time walking to my car after and sitting in the car was tough for the drive home. I couldn't join the family for dinner and had to sleep a bit when I got home. Fingers crossed that things aren't too gross in the morning.

 

[Squidleybits]

The good news is that I waddled in to work. Omg what a night.

 

[ThatNickGuy]

Had a bus driver loudly tease and embarrass me just because I asked what the fare was (thought it was $2.25, it was $2.50). And yet despite my social cues that I was uncomfortable with the teasing and not laughing back, she continued.

I confronted her near my stop and told her how I felt. She apologized said she teases everyone, and she felt bad.

I said, "Good" and got off. Probably a dick move, but I don't care.

 

[DarkAudit]

Had a bus driver loudly tease and embarrass me just because I asked what the fare was (thought it was $2.25, it was $2.50). And yet despite my social cues that I was uncomfortable with the teasing and not laughing back, she continued.

I confronted her neary stop and told her how I felt. She apologized said she teases everyone, and she felt bad.

I said, "Good" and got off. Probably a dick move, but I don't care.

I'm willing to bet you're not the first one who felt uncomfortable, just the first one who spoke up about it.

Good on ya.

 

[drawn_inward]

I've got a bunch of family members that don't know how to converse normally and use "teasing" as a form of communication. The oft heard phrase is: If he/she teases you that mean he/she likes you.

It can be quite annoying.

 

[Squidleybits]

I've got a bunch of family members that don't know how to converse normally and use "teasing" as a form of communication. The oft heard phrase is: If he/she teases you that mean he/she likes you.

It can be quite annoying.

I absolutely hate that rationalization.

 

[Gared]

I've got a bunch of family members that don't know how to converse normally and use "teasing" as a form of communication. The oft heard phrase is: If he/she teases you that mean he/she likes you.

It can be quite annoying.

Sure, sure, and if it they punch you on the arm, it means they have the hots for you. Didn't this sort of rationalization go away when we made it to high school?

 

[Sara_2814]

Had a bus driver loudly tease and embarrass me just because I asked what the fare was (thought it was $2.25, it was $2.50). And yet despite my social cues that I was uncomfortable with the teasing and not laughing back, she continued.

I confronted her near my stop and told her how I felt. She apologized said she teases everyone, and she felt bad.

I said, "Good" and got off. Probably a dick move, but I don't care.

I have some social anxiety and that is one of my nightmares. I have a hard time using the phone and speaking to strangers/people I don't know well just because I'm afraid of getting embarrassed or ridiculed. Yeah, of course most people are nice, but your situation shows why there's reasons to be anxious.

Sorry you had to deal with that asshole. It certainly wasn't a dick move to tell her off, especially since she continued with the teasing (wtf?). She was the one being a dick. Thanks for speaking up!

 

[GasBandit]

Sure, sure, and if it they punch you on the arm, it means they have the hots for you. Didn't this sort of rationalization go away when we made it to high school?

I become more convinced with every year that none of us ever really escape "high school," and few of us mature past who we were when we were 17.

 

[blotsfan]

Suspended animation has been developed. It's called working when you know you're seeing a new Star Wars afterwards.

 

[PatrThom]

I become more convinced with every year that none of us ever really escape "high school," and few of us mature past who we were when we were 17.

Some of us matured past high school when we were in high school. Or earlier.

--Patrick

 

[Bubble181]

Some of us matured past high school when we were in high school. Or earlier.

--Patrick

Some of us acted like 50 year olds when we were 15, and act like 15 now we're 30. Neither's really advisable.

 

[jwhouk]

(hums) "High school never ends..."

 

[Gared]

Oh, FFS. A bunch of people are wandering around bitching that our modelling engineer (the guy that actually translates 2D CAD representations of cabinets into 3D models with machine code that feeds the saws and C-n-C machines out in the shop) took off a day early for his vacation, because his boss, who he cleared it with, didn't inform everyone else of the change, and because they were all waiting until the last possible moment to give him some work that needed to be done before he left, and they just now found out that the missed the deadline. It isn't fair for him to move the deadline up when he knew they were going to wait until the last minute. Never mind the fact that the guy has been working 14 to 18 hour days, 6 or 7 days a week, for the last 2 years, or the fact that every other time off request of his in that time has been denied. Or the fact that the reason he had to move that up a day is because he found out on Tuesday that he needs to be at the realtor's office tomorrow to give them all of his money and pick up the keys to his brand new house.[DOUBLEPOST=1450393765,1450393717][/DOUBLEPOST]

(hums) "High school never ends..."

Wait, you mean to tell me that Bowling For Soup does more than the intro to Phineas and Ferb?

 

[bhamv3]

Oh, FFS. A bunch of people are wandering around bitching that our modelling engineer (the guy that actually translates 2D CAD representations of cabinets into 3D models with machine code that feeds the saws and C-n-C machines out in the shop) took off a day early for his vacation, because his boss, who he cleared it with, didn't inform everyone else of the change, and because they were all waiting until the last possible moment to give him some work that needed to be done before he left, and they just now found out that the missed the deadline. It isn't fair for him to move the deadline up when he knew they were going to wait until the last minute. Never mind the fact that the guy has been working 14 to 18 hour days, 6 or 7 days a week, for the last 2 years, or the fact that every other time off request of his in that time has been denied. Or the fact that the reason he had to move that up a day is because he found out on Tuesday that he needs to be at the realtor's office tomorrow to give them all of his money and pick up the keys to his brand new house.

How has your workplace not burned to the ground already?

 

[AshburnerX]

How has your workplace not burned to the ground already?

They don't have enough insurance to make it profitable.

 

[Null]

Gared's workplace makes me think of this:

 

[ThatNickGuy]

I've felt so lonely lately. Not for friendship, but for companionship. I haven't felt this bad after a breakup before. It's probably because I came closest to having a family of my own with my last relationship.

But I'm just...fucking hell. I'm going on 4 months and I just feel so lonely.

 

[Gared]

They don't have enough insurance to make it profitable.

That could be true.

 

[WasabiPoptart]

Can't find the chargers for my Canon or the video camera. I have no clue where we put them when we moved.

 

[Ravenpoe]

Pet euthenasia options isn't a fun thing to have to search.

 

[Emrys]

No, they most definitely aren't. I'm so sorry.

 

[drawn_inward]

Our second child is going to get the short-end of the stick. We have more than enough clothes and toys and junk for @stienman kids so we haven't bought a single thing for her for Christmas. She's only 3 months and is oblivious, but I feel like a super jerk about it. I've thought about wrapping some of the baby toys for her, but that seems cheap and stupid. I don't want to buy more junk just so she'll have pictures of her with presents. Ugh.

 

[strawman]

I've had to change my thinking on Christmas. Yes, some of the older kids are more aware of the value of their gifts, but no matter how we slice and dice it, the joy isn't actually connected to the value. The disappointment may come later if someone points out the value, but that's actually pretty rare.

So while we do keep tabs on value, particularly for the older kids, we try to focus on what they would find joy in.

Our 10 month old is going to have more fun with the wrapping paper and box than whatever's inside. So we are getting her practical gifts we need that pertain to her, and wrapping up interesting toys we haven't had out since she's been born (everything old is new again) and she'll be be overjoyed. Not only that, the older kids will recognize the passing along of toys, and that if they want to play with the item(s) they need to also play with her. Since the toys haven't been out for awhile they will be attracted to them, and she'll be much happier with playmates and playtime than with playthings anyway.

 

[fade]

That brings up a totally FWP whine I had the other day. I think probably some of you will hate me for saying this, but it's true. I think one of the most disappointing things about becoming financially successful in life after having nothing for so long has been that it's no fun to just go buy something you want. It gets pretty meaningless without some struggle. There's no spice in the meal.

 

[drawn_inward]

That's why you need to go buy a Ferrari! That'll spice things up real quick!

 

[Celt Z]

Our second child is going to get the short-end of the stick. We have more than enough clothes and toys and junk for @stienman kids so we haven't bought a single thing for her for Christmas. She's only 3 months and is oblivious, but I feel like a super jerk about it. I've thought about wrapping some of the baby toys for her, but that seems cheap and stupid. I don't want to buy more junk just so she'll have pictures of her with presents. Ugh.

For Li'l Z's first Christmas, we kept it very simple, since he was only 4 1/2 months old. We got him a board book of Mike Mulligan and His Steam Shovel, which he still enjoys reading, and one of those baskets with the shaped blocks. He mainly drooled on the blocks, but did enjoy them as he got older, and I was already reading with him, so the book expanded our library. Don't feel guilty about gifts, they don't need a hoard from Santa at that age. Like @stienman said, she just wants to be near you guys right now.

 

[drawn_inward]

I think I am bit hyper-aware of potential sibling issues since my siblings are like oil and water. I really want my kids to be friends, and actually like each other.

 

[Dei]

I never even talk to my brother anymore. A big part of it really is that we have almost nothing in common, except that when I was a kid, I would play with his friends more than the girls on my street because they were doing the fun stuff and the girls were boring. My sister in law is always baffled by this because she is still very close to all her brothers and my brother also hangs out with them a lot now.

I hope my kids stay close as adults, but they are also very different from each other. My son's interests all gravitate towards mine, and my daughter would rather watch Let's Play videos than actually have to play video games herself.

 

[LittleKagsin]

I think I am bit hyper-aware of potential sibling issues since my siblings are like oil and water. I really want my kids to be friends, and actually like each other.

If my brother and I are any sort of example - there is hope! We almost always got along when we were kids and we still get along as adults. And our interests do not align at all. He's very into sports, even heading the PR department for the local University's sports teams. And I am...not. But we still get along wonderfully, find common ground in a number of other things, so it is possible for siblings to be friends. =^^=

 

[strawman]

I think I am bit hyper-aware of potential sibling issues since my siblings are like oil and water. I really want my kids to be friends, and actually like each other.

Good luck!

I'm aiming for my kids to love each other. They don't have to like each other, and from my own experiences with my siblings, I like them, but it's pretty obvious there are things about me that drive them crazy. We still hang out, but more importantly we try to keep in touch, we try to get our families together, and we work at our relationships, trying to assume little to nothing. We've got each other's back if one of us needs help or support in some way.

Of course it's partly just semantics, and you might mean the same thing, but we have to be clear with our kids and differentiate between the two so they know that it's ok to not want to do the same thing as the other sibling, and they might want a break from them, but they shouldn't be hurtful/mean, and if one of them is in distress they should treat it as important and step up to help where they can.

As part of that, I've had the conversation many, many, many times, and doubtless will continue to have it as each child grows. "Yes, he got more than you. How does that make you feel?" and eventually going through the process of helping them to understand that as they are each different, and at different stages of life, they will have different things, and sometimes they will perceive a disparity. Sometimes it attributable to their choices, sometimes it's an age thing (we get them nintendo portables between 5 and 8 years old depending on a variety of factors) and so one year you might see $130 gift in front of your brother, but that was what you got several years prior when they only got $50 worth of gifts. With the older kids we review budget principles and explain how we choose to allocate our limited funds for gifts. Sometimes it's simply how things worked out, and there's no root cause, but they can either accept it and enjoy the gifts they've received, or they can choose to be resentful and ruin their own day.

I don't know if this is a good way to approach it, but while I don't go out of my way to cause disparity, I also don't work hard to resolve disparity either. I suppose to some degree I'm teaching them to accept that life isn't fair...

 

[Squidleybits]

Can't find the chargers for my Canon or the video camera. I have no clue where we put them when we moved.

eBay sells them super cheap [DOUBLEPOST=1450458273,1450458098][/DOUBLEPOST]My sister and I fought horribly as kids and it wasn't until an overseas posting that we actually began to like each other.

Now, we're super close and go on bug trips together. We still don't have tons in common, but I really don't think that's everything.

 

[GasBandit]

I get along with my brother, but I haven't seen as much of him in recent years as I used to... or the rest of my family, for that matter. I have kinda been feeling more and more isolated from everyone in my family since Pauline died. I don't know how much of that is me, and how much of it is them.