My Grandmother passed away this morning. Now, I know what some of you are going to say, "Why are you posting this here? The Whine Like a Baby thread is over there:
https://www.halforums.com/threads/whine-like-a-baby-now-with-500-more-drama.26118/." Well, first of all, rude to interrupt me like that and second, I will tell you.
First, Grandma has been declining in health and mental faculties ever since my Grandfather passed a year or so ago. She'd been hospitalized for pneumonia recently and had been refusing all treatment except for morphine to stop the pain. She was ready to die and doing everything she could to speed the process up outside of actually committing suicide. This is not unexpected and I've done my grieving.
Second, she was not a nice person. Don't get me wrong, she was a wonderful Grandmother... right up until I went to college. Then she showed her true colors to me. She was a nasty person who would not hesitate to air your greatest failing in front of everyone and she'd do it like it was normal conversation. The only fair thing about her was that she did it to everyone who crossed her path.
Third, she wielded her religion like a cudgel. Christian, of course, and Presbyterian. Normally you wouldn't think of Presbyterians as particularly strict, but she and my Grandfather were. When I was single I would constantly be told to find a nice Christian woman with Grandma at one point even saying, "as long as you don't bring home the Rabbi's daughter." I never told her I am an atheist because then there would have been no end to the harassment. Well, until this, I guess. And I did wind up marrying a Jewish person anyway.
So, as you can see, our relationship was a bit strained, as in fact was everyone's relationship to her. I found out she passed this morning and I am still at work. I don't plan to take any time off either unless my family needs help dealing with the estate or I am forced to go to the funeral.
I'm not happy she passed away, but I am not sad about it either. It's just something that happened today.