I just want to point out that all of you are conflating two things: being moderate, and trying to compromise.
A compromise is when neither get what they want, and you settle on something halfway. Being moderate is wanting something that's not at either extreme.
These two are related and one can mask as the other, but they're really not the same.
Plenty of issues where my personal preference is left-of-center, but far from left. Any topic I choose could be ground for debates, but eh. Some people want black t-shirts. Some want white. As a compromise, you might settle on grey. It's still perfectly possible for other people to have a preference for grey!
Admittedly, this has in modern history been abused by the right to find a middle ground between grey and black, settling on charcoal, only for the next cycle to look for a compromise between charcoal and black, etc.
The other side might be trying to push for Vantablack these days, which might freak people out who prefer charcoal or grey. You won't win those back by going for Spectralon. You might be able to win some of those back or convince the grey to come to your side by offering some light grey tint, though.
Because there are simply more people that want Vantablack than there are that want Spectralon - and everyone who wants eggshell or ecru or grey or taupe is left with an impossible choice. Yes, the charcoal people who are helping Vantablack are starting to look mighty dark - but you still have to take into account the people having a different preference.