I wish I were Bisexual

Status
Not open for further replies.
For a few years now, one of my drunken tirades.. y'know, those that all your close friends have heard more than once but you LOVE to talk again about with strangers? When you're drunk? Yeah, those.

Well, one of mine is the spiel that, if it were up to me, I'd become a bisexual INSTANTLY. I mean, it would pretty much double my chances to score, or find true love or whatever. yay, right?

But, alas, no matter how hard I've tried, I just don't find men physically attractive. At all. Hell, the male body is ugly as fuck to me, especially when compared against the aesthetics of the beautiful female form. My loss.

It's a drunken tirade, said between laughs, hyperbole, gross language, etc. Not really something I gave too much thought about whilst sober, at least not consciously.

Until recently.

About a year ago, I was at a party and someone heard me talking about this with a small group of people... and just... BLEW. UP. He called me out on being "a repressed gay", of promoting unnatural behavior and that I should be ashamed of myself.

Now, since then, every time the subject comes up for whatever reason, it seems it always sparks up the controversy it never did. I just mentioned it in passing to someone on twitter... and not 20 min later I had 6 or 7 replies, all gasping that I had said I wish I could will myself into bisexuality.

GodDAMN did people get their panties in a bunch over that one. And boxers. And tighty whities, for all I know.

But what surprised me the most were a few responses... from the other side. Bisexuals were getting offended cause "I didn't know what I was talking about" and that if I were to be bisexual, it would bring more difficulties than it solved.

So the point in my making this thread is... am I really being offensive without realizing it? Towards bisexuals, at least. If religious zealots or bigots get offended I don't give half a picometer of shit. But being a fucking insensitive moron without even realizing it DOES bother me.

Is my vocal expressing of "hey, yeah, you know what, if my hormones or whatever weren't preventing it, I'd love to be able to love equally, no matter the gender" an insensitive remark in any way I'm missing?
 
depends on how you're phrasing it and in what context, really. Are you saying it because you find it a blessing to have the possibility for attraction to anyone? Or are you oversimplifying it to saying you could just fuck anything and not care about it?
 

Cajungal

Staff member
I think that sexuality and gender can be a complicated thing that no one completely understands. I understand what you're saying and don't think there's anything offensive about it. Sometimes I wonder if it's more about people than it is the person's sex. What if your perfect person was a man and you didn't even know it--you just somehow clicked and didn't even mean to?

I don't know much about this. I don't pretend to. But I think it's a nice thought that maybe somewhere deep inside, all that matters to all of us is the person. And after that attraction happens, what happens physically is good no matter what you were into before.

But like I said... no clue how things work. Human relationships are interesting.
 
hey, we care deeply about our fucking. Each candidate has to pass rigorous exams.

Do they do the weird stuff?

Do they do the REALLY weird stuff?

Are they attractive?

ok, but if you were drunk?

Is her friend interested as well?

No? What about the other one, the uggo?

and so on.

---------- Post added at 12:45 AM ---------- Previous post was at 12:43 AM ----------

I think that sexuality and gender can be a complicated thing that no one completely understands. I understand what you're saying and don't think there's anything offensive about it. Sometimes I wonder if it's more about people than it is the person's sex. What if your perfect person was a man and you didn't even know it--you just somehow clicked and didn't even mean to?

I don't know much about this. I don't pretend to. But I think it's a nice thought that maybe somewhere deep inside, all that matters to all of us is the person. And after that attraction happens, what happens physically is good no matter what you were into before.

But like I said... no clue how things work. Human relationships are interesting.

A friend of my ex's, a girl, dated another girl for about a year even though she would consider herself strait and wasn't typically attracted to girls. She just found this one person who she really enjoyed being with and felt a genuine connection with.
 
Calleja: I've had exactly the same idea for ages, as well. If everyone was bisexual, it'd be great. If I were bisexual, heck, it'd be a start.
 

Cajungal

Staff member
Opposite happened with my sister's best friend in college, phil. I've met the girl, too. She had always been openly gay, but one night, she and her best friend--a guy--had sex. And about a year later they got married. You just never know.
 
A friend of my ex's, a girl, dated another girl for about a year even though she would consider herself strait and wasn't typically attracted to girls. She just found this one person who she really enjoyed being with and felt a genuine connection with.
See? I'd love to think I could do that... that if I ever met a guy that was so awesome I just frankly fell in love with him that I could *be* with him, in all manners possible, even if I weren't really "gay". But I don't think I could... I can LOVE a man to pieces, but I really have never, ever felt physical attraction for a man.

I've found men ATTRACTIVE, sure, I have no problem with being with a female friend and saying "wow, that dudes a looker". But could I ever fuck him? No :(
 

North_Ranger

Staff member
Mmmm... Nope. Sorry, can't relate.

While I don't give a damn about whether another person is hetero-, homo-, bi- or omnisexual, I could never imagine myself as a bisexual. While I do have a certain appreciation for the male esthetics, I just can't imagine myself being in any way sexually intimate with a man.

Or you can just blame it on
a) me having grown up in a small rural community where the mystery of the decade was how the local drunk managed to burn himself alive in his shack, or
b) being next-door neighbours to Swedes.
 

North_Ranger

Staff member
Dave, you're married. You don't count.

I would have made a "striking out" joke involving marriage, but that would have been just too evil for me. Shego, wanna take this one? :D
 
Eh, I have no desire. Men don't appeal to me physically. They also don't appeal to me mentally at a close point either, so all my friends are girls.

And people used to think me gay.
 
Mmmm... Nope. Sorry, can't relate.

While I don't give a damn about whether another person is hetero-, homo-, bi- or omnisexual, I could never imagine myself as a bisexual. While I do have a certain appreciation for the male esthetics, I just can't imagine myself being in any way sexually intimate with a man.

Or you can just blame it on
a) me having grown up in a small rural community where the mystery of the decade was how the local drunk managed to burn himself alive in his shack, or
b) being next-door neighbours to Swedes.
Don't leave us hanging, man, how did he do it? Inquisitive minds want to know!
 

Cajungal

Staff member
A lot of girls I know--straight girls--are pretty ok with kissing other girls. I think it feels gross. And women are beautiful, but not attractive to me. I love men with broad shoulders, hairy chins, and big hands........and glasses...... and....

.....

WELP, time to drive 80 miles to see the fella.....
 
Mmmm... Nope. Sorry, can't relate.

While I don't give a damn about whether another person is hetero-, homo-, bi- or omnisexual, I could never imagine myself as a bisexual. While I do have a certain appreciation for the male esthetics, I just can't imagine myself being in any way sexually intimate with a man.

Or you can just blame it on
a) me having grown up in a small rural community where the mystery of the decade was how the local drunk managed to burn himself alive in his shack, or
b) being next-door neighbours to Swedes.
I could IMAGINE myself with a man... I just don't find it something I'd like to do, y'know? It doesn't gross me out, I don't think it's ewww... but I just don't see any appeal on frolicking with a hairy dude. Or a hair-less dude for that matter.

I mean, hell... the penis is one of the ugliest organs evolution ever created... seriously, look at it... ugly... I'd rather fuck someone's eczema than having to touch a foreign penis.

But I would LIKE to find penii something worth touching, is what I'm sayin'.
 

North_Ranger

Staff member
A lot of girls I know--straight girls--are pretty ok with kissing other girls. I think it feels gross. And women are beautiful, but not attractive to me. I love men with broad shoulders, hairy chins, and big hands........and glasses...... and....

.....

WELP, time to drive 80 miles to see the fella.....
Dammit, do I have to go to the States to actually have a chance?

Oh well, I'll always have the suspenders...
 
"The good thing about being bisexual is that it doubles your chance of a date on a Saturday night."
-Woody Allen
 

North_Ranger

Staff member
Don't leave us hanging, man, how did he do it? Inquisitive minds want to know!
Heck if I know. But the smart money says that Ol' Reddie (nicknames be hard to translate) had just been too drunk to realize he was being roasted alive in his sleep.
 
Mmmm... Nope. Sorry, can't relate.

While I don't give a damn about whether another person is hetero-, homo-, bi- or omnisexual, I could never imagine myself as a bisexual. While I do have a certain appreciation for the male esthetics, I just can't imagine myself being in any way sexually intimate with a man.

Or you can just blame it on
a) me having grown up in a small rural community where the mystery of the decade was how the local drunk managed to burn himself alive in his shack, or
b) being next-door neighbours to Swedes.
I could IMAGINE myself with a man... I just don't find it something I'd like to do, y'know? It doesn't gross me out, I don't think it's ewww... but I just don't see any appeal on frolicking with a hairy dude. Or a hair-less dude for that matter.

I mean, hell... the penis is one of the ugliest organs evolution ever created... seriously, look at it... ugly... I'd rather fuck someone's eczema than having to touch a foreign penis.

But I would LIKE to find penii something worth touching, is what I'm sayin'.[/QUOTE]


sounds to me as if perhaps you invested in a blindfold, most of your problems would solve themselves.
 

North_Ranger

Staff member
I could IMAGINE myself with a man... I just don't find it something I'd like to do, y'know? It doesn't gross me out, I don't think it's ewww... but I just don't see any appeal on frolicking with a hairy dude. Or a hair-less dude for that matter.

I mean, hell... the penis is one of the ugliest organs evolution ever created... seriously, look at it... ugly... I'd rather fuck someone's eczema than having to touch a foreign penis.

But I would LIKE to find penii something worth touching, is what I'm sayin'.
I am actually a little grossed out if by chance I encounter gay sex (that is, man-on-man sex. Lesbian sex... completely different). I just... eugh... sorry, I just can't even think about it, let alone imagine myself being involved.

As for penis scare... don't have that. I still wouldn't touch another guy's dick (even though a classmate once laughingly said he would be willing to jerk another guy off while watching porn, as long as it was reciprocal), but I don't find a schlong ugly per se. Guess it comes from the Finnish relaxed attitude towards nudity.
 

Cajungal

Staff member
A lot of girls I know--straight girls--are pretty ok with kissing other girls. I think it feels gross. And women are beautiful, but not attractive to me. I love men with broad shoulders, hairy chins, and big hands........and glasses...... and....

.....

WELP, time to drive 80 miles to see the fella.....
Dammit, do I have to go to the States to actually have a chance?

Oh well, I'll always have the suspenders...[/QUOTE]

If you want a chance with a girl, you shouldn't try and feed her to your man-eating couch, ya goober. :p
 
sounds to me as if perhaps you invested in a blindfold, most of your problems would solve themselves.
No, no, the whole... solid-ness of a man would be unappealing.

Which is why I also would never fuck one of those uber-muscled women from like muscle magazines. Brrg.
 

Cajungal

Staff member
Sounds like Calleja likes himself some soft hourglassy curves, and there's no two ways about it.

Can't help what you're into.

NR: :rofl:
 
I'm a fan of the female skin.

And the legs.

And the butt.

and the eyes.

and the lips. can't beat some sexy lips.

or the breasts.. who doesn't like boobies, right?

...wait, where was I?
 
To be honest, like you can see in the order of my lost train of thought in that last post, I've always been a legs/butt man.

My woman could be pretty much flat-chested for all I care, if she had some nice and formed INFERIOR. grawrg.

There are few turn offs as big as a skinny leg for me. It's weird.
 
So.. why are people angry that you make a semi-serious joke about wanting to be bi-sexual?
That's what I was asking before things got derailed there... I don't know. Some people REALLY don't like it when I say it, though.
 

North_Ranger

Staff member
@NR: ya beat me to the punch. Where're all tghe girls who want us over here? Let'sm ove to the US together :D
I thought about it once. But I couldn't, really.

That's why I'm trying to get people to come here! Beer, fun Medieval stuff, free education, decent doctors, relaxed attitude towards frontal nudity... :D
 
Status
Not open for further replies.
Top