Being single sucks.

Status
Not open for further replies.
David

David

And I have no where in particular to go where I can meet people for the next 6 months, since my college canceled the winter semester.

What are the best non-school-like places to go to meet new women? And not a bar, since I wont be 21 for another year. Bachelors! Teach me your ways! Ladies with Advice! ...Do please advise! :D
 
North_Ranger

North_Ranger

Staff member
I'd discourage anything Internet-based. At least I personally get a little frustrated when I come to the realization that the only women who seem to take an interest in me are either

1.) loopier than Toucan Sam after payday (including an S/M goth with her own gorn site, and a midget) or
2.) living on the other side of the frickin' planet.
 
David

David

North_Ranger said:
I'd discourage anything Internet-based. At least I personally get a little frustrated when I come to the realization that the only women who seem to take an interest in me are either

1.) loopier than Toucan Sam after payday (including an S/M goth with her own gorn site, and a midget) or
2.) living on the other side of the frickin' planet.
Click to expand...
I already fooled around with one... I set the the search to "anyone on the planet" and got 0 compatible matches :( That makes me feel just great right there
 
Vytamindi

Vytamindi

Heh. I agree! I wouldn't suggest internetz either, but that's how I met my guy...

Me: Hey! Nice gear!
Him: Thanks. See you around.

*we both mount our nether drakes simultaneously*

Both of us: LAWL We both have the same ones!
 
Dave

Dave

Staff member
What are your interests? What hobbies do you participate in if you had the money and the time?
 
David

David

Dave said:
What are your interests? What hobbies do you participate in if you had the money and the time?
Click to expand...
interests:
-Drawing
-reading
-Bicycling
-traveling/sightseeing
-video games
-learning

some of the general preferences I set: Someone tell me if I'm being too picky...

-must be non-smoker
-must want a monogamous relationship
-must want kids some day
-must be liberal on social issues (eg pro-gay marriage, ect.)
-preferably non-religious, must be respectful of others' beliefs
-physical appearance doesn't matter too much, but must practice basic hygiene and grooming
 
S

Silvanesti

I would suggest that you just enjoy shit. Don't go out with the idea that "im going to find a girl during/at X"

Just try to be social, get out, go to evens and meet new people. You will find people that click more so then if you saw somebody at a bar.
 
Dave

Dave

Staff member
David;252749][quote=Dave said:
What are your interests? What hobbies do you participate in if you had the money and the time?
Click to expand...
interests:
-Drawing
-reading
-Bicycling
-traveling/sightseeing
-video games
-learning

some of the general preferences I set: Someone tell me if I'm being too picky...

-must be non-smoker
-must want a monogamous relationship
-must want kids some day
-must be liberal on social issues (eg pro-gay marriage, ect.)
-preferably non-religious, must be respectful of others' beliefs
-physical appearance doesn't matter too much, but must practice basic hygiene and grooming[/QUOTE]

Bookstore
Take an art class.
Take a buddy and go hiking in a well-traveled area where you'll probably meet like-minded people.

Stop trying to find someone and just enjoy yourself and your hobbies. If you meet someone cool, if not then you got to do what you like to do.

As for the rest of that, put it out of your head. I had the idea of whom I would date fly out the window when I met my wife.
 
strawman

strawman

David said:
-preferably non-religious
Click to expand...
Heh, I was just about to suggest that if you have a faith, start going to church activities - they are always trying to get people 'fixed up'. Still, it's not a bad idea. There are likely atheist/agnostic organizations locally or in the city that meet regularly. Given that you read and are an artist, go to the library and read at the library. Get to know the 'regulars' - even if they aren't interesting as companions, they may become good friends, and they will expand your social circle, giving you much greater chances of finding someone compatible. Same thing with art - but do it in parks. If you want to meet people, you have to get out. There are other groups and organizations that might appeal to you - comic book stores have tournaments. Geek and maker groups are popping up all over the place. There are artist collectives in ever major city, though they don't advertise much. Ask the people at the art store, or spend a day browsing the store and watching people come in and out - find out what groups they belong to, and fish for local information. Lastly, never be afraid to walk up to some random girl and strike up a conversation at any time and in every place. She won't be interested most of the time, but you only need to find one interesting person to get introduced to dozens more. But for goodness sake, get out and move about! -Adam
 
bhamv3

bhamv3

Generally speaking, the more you actively search for that special someone, the less likely that special someone's going to show up. So I agree with the people who say just go outside and do stuff you enjoy, and see what happens.
 
S

Silvanesti

Dave said:
Bookstore
Take an art class.
Take a buddy and go hiking in a well-traveled area where you'll probably meet like-minded people.

Stop trying to find someone and just enjoy yourself and your hobbies. If you meet someone cool, if not then you got to do what you like to do.

As for the rest of that, put it out of your head. I had the idea of whom I would date fly out the window when I met my wife.
Click to expand...
Hey! Thats what I said. :humph:

And a honest "THIS" to the second part. Don't plan for the 'perfect girl' its the little things and the differences and unexpected stuff that makes a good relationship awesome.

(though if the unexpected thing is something like 'she eats people' then yeah... maybe not so good)
 
T

ThatNickGuy

To be honest, I've had some success with dating sites (Plenty of Fish and OKCupid; both totally free). But yeah, I've been in the same boat, as far as having any kind of long relationship lasting over a month in...geez, has it been five years?

Anyway, there's that and there's also MeetUp.com, which is more for groups with similar interests to get together and have fun. I've gone to a number of them here in Toronto, including my personal favourite: board game meetups. Yeah, lame, I know. :p
 
Frank

Frank

North_Ranger said:
I'd discourage anything Internet-based. At least I personally get a little frustrated when I come to the realization that the only women who seem to take an interest in me are either

1.) loopier than Toucan Sam after payday (including an S/M goth with her own gorn site, and a midget) or
2.) living on the other side of the frickin' planet.
Click to expand...
I disagree, no less than three happily married couples I know have met through online dating sites. They CAN be a great way to meet people.
 
Shannow

Shannow

Staff member
ThatNickGuy said:
To be honest, I've had some success with dating sites (Plenty of Fish and OKCupid; both totally free). But yeah, I've been in the same boat, as far as having any kind of long relationship lasting over a month in...geez, has it been five years?

Anyway, there's that and there's also MeetUp.com, which is more for groups with similar interests to get together and have fun. I've gone to a number of them here in Toronto, including my personal favourite: board game meetups. Yeah, lame, I know. :p
Click to expand...
adultfriendfinder, perhaps?
 
T

ThatNickGuy

That's basically the internet equivalent of a singles bar for one-night stands. Which is not what Sir David's lookin' for.\

In other words, we'll also file that under Plan Shannow.
 
Shegokigo

Shegokigo

My two philosophies on the subject may differ from most but here goes:

"If you're searching in the real world, You won't find it if you're looking for it. It'll just happen when you stop looking."

"If you're searching online, You won't find it if you're not looking for it. It won't happen until you start looking."

My suggestion? If you haven't already, check the local "geek girls" in your area. Soulgeek.com
 
Shannow

Shannow

Staff member
ThatNickGuy said:
That's basically the internet equivalent of a singles bar for one-night stands. Which is not what Sir David's lookin' for.\

In other words, we'll also file that under Plan Shannow.
Click to expand...
Bah to that! Fine, aspd.net, then!

Edit: wait, that would fall under my initial suggestion.
 
T

ThatNickGuy

Hang on there, Shannow. I'm gonna go out and buy a filing cabinet.

"Plan Shannow" is going to need a lot of room.
 
Shannow

Shannow

Staff member
Well, there is always masturbation. Angry, furious rage-filled masturbation.


In short, the summation of Plan: Shannow is either A) Hooker or B) Ragebate.
 
Status
Not open for further replies.
Top