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And I have no where in particular to go where I can meet people for the next 6 months, since my college canceled the winter semester.

What are the best non-school-like places to go to meet new women? And not a bar, since I wont be 21 for another year. Bachelors! Teach me your ways! Ladies with Advice! ...Do please advise!

Whore house.

Book stores, coffeeshops.... World of Warcraft... aranoid:

I'll let you know when i figure it out.

Shannow said:

Whore house.

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We'll just file this under "Plan Shannow"

I'd discourage anything Internet-based. At least I personally get a little frustrated when I come to the realization that the only women who seem to take an interest in me are either

1.) loopier than Toucan Sam after payday (including an S/M goth with her own gorn site, and a midget) or
2.) living on the other side of the frickin' planet.

Being single sucks... That sounds like some kind of perpetuum mobile to me...

North_Ranger said:

I'd discourage anything Internet-based. At least I personally get a little frustrated when I come to the realization that the only women who seem to take an interest in me are either

1.) loopier than Toucan Sam after payday (including an S/M goth with her own gorn site, and a midget) or
2.) living on the other side of the frickin' planet.

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I already fooled around with one... I set the the search to "anyone on the planet" and got 0 compatible matches That makes me feel just great right there

Heh. I agree! I wouldn't suggest internetz either, but that's how I met my guy...

Me: Hey! Nice gear!
Him: Thanks. See you around.

*we both mount our nether drakes simultaneously*

Both of us: LAWL We both have the same ones!

What are your interests? What hobbies do you participate in if you had the money and the time?

Being single only sucks if you let it.

Dave said:

What are your interests? What hobbies do you participate in if you had the money and the time?

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interests:
-Drawing
-reading
-Bicycling
-traveling/sightseeing
-video games
-learning

some of the general preferences I set: Someone tell me if I'm being too picky...

-must be non-smoker
-must want a monogamous relationship
-must want kids some day
-must be liberal on social issues (eg pro-gay marriage, ect.)
-preferably non-religious, must be respectful of others' beliefs
-physical appearance doesn't matter too much, but must practice basic hygiene and grooming

I would suggest that you just enjoy shit. Don't go out with the idea that "im going to find a girl during/at X"

Just try to be social, get out, go to evens and meet new people. You will find people that click more so then if you saw somebody at a bar.

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What are your interests? What hobbies do you participate in if you had the money and the time?

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interests:
-Drawing
-reading
-Bicycling
-traveling/sightseeing
-video games
-learning

some of the general preferences I set: Someone tell me if I'm being too picky...

-must be non-smoker
-must want a monogamous relationship
-must want kids some day
-must be liberal on social issues (eg pro-gay marriage, ect.)
-preferably non-religious, must be respectful of others' beliefs
-physical appearance doesn't matter too much, but must practice basic hygiene and grooming[/QUOTE]

Bookstore
Take an art class.
Take a buddy and go hiking in a well-traveled area where you'll probably meet like-minded people.

Stop trying to find someone and just enjoy yourself and your hobbies. If you meet someone cool, if not then you got to do what you like to do.

As for the rest of that, put it out of your head. I had the idea of whom I would date fly out the window when I met my wife.

David said:

-preferably non-religious

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Heh, I was just about to suggest that if you have a faith, start going to church activities - they are always trying to get people 'fixed up'. Still, it's not a bad idea. There are likely atheist/agnostic organizations locally or in the city that meet regularly. Given that you read and are an artist, go to the library and read at the library. Get to know the 'regulars' - even if they aren't interesting as companions, they may become good friends, and they will expand your social circle, giving you much greater chances of finding someone compatible. Same thing with art - but do it in parks. If you want to meet people, you have to get out. There are other groups and organizations that might appeal to you - comic book stores have tournaments. Geek and maker groups are popping up all over the place. There are artist collectives in ever major city, though they don't advertise much. Ask the people at the art store, or spend a day browsing the store and watching people come in and out - find out what groups they belong to, and fish for local information. Lastly, never be afraid to walk up to some random girl and strike up a conversation at any time and in every place. She won't be interested most of the time, but you only need to find one interesting person to get introduced to dozens more. But for goodness sake, get out and move about! -Adam

Generally speaking, the more you actively search for that special someone, the less likely that special someone's going to show up. So I agree with the people who say just go outside and do stuff you enjoy, and see what happens.

Dave said:

Bookstore
Take an art class.
Take a buddy and go hiking in a well-traveled area where you'll probably meet like-minded people.

Stop trying to find someone and just enjoy yourself and your hobbies. If you meet someone cool, if not then you got to do what you like to do.

As for the rest of that, put it out of your head. I had the idea of whom I would date fly out the window when I met my wife.

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Hey! Thats what I said. :humph:

And a honest "THIS" to the second part. Don't plan for the 'perfect girl' its the little things and the differences and unexpected stuff that makes a good relationship awesome.

(though if the unexpected thing is something like 'she eats people' then yeah... maybe not so good)

David;252730][quote=Shannow said:

Whore house.

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We'll just file this under "Plan Shannow"[/QUOTE]


Thank you for my new sig quote!

stienman said:

Given that you read and are an artist, go to the library and read at the library. Get to know the 'regulars'

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Depends on your area. The regular patrons here wear tin foil hats...

To be honest, I've had some success with dating sites (Plenty of Fish and OKCupid; both totally free). But yeah, I've been in the same boat, as far as having any kind of long relationship lasting over a month in...geez, has it been five years?

Anyway, there's that and there's also MeetUp.com, which is more for groups with similar interests to get together and have fun. I've gone to a number of them here in Toronto, including my personal favourite: board game meetups. Yeah, lame, I know.

North_Ranger said:

I'd discourage anything Internet-based. At least I personally get a little frustrated when I come to the realization that the only women who seem to take an interest in me are either

1.) loopier than Toucan Sam after payday (including an S/M goth with her own gorn site, and a midget) or
2.) living on the other side of the frickin' planet.

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I disagree, no less than three happily married couples I know have met through online dating sites. They CAN be a great way to meet people.

ThatNickGuy said:

To be honest, I've had some success with dating sites (Plenty of Fish and OKCupid; both totally free). But yeah, I've been in the same boat, as far as having any kind of long relationship lasting over a month in...geez, has it been five years?

Anyway, there's that and there's also MeetUp.com, which is more for groups with similar interests to get together and have fun. I've gone to a number of them here in Toronto, including my personal favourite: board game meetups. Yeah, lame, I know.

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adultfriendfinder, perhaps?

That's basically the internet equivalent of a singles bar for one-night stands. Which is not what Sir David's lookin' for.\

In other words, we'll also file that under Plan Shannow.

My two philosophies on the subject may differ from most but here goes:

"If you're searching in the real world, You won't find it if you're looking for it. It'll just happen when you stop looking."

"If you're searching online, You won't find it if you're not looking for it. It won't happen until you start looking."

My suggestion? If you haven't already, check the local "geek girls" in your area. Soulgeek.com

ThatNickGuy said:

That's basically the internet equivalent of a singles bar for one-night stands. Which is not what Sir David's lookin' for.\

In other words, we'll also file that under Plan Shannow.

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Bah to that! Fine, aspd.net, then!

Edit: wait, that would fall under my initial suggestion.

Hang on there, Shannow. I'm gonna go out and buy a filing cabinet.

"Plan Shannow" is going to need a lot of room.

Dave said:

What are your interests? What hobbies do you participate in if you had the money and the time?

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I think this dude's hitting on you. So I guess the internet does work!

Well, there is always masturbation. Angry, furious rage-filled masturbation.


In short, the summation of Plan: Shannow is either A) Hooker or B) Ragebate.

Jake;252817][quote=Dave said:

What are your interests? What hobbies do you participate in if you had the money and the time?

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I think this dude's hitting on you. So I guess the internet does work![/QUOTE]

Andi;252843][quote=Jake;252817][quote=Dave said:

What are your interests? What hobbies do you participate in if you had the money and the time?

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I think this dude's hitting on you. So I guess the internet does work![/quote]
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Why is that so funny? The dude's got a sweet ass!

the humor is that we always had you pegged as more of a hooties man

Shannow said:

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Shannow++;

*whew* I'm relieved.



I have an 80 Rogue.

GasBandit said:

Shannow++;

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I am my own programming language? Sweet!

Dave said:

Why is that so funny? The dude's got a sweet ass!

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Shegokigo;252880][quote=Dave said:

Why is that so funny? The dude's got a sweet ass!

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Jesus, Sheg..I just had to explain to co-workers why i burst out laughing. Nice one.

Expand you circles of influence.

The more friends you have, the more friends-of-friends you have, exponentially.

It worked for me, eventually one of my work friends was able to hook me up with a very compatible classmate of hers.

Shannow;252872][quote=GasBandit said:

Shannow++;

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I am my own programming language? Sweet![/QUOTE]

++Shannow is actually better practice. Behaves how most people assume Shannow++ does.

Dave said:

Stop trying to find someone and just enjoy yourself and your hobbies. If you meet someone cool, if not then you got to do what you like to do.

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I thought I was doomed to roam the earth alone, but I just stopped making an effort 'to find someone' and BAM, I found someone. Now, we're planning a wedding.

Be social, make conversations, get to know other people, it will happen. Trying to force it to happen usually doesn't work.

I found it incredibly easy to meet girls. Any bar in any city is chock full of women who you can take home, but meeting the right person takes patience.

I say join a bike riding group. There are several in my area and I'm sure you will have some in your area. People do love to exercise. It is a good way just to meet people. I say forget about getting a girlfriend and just have fun in what you do. You be surprise how many people you meet.

Find a public place with the highest concentration of women in your age bracket.

Then whip it out.

Also, make this face: :smug:

Having to break up with my fiancée 2 years back, I didnt suffer through it all, with an easy 3-step recovery program my mate gave me-

1) Get out of your house everyday. Whether its a walk around the block, a trip to the mall or that movie you wanted to see, nothing is worse than staying home alone.

2) Make small talk with at least 5 women a day, DONT ASK their names, telephone info and etc, just make small talk, after 5 mins, say bye.
Again, dont let your desperation make you ask her personal info in hopes that you´ll get her, just practice making small talk. She´ll thank you for just talking to her, and not trying to pick her up. Do this everyday, within a month you´ll be good to date again.


3) Study something new. Yoga/Pilates, learn a new language, learn how to dance tango, fill up your schedule with things that will keep your mind busy, and will make you meet new people.

Best of luck mate.

Being single sucks, yes

Pojodan said:

Being single sucks, yes

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Think of it as "Being free to find a new direction in life"

Does existence only become important when you have another to validate it?

*This question is directed at any who say being single sucks, but anyone else is free to answer it.

JCM;253208][quote=Pojodan said:

Being single sucks, yes

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Think of it as "Being free to find a new direction in life"[/QUOTE]

Or "continue the one you're on."

I mean, new directions are great, but if the one you're on is awesome, why change for the sake of it?

I'm honestly a bit afraid of finding a woman. Sometimes I feel lonely, yeah, but my fear is that I'll find someone who I'll love so much, that I'll compromise on my goals and dreams. I hope, for example, to leave in the next few years to spend several months or years on the road, traveling. If I found someone I couldn't bear to be away from, and they didn't want to go ... I'd have to make some tough decisions.

JCM;253208][quote=Pojodan said:

Being single sucks, yes

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Think of it as "Being free to find a new direction in life"[/QUOTE]

Correction: Being single, unemployed, and living alone sucks.

Being single can kick ass. You can meet new people without guilt, you aren't beholden to another (i.e., you can make decisions for yourself without having to factor in a significant other), you got more time with your friends etc....that uhm being said, I wouldn't trade my girlfriend for it at the moment and it DOES help to be in a "target rich environment" so to speak, but I've enjoyed my single life when I had it, and I've sometimes had a "grass is greener" feeling when I'm in a relationship and things got tough.

Don't listen to this "just let it happen" shit.

Stay focused. Keep your goal in mind and let your intentions be known. Don't get sucked into the friend zone. Better to be the creepy guy they slept with than the socially awkward, but nice friend.

le Quack says, HUNT HER.

Being single is hell. I've been here a while. Pull up a seat.

Rob King;253230][quote=JCM;253208][quote=Pojodan said:

Being single sucks, yes

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Think of it as "Being free to find a new direction in life"[/QUOTE]

Or "continue the one you're on."

I mean, new directions are great, but if the one you're on is awesome, why change for the sake of it?

I'm honestly a bit afraid of finding a woman. Sometimes I feel lonely, yeah, but my fear is that I'll find someone who I'll love so much, that I'll compromise on my goals and dreams. I hope, for example, to leave in the next few years to spend several months or years on the road, traveling. If I found someone I couldn't bear to be away from, and they didn't want to go ... I'd have to make some tough decisions.[/QUOTE]Its just that whn I actually start dating someone (instead of just having an affair or as we call here in Brazil, have a "colored friendship") I usually plan my life with her in it, so every break up means I go somewhere new, try new activities, study new things.

My last break up led to me moving to a different city, sleeping around with a different kind of girls that I was used to, visiting and riding every major rollercoaster in this country, learning Spanish and taking up evangelical theology classes, and after 7 months doing that, I met Luiza.

escushion said:

le Quack says, HUNT HER.

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Are we allowed to use jeeps?

Telephius;253625][quote=escushion said:

le Quack says, HUNT HER.

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Are we allowed to use jeeps?[/QUOTE]

Being single sucks because society makes it suck. Personally, I was enjoying my life until people started going "you still don't have a girlfriend?" "It's time you found yourself a girl!" etc. I'm sorry, but I realised 10 years ago that my life isn't very compatible with that of the huge majority of girls in Belgium.

Heck, even if I could have any girl I wanted, I still wouldn't easily find a girl - most girls are totally different from what I want: they smoke for starters (40% of girls between 20-30 smoke) which I hate, they're all trying to be similar - like the same crap music, think a great night involves going out, getting wasted and puking, etc.

I found that American girls are a lot more to my liking - loads that like the same music, few that smoke, etc. but starting a relationship overseas is not easy so I prefer being single.

Icarus, I feel very similarly. After several of my cousins have gotten married this summer, the question is always 'when are you getting married?' Shit if I know, and to be truthful, shit if I care, too.

I'll admit that there are a few girls that I'm mildly interested in: their personalities are compatible, but their worldviews just aren't. Despite being a Christian, I have a very optimistic view of society, and the future. That's not a popular thing where I live. One girl who I was hoping to start stuff up with, for example ... well, we just had a conversation about why hip-hop as a genre is by it's definition evil, and she posts news articles to her Facebook every so often and says 'See? The end times are here!'

I still live at home, so I get this too... every time my mother has company over, she makes a point of showing off her wedding pictures and my brother's wedding pictures... and then she points to an empty section of the wall and says that's where MY wedding pictures will be. She then looks at me like "Fucking get to it."

Nevermind that I've never been on a date in my life... nevermind that I've NEVER had a woman show any attraction to me whatsoever since middle school (though Gay guys seem to hit on me constantly *sigh*). I'm somehow, FUCKING MAGICALLY, supposed to be getting married. Fuck you Mom.

Icarus said:

Being single sucks because society makes it suck. Personally, I was enjoying my life until people started going "you still don't have a girlfriend?" "It's time you found yourself a girl!" etc.

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It's time to bring up the good old "they stopped doing this when I started to ask them the same question on funerals" joke

Just Me;254487][quote=Icarus said:

Being single sucks because society makes it suck. Personally, I was enjoying my life until people started going "you still don't have a girlfriend?" "It's time you found yourself a girl!" etc.

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It's time to bring up the good old "they stopped doing this when I started to ask them the same question on funerals" joke[/QUOTE]

AshburnerX said:

I still live at home, so I get this too... every time my mother has company over, she makes a point of showing off her wedding pictures and my brother's wedding pictures... and then she points to an empty section of the wall and says that's where MY wedding pictures will be. She then looks at me like "Fucking get to it."

Nevermind that I've never been on a date in my life... nevermind that I've NEVER had a woman show any attraction to me whatsoever since middle school (though Gay guys seem to hit on me constantly *sigh*). I'm somehow, FUCKING MAGICALLY, supposed to be getting married. Fuck you Mom.

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This post + your self given avatar title = me

AshburnerX said:

Nevermind that I've never been on a date in my life... nevermind that I've NEVER had a woman show any attraction to me whatsoever since middle school (though Gay guys seem to hit on me constantly *sigh*). I'm somehow, FUCKING MAGICALLY, supposed to be getting married. Fuck you Mom.

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I'm sorry Ash, but that last paragraph is hilarious as fuck. You highlighted "Gay guys" like it's a title you bestow upon people, then I got this image of a flamboyantly gay man sitting on a throne, wearing a crown.

(Not trying to offend anyone, my mind creates the most absurd imagery when I'm bored)

BlackCrossCrusader said:

I'm sorry Ash, but that last paragraph is hilarious as fuck. You highlighted "Gay guys" like it's a title you bestow upon people, then I got this image of a flamboyantly gay man sitting on a throne, wearing a crown.

(Not trying to offend anyone, my mind creates the most absurd imagery when I'm bored)

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Didn't you know? You get a crown and throne the moment you come out of the closet? Don't you? I know I did....

Oh no... it's never the flamboyantly gay guys who do it. It's the very reserved ones who like to talk in code. For awhile I was wondering why everybody was asking me if I wanted to "trade shoes" with them and then somebody explained it to me. I almost shat a brick.

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Oh no... it's never the flamboyantly gay guys who do it. It's the very reserved ones who like to talk in code. For awhile I was wondering why everybody was asking me if I wanted to "trade shoes" with them and then somebody explained it to me. I almost shat a brick.

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Heh, the guys with "wide stances?"

I never heard this "trade shoes" euphemism before, thanks for broadening my horizons. I've submitted the term to urban dictionary.

GasBandit;254653][quote=AshburnerX said:

Oh no... it's never the flamboyantly gay guys who do it. It's the very reserved ones who like to talk in code. For awhile I was wondering why everybody was asking me if I wanted to "trade shoes" with them and then somebody explained it to me. I almost shat a brick.

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Heh, the guys with "wide stances?"

I never heard this "trade shoes" euphemism before, thanks for broadening my horizons. I've submitted the term to urban dictionary.[/QUOTE]

That is new to me too.

Wait...there is a problem with being single? Huh, and here I am, enjoying it. Guess I am doing it wrong.

I'm told it's a euphemism from back when Sodomy was illegal. I have no idea HOW it originated, but it's still used a lot in places where anti-sodomy laws where on the book.

Being married sucks to... but in a different way if you know what I mean!

CrimsonSoul said:

Being married sucks to... but in a different way if you know what I mean!

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suck...Suck...SUCK...SUCK!!!

Shannow said:

Wait...there is a problem with being single? Huh, and here I am, enjoying it. Guess I am doing it wrong.

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It is matter of perspective mate.

A friend of mine was single for a while. She always complain being the "Christmas cake" girl and never find anyone. She is usually depress of being single, now she is dating another friend of mine and much happier.

I think some part of society and culture put thoughts into people's head that at "certain age" you should be "married" My parents think like this. When I was single for a long while (married at 29) they were trying to "fix me up" after I turn 21. being the oldest son of the oldest son didn't help either.

Some people are lucky and able to break away from the culture bond and just enjoy life like it is meant to be.

If you want to meet women just lower your standards. I mean really lower them. Go to the local welfare office. The more kids wrapped around their leg the better your shot. And search the paper for recently divorced women (extra points for kids as well). I can't tell you the number of women I work with that crave a man. One is really hot and her man booted her to the curb for an upgrade. Now her income's cut in half and she's got two kids needing support and if it's willing to pay half the bills you're in.
And for the record, I never minded being single. It was the lack of sex that sucked. When you're getting lots of moist you could give two flips about a relationship. But once ole stinky gets dried up for lack of hydration and you are shooting man gravy all over your keyboard then the realization that being single does suck.

Steve, you give horrible advice.
Seriously, just the worst.


Don't stop.

a) Steve:
b) Might I interest you in the social group "SUCKS"?

Steve said:

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When you're getting lots of moist you could give two flips about a relationship. But once ole stinky gets dried up for lack of hydration and you are shooting man gravy all over your keyboard then the realization that being single does suck.

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Oh my god, I just spilled my coffee across the keyboard and the screen. The Golden Halforums Award for the best choice of words for you, Steve!