Being single sucks.
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Shannow
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Jesus, Sheg..I just had to explain to co-workers why i burst out laughing. Nice one.
I am my own programming language? Sweet![/QUOTE]
++Shannow is actually better practice. Behaves how most people assume Shannow++ does.
I thought I was doomed to roam the earth alone, but I just stopped making an effort 'to find someone' and BAM, I found someone. Now, we're planning a wedding.
Be social, make conversations, get to know other people, it will happen. Trying to force it to happen usually doesn't work.
I found it incredibly easy to meet girls. Any bar in any city is chock full of women who you can take home, but meeting the right person takes patience.
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Chibibar
I say join a bike riding group. There are several in my area and I'm sure you will have some in your area. People do love to exercise. It is a good way just to meet people. I say forget about getting a girlfriend and just have fun in what you do. You be surprise how many people you meet.
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JCM
Having to break up with my fiancée 2 years back, I didnt suffer through it all, with an easy 3-step recovery program my mate gave me-
1) Get out of your house everyday. Whether its a walk around the block, a trip to the mall or that movie you wanted to see, nothing is worse than staying home alone.
2) Make small talk with at least 5 women a day, DONT ASK their names, telephone info and etc, just make small talk, after 5 mins, say bye.
Again, dont let your desperation make you ask her personal info in hopes that you´ll get her, just practice making small talk. She´ll thank you for just talking to her, and not trying to pick her up. Do this everyday, within a month you´ll be good to date again.
3) Study something new. Yoga/Pilates, learn a new language, learn how to dance tango, fill up your schedule with things that will keep your mind busy, and will make you meet new people.
Best of luck mate.
1) Get out of your house everyday. Whether its a walk around the block, a trip to the mall or that movie you wanted to see, nothing is worse than staying home alone.
2) Make small talk with at least 5 women a day, DONT ASK their names, telephone info and etc, just make small talk, after 5 mins, say bye.
Again, dont let your desperation make you ask her personal info in hopes that you´ll get her, just practice making small talk. She´ll thank you for just talking to her, and not trying to pick her up. Do this everyday, within a month you´ll be good to date again.
3) Study something new. Yoga/Pilates, learn a new language, learn how to dance tango, fill up your schedule with things that will keep your mind busy, and will make you meet new people.
Best of luck mate.
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Pojodan
Being single sucks, yes 
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JCM
Think of it as "Being free to find a new direction in life"Being single sucks, yes
Does existence only become important when you have another to validate it?
*This question is directed at any who say being single sucks, but anyone else is free to answer it.
*This question is directed at any who say being single sucks, but anyone else is free to answer it.
Think of it as "Being free to find a new direction in life"[/QUOTE]Being single sucks, yes
Or "continue the one you're on."
I mean, new directions are great, but if the one you're on is awesome, why change for the sake of it?
I'm honestly a bit afraid of finding a woman. Sometimes I feel lonely, yeah, but my fear is that I'll find someone who I'll love so much, that I'll compromise on my goals and dreams. I hope, for example, to leave in the next few years to spend several months or years on the road, traveling. If I found someone I couldn't bear to be away from, and they didn't want to go ... I'd have to make some tough decisions.
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Pojodan
Think of it as "Being free to find a new direction in life"[/QUOTE]Being single sucks, yes
Correction: Being single, unemployed, and living alone sucks.
Being single can kick ass. You can meet new people without guilt, you aren't beholden to another (i.e., you can make decisions for yourself without having to factor in a significant other), you got more time with your friends etc....that uhm being said, I wouldn't trade my girlfriend for it at the moment and it DOES help to be in a "target rich environment" so to speak, but I've enjoyed my single life when I had it, and I've sometimes had a "grass is greener" feeling when I'm in a relationship and things got tough.
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Le Quack
Don't listen to this "just let it happen" shit.
Stay focused. Keep your goal in mind and let your intentions be known. Don't get sucked into the friend zone. Better to be the creepy guy they slept with than the socially awkward, but nice friend.
Stay focused. Keep your goal in mind and let your intentions be known. Don't get sucked into the friend zone. Better to be the creepy guy they slept with than the socially awkward, but nice friend.
le Quack says, HUNT HER.
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JCM
Think of it as "Being free to find a new direction in life"[/QUOTE]Being single sucks, yes
Or "continue the one you're on."
I mean, new directions are great, but if the one you're on is awesome, why change for the sake of it?
I'm honestly a bit afraid of finding a woman. Sometimes I feel lonely, yeah, but my fear is that I'll find someone who I'll love so much, that I'll compromise on my goals and dreams. I hope, for example, to leave in the next few years to spend several months or years on the road, traveling. If I found someone I couldn't bear to be away from, and they didn't want to go ... I'd have to make some tough decisions.[/QUOTE]Its just that whn I actually start dating someone (instead of just having an affair or as we call here in Brazil, have a "colored friendship") I usually plan my life with her in it, so every break up means I go somewhere new, try new activities, study new things.
My last break up led to me moving to a different city, sleeping around with a different kind of girls that I was used to, visiting and riding every major rollercoaster in this country, learning Spanish and taking up evangelical theology classes, and after 7 months doing that, I met Luiza.
Are we allowed to use jeeps?
Being single sucks because society makes it suck. Personally, I was enjoying my life until people started going "you still don't have a girlfriend?" "It's time you found yourself a girl!" etc. I'm sorry, but I realised 10 years ago that my life isn't very compatible with that of the huge majority of girls in Belgium.
Heck, even if I could have any girl I wanted, I still wouldn't easily find a girl - most girls are totally different from what I want: they smoke for starters (40% of girls between 20-30 smoke) which I hate, they're all trying to be similar - like the same crap music, think a great night involves going out, getting wasted and puking, etc.
I found that American girls are a lot more to my liking - loads that like the same music, few that smoke, etc. but starting a relationship overseas is not easy so I prefer being single.
Heck, even if I could have any girl I wanted, I still wouldn't easily find a girl - most girls are totally different from what I want: they smoke for starters (40% of girls between 20-30 smoke) which I hate, they're all trying to be similar - like the same crap music, think a great night involves going out, getting wasted and puking, etc.
I found that American girls are a lot more to my liking - loads that like the same music, few that smoke, etc. but starting a relationship overseas is not easy so I prefer being single.
Icarus, I feel very similarly. After several of my cousins have gotten married this summer, the question is always 'when are you getting married?' Shit if I know, and to be truthful, shit if I care, too.
I'll admit that there are a few girls that I'm mildly interested in: their personalities are compatible, but their worldviews just aren't. Despite being a Christian, I have a very optimistic view of society, and the future. That's not a popular thing where I live. One girl who I was hoping to start stuff up with, for example ... well, we just had a conversation about why hip-hop as a genre is by it's definition evil, and she posts news articles to her Facebook every so often and says 'See? The end times are here!'
I'll admit that there are a few girls that I'm mildly interested in: their personalities are compatible, but their worldviews just aren't. Despite being a Christian, I have a very optimistic view of society, and the future. That's not a popular thing where I live. One girl who I was hoping to start stuff up with, for example ... well, we just had a conversation about why hip-hop as a genre is by it's definition evil, and she posts news articles to her Facebook every so often and says 'See? The end times are here!'
I still live at home, so I get this too... every time my mother has company over, she makes a point of showing off her wedding pictures and my brother's wedding pictures... and then she points to an empty section of the wall and says that's where MY wedding pictures will be. She then looks at me like "Fucking get to it."
Nevermind that I've never been on a date in my life... nevermind that I've NEVER had a woman show any attraction to me whatsoever since middle school (though Gay guys seem to hit on me constantly *sigh*). I'm somehow, FUCKING MAGICALLY, supposed to be getting married. Fuck you Mom.
Nevermind that I've never been on a date in my life... nevermind that I've NEVER had a woman show any attraction to me whatsoever since middle school (though Gay guys seem to hit on me constantly *sigh*). I'm somehow, FUCKING MAGICALLY, supposed to be getting married. Fuck you Mom.
It's time to bring up the good old "they stopped doing this when I started to ask them the same question on funerals" joke
It's time to bring up the good old "they stopped doing this when I started to ask them the same question on funerals" joke[/QUOTE]
This post + your self given avatar title = me
I'm sorry Ash, but that last paragraph is hilarious as fuck. You highlighted "Gay guys" like it's a title you bestow upon people, then I got this image of a flamboyantly gay man sitting on a throne, wearing a crown.
(Not trying to offend anyone, my mind creates the most absurd imagery when I'm bored)
Didn't you know? You get a crown and throne the moment you come out of the closet? Don't you? I know I did....
Oh no... it's never the flamboyantly gay guys who do it. It's the very reserved ones who like to talk in code. For awhile I was wondering why everybody was asking me if I wanted to "trade shoes" with them and then somebody explained it to me. I almost shat a brick.
GasBandit
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Heh, the guys with "wide stances?"
I never heard this "trade shoes" euphemism before, thanks for broadening my horizons. I've submitted the term to urban dictionary.
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Chibibar
Heh, the guys with "wide stances?"
I never heard this "trade shoes" euphemism before, thanks for broadening my horizons. I've submitted the term to urban dictionary.[/QUOTE]
That is new to me too.
I'm told it's a euphemism from back when Sodomy was illegal. I have no idea HOW it originated, but it's still used a lot in places where anti-sodomy laws where on the book.
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