I'm a little late, but, I wish you well.
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You're gonna be okay, you'll love again, and someone else will love you.
Sorry DA, I really don't know what to say. if you need anything feel free to ask and I'll do what I can.
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Element 117
yeah, pretty much this. I have a huge sense of deja vu. The timing is erie, but it's happening to others as well, above and beyond those who post about it.
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Chibibar
yeah, pretty much this. I have a huge sense of deja vu. The timing is erie, but it's happening to others as well, above and beyond those who post about it.[/QUOTE]
it is kinda creepy... makes you think if stuff comes in Threes.
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darkangel6988
yeah, pretty much this. I have a huge sense of deja vu. The timing is erie, but it's happening to others as well, above and beyond those who post about it.[/QUOTE]
it is kinda creepy... makes you think if stuff comes in Threes.[/QUOTE]
Yeah its creepy i hear alot of people's lives and relationships are falling apart . I'm doing ok this evening . Im having 1 glass of wine. and I worked out so im proud of that. I'm a lil sad but I'll live I'm spending my time on yahoo chatting about stupidity so thats helping.
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Element 117
it happens every day, its just more raw when it happens to you and the people in your social circles. seems like 2010 is the year of the clean slate.
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Philosopher B.
So much adversity hereabouts of late. 
*HUG*
*HUG*
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darkangel6988
Thanks for the hugs
North_Ranger
Staff member
I tried to doodle you a cute teddy bear hug, but instead I got a teddy bear that looks like Pedo Bear's creepy stalker cousin.
So I'm just gonna give ya this...
I'm not the prayin' type, but you'll be in my thoughts.
So I'm just gonna give ya this...
I'm not the prayin' type, but you'll be in my thoughts.
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darkangel6988
Thanks can't sleep going to try now though 
Here's some more hugs!
That's not a hug, that's just enjoying a big breakfast.
/hug's dark
and I'm not sure if this is gonna come off bad or not, but after looking back through your posts after seeing Dave and folks talking about you having some up's and down's, be glad you didn't end up starting a family with this cretin.
/hug's dark
and I'm not sure if this is gonna come off bad or not, but after looking back through your posts after seeing Dave and folks talking about you having some up's and down's, be glad you didn't end up starting a family with this cretin.
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Dusty668
Sorry to hear this happened to you, you didn't deserve such a rip off like that. Hang in there and gather yourself with your family though, you can take it. With that routine of yours, you'll prolly be able to take him to the curb shortly!:laugh:
Love the way the camera shakes at 3:50. Like Aiiiieeeeee!!! DarkAngel is attacking RUN FOR YOUR LIVES!!!!
All you need is a mini Raymond Burr to go riding by in a jeep.
Hang in there.
Love the way the camera shakes at 3:50. Like Aiiiieeeeee!!! DarkAngel is attacking RUN FOR YOUR LIVES!!!!
All you need is a mini Raymond Burr to go riding by in a jeep.
Hang in there.
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darkangel6988
That made me laugh quite a bit so thanks for that.
Thanks to all of you for the support and hugs and for making me feel like this isn't my fault . It helps more then you'll ever know. On the bright side I managed to wake up today and not cry but I only slept 4 hours.......I guess it's a baby step. I don't feel as panicked as I did yesterday now I just am numb. This is kinda an awkward process not so sure what to do with myself . I think ill drink coffee and eat and then try to sleep again and I'll just focus on hanging out here at home where I stay out of trouble and doing insanity. Luckily I have daily visitors that pop by to see me. ONce again thank you all so much for making this moment in my life a lil bit easier.
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Chibibar
DA: At least you talk with his parents, did you find out what is going on or are they going with their son's decision? If they are, then he probably have talk to them already about it and there probably not much you can do to save it (just my opinion)
If that is the case, I believe that you should change out your pin number, credit card (if any) anything that is shared. I know you said that you can trust him, but I'm a little paranoid at times. When a person just come out of the blue and do this to you, that is not a good sign in my opinion so take all the precaution you can.
I know it sounds harsh, but we are trying to look out for our own. Even if it is an internet forum. Y'all are my virtual family
If that is the case, I believe that you should change out your pin number, credit card (if any) anything that is shared. I know you said that you can trust him, but I'm a little paranoid at times. When a person just come out of the blue and do this to you, that is not a good sign in my opinion so take all the precaution you can.
I know it sounds harsh, but we are trying to look out for our own. Even if it is an internet forum. Y'all are my virtual family
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Overflight
*hugs*
Sorry for the late response, I haven't checked General in a while. I'm not very good at giving advice but luckily everyone else seems to have it covered. Hope everything works out and I wish you the best of luck.
Sorry for the late response, I haven't checked General in a while. I'm not very good at giving advice but luckily everyone else seems to have it covered. Hope everything works out and I wish you the best of luck.
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darkangel6988
Yeah I hear what yall are saying.....We share the bank I got all my money out that we agreed on. So I can't change that....WE don't have anything else in both our names cuz of me being canadian getting my name on stuff was hard. I thought today i'd feel better but sadly I feel worse.
I'm now at the point of constanlty asking myself why . Your right too it does drive you crazy......
I won't resort to drinking but did have a couple last night I slept fairly ok except not long enough . Don't worry though I'll stick to my workouts they are more fun when i actually have the drive to do em.
Um I guess i could see a lawyer but I kinda don't want to cuz it makes this shit a lil to real for me to be able to handle. I can't believe this is now my life and that this is happening. I keep hoping I'll wake up and it will all have been a bad dream
That's all I have for now. not a good moment right now .
I'm now at the point of constanlty asking myself why . Your right too it does drive you crazy......
I won't resort to drinking but did have a couple last night I slept fairly ok except not long enough . Don't worry though I'll stick to my workouts they are more fun when i actually have the drive to do em.
Um I guess i could see a lawyer but I kinda don't want to cuz it makes this shit a lil to real for me to be able to handle. I can't believe this is now my life and that this is happening. I keep hoping I'll wake up and it will all have been a bad dream
That's all I have for now. not a good moment right now .
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Chibibar
*hugs*Yeah I hear what yall are saying.....We share the bank I got all my money out that we agreed on. So I can't change that....WE don't have anything else in both our names cuz of me being canadian getting my name on stuff was hard. I thought today i'd feel better but sadly I feel worse.
I'm now at the point of constanlty asking myself why . Your right too it does drive you crazy......
I won't resort to drinking but did have a couple last night I slept fairly ok except not long enough . Don't worry though I'll stick to my workouts they are more fun when i actually have the drive to do em.
Um I guess i could see a lawyer but I kinda don't want to cuz it makes this shit a lil to real for me to be able to handle. I can't believe this is now my life and that this is happening. I keep hoping I'll wake up and it will all have been a bad dream
That's all I have for now. not a good moment right now .
Dave
Staff member
You are not alone. This has happened to a lot of people in the past. I know you are feeling lost and alone. Maybe you should try and find a board for military wives. They might have some good advice as military pressures are very, very hard on marriages.
If you can't find a military spouse support network I'd look for a therapist in your area. Just remember that there's nothing you did and this is his choice.
If you can't find a military spouse support network I'd look for a therapist in your area. Just remember that there's nothing you did and this is his choice.
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Wasabi Poptart
In addition to the sites I PM'd you with yesterday, I'd also add http://forums.armywives.com/forums/index.php to the list. I belonged to their Navy wives forum until I got banned. It was really helpful though some of the wives were pretty snarky at times.
I have witnessed the effects this type of situation can have one someone (A family member has had a similar experience). Now I know it has been said before but you need to embrace your family right now. In no way should you blame yourself for what happened.
You definitely need to talk to someone (trusted family member, therapist, support group,insane forum members, etc) bottling up what your feeling will only make things worse. Do not try to drown out what your feeling by drinking,sleeping all day,etc. I know you don;t want to think about what has happened cause you still hope things can be worked out (and I hope things will work out) but you need to contact a lawyer and at least look at your options. You need to plan for the worse but hope for the best.
One thing many people don;t understand is that planning for something does not mean you hope it will happen it just means you are acknowledging the situation and planning for every contingency. And once again I hope everything works out for you and I hope you can find some comfort and piece during this horrible and trying time.
*hug*
You definitely need to talk to someone (trusted family member, therapist, support group,insane forum members, etc) bottling up what your feeling will only make things worse. Do not try to drown out what your feeling by drinking,sleeping all day,etc. I know you don;t want to think about what has happened cause you still hope things can be worked out (and I hope things will work out) but you need to contact a lawyer and at least look at your options. You need to plan for the worse but hope for the best.
One thing many people don;t understand is that planning for something does not mean you hope it will happen it just means you are acknowledging the situation and planning for every contingency. And once again I hope everything works out for you and I hope you can find some comfort and piece during this horrible and trying time.
*hug*
Unfortunately as far as military marriages go, these events are far too common. As an ex military spouse myself I can count on one hand the number of military marriages that I came in contact with over almost nine years which actually lasted. And even though the military has taken a lot of strides to make itself more family friendly, they do not go out of their way to help you in this time. You have to hunt for that yourself, and a lawyer will help, a lot. If you have a base (and are still in possession of your ID card, please tell me you didn't give that to him) there are a lot of resources available to you. Seek out the nearest legal office on a base or even associated with your husbands branch. They can help you through this process and give you guidance on many matters.
And if you have ANY questions, you know how to reach me.
And if you have ANY questions, you know how to reach me.
Sorry that I'm a bit late; I just moved back home from Hawaii and am readjusting. My advice is to keep talking about it if you feel like doing so. It'll let you blow off steam and will help all the stress to eventually dissipate. You'll feel like talking about it a lot at first, but then you'll gradually start talking about other things and that will be the sign that you're beginning to heal. It'll take weeks, or even months, but you'll recover in time.
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darkangel6988
Thanks...I don't have much to say I feel kinda numb and really fucked up .
The most important thing you have to keep in your mind is that it's nothing that you did or didn't do. He came to this realization through his own process, not because of something that you've done to upset him. And, for whatever reason, he's taking the quick and easy way out by not talking about it/giving himself a chance to get used to life with you again/pulling his head from his posterior, and he's projecting any frustration he's feeling onto you. This has the added benefit, in his mind, of giving him an excuse out of everything.'
As previously stated, just because they're adults doesn't mean they're grown up. Too many service members treat it like a chance to extend their teenage years, and it disgusts me every single time I see something like this.
I'm sorry hon. *hugs*
As previously stated, just because they're adults doesn't mean they're grown up. Too many service members treat it like a chance to extend their teenage years, and it disgusts me every single time I see something like this.
I'm sorry hon. *hugs*
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darkangel6988
So I spoke to him.... I feel better. He told me it wasn't my fault and we talked alot of things over so I feel like I can officially cry because it's sunk in that I'm going to lose him. I will no longer fight for him and I'm going to Jag he gave me the phone number. I'm just glad he was able to fess up like a man and take the blame. some may say I live in a dream land but this talk and hearing him say it wasn't my fault made me feel better and I feel like i can spend tonight grieving rather then racking my brain. Yall are so good to me and I appreciate it you listening and holding me up when I feel like im drowning.
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Wasabi Poptart
I have to agree that it is better to hear right from the person that you didn't do anything wrong versus not knowing what happened. *hugs* If you need anything, just drop me a PM.
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Element 117
*hugs*
Speaking really helped in my situation so I know it helped in yours. Just keep up the working out, it feels DAMN good to fit back into clothes, it feels DAMN good to make heads turn, and it feels DAMN good when the next person you find tells you that "The physical is DEFINITELY there". :biggrin:-
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darkangel6988
Thanks yall I'm gonna keep it up i have 2 weeks left then I have P90x to do . I'll continue my beachbody coaching it makes me some money and i like the people i coach. It's all a positive thing . I think it was meant to happen when i saw the insanity infomercial. I have 11 days left and I did it! All 63 days of it !
Sadly i started smoking again but I'll give that another try soon too !
Sadly i started smoking again but I'll give that another try soon too !
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