A lisp. Or a wisp. Or a lithp. Or a withp.
Totally didn't go back into lurker mode I swear.... Oh and Icarus Syndrome?
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Wasabi Poptart
I have never understood people who want others' opinions and then get defensive when it's something they don't want to hear. Now I think you just want a pat on the back for dating some homely chick with a speech impediment. You're so awesome and non-superficial!
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Cobra Star
Wait, who said I was getting defensive? It was simply a remark against the comment made about "You shouldn't take the advice of people that you don't know."
I really did want to hear the opinions of people that while don't know me very well, I know pretty well and I value the thoughts and collective ideas that they share. I sure as hell wasn't looking for a pat on the back, I EXPECTED to be smacked around a bit for even having such superficial thoughts to begin with. I thought I made it clear that they were minor speed bumps that I did learn were unimportant in the long run and began to value the things that were in front of me.
I have no idea why every thread I start seems to turn back on me and attempts to swallow me up in attack tactics. It's like everything I say is twisted around into something I did not even remotely mean. I value advice and opinions, I just don't blindly follow them. I wasn't aware that was a crime. It sure as hell wasn't back on Image or Halfpixel, Dave has tried hard not to make it that way here either....
I really did want to hear the opinions of people that while don't know me very well, I know pretty well and I value the thoughts and collective ideas that they share. I sure as hell wasn't looking for a pat on the back, I EXPECTED to be smacked around a bit for even having such superficial thoughts to begin with. I thought I made it clear that they were minor speed bumps that I did learn were unimportant in the long run and began to value the things that were in front of me.
I have no idea why every thread I start seems to turn back on me and attempts to swallow me up in attack tactics. It's like everything I say is twisted around into something I did not even remotely mean. I value advice and opinions, I just don't blindly follow them. I wasn't aware that was a crime. It sure as hell wasn't back on Image or Halfpixel, Dave has tried hard not to make it that way here either....
Then it was meant as a response to what I had said, Cobra. Maybe to prevent confusion (as seems to have occurred many times in this thread) you should quote the person you are referencing to. I think that would have helped quite a bit for clarity.
Edit: Didn't mean to seem to be attacking you, if that is how it appears. Was certainly not my intention.
Edit: Didn't mean to seem to be attacking you, if that is how it appears. Was certainly not my intention.
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Cobra Star
When did I even come close to that being my opinion? If anything there are more instances of me contricting it than helping it. Also, when did I call her homely? What the hell. Not only are words being taken the wrong way, now they're just outright being put in my mouth?
I'm saying that I've seen MANY newbies and delurkers attacked back into the shadows/off the boards because of outright misunderstandings and pounding accusations. It's grown as the community has shrank.
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Cobra Star
Well that's funnier than actually acknowledging a problem I suppose....
Anyway, tonight went fantastic. My brother and his GF are taking a liking to her, even though they also warn me about falling too fast. They're concerned I'll jump too deep into another relationship too fast. I'm just taking it in stride as the days go by. Seeing her almost daily is nice though. Everytime she's over I can just see what I've been missing all these years....
Anyway, tonight went fantastic. My brother and his GF are taking a liking to her, even though they also warn me about falling too fast. They're concerned I'll jump too deep into another relationship too fast. I'm just taking it in stride as the days go by. Seeing her almost daily is nice though. Everytime she's over I can just see what I've been missing all these years....
Not quite sure what you want us to do. No one was inflammatory and the advice suggestions (even if you didn't want it) weren't offensive. If you have been reading the forums as long as you say, I can't imagine you think it's worse than it was back in the Image days.
I guess I can just erase what I've written and just post:
"Mmmhmm. I see." and leave it at that.
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Cobra Star
It doesn't matter. I'm not gonna let it phase me. If people want to misunderstand and put words in my mouth, there's little I can do to convince them otherwise.
Again I really do appreciate the advice and opinions expressed here so far. I was simply curious on other people's take on the situation as I've already discussed it with family and friends over on this side of the monitor. I'm glad she found me, I'm glad I was able to get over my idiotic tendencies and I'm glad she's in my life now. I hope it stays strong and grows from here, I understand the hurdles I will have to face as they come: If she really keeps a positive attitude when my kids come back from vacation, how my family will react to her, how her family will react to me and so forth. Those are the real issues that will cause any kind of bumps along our road and I hope to cross them in time.
Regardless of the direction the thread went in, I'll be happy to keep HF updated with how things continue to proceed.
Again I really do appreciate the advice and opinions expressed here so far. I was simply curious on other people's take on the situation as I've already discussed it with family and friends over on this side of the monitor. I'm glad she found me, I'm glad I was able to get over my idiotic tendencies and I'm glad she's in my life now. I hope it stays strong and grows from here, I understand the hurdles I will have to face as they come: If she really keeps a positive attitude when my kids come back from vacation, how my family will react to her, how her family will react to me and so forth. Those are the real issues that will cause any kind of bumps along our road and I hope to cross them in time.
Regardless of the direction the thread went in, I'll be happy to keep HF updated with how things continue to proceed.
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Chibibar
If my post seem to be attacking, I am sorry. I don't think I was attacking you (not sure about the others). I still stand by my statement "a winnah!" good luck. I'm sure your brother is looking out for your best interest (most siblings do at least mine does) so I'm sure you are in good hands.
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Wasabi Poptart
I know the "attacking" is being done by me. I can only tell you what I see from my perspective based on what you have posted. In the OP you talk about how she is not as "hot" as the women you typically date. You make it a point to let us know she's short, chubby, and not very feminine. I hope she never comes on here to see how you have worded the OP. I know if I was dating someone and they pointed out all of my "flaws" like that to a group of strangers, I would be reduced to tears. Especially when you say her looks did bug you (they are "hurdles" according to the OP), but you've gotten over it now - as if she's a consolation prize. And to top it off, you come on here to post about her while she's at your house, leaving her with your brother and his GF. She sounds like a buddy instead of a woman you are really into.
Sorry if you don't like what I have to say. I try to be honest with people and unfortunately I don't cover it with sugar and sprinkles. I'm sure you'll get over this hurdle as well.
Sorry if you don't like what I have to say. I try to be honest with people and unfortunately I don't cover it with sugar and sprinkles. I'm sure you'll get over this hurdle as well.
Dave
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Great. Now I want cupcakes.
Thank you for putting my thoughts a feelings into words.
I was so offended by his OP that I could only comment on something stupid, afraid I would shoot my mouth off and sound like an ass.
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Chibibar
Great. Now I want cupcakes.[/QUOTE]
I got like 2 dozen of devil's food cupcake here that I baked yesterday
I have to agree with Wasabi cause that mirrors my thought.
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Thank you for putting my thoughts a feelings into words.
I was so offended by his OP that I could only comment on something stupid, afraid I would shoot my mouth off and sound like an ass.[/QUOTE]
I had the exact same reaction, honestly.
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Chibibar
To post on the other side of the coin. I am kinda glad that Cobra decides to talk about his hang ups and overcome it. It does show the he is growing. I hope Cobra is NOT thinking this girl is a consolation prize, but I remember a quote (not exact since I can't find it quickly on the net) "We may be Beachfront property in the Hampton, but soon we'll just be regular condos" (basically it is a movie about a girl falling for a guy and living with super models. This was one of the super models that she is also looking for true love)
What I am trying to say is that the outer beauty is only skin deep. It is the inner quality that really last. Sure you could date some hot chick/dude, but how long that look will last? what if that person is uber hot but have little in common or not much interest in your interest? the relationship doesn't last long IMO. I think that is what some of the forumites get a little upset on the original post. I'm sure you are swell guy CS
but the original post does come off a little "harsh" but the later clarification DID help a lot and I do pray that the girl never read this or figure it was you posting it.
I am glad that you can see the GREATER quality in the gal you are seeing. Now if she has habits that really bugs you like smoking, doing drugs, excessive drinking, or stuff like that, that is a different story
What I am trying to say is that the outer beauty is only skin deep. It is the inner quality that really last. Sure you could date some hot chick/dude, but how long that look will last? what if that person is uber hot but have little in common or not much interest in your interest? the relationship doesn't last long IMO. I think that is what some of the forumites get a little upset on the original post. I'm sure you are swell guy CS
but the original post does come off a little "harsh" but the later clarification DID help a lot and I do pray that the girl never read this or figure it was you posting it. I am glad that you can see the GREATER quality in the gal you are seeing. Now if she has habits that really bugs you like smoking, doing drugs, excessive drinking, or stuff like that, that is a different story
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Chazwozel
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Thank you for putting my thoughts a feelings into words.
I was so offended by his OP that I could only comment on something stupid, afraid I would shoot my mouth off and sound like an ass.[/QUOTE]
I had the exact same reaction, honestly.[/QUOTE]
HAHA! Even I don't have the nuts to point out my wife's flaws to Halforums!
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Wasabi Poptart
IMO, if he was truly growing he wouldn't feel the need for validation over this new relationship from the members of an internet message board.
Don't bring in your personal laundry if you don't want folks to tell you how dirty it is.
I didn't see anyone attacking anyone else. I saw folks giving advice, and some folks congratulating. If you don't want the advice of the forum, avoid posting personal threads.
You should feel happy b/c the forum swallows up most that post personal threads.
I didn't see anyone attacking anyone else. I saw folks giving advice, and some folks congratulating. If you don't want the advice of the forum, avoid posting personal threads.
You should feel happy b/c the forum swallows up most that post personal threads.
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Wasabi Poptart
Everyone comes here for some sort of validation. Yes he seems to be changing. None of us are a fully self aware Buddha.
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Dave
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I have come here with stories of pooping. Sometimes you just want to share.
Besides, had I first posted about my wife and I when we first dated I'd have said the following things:
Besides, had I first posted about my wife and I when we first dated I'd have said the following things:
- She smokes. I have always said I'll never date a woman who smoked.
- She has a kid. Nope. Never going to date a woman with a kid.
- She's a tad on the heavy side. I usually date women more my size (at the time I weighted 120 pounds or so).
- I met her at a bar. I usually hate women I meet at bars.
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Chibibar
@dave: hehe I know my grammar and sentence structure is probably one of the worst in the forum. there are times that my thoughts and my words don't convey properly so I can see how some of us (myself included) can take the OP the wrong way but it is all good now.
but it is all good now.
Especially since no one has ripped into you for posting about personal relationships.
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Especially since no one has ripped into you for posting about personal relationships.[/QUOTE]
No one besides WP really ripped CS until he said we were attacking him, really. Also, pretty sure Shego would start killing her critics.
I've criticized Shego before. I'm not dead.
Or am I?
Or am I?
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